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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Jun 28, 2017

This episode is about moving into acceptance and forgiveness. Today’s caller, Jen, is having a hard time getting to forgiveness because she doesn't believe her parents did the best they could. Her grudge may be costing her the very thing she longs for the most.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode94]

One of the ways we get to forgiveness is knowing people did the best they could, even if we believe they could have done better. Knowing they did the best they could with the tools they had is one of the ways we can get to forgiveness. It can be difficult, especially when it was a parent or a loved one.

Holding on to anger, blame, and resentment is toxic. It will eat you up inside and keep you from what you want. Continuing to use the past as a scapegoat for why you don’t have want you want gives your past power. Until you move into acceptance and forgiveness, your past will infiltrate every aspect of your present and your future.

Look at the places where you are not letting love into your life. Are you focusing too much on the people that didn’t love you in the way you wanted, and missing out on all the love around you?

Would you like to connect more with me and receive a resource to help you transform into owning your purpose? Use this link, ChristineHassler.com/SpiritJunkie to enroll in Gabby Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Masterclass by June 29th and receive access to the class, a one-hour one-on-one coaching session with me, a one-month membership to my Inner Circle Community, a download of my guided meditation CD and more.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Is there someone you have not been able to forgive because you truly feel what they did is unforgivable?

● Is there someone you are blaming for your not having what you want in your life?

● Do you tend to imagine worst-case scenarios and feel that things just don’t go your way in life?

● Did you grow up around addicts or as the child of addicts?

Jen’s Question:

Jen would like to forgive her mother and accept that her parents did the best they could.

Jen’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She didn’t get the love and attention she wanted as a child.

● She wants closure with her mother who recently passed.

● She feels broken.

● She’s created the healthy family she always wanted.

● She is keeping herself from fully appreciating and accepting the love of her current family.

● She is using her past as a scapegoat.

● As a child, she had low expectations so she wouldn’t be disappointed.

● It wasn’t her job to save her parents.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She shouldn’t identify with the victim role, and understand she received what she needed.

● She should stop mimicking her mother’s behaviors.

● She should do projection work and let the love that exists in her current life in.

● She should have appreciation and have life-affirming and positive thoughts.

Takeaways:

● If there is someone you want to hear something from, some kind of forgiveness, write a letter to you from them. Write down all the things you wanted to hear from them and read it to yourself.

● Do projection work. Look at judgments you have towards others and see how you may be doing it in your own life, externally or internally.

● Be honest about the cost of holding onto a grudge and write down what it is keeping you from. Write down all the blessings you have in life and how you may be blinded to them because of the grudge.

● Have positive expectations and use your imagination to consider the best-case scenario.

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Jun 24, 2017

Anxiety has been up for a LOT of people lately. So if you’re feeling it, you’re not alone. Listen in for my top tips on handling your anxiety.

Jun 21, 2017

This episode is about disordered eating and yo-yo dieting. Today’s caller, Alyssa, was diagnosed with an eating disorder when she was younger. She has been to therapy to help her understand abuse she endured as a child, but has not yet overcome the effect it had on her. For Alyssa to experience true healing and transformation she needs to make shifts on emotional, mental, behavioral and spiritual levels.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode93]

Many people have the experience of making progress only to see old patterns re-emerge. It can be discouraging and frustrating it can be to feel like you are backtracking, but you can get off the rollercoaster and experience growth without major setbacks.

During my coaching session with Alyssa, I held a space of compassion for Alyssa without reinforcing her victim story. There were people who would pity her and people she could blame, but pity and blame are not going to stop her from binge eating. In fact, it would trigger the behavior. We can take our power back by making choices that create change. So, I created steps to help her feel empowered.

A lot of people who were abused hold on to weight as a protective measure. because it’s our body’s response to the message from the mind of ‘I want to hide. I want to be invisible.’ If this resonates with you, listen to the podcast I did with Drew Manning, “Transforming Your Inner Critic into an Inner Coach”

Joining my Inner Circle Membership Community is a great place to get support from a loving, high vibe, compassionate community. If you are someone who has dealt with body image issues or eating disorders, and have made it to the other side and would like to know how to turn your pain into your purpose, don’t miss Gabby Bernstein’s Free Training Videos. Plus, I will be announcing a very special bonus for those of you who enroll in Gabby’s Master Class on June 23rd.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you struggle with gaining and losing weight? Perhaps so much so that you may have an eating disorder.

● Have you processed your issues and made progress in therapy regarding your past, but the old habits keep coming back?

● Do you sabotage your health and well-being? Is it hard for you to be disciplined and stick to a plan?

● Do you feel safe to be seen?

Alyssa’s Question:

Alyssa would like to know how to move past her eating disorder for good.

Alyssa’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She has always felt not good enough.

● She’s forgiven people from her past.

● She didn’t feel safe as a child.

● She feels she should be beyond her issue.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She shouldn’t identify with herself as a victim.

● She needs a behavioral shift to make her feel safe in her body.

● She needs to send love to a picture of her younger self.

● She needs to reframe the belief that she can trust people.

● She should ask God to help to make her feel safe and protected.

Action Steps:

● If you have a re-emerging pattern like binge eating, what’s the payoff? It’s serving a purpose. Do some journaling as to what purpose it serves.

● If weight is something you struggle with move, into acceptance. Ask the weight what it needs. When you get the answer, create your own holistic treatment plan. Pick one thing on the behavioral, emotional, mental, and spiritual level you can commit to.

Resources:

Christine Hassler

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Expectation Hangover

Inner Circle Membership Community — This month’s focus is sexuality and sexiness.

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Jun 17, 2017

Gabby has been a close friend for over a decade. We “grew up” together in the personal growth field and I have seen first hand her professional success skyrocket. I also know the incredible amount of inner work she has done that has influenced all aspects of her life and made the inspiring leader she is today.

Gabrielle Bernstein is the #1 New York Times best-selling author of The Universe Has Your Back and has written four additional best sellers. She was featured on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday as a “next-generation thought leader,” and The New York Times named her “a new role model.” She appears regularly as an expert on The Dr. Oz Show and co-hosted the Guinness World Record largest guided meditation with Deepak Chopra.

In our chat on Coaches Corner we talk about her training “Spirit Junkie Master Class” which teaches both the inner and outer work that is necessary to get your message out into the world.

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Jun 14, 2017

This episode is about removing inner blocks and eliminating blind spots. Today’s caller, Jon, is struggling with how his business is structured and the people he is hiring. He thought he was calling for some practical how-tos but the call went in a slightly different direction.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode92]

To shift our outer experience we must look inward first. So often we attempt to figure it out. We try to find solutions to our problems with our mind, and look for the actions to take to fix something. But in doing so we miss the incredible chance to look within and extract the learning opportunity from the situation.

My coaching to Jon was about getting him out of his head and more into his heart. There was no issue with his accountability or drive; the block was more about how he was perceiving himself and his situation.

Whenever you are presented with a challenge, or when things in your life feel off or aren’t going the way you want, ask “What is the message?” and “What am I learning?” Answers become clear when we stop mentalizing everything so much.

When we are attempting to figure things out on our own, it’s more challenging to get a new insight. The spiritual definition of a miracle is a change in perception.

My Inner Circle Membership Community is an easy way for you to find like-minded people and get more access to me and my coaching. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to ask about membership. And, don’t miss my Coaches Corner episodes. There is new content every Saturday.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Is there a situation you can't seem to figure out?

● Are you an entrepreneur, business leader, or manager who would like to be better at making money and managing people?

● Do you think sales is a dirty word? If selling is part of your job, do you resist it?

● Do you have a clear vision of your why? Do you know why you do what you do, and do you feel passionate about it?

Jon’s Question:

Jon is finding it difficult to find the right people for his business and would like to find a remedy.

Jon’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● He finds sales frustrating.

● Rejection is a pain point for him.

● He understands the fear of survival.

● He hasn’t connected his freelancers to his why.

● He keeps himself protected from rejection.

● He will make his people feel like they are part of a team.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● He should focus more on his clients and enroll them into his why.

● He should find out why his freelancers want to work with him.

● He should consider how he has bridged gaps in the past.

● He should become less transactional and lean into connection.

● He should consider himself more of a leader and less of an executor.

Action Steps:

● If you’re stuck or challenged in any area of your life, how can you look at it from a different perspective? Stop trying to figure it out and be curious. Explore different ways of approaching it.

● What’s your avoidance trap? Is it rejection? What do you spend so much time avoiding, that you are not focusing enough time on bringing in the things you want?

● If you are in sales, is there something you need to shift, in terms of your perception of it? Do you need to become more enrolling instead of just selling?

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Resources:

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Jill@Christinehassler.com

Jun 10, 2017

This is A MUST LISTEN for anyone on the personal growth path!! 

Listen in to a juicy conversation with Danielle about her latest book, White Hot Truth: Clarity for keeping it real on your spiritual path from one seeker to another. 

Danielle LaPorte is an invited member of Oprah’s inaugural Super Soul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” 

She is author of The Fire Starters Sessions, and The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul—the book that has been translated into 8 languages, evolved into a yearly day planner and journal system, a top 10 iTunes app, and an international workshop program with licensed facilitators in 15 countries. 

Danielle’s website: http://www.daniellelaporte.com/

Get your copy of “White Hot Truth”: http://www.daniellelaporte.com/whitehottruth/

 

Jun 7, 2017

This episode is about being able to accept love.  Today’s caller, Samantha is in a new loving relationship but has anxiety about it which is causing her to push her partner away. Ultimately, she fears she will sabotage the relationship.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode91]

When we lack self-love and acceptance we doubt our own lovability. When what we really want is coming to us we get scared and push it away, because we doubt our own lovability. When we doubt our own lovability it makes us do some sabotaging things when it comes to relationships.

I gave Samantha some practical behavioral shifts, because awareness alone does not create change. If we think our past is part of who we are, we will never be truly free of it. We need to get the point where we realize the past is the past. It happened but it doesn’t have to be who we are.

Many times when we have a difficult experience in our past, we hold on to it because having it gets us pity, love, compassion, and attention from others. On an unconscious level, we hang on to it because we think it is how we can get compassion and be connected to people. When we hold on to our story too much, it gets us in a trap of consistently attempting to heal the past, rather than make the behavioral choices that create what we want in the present and for the future.

Eventually, you have to drop the story.

You’ll notice I used a tough-love approach when coaching Samantha. To understand why I did it and the profound shifts that can occur because of it, check out my Coaches Corner — Tough Love and People who Have Helped Me in Profound Ways.  In last week’s Coaches Corner, I interviewed my friend Amanda Steinberg, author of Worth It. The episode is about embracing your relationship with money. And, don’t miss this week’s Coaches Corner with thought leader Danielle Laporte.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you want love, especially in the form of a romantic relationship, but it scares you?

● Are you in a romantic relationship now, and engaging in sabotaging behavior?

● Have you talked about your past and your story, but things aren’t shifting for you? Is the anxiety you feel about being in a relationship still there?

● Are you willing to get out of your comfort zone to break some patterns? Even if it’s scary?

Samantha’s Question:

Samantha would like to know how to be free of the fear and anxiety she is feeling in her new relationship.

Samantha’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She’s afraid of being hurt.

● She puts up a wall and shuts down when speaking with her new partner.

● She is trying to protect herself.

● She still identifies with her story.

● She is giving the people from her past too much power in her current life.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to go back and deal with her past.

● To move to the next phase she needs to change her behavior.

● She should do release writing when instead of zoning out.

● She needs to understand she is not alone.

● She needs to do the opposite of her current conditioned response.

 

Action Steps:

● Take a look at your old story about love; write it out. What are you still carrying around from your past, you keep playing out? Make a list of the things you think are protecting you.

● It’s time to break patterns and shift your behaviors. You have to lean in and get a little uncomfortable, if you want change to happen.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Expectation Hangover

Coaches Corner — Tough Love 

Inner Circle Membership Community — This month’s focus is sexuality and sexiness.

Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler

@christinhassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Jill@Christinehassler.com

Jun 3, 2017

Christine talks to Amanda about how to shift your relationship with money so that you can get out of debt and/or over spending and build a secure financial foundation.  This is a must listen for anyone who wants to be more prosperous.

More about Amanda . . . 

Amanda Steinberg launched DailyWorth in 2009 to bring a fresh voice and an outsider's perspective to personal finance. Today, DailyWorth’s newsletter reaches more than 1 million subscribers.

In 2015, she started digital investing service, WorthFM, which received front-page coverage in The New York Times Business section

Oprah selected her to the exclusive SuperSoul 100, and Forbes named her one of 21 New American Money Masters. Amanda has also appeared on GMA, Today, CNN, and MSNBC.

She’s also the author of Worth It: Your Life, Your Money, Your Terms released in February 2017. 

https://www.dailyworth.com/

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