Most of you can relate to feeling a bit nervous or awkward at times. Maybe it’s around someone you are crushing on, when you have to speak in front of your boss or even when you are attempting to be cool with your teenage kids.
Feeling self-conscious is the worst. And not just because of the knots in your stomach, the sweating, the saying of the things we judge as totally lame right after they come out of our mouth. What is worse is that we are not showing up as fully ourselves. Whenever we are openly attached to hoping someone else likes us or accepts us, we often do the exact opposite of what we need to do in that moment. We judge ourselves rather than accept ourselves. Then we show up in ways that are not authentic to who we are and that is awkward and uncomfortable.
Attachment is thinking we need to be a certain way to get what we want from another person. We put on masks, we judge ourselves and we edit everything that comes out of our mouth. The higher the emotional stakes are the more suppressed we can become.
In today’s coaching session with Kristen, we explore why she is not fully herself in romantic relationships.
Self-consciousness is not just painful to feel, it also doesn’t bring us the connections we long for.
First, it’s all about what you are telling yourself inside your head. Second, you start future tripping which detaches you from your intuition. Finally, being attached to the outcome, you are trying to adapt to who you think you need to be rather than just being you. The cure for self-consciousness is radical self-acceptance.
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Kristen would like to know why she finds it hard to be herself around a guy she is attracted to.
Kristen's Key Insights and Aha’s:
How to get over it and on with it:
Tools and Takeaways:
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