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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Jul 6, 2016

Let’s talk about finding the “one”. You know the magical person who is your soulmate, your other half, the one who completes you. I say these things with a tinge of sarcasm but I don’t inject the sarcasm because I am jaded or don’t believe in love, it’s there because of the misunderstandings regarding soulmates and the pain many of us go through when it comes to romantic relationships.

I believe there are lots of “ones” out there for us. My definition of a soulmate is someone who helps our soul to grow. Sometimes it’s through a gut-wrenching break-up, sometimes it’s through dating someone who triggers us and sometimes it’s through someone who just comes in, loves us and holds up a beautiful mirror to  remind us of who we truly are.  Soulmates can be romantic partners, friends, colleagues and even someone you share a plane ride with once and never see again.

 

So, why are many romantic relationships so painful?

1. The relationships are mirrors which can trigger unresolved issues from our childhood.

2. We often look to a romantic partner to fill our needs that our parents did not meet. This doesn’t attract the best people to us.

3. We may want a relationship so badly to fill our voids or make us feel less alone that we move into a fantasy-based relationship.

 

Today’s call with Michael is a beautiful example of masculine vulnerability and strength. He finds himself dating from a place of pain rather than from love. He wants to move past the feeling that he needs to prove himself to women.

Michael’s mother wasn’t really there for him and so he ends up with women who don’t treat him well and who are not really there for him. This is the problem with trying to fill a void left by a parent through dating. We long so badly for the love of a parent that we attract someone just like them, which re-opens our unhealed wounds.

We have to bring love and forgiveness to those places inside and fill ourselves with our own loving acceptance. It’s time to let go of our fears about rejection, abandonment and getting hurt. 

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you longing for a soulmate so much that it is causing you to suffer?
  • Do you keep dating the same person but they have a different face?
  • Could issues from your childhood influence who and how you are dating?
  • Are you in a fantasy based relationship? Could it be time to remove your rose-colored glasses?

 

Michael's Question:

Michael wants to know how to move past the pain of a previous relationship and how to know when the person he is dating is the right one.

 

Michael's Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • He is trying to heal a core wound from his childhood through a romantic relationship
  • He is putting a lot of pressure on the women he dates
  • He realizes he keeps running back to fix past relationships
  • He carries fear and his unanswered questions around with him
  • He feels unworthy and feels he needs to prove himself to women
  • His strength is in his vulnerability, his honesty and his courage

 

How to get over it and on with it:

  • He should forgive the misunderstanding that he is unlovable or anything in his past was his fault
  • He needs to re-parent his younger self in a way he always longed for 
  • He needs to take a dating hiatus 

 

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Is there a little boy or girl inside of you that has some misunderstandings which really need to be healed?
  • Could it be time to end or transform your fantasy-based or issue-based relationship?
  • Perhaps it’s time for a dating hiatus and taking some time to date yourself.   
  • Fall back in love with yourself and realize just how lovable you are.

 

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