44: Why You’re Doing All the Work but It Doesn’t Seem to Be Working with Jenny

Today’s caller Jenny is self-aware and well-practiced in personal development work but she is not realizing the consistent results she longs for. Her immediate question is situational but as we delve deeper, she realizes this truly is a core issue.  I begin this episode with talking about the importance of self-acknowledgment… Are you able to dish out all the praise in the world but when it comes to receiving it you become uncomfortable? Often, we don’t fully take in praise or acknowledgment or we don’t want to feel like we are bragging. Yet, that praise and acknowledgment are what we really want to hear most. So, why is praise from others so hard to accept? It all comes back to our relationship with ourselves and our ability to see what is truly amazing and true about who we are. It also requires a vulnerability to be seen and give ourselves permission to take in the acknowledgment on the energy of self-love and not ego. Receiving praise and love is not indulgent or inflammatory to our ego, it is a gift. If we need it to feel validated or worthy, it reveals that self-acceptance and self-acknowledgement work is in order. I have a feeling that those of you listening could work on flexing your receiving muscle a little more and give yourselves some praise and acknowledgment. Balancing and receiving from a place of love is important. Healing is an application of love to the places inside that hurt. It’s more than positive affirmations and re-framing our beliefs, we must first go to those “ouchy” parts and fill them up with love. Our higher self is always working to get our attention by creating frustration and discomfort. That is why when we spend a lot of energy suppressing our emotions it wears us out. To liberate ourselves emotionally we need to apply love to the places inside that hurt. I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. I also invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail [e-mail] for information on how to join any of my events or business programs.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you are doing the work and possessing awareness but things aren’t shifting?  Is it difficult to speak your truth? Does the phrase “It’s better to be seen, not heard” strike a chord with you? Do you feel stuck in an aspect of your life?  Do you beat yourself up over it? Is self-worth or self-doubt something you are currently struggling with in your own life?   Jenny's Question: Jenny would like help with understanding what is holding her back and how to overcome her fear of success. She wants to get unstuck.   Jenny's Key Insights and Aha’s: It’s mandatory for her to go through these patterns as training for her coaching life.  Her upbringing has affected her ability to find her own voice. It’s her job to make herself feel worthy. It feels awesome to be heard free of judgment.   How to get over it and on with it: She should move into accepting this is where she needs to be. She needs to change what she believes about herself. She should work through the emotional section of Expectation Hangover. She can give herself permission to explore the emotions she has locked up inside.  Find a therapist who can work with her on an emotional level.   Assignments and Takeaways: Emotionally liberate yourself and apply love to the places inside that hurt. Change your story! Ask for praise and acknowledgment and then take it in. Implement a 40-day practice to create consistency in the area you want it most.    Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link.   Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [e-mail] [e-mail]