Over It And On With It

CC: Make Your Love Life Thrive During This Challenging Time (for Couples and Singles!) 0

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Apr 4, 2020

Join Christine as Stef as they offer tips for both couples and singles to keep love alive. If you're in a relationship, your partner can either be your greatest asset or the greatest source of irritation . . . we support you in making him or her your asset and share specific ways you can do that. And if you are single, you're going to love what we have to say about why this is a fantastic time to call in love. We also discuss our program for women who are calling in their man: www.christinehassler.com/bethequeen

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EP 238: Your Passion and Purpose Might Be Hiding Underneath Your Anger with Kirsten 0

Apr 1, 2020

This is a call about releasing anger to find passion and calm. Today’s caller, Kirsten, is feeling anxious about what comes next for her. She is a stay-at-home mom who has fallen into the trap of looking for something external to relieve something internal. But as you know, something external never fixes or resolves what’s going on internally.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode238]

For many of us, we are so busy being ‘human doings’ that we forget about being human beings. And during this time when we are staying at home, we have an opportunity to come face-to-face with who we really are because we are less distracted. I encourage you, during this time, to go within and delve into nothingness and see what comes up. That's why my Mastery course is such a good investment at this time. This is the perfect time to do your inner work.

Our passion and our true calling often reside underneath our anger. If we haven’t addressed our anger, especially as women who tend not to let it out, it is hard to find our passion. And, passion and purpose is a juicy, fiery energy.

What we think we want to do often comes from a place of conditioning. But when we release the energy of compassion, we open up the second chakra of our body and when we pull the anger out all of the passion opens up.

Releasing anger in a healthy way, as in Expectation Hangover, basically it is finding a safe space. It is important that we voice our feelings at our parents in particular, not at them directly but in a therapeutic way. They don’t need to know about it. In our effort to protect them, we suppress our feelings. When we get the anger out, let it go and eventually get to forgiveness, real forgiveness, then we can have healthier relationships with our parents.

It is important to release our anger, release our sadness and to get our energy up and moving so it doesn’t turn into anxiety, fear, pain, or disease.

Would you like to work directly with me? I have two Private Client spots open. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you wondering what’s next? Are you returning to the work environment or reevaluating what you want to be doing?
Did you have a parent who had a temper but maybe it wasn’t directed at you so you could see their loving side so you don’t think it impacted you?
Do you have a hard time feeling and expressing anger in a healthy way? Or, do you feel guilty about acknowledging your anger at someone you love because you feel protective of that person?
How do you deal in calm when there is nothing to do?
Does anxiety get triggered when you don’t know what is next?

Kirsten’s Question:

Kirsten feels lost and is trying to find herself now that her kids are getting older.

Kirsten’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is married with two children.
She worries about where her worth and value will come from in the future.
Her identity is based on her being a wife and mother.
She was financially self-reliant from a very young age.
She is not fond of relying on her husband for money.
Her father had a temper and was aggressive with other family members.
She feels anger toward her parents but is very protective of her father.
She felt unsettled as a child.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should read 20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction, by Christine Hassler.
She needs to work toward true forgiveness toward her father.
She needs to practice release writing and start the sentences with “I am angry because…”
She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Assignments and Takeaways:

Go back and listen to Coaches Corner with Nicole Sachs on how emotions create chronic pain in our body.
If you are in your twenties or early thirties, grab a copy of 20-Something, 20-Everything for women or 20-Something Manifesto: Quarter-Lifers Speak Out About Who They Are, What They Want, and How to Get It, by Christine Hassler.
Re-read Expectation Hangover or join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code ‘HEALTH’ and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.
Don’t be afraid to follow any feelings of nervousness or anxiety into bigger feelings that reside underneath them. You will find your passion and calm.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Get Out of Pain (Permanently!) with Nicole Sachs 0

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Mar 28, 2020

Nicole Sachs, LCSW is a speaker, writer, podcaster and psychotherapist who has dedicated her work and her practice to the treatment of chronic pain, symptoms, syndromes and conditions. She is the author of the book The Meaning of Truth, and the online course FREEDOM FROM CHRONIC PAIN. Her brand, The Cure for Chronic Pain, includes a Website, Podcast and YouTube Channel. Her personal experience as well as work with thousands of people around the world have shaped and evolved Nicole’s theories, which serve to teach those suffering how to heal themselves completely with no medication or surgery.

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EP 237: You Are Not Defective with Lisa 0

Mar 25, 2020

This is a call about feeling worthy, trusting yourself, and knowing you are enough. Today’s caller, Lisa, mistakenly believes she is defective in some way, but it’s not true. She initially questions her career path but we unpack her question to get to the root of what is blocking her. There are some powerful ‘ahas’ in this call.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode237]

When our desires and our wants are not congruent with our beliefs about ourselves, we can fall into the trap of looking outside ourselves to make us feel a certain way. The universe will keep blocking that from happening because it wants us to learn that we can generate those feelings from inside ourselves and we don’t need anyone or anything else to make us feel confident or believe in ourselves.

Our life lessons, our parents, the things that impact our personality and behavioral patterns; all of it is changeable. All of that is healable, I promise you. What is not shiftable is your soul and your spirit. Your soul essence, who you are, your spirit can never be defective or deflated.

Join Stef and I three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and allow us to support you.

Listen to my last Coaches Corner where Emily Fletcher shares a meditation designed to help us stress less. After listening go to Zivameditation.com/online/ to get 50% off one of her mediation training.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you feel defective because you can’t seem to get to where you want to be in your life?
Are you trying a lot of things, hoping to find something you are passionate about or love doing?
Did you have too much responsibility as a child?
Do you have contradicting desires and beliefs?

Lisa’s Question:

Lisa has spent years in a job she doesn’t like and feels stuck but can’t pinpoint what she really wants to do.

Lisa’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is in a career she doesn’t like.
She feels like she is a procrastinator and lazy.
She took the first job she was offered.
She wants to be in a more strategic position.
She feels stressed.
She started pursuing fashion as a hobby.
She believes that she is unworthy.
She has never felt connected to anything.
She didn’t have the opportunity to play and be herself as a child.
She is a generational pattern breaker.
She lived in a state of survival as a child.
Her spirit wants more.
She is doing EMDR therapy.
Her desires and her wants are not congruent with her beliefs about herself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should be proud of herself for getting out there and trying new things.
She needs to reparent and heal herself.
She needs to tap into her shadow self and express herself.
She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Assignments and Takeaways:

Think about things that you were shamed for as a child and have compassion for yourself, take back your power, and give yourself permission to start enjoying the things you love.
Commit to feeling again. It’s not about discipline, it’s about being attuned to what is going on in the moment.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Stress Less & Guided Meditation with Emily Fletcher 0

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Mar 21, 2020

Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and the leading expert in meditation for extraordinary performance. In this very timely interview, she speaks to why mediation is so imperative for our wellbeing - particularly for our immune system. Emily guides you through a powerful meditation and offers you 50% off her Ziza meditation training which you can access at https://zivameditation.com/online/ The Ziva Technique is a powerful trifecta of mindfulness, meditation and manifesting designed to unlock your full potential.

Also check out her book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon.

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EP 236: Should You Give an Old Relationship a New Chance? With Megan 0

Mar 18, 2020

This is a call about issue-based relationships. Today’s caller, Megan, is curious about whether she should go back to a relationship that is on a break. She wants to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship. I explain what an issue-based relationship is and give her some guidance about how to listen to her inner knowing.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode236]

The five relationships are issue-based, journey mate, compatibility, fantasy, and side-by-side partnership. Not every relationship is made to last forever or should last forever. Different relationships come for different reasons and teach us different things. When we understand what type of relationship we have then it is a little bit easier to deal with.

An issue-based relationship is when our childhood wounds attract us to each other. We tend to date our unresolved issues from our childhood. Normally one person dumps feelings all over the other and the other person either dumps feelings back or tries to clean up the mess. They keep triggering each other and playing out patterns. When couples go to couple’s counseling it doesn’t really work because they keep trying to work on the relationship but they should be working on their own issues. It’s like two people who speak totally different languages and you are trying to teach them how to speak a third language.

For people in issue-based relationships, I recommend taking a break and separating, working on themselves, and then re-evaluating the relationship. By then they may decide the relationship is not what they want or they get back together.

March 18, 2020, Stefanos and I are co-hosting a group call about relationships. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. If you missed my live group coaching call about how to care for your energetic and spiritual hygiene and cope during times of stress download it for free at Christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Is there someone from your past that you are considering bringing back into your life?
Are you in an issue-based relationship?
Have you been in a relationship that has felt like great chemistry but it was actually codependence?
Are you willing to be on your own, or not in a relationship, for as long as it takes to see clearly what you need from a relationship?

Megan’s Question:

Megan would like to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship.

Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She attended my Spring Retreat.
She is in an issue-based relationship.
She entered into the relationship from an unhealthy space.
She has an opportunity to reconnect with her boyfriend who she has strong feelings for.
She has a pattern of giving men multiple chances.
Her father wasn’t emotionally available.
She feels an extremely strong connection to her boyfriend.
She has a pattern of asking external sources for answers to her internal questions.
She wants to get more into her healthy masculine.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She may want to let her boyfriend complete his coaching before reconnecting.
She needs to trust herself and her inner knowing.
She should reaffirm advice from others by writing it down and considering how it feels to her.
She should pray for the highest good of all parties.

Assignments and Takeaways:

Relationships are always learning opportunities. Look at your triggering relationships and consider what they are reflecting back to you.
If you are in an issue-based relationship and are not getting anywhere, take a break and work separately for a year and then see where you stand.
Evaluate the kind of partner you are being to yourself and work on your self-care and self-love.

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EP 235: Reclaiming Your Sexuality and Getting Over Body Issues with Heidi 0

Mar 11, 2020

This call is about reclaiming your sexuality and getting over body issues. Today’s caller, Heidi, has felt shame about her sexuality since she was a child. During our conversation, I coach her through how to reclaim her sexuality and how she can feel safe in her body to experience pleasure.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode235]

Being connected to our bodies and experiencing pleasure is important. There are a lot of therapies that help people move past eating disorders and fall back in love with their bodies. But, sexuality is a part of the therapy that is often left out.

When we don’t experience sensual or sexual pleasure or we disconnect from our body and are not satisfied we attempt to fill the void with food for satiation. For some, the only way to feel safe is to enforce some kind of control over their bodies which may create a body image issue or an eating disorder.

We can store emotional pain in our reproductive organs just like we store tension in our shoulders. And it is common for many women to experience pain during sex or sex doesn’t feel good to them. It is natural for human beings to want to experience pleasure. So, start introducing pleasure in ways that feel safe with you.

We don’t need to know the specifics behind our fears to heal ourselves and move on.

Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th. Be part of my community for only $20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the recorded version of the call.

Join Stefanos and me in Austin for our ‘Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power.’ To sign up for the event on September 24–27th go to ChristineHassler.com/austin.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you have any body image issues? Have you had an eating disorder in the past or are struggling with it now?
Were you raised in a very strict, religious, or repressed home?
Were you shamed as a child or teenager?
Do you experience pleasure in your current life?
Do you enjoy sex? Could it be better?

Heidi’s Question:

Heidi would like guidance on how to heal her body from an eating disorder.

Heidi’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She sabotages herself and reverts to old patterns.
She battles anorexia.
She rarely felt safe as a child.
She always tried to please her father.
She felt shame around how she looked.
Her family is very religious.
She has disconnected from her sexuality.

How to get over it and on with it:

She needs to unlock her sacred sexuality.
She should look for healers to help her.
She needs to put more intention into her sex life with her husband.
She needs to indulge in self-pleasure to feel safe in her body.

Assignments and Takeaways:

If you have been dealing with an eating disorder or body image issue, take an inventory of how much pleasure you have in your life.
You don’t need a partner to experience pleasure. Create pleasure dates with yourself.
Somatic therapy, Pelvic Floor Therapy, Dancing, Tantra are all ways you can heal and help yourself to enjoy being in your body.
Put more intention into your sex life.
Enjoy being in your body. Don’t disconnect from your physical experience.

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CC: Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself 0

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This week Christine shares about her experience at Dr. Joe Dispenza's week-long advanced retreat - learn a little about who Dr. Joe is, what he teaches, and how to move through resistance when you are breaking out of your comfort zone. Christine also announces more about the retreat she is teaching in September: www.christinehassler.com/austin

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EP 234: Stop Overeating and Overspending with Dee 0

Mar 4, 2020

This episode is about how to break addictive behaviors. Today’s caller, Dee, had a chaotic childhood and is unconsciously creating chaos in her adult life because it feels familiar and safe. We work through the process of identifying her emotional addiction and unpack why it’s hard to shift and then how to shift it.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode234]

How we know that an unresolved issue from our past or an old emotional addiction has created a pattern of acting that is so unconscious that we have a hard time ‘controlling’ it is at play is that we do something that doesn’t match our current life.

If you are doing something that doesn’t match up to what your current life represents, you have some work to do in terms of going back and cleaning up the past.

When we have a lot of chaos or are used to feeling it, we become addicted to negative or lower vibrational feelings, like anxiety. Sometimes the revved up, anxious, addicted behavior creates a feeling of peace because it is familiar.

With any addiction, you are never after the substance. You are after the feeling the substance gives you. When we understand that the human psyche feels safety with certainty the brain continually hunts for what it knows to be familiar. It’s way more than sabotage. It’s a part of the brain that is so familiar with chaos that when everything is good and peaceful, it feels wrong or off.

If you are in a behavior that feels incongruent with your current state, be aware that it is an emotional addiction. Drop into compassion and then feed your emotional addiction a different way.

Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th. Be part of my community for only $20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information.

Join Stefanos and me in Austin in the Fall for our Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power. To get on the ‘interested’ list go to ChristineHassler.com/austin.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you have a habit of overspending and/or overeating?
Do you have a behavior where you see yourself doing it and you know you shouldn’t but you just can't seem to stop?
Did you grow up with a lot of chaos? Is the chaos gone but you continue to bring chaos into your life?
How are you about going with the flow and letting go of control?
Do you have a deep connection with a higher power?

Dee’s Question:

Dee has a habit of overspending and overeating and would like guidance on how to break her past programming.

Dee’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She’s read Expectation Hangover.
She continues to accrue debt.
She overeats unhealthy foods.
She’s never been taught about money.
She grew up with scarcity and chaos.
There is addiction in her family.
She is unconsciously creating chaos.
She’s always been a seeker.
She doesn’t feel worthy.
She works in the spiritual arts.
She feels positive about what to do next.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

If she can change where she focuses her energy, from spending to spiritual things will open up for her.
She needs to stop herself in the moment and generate feelings of love.
She needs to stir up the chemicals in her body and brain.
When she feels an urge to spend or eat, she should put one hand on her heart and one on her head and give herself love.
She needs to be gentle with herself while she breaks the cycle.

Takeaways:

If you are in a behavior that feels incongruent with your current state, be aware that it is an emotional addiction. Drop into compassion and then feed your emotional addiction in a different way.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

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Feb 29, 2020

Amber Lilyestrom is a transformational branding strategist and business coach, author and speaker. She is the host of The Amber Lilyestrom Show podcast, which has over 100,000 monthly downloads . She is the creator of the Ignite Your Soul Summit, an annual live event in Portsmouth, NH and multiple life-changing online programs.

Amber's mission is to empower women to position themselves as sought-after experts and thought leaders through the creation of an online brand presence. Her transformational mindset work sets her apart in an industry focused on a strategy-first, inner work later approach. She’s worked with thousands of women worldwide building a seven-figure business from home, while also homeschooling her daughter and retiring her husband from his 11-year police career.

Amber spent 10 years working in collegiate athletics marketing before launching her business. She managed the University of New Hampshire Wildcats brand, where she taught sports marketing and mentored student interns. She was recognized as one of the top sports marketing professionals in the nation and left her corporate career after a life-altering near-death experience that served as the catalyst for her to launch her business. You can learn more and connect with Amber at www.amberlilyestrom.com

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EP 233: Understanding a Journey Mate Relationship with Miranda 0

Feb 26, 2020

This episode is about how to get over a breakup but we go much deeper than that. Today’s caller, Miranda, had a profound spiritual experience during her previous relationship. She thought the feeling came from an external source when it actually came from her internal divine source because her mind was quiet enough to feel unconditional love for herself.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode233]

We are all headed towards breaking old personality patterns and emotional addictions that have kept us in a certain frequency to elevate ourselves into a different energetic field. This is why journey mates come into our lives.

There is a specific reason a journey mate comes into our lives. A journey mate relationship is a contract but it’s a short-term contract. We come together with a person to have an important experience or to help us get through a difficult time we can’t get through on our own. The other person acts as a mirror to show us the aspect inside of us we need to transform. Usually, once the experience or realization happens the relationship has to end. Often, I find these relationships end abruptly or under random circumstances.

The reason the universe pulls two people apart is that a journey mate is only in our lives to show us something about ourselves or to help us discover inner qualities that we may not be able to access on our own.

How do you access a deeper connection with the divine?

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Join Stefan and me in Austin in the Fall for our Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power. To get on the ‘interested’ list go to ChristineHassler.com/austin.

Or join us on a live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th or 19th. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you struggling with getting over a breakup?
Have you been in a deeply connected relationship but it ended abruptly or under shocking circumstances?
Have you had a spiritual experience but are unable to have it again? Do you want to feel unconditional love, peace, and a deeper connection?
Do you tend to be hard on yourself or have a fierce inner critic?

Miranda’s Question:

Miranda had a spiritual experience in a relationship but since the relationship ended she hasn’t been able to recreate the feeling and would like guidance on how to regain the feeling.

Miranda’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She had a positive spiritual experience in which she felt unconditional love.
She has a fierce inner critic.
Her previous relationship ended abruptly.
She realizes she sacrificed some of herself in the relationship.
She overanalyzed what the relationship meant.
She realizes she felt the love from an internal source, not an external one.
She feels encouraged by her progress.
She wants to capitalize on this chapter of her life.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to realize that what she experienced was a spiritual moment she allowed herself to have.
She should look at the relationship as a gift but not put her ex on a pedestal.
She shouldn’t believe that she was rejected.
She needs to fall more in love with herself every day.
She needs to generate the elated feelings on her own.

Takeaways:

If you feel you have a Journey Mate relationship or had one, accept it. Write a letter you don’t intend to send to thank the other person for the relationship and declaring it done.
Get serious about your meditation practice. You should be feeling elevated when you finish.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback

CC: How the Worst Thing that Happened, Becomes the Best Thing with Antonio Neves 0

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Feb 22, 2020

Antonio Neves is an internationally recognized leadership speaker, author and award-winning journalist. He's the author of three books including, '50 Ways To Excel In Your First Job (and in Life) and he’s currently working on his next book.

On his podcast The Best Thing, he talks with fascinating people about the “best thing” to happen to them that would never appear on a resume, bio or come up in conversation.

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An award-winning journalist, Antonio worked as a correspondent, host and producer for over 10 years in New York City with top networks including NBC, PBS, BET Networks, Advertising Age and Nickelodeon.

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EP 232: Make Choices with Clarity and Stop Sabotaging Patterns with Megan 0

Feb 19, 2020

This episode is about asking for what you need in relationships. Today’s caller, Megan, feels overwhelmed when faced with too many choices and is afraid to be truly seen. She doesn’t want her pattern of uncertainty to sabotage her new relationship. Like in many coaching sessions, her initial question isn’t exactly what we focus on. This is for anyone who has trouble making decisions, doubts themselves, or is in sabotaging patterns.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode232]

For empaths, love can feel overwhelming because we love so deeply. When we are in a relationship it can feel smothering and overwhelming. Instead of communicating that we need boundaries and space with love we are often afraid of confrontation or don’t want to make the other person upset. So, we unconsciously push them away by either judging them internally, nitpicking, or acting out in other ways. Empaths need to know what they need — especially at the beginning of the relationship. When you are first dating someone you need to be vocal and ask for what you need.

Boundaries in a relationship and asking for what you need is important. That way you don’t have to build walls. You can have a door and that door can be open most of the time but sometimes you need to shut it and put on the do not disturb sign. The people in your life that love you will understand. It will allow them to spend time with themselves.

When our heart is broken either through a breakup or the death of someone, we want to love again but we are scared because it feels risky.

Fear of making the wrong decision will keep you from making the decision. Basically, fear complicates everything in your life. The more you can drop into love and your inner knowing and move out of the energy of fear the more clarity you will have in all aspects of your life.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you notice you have sabotaging behaviors? You can get close to what you want but then sabotaging thoughts or behaviors show up.
When it comes to making decisions do you struggle and wonder if you made the right choice? Or, that you should be “doing something different.”
Have you lost someone you love either through the ending of a relationship or a death and you are scared to open your heart again?
Do you make time regularly to connect to your inner wisdom and get answers from there?

Megan’s Question:

Megan has a recurring pattern of feeling as if she isn’t doing the right thing or feels she should be doing something else and would like guidance on how to change it.

Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is an empath.
She is in a new relationship.
She is aware of her patterns.
Her mother tried to control what she was eating.
She is overwhelmed with too many choices.
She is afraid of another heartbreak.
She feels safer when she is alone.
She has created a fortress around her heart.
She is afraid to be seen.
She is filled with doubt about her ability to write a book.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to establish healthy boundaries in her new relationship.
She needs to ask for what she needs.
She needs to recognize her gift of feeling deeply.
She needs to connect more deeply to the divine inside of her.

Takeaways:

Make sure you have boundaries, not barriers. Don’t build a fortress around yourself. Just put up the ‘do not disturb’ sign for a while.
Risk big when it comes to loving! When fear comes up, remind yourself that with fear you are already in loss.
If you are afraid of letting someone in, journal about what you don’t want someone else to see. Often, we don’t know what we are hiding.
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CC: Everything is Figureoutable with Marie Forleo 0

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Feb 14, 2020

This is a must listen, especially for aspiring or current entrepreneurs. Marie joins Christine for the 3rd time to inspire you with stories around her mantra, "Everything is figureoutable." We also talk about her signature program, B-School, for teaching modern, heart-centered entrepreneurs how to build a successful business. I also reveal my EPIC B-School bonuses for this year which you can access here: www.christinehassler.com/bschool

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EP 231: Learn How to Self-soothe with Alexis 0

Feb 13, 2020

This episode is about self-soothing strategies for empaths. Today’s caller, Alexis, wants guidance about how to find self-worth after getting out of an abusive relationship. But, we go deeper and discover that self-worth is just part of the issue. She realizes that moving toward self-soothing will be more beneficial to her at this time.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode231]

We can’t amp up our self-worth if we keep judging and shaming ourselves. If you are trying to increase your self-worth, I want you to consistently think of things you are proud of. Not just accomplishments but choices and characteristics and all courageous actions you have taken. Increase your feelings of pride and it will increase your self-worth.

Narcissists are very attractive to empaths because empaths have huge hearts and can see what’s behind narcissism. While narcissists are self-absorbed, empaths are often selfless and are more concerned with other people’s happiness.

If you are an empath who is with a narcissist, my encouragement to you is to get out of the relationship. No matter how much you love them they are unable to feel empathy and they can’t give you the love and attention you deserve. It’s a tough relationship to be in.

And, trying to get out of triggers or uncomfortable feelings by thinking positive is a dead-end for a lot of people, especially empaths. One of your gifts is that you feel deeply so trying to escape your feelings through positive psychology or a pep talk may lead you astray because you are negating the very essence of who you are. If you are a feeling person, you have to honor your feelings.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you getting over a breakup?
Do you ever fear you may be codependent or have codependent patterns?
As a child, did you ever feel like you were walking on eggshells?
How are you at self-soothing? When you get triggered, do you try to distract yourself to avoid dealing with the feelings?

Alexis’s Question:

Alexis recently got out of an abusive relationship and would like guidance on how to boost her self-worth.

Alexis’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She was in an abusive relationship for two years.
She is working on being proud of herself.
She would shut down when she tried to stand up for herself.
Her ex would make her feel crazy.
She is an empath.
She feels blocked when trying to get to the core of her trauma.
She is stuck in the awareness phase of personal development.
There was a lot of tension in her childhood home.
She felt abandoned and alone in the past.
She doesn’t follow through in many things in her life.
She struggles with letting her feelings out.
She is part of my Personal Mastery community.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should listen to the Coaches Corner with Dr. Judith Orloff.
She needs to realize she is not alone because many empaths are attracted to narcissists.
She needs to learn self-soothing techniques and strategies.
She should journal in the form of release writing.

Takeaways:

Be proud of yourself.
Listen to the Coaches Corner with Dr. Judith Orloff.
Make a date to meet with your feelings when they come up if you are unable to process them in the moment.
Use my release writing technique from Expectation Hangover when journaling.
Place one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and say “I am loved and I am safe.”

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CC: How to Thrive as an Empath with Dr. Judith Orloff 0

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Feb 8, 2020

Dr. Judith Orloff is a New York Times bestselling author, psychiatrist and is on the UCLA psychiatric clinical faculty. Dr. Orloff specializes in treating empaths and sensitive people in her Los Angeles based private practice.

Judith Orloff MD asserts that we are keepers of an innate intuitive intelligence so perceptive that it can tell us how to heal — and prevent — illness. Yet intuition and spirituality are the very aspects of our wisdom usually disenfranchised from traditional health care.

Dr. Orloff’s latest book “The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People” (Sounds True, 2017) is an invaluable resource to help sensitive people of all kinds develop healthy coping mechanisms in our high-stimulus world without experiencing compassion fatigue or burnout. Empaths can then fully embody their gifts of intuition, creativity, and compassion.

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EP 230: Getting Out of Scarcity Thinking and Limiting Money Stories with Emily 0

Feb 5, 2020

This episode is about our money story. Today’s caller, Emily, calls in asking about gaining clarity and her purpose but what we reveal is her relationship with money impacts many things for her. Her unconscious programming holds beliefs that are directly at odds with what she wants for herself.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode230]

If you grew up not having a lot of money or being told money was evil then there you may have some trauma around having money. And just like going back and healing emotional wounds, we have to go back and heal our financial wounds as well.

Our careers, being parents, or what we do in the world gets confused with what we think we are here on the earth to do. Your purpose in life isn’t your career. We mistakenly think that it is our purpose. What I feel is true, is that our purpose is to evolve our soul as much as possible. Our purpose is to elevate our consciousness, move out of fear and judgment, and come back into knowing we are whole and we are love. Doing the work is the purpose. Our profession is just an expression of what we do.

But, just because your purpose is not your career it doesn’t mean you need to be in a soul-sucking career. Your purpose in life is also not to suffer. So, if you want to move out of something where you feel like you are suffering and your soul is being sucked out of your body while you are sitting in your cubicle, know that part of your purpose is joy. You deserve to do something that brings you more joy.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

When you think about money, what comes up for you? Do you feel abundant, neutral, excited, or stressed?
Growing up, what were you told about money?
Do you live paycheck-to-paycheck?
Do you know what your purpose is and do you believe you can make money doing it?

Emily’s Question:

Emily wants help in getting clear about her purpose and help with goal setting for the future.

Emily’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She finds it difficult to plan for the future.
She wants the burden and fear about money to be lifted to attain financial freedom.
She wants to feel calm, free and living with purpose.
Her mother had a scarcity mindset.
As a child, she was told she was wise beyond her years and stubborn.
Her adopted identity is in direct conflict with having money.
Her unconscious programming tells her having money is bad.
She is passionate about helping people.
She is enrolled in my Personal Mastery Course.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundant mindset.
She should read Money: A Love Story, by Kate Northrup and listen to podcasts about money.
She needs to believe she is abundant.
She needs to drop into her intuition.

Takeaways:

Look at your money story and check out the resources I mentioned in the podcast. Get some new belief systems in place.
Work those belief systems. Tell yourself a different story and collect evidence for why the new story is true.
Look at how you are making money in your life and if you feel you are “on purpose.”
Join me for my Spring Retreat in San Diego March 6th-8th.

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CC: Attachment Styles and How They Impact Our Adult Relationships with Ellen Boeder 0

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Feb 1, 2020

This episode is incredibly educational when it comes to our attachment styles. I talk with licensed psychotherapist Ellen Boeder about how attachment styles are formed, how they impact our adult relationships, and what we can do to heal them so we can have more secure attachments.

A little more about Ellen . . . She has been a therapist since 2003. She has a strong background in yoga and meditation, and her graduate training in Transpersonal Psychology also deeply inform her work. Since getting married 12 years ago, and becoming a mother to two children, Ellen transitioned from working primarily with women to focusing on couples. Ellen is trained in PACT, a therapeutic modality for couples founded by Stan Tatkin, PsyD., that synthesizes attachment theory, neuroscience, and affect regulation models to support couples in creating an enduring and nourishing relationship through secure functioning.

In addition to maintaining a part time private practice, Ellen is on faculty for the Relationship School—a business founded by her husband Jayson Gaddis that provides in depth relationship education for anyone who wants to learn, as well as training for relationship coaches.

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EP 229: Breaking the Cycle of Numbing with Charmaine 0

Jan 29, 2020

This episode is about finding the tools to help you better deal with trauma and breaking the cycle of numbing. Today’s caller, Charmaine, has had multiple traumas in her life and uses marijuana as a coping strategy. But this isn’t a call about stopping marijuana use. When discussing any type of addiction or numbing device, you have to uncover the deeper issue.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode229]

From my point of view, we can’t deal with addiction effectively unless we deal with the core issue that is creating the addiction or coping strategy. Most addictions are coping strategies for when we didn’t have the tools to deal with the drama and trauma that’s happened in our life. Addiction to anything is a symptom of a deeper issue.

When we speak of addiction, we often just think of drugs and alcohol but there are so many other things we use as coping and numbing strategies that become addictions. Sex, gaming, gambling, food, and even things like work, falling in love, and caretaking. Basically, anything we use to get us out of feeling our pain and feeling our big feelings is a coping strategy that can turn into an addiction.

Because the way coping strategies work, is you have to keep upping the ante. The feelings get bigger and bigger and then it takes more energy to suppress them. And, there is not much of a difference between emotional, mental, and physical addiction. Because mental and emotional pain is most likely the cause of physical addiction.

If you feel like you are addicted to something worse than marijuana, know that you can get to the other side of it and that judging yourself will not get you anywhere. It won’t get you to stop being mean to yourself. The part of you that is reaching out for the coping strategy needs love and compassion. It needs to be healed. You probably developed your coping strategy because you had no better tools.

Remember, there is not one style of therapy or coaching that is better than others. It’s about what feels right to you. When it comes to working with any therapist or coach it’s either a ‘hell yeah’ or ‘hell no’! Better tools are available but know that it requires facing your feelings and some of the demons you buried a long time ago.

To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

When it comes to feeling your pain, do you actually feel it or do you numb or distract yourself?
Did you have parents who were super present and attentive?
Have you done things you are ashamed of?
Are you addicted to a substance or numbing technique like pot, alcohol, caretaking, overworking, or food?

Charmaine’s Question:

Charmaine used marijuana to help her cope during a difficult time but would like to stop but doesn’t know how.

Charmaine’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She was in the military for 13 years and in an unhealthy marriage.
She was kicked out of the military for drug use.
She uses pot to numb herself from the trauma she experienced in her past.
She feels shame and judges herself.
Her parents neglected her.
She was sexually molested when she was a child.
She has seen a therapist who recommended Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
She has employed numbing mechanisms for her whole life.
She has remarried a wonderful human being.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to find a long-term, quality therapist that resonates with her.
She needs a safe space to feel her feelings.
She shouldn’t quit pot until she has the techniques to deal with her emotions.

Takeaways:

Be honest and compassionate with yourself if you are using a coping strategy that may border on addiction or is a full-blown addiction.
If you feel as if you want a guide or therapist, pray about it. Set the intention to manifest the best healer for you.
You have a divine appointment with the people in your life who are supposed to guide you. Trust that they are there.
Join my Personal Mastery Course or my Spring Retreat.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

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CC: How to Live an Embodied Life with Kate Reardon 0

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Jan 25, 2020

Don't miss this episode! One of my soul sisters, Kate Reardon, drops some serious wisdom and compassion bombs in this episode. Kate is a naturopath, intuitive metaphysical healer, author, host of the podcast "Lean In" and co-founder of Natural Instincts Healing's Transformational Retreats. She is one of the most powerful and magical people I know. Enjoy this episode!

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EP 228: Getting Out of Your Head with Michelle 0

Jan 22, 2020

This episode is about getting out of your head and in touch with spirit. Today’s caller, Michelle, is intelligent and has a lot of awareness but her awareness and her thinking are blocking her from a deeper connection to spirit and to the essence of who she truly is.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode228]

We can’t answer spiritual questions with the mind. That is just the nature of spiritual questions. They can’t be answered through the intellect. I have found that sometimes the smarter you are, or the more you are in your head, the harder it is to meditate, to find a connection to spirit, and to drop into your heart. It doesn’t mean it’s not possible. It just means when we have a strong mind it likes to hold on to thinking and control with a tighter grip.

We think and think and think about how to figure something out but how do we figure out a truth? You can figure out a puzzle, you can figure out a math problem or how to build something but you can’t figure out enoughness. There is no mathematical equation to figure out love. You just feel it. There is no structured formula to tell you that you feel love for somebody. It’s a feeling and so is enoughness and oneness. When we have a strong thinking mind it’s hard to access true unconditional love.

It isn’t until we have an experience of God that we really know we are whole and complete and knowing, no matter what.

There are only a few spots left for my Signature Spring Retreat. To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you someone who really likes to know things?
Do you struggle with worthiness or feeling enough?
Does some part of you believe that worthiness is based on what you can do or accomplish? Or, that someone else’s worthiness is based on what they can do?
Do you feel connected to God?
Does satisfaction or fulfillment feel fleeting to you?

Michelle’s Question:

Michelle believes that worthiness is directly tied to actions and would like guidance on how to reframe the idea and feel worthy from a spiritual perspective.

Michelle’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She feels unworthy spiritually.
She never feels satisfied.
She was raised in a religious household but doesn’t subscribe to all the beliefs.
She enjoys rules and structure in her life.
She teaches yoga.
She is mind-dominant.
She associates her thoughts with who she is.
She is ready to surrender.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to figure out who she is, if not her thinking mind.
She should consider getting a dog.
She needs to give God and the universe permission to send her clear messages or invitations.
She needs to adopt a spiritual practice.
She needs to see herself through the lens of self-compassion.
She needs to consider joining other like-minded people at my Spring Retreat.

Takeaways:

Listen to last week’s episode, Breaking Up with a Religion.
Sign up for my Personal Mastery Course.
Put out the call to have a spiritual experience for your highest good to bring in a workshop, the teacher, the ceremony to help you have an experience of God.

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Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

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