This episode is about consciously and completely leaving a religion someone else chose for you. Today’s caller, Christina, has recently discovered what her core wounding is and she is in spiritual crisis. She would like guidance on how to protect herself during her vulnerable self-discovery process.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode227]

When we leave a religion, whether we drift away from it or there is a point where we cut the cord, it is like a breakup. And, on some level, we are changing the course of our religious beliefs especially if we are baptized into a certain religion. Our soul, for whatever reason, decided to come through those parents who baptized us in a religion so when we leave it, it is important to have a healthy breakup with it. Not just leave in anger or run away. There are soul contracts. This makes it important to make peace when you leave it.

Just like you would want to leave a relationship with looking at “What are the lessons I’ve learned,” “What are the things that I really want to take with me,” “What were the things I loved about the person,” and “What are the gifts that came from the relationship?”

We want to ask ourselves similar questions when we leave a religion. It’s even a deeper spiritual process because then we have to find God, whatever God means to us, in a new way.

And, dark energies can be a scary subject to speak of, especially when we grow up hearing about things like the Devil, Satan, or dark entities. Sometimes our own unprocessed, unconscious stuff can create some crazy visuals to get our attention about certain things. Instead of considering what the darkness means, try thinking about how you can increase your connection to the highest source of light and love. The most important thing is to surrender to unconditional love and light.

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If you live in Austin, Texas, keep your calendar open for the last two weeks of September for a retreat for both men and women hosted by me and Stefan.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Were you baptized or raised in a particular religion but you left it or do not practice those traditions anymore?
• Do you feel not enough?
• Are you having trouble finding your tribe or the people you really connect with?
• Do you have experiences with dense or unexplained energies that you can’t explain?

Christina’s Question:

Christina recently discovered her core wounding and would like guidance on how to protect herself as she treads along the vulnerable path to self-discovery.

Christina’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She yearns for the approval of others.
• She is a people pleaser.
• She is leaning into being an empath.
• She sometimes feels a dark masculine energy.
• She was raised as a Mormon but left the religion when she was 19.
• She has always been a sensitive person.
• She feels alone in her spirituality.
• There was sexual abuse within her family.
• She is searching for her tribe.
• She is in a spiritual crisis.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• She needs to take back her power and deepen her spiritual practice.
• She needs to stay out of judgment. 
• She needs to practice chanting the sound ‘hu.’
• She needs to ask for a spiritual teacher who can support her emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
• She needs to embrace a conscious breakup plan from the Mormon religion.
• She needs to consider joining other empaths for my Spring Retreat.

Takeaways:

• Practice the meditation from this podcast.
• If you have unresolved issues from a religion you don’t practice anymore, consider how you can bring completion and healthy closure to it.
• Explore how you can make an intention to deepen your spiritual practice and connection to your higher power this year.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback

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In this last episode to support you in feeling supported as you walk into this next decade, Christine offers a more feminine approach and guided meditation for clarifying goals.  This is a must listen if you are feeling a call to be more repetitive and inspired. 

This episode is about finding your voice when you have low self-worth. Today’s caller, Sarah, calls in asking about a breakup but as usual, we dive deeper into core issues she has been carrying around since before her birth.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode226]

Not being able to see things from a self-honoring perspective is one of the many side effects of low self-worth. People who have zero self-worth give up on themselves completely and don’t call in or listen to podcasts like this. If you believe you have low self-worth I want you to recognize the ways in which you act that demonstrate your self-worth. I promise they are there. You can’t just focus on how you have no or low self-worth because it’s not true. You wouldn’t be listening to this if you didn’t. Acknowledge the ways you take care of yourself.

Even if you are an introvert you need to take up space and be seen. Especially in your most intimate relationships. Low self-worth can make it challenging to attract a healthy relationship.

If something in this call resonates with you, you may have a leaving pattern. A leaving pattern is a coping mechanism or a personality pattern we often develop if we have an in-the-womb trauma or birth trauma. It’s when we don’t feel safe to come into the world. The coping mechanism makes us good at checking out. It’s also common for people who have a leaving pattern to avoid confrontation and often not speak up for themselves. A big part of healing the leaving pattern is to not tolerate shitty situations, to not settle.

Don’t miss out on tonight’s group coaching call. It’s about setting your intentions for the year and how to be an empath in 2020. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to join in and to access group coaching call archives visit ChristineHassler.com/group-coaching-replays

To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode for more information.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you gone through a heartbreak that you still haven’t gotten over?
• Do you often do things because you feel obligated or forced?
• Is it hard for you to speak up?
• Do you feel invisible?
•  Is there a calling you want to pursue but self-doubt gets in the way?

Sarah’s Question:

Sarah recently experienced a break-up from a relationship that she thought was “the one” and would like guidance on how to move forward.

Sarah’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She says she hasn’t had a broken heart before.
• She found herself changing during her relationship.
• She wouldn’t speak up for herself.
• She didn’t feel an intimate connection with her ex.
• Her parents divorced when she was 16.
• Her parents didn’t know they were having twins.
• She is emotionally intimate with her twin sister.
• She has abandonment issues.
• She doesn’t know how to handle the emotions she is feeling.
• She feels uncomfortable when she is given attention.
• She has low self-worth.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• She needs to release the judgment she places on herself.
• She needs to work with a therapist or coach using regressive therapy.

Takeaways:

• Think about your birth and early childhood. Was there any trauma? Did you feel safe and wanted? Explore it and cover it in your personal development work.
• If you do relate to the leaving pattern, if you are good at checking out of your body and going into the spiritual world, I encourage you to do things to get you more into your body.
• Consider your own self-worth. If you resonate with it being low, commit to doing some work around it. Investing in yourself is a great way.
• Come to my Spring Retreat or Personal Mastery course.
• Make a list of all the people you’ve held back your words to and make a commitment to get them out.
• If you have a dream you want to pursue tell more people about it, own it.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback

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This episode is about overcoming people-pleasing patterns and getting into alignment with who you truly are. Today’s caller, Emily, recognizes she has people-pleasing patterns but finds herself withdrawing from others. She is exhausted by the effort it takes to socialize and doing what other people expect of her. If you are a people pleaser and an introvert, this is an important call for you to listen to.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode225]

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback

Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show