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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Apr 29, 2023

Natalie Lue is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. She just released a new book, The Joy of Saying No, which highlights her six-step plan to help readers find their “no” so they can create healthier boundaries and reconnect with their values and authentic self.

Apr 26, 2023

This episode is about healing past trauma without reliving it. Today’s caller, Suzy, knows there is trauma in her past but fears she must relive it to heal it. This conversation is helpful if you know there are things in your past you haven’t dealt with and don’t know where to start or have fears about addressing them.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode398]

 

When we experience trauma, we disassociate. We have to do it. It doesn’t make us weak. It doesn’t make us not vulnerable. And, it doesn’t make us not emotionally intelligent. It is what we do to survive. We need to have compassion for our disassociation because it is a coping strategy and it’s the only way we can survive trauma.

 

There comes a time when all the dissociation starts to add up, and it may make us feel dead inside. It is important that we do not go back and relive our trauma. We can use current-day triggers to ask — What is this triggering inside me? What is this reminding me of? Then, give ourselves the permission to feel and express all the feelings we didn’t get to express, state our needs, and make our requests. That is how we heal. That’s how we repair not by reliving the trauma.

 

Riding a current trigger or feeling back in time to see where we end up is one of the most useful ways to heal. It’s about giving ourselves a voice, giving ourselves the freedom to express ourselves, giving ourselves compassion, and nurturing ourselves to meet the needs that didn’t get met at that time. It’s not about reliving our experiences.

 

My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. It is October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have trouble accessing feelings from your past? You can talk about your past but there’s no emotion there.

  • Are you finding you do have emotion in your current day situations and you don’t quite know what to do with those triggers?

  • Were you emotionally abandoned by your parents? Maybe they were physically there but they didn’t really meet your emotional needs.

  • Do you have trouble accessing your inner child?

 

Suzy’s Question:

Suzy knows there are things in her past she has not dealt with but she doesn’t know where to start or how to address them.

 

Suzy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is seeing a therapist.

  • Her past is affecting her current relationships.

  • She feels abandoned by her husband.

  • She feels sad and lonely.

  • She fears reliving her past trauma.

  • As a child, her physical needs were met but not her emotional needs.

  • She has tried to share her feelings with her mother.

  • She feels hopeless.

  • She has never felt safe.

  • She is surprised by the wise words from her inner child.

  • She is capable of holding herself through her feelings.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Commit to continue to talk with her inner child.

  • Recognize her triggers as an opportunity to check in with her inner child.

  • Write or send herself a message starting with “I learned…, I feel…, what I am going to do moving forward is…”.

  • Get pictures of herself from different ages and see which she connects more deeply with.

  • Be gentle with herself as she maneuvers the healing process.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you are afraid to deal with your past, find a qualified practitioner.

  • Check in with your inner child whenever you feel triggered.

  • Come to the Signature Retreat in October.

  • Listen to the previously recorded 3-day Inner Child Workshop.

  • Be gentle and patient with yourself.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

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Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Apr 22, 2023
My longtime friend and the #1 resource I recommend when it comes to shifting your relationship with money, Kate Northrup, joins me today for an insightful and inspiring conversation about money.
 
As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital platform called The Origin Company that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. She’s committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out. Kate teaches data and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. She’s the author of Money: A Love Story and Do Less and the creator of the Do Less Planner System. Kate’s work has been featured by Oprah Daily, The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women’s HealthGlamourThe NY TimesHarvard Business Review, and more. She lives with her husband and their daughters in Miami.
 
You can access her FREE workshop "Plenty" which will help you Clear Your Money Blocks and Discover True Prosperity While Positively Impacting the World here: christinehassler.com/relaxedmoney
Apr 19, 2023

This episode is about a conflict between what our inner child wants and what our adult self needs. Today’s caller, Cindy, is in a relationship that she knows she needs to leave but she feels frozen. She is looking for guidance on how to move forward and take action. This can be applied to anything whether it is a relationship, a job, or a pattern. There are some great tidbits about why we don't shift. 

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode397]

 

When we know there is an action we need to take but we just can't seem to do it we can analyze it, process it, and have awareness about it but we may still feel frozen and unable to take action.

 

Freeze is a trauma response. It doesn't matter how much we know what we “should” do when we are in a trauma response it all gets overridden with survival patterns. Our inner child believes that we will heal a wound by being with someone similar to the person who prompted our trauma. 

 

One of the best ways that you can make a change in your life is to do something different to get out of your comfort zone but to do it with a lot of love.  

 

For empathetic or people with co-dependent threads, love bombing is like a drug. Whether someone's a diagnosed narcissist or they have narcissistic tendencies, love bombing is not about the person receiving the love bomb. It's about control. It's not love.  

 

So, choose yourself. Legitimately and authentically love yourself out of the situation. 

 

My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their own consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. It is October 13-15 in San Diego, CA. Early bird pricing ends soon so to sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you in a situation, relationship, friendship, or work situation where you know you need to make a change but you just can't seem to do it?

  • Do you know that some of your choices are coming from your inner child but can't seem to make different choices?

  • Do you often let fear stop you from doing something you need to do? 

  • Are you frustrated with yourself because you know better but you just keep wondering why you're not doing better?

 

Cindy’s Question:

Cindy is in a toxic marriage. She wants to end the relationship and get a divorce but she feels stuck and is not sure how to move forward.

Cindy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is finding it difficult to make a decision.

  • She struggles with shame and anger about not leaving.

  • She feels frozen.

  • She feels her partner and her father are similar.

  • Her father had an undiagnosed mental problem.

  • Her partner love bombed her at the beginning of her relationship.

  • She knows the relationship is not good for her.

  • She feels her partner destroyed her life.

  • She knows she has choices to make. 

  • She is a people pleaser.

  • She feels financially tied to the relationship.

  • Her partner plays on her core wounds.

  • She found it easier to get out of her first marriage.

  • She will keep herself away from men that come with red flags.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Talk to her inner child about what love truly is.

  • Assure her inner child that she will take care of her.

  • Attend Christine’s Signature Retreat.

  • Make a decision by May 1, 2023.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

 

Apr 15, 2023

My friend Brooke Nichol joins me to talk about how to build a business by being great at relationships with people. Brooke is a registered nurse and the owner of Saving Face in Austin, TX. Her specialty is relationships and keeping clients looking natural and the best version of themselves. She has organically grown to two locations, becoming the most sought out feel good destination in Austin. 

She has an extensive background and training from world renowned plastic surgeons and experts in the field of aesthetics. 

She was named top 100 injector in the US in 2018. She is a national trainer for Allergan and was named top 10 lip expert in 2020. Brooke serves on Advisory Boards for Allergan and Revance.  

Brooke is a true entrepreneur who wears many hats. She is mama to two beautiful children, Knox (5), Miller (8). She created Post Love Skincare and will soon launch Saving Face Academy. There is much growth for Saving Face in the future and Brooke is quite certain that goodness will bring about more goodness.

Apr 12, 2023

This episode is about healing anxiety, unworthiness, and shame. Today’s caller, Matt, recently came clean about some secrets about his past with his partner. He sabotaged his relationship but would like to date again, fully able to love and commit. Any listeners who felt instability in their childhood will benefit from this conversation.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode396]

 

Often, the people who are most free-spirited are the adults who as children wanted stability and didn’t have it. They’ve never known stability so they have to fall in love with freedom or fall in love with not having accountability.

 

If you were adopted, didn’t have time with your mother, or something happened, it doesn’t mean you are doomed for life. Give yourself the dignity of your process. Give yourself the compassion, TLC, mothering, and nurturing you didn’t receive. Having compassion for yourself and an understanding of why you are the way you are is important.

 

Adoption is a beautiful thing. There are so many people who have had much better lives because they’ve been adopted versus if they had stayed with their biological parents. And people who choose to give their child up for adoption because they know another family could give them a better life are angels in so many ways. Adoption can create a beautiful life for someone.

 

And if you do meditation, or a personal practice with the intention of fixing something, remember nothing heals in judgment. Go into modalities to feel, to heal, and to allow what is there, not try to get rid of it. Because nothing heals when we think we are broken.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Did you grow up feeling a sense of not belonging? Perhaps you were adopted, you were a different race or culture and you had that feeling of where do I fit?

  • Do you deal with a sense of anxiety?

  • Do you ever feel a sense of unworthiness?

  • Have you shown up in relationships, friendships, or any aspects of your life that you haven’t been proud of or that you have shame about?

  • Have you held secrets and told lies?

 

Matt’s Question:

Matt wants to start dating again but would like guidance on how to heal from his deep childhood wounding.

 

Matt’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He moved into a van to pursue a new life.

  • He felt isolated after three months.

  • He kept his trauma a secret.

  • He was sexually abused.

  • He was adopted by parents of a different race.

  • He used drugs and alcohol to cope with his trauma.

  • He is on a self-awareness journey.

  • He opened up to his partner and they broke up.

  • He cheated on his partner during their time together.

  • He joined a 12-step program.

  • He is struggling with rejection and failure.

  • He doesn’t truly trust himself.

  • He has always felt like an outcast in many ways.

  • He hasn’t been able to love and commit in past relationships.

  • He knows he is loved and wanted but often forgets.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Use meditation and breathwork to rebirth himself and remove judgmental thoughts.

  • Have compassion for his journey.

  • Know that he deserves to be loved and accepted.

  • Find a practitioner to help him love his inner child.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

 

Apr 8, 2023

If you want to truly understand the power of surrender and acceptance, don't miss this episode! KUTE BLACKSON is a beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events including A-Fest, YPO (Young Presidents’ Organization), and EO (Entrepreneurs’ Organization). He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a select group of one hundred of the world’s foremost authorities in the personal development industry. Winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden Award, Blackson is widely considered a next generation leader in the field of personal development. His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life’s purpose.

www.kuteblackson.com

Apr 5, 2023

This episode is about love and relationships. Today’s caller, Rocio, is in a pattern that is blocking her from calling in love. She would like guidance on how much of her dating is based on divine timing or if there are things she can do to date from a more empowered, emotionally available space.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode395]

 

A lot of times we think we are emotionally available because we want love and connection and we’ve done the work to make ourselves vulnerable. But, often, there is a hurt part of us that is a protective mechanism that makes us put a guard up so we are not completely emotionally available.

 

We are co-creators in our life. The spirit of the divine meets us at the point of action and intention. If we are not actively participating in getting what we desire, then we are not fully meeting the divine at the point of action and intention. If we have fear, it can block us. A lot of the time we spend avoiding love because we are afraid of rejection more than we are into opening ourselves up and putting ourselves out there.

 

When we have a parent that created an anxious attachment style, we draw in people who trigger that feeling inside of us because we are attempting to heal it. As children, we can’t advocate for ourselves as we can as adults.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you frustrated with dating and want to know how you can shift it?

  • Did you think everything was going well with the last person you dated and then it just didn’t work out? If you look back at it, did you miss some red flags?

  • Did you have a parent you craved more from and you can see how that wound impacts how you date?

  • Are you willing to be vulnerable, emotionally available, and honest about what works for you and what doesn’t?

 

Rocio’s Question:

Rocio would like guidance about how much she should trust timing and intuition to call in love.

 

Rocio’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has been meeting emotionally unavailable guys.

  • She fears rejection and being vulnerable.

  • Recently she thought she met someone and their energies aligned but there were inconsistencies.

  • She feels that she is putting herself out there and trusting her intuition.

  • There were inconsistencies in her relationship with her father.

  • She is not fully healed from an unmet need from her childhood.

  • She wants to call in a relationship.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • If triggered, call it out and stand up for herself right away.

  • Normalize being emotionally available and asking for what she wants.

  • Don’t let her fear of rejection stop her from speaking her truth.

  • Trust herself to express her needs.

  • Remember the guys she dates are not her father.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Apr 1, 2023

McCall McPherson is a Physician Assistant, a thyroid-patient gone expert after suffering for years due to mismanagement of her own thyroid disorder. She is the founder of Modern Thyroid Clinic, a functional medicine practice in Austin, Texas specializing in complex thyroid disorders and a believer that with proper care and treatment there is no reason to still have thyroid symptoms.

Learn more about her practice here: https://www.modernthyroidclinic.com/

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