In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Liv, who is experiencing a significant life transition and is unsure about her career and future. Liv has worked with children as a teacher, babysitter, and nanny, but now she wants to explore other professional paths. She struggles with guilt over leaving her current line of work and fears the uncertainty of pursuing new opportunities.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you feeling the urge to change, or has a change been forced upon you?
• How did your upbringing shape your views on failure and success?
• Do you rely on your job as a safety net?
• What is your relationship with uncertainty, and are you willing to change your beliefs to improve it?

Guest Insights:

• Liv is transitioning from a familiar career working with children to exploring new professional opportunities.
• She feels overwhelmed by the thought of leaving a job she loves but also wants to pursue personal growth.
• Liv struggles with balancing her desire to serve others with her need for self-fulfillment.
• She feels a deep need for control and certainty, which stems from her upbringing, where failure had severe consequences.
• Liv's primary challenge is to reprogram her beliefs and embrace uncertainty as part of her growth.

A-Ha Moments:

• Liv recognized that her current job should not be seen as a safety net but as a stepping stone to new opportunities.
• She identified the need to create a new relationship with uncertainty and develop an internal sense of safety.
• Liv realized that her belief that she cannot make money doing what she loves is a limiting belief that needs updating.

How to Get Over It:

• Liv should focus on updating her limiting beliefs, such as "I can't make money doing what I love" to "People are interested in what I have to offer, and it adds value to their lives."
• Embrace the belief that prioritizing her growth is not selfish but essential for serving others more effectively.
• Take one step at a time and recognize that safety and certainty come from within, not from external jobs or situations.
• Engage in pattern interrupt techniques to shift from fear-based decisions to ones based on authenticity and alignment.

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In this episode, Christine speaks with Samantha, who is struggling with emotional attachments to two past romantic relationships she ended. Despite being the one to end both relationships, Samantha finds herself constantly thinking about her ex-partners, missing the companionship, and fantasizing about what could have been. Christine helps Samantha uncover the deeper emotional issues rooted in her childhood, specifically her relationship with her father, which have influenced her current difficulties in moving on from these relationships.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you ruminating or obsessing over past relationships?
• Do you have unresolved issues from childhood with your parents?
• Are you still hoping one of your parents will change and give you what you always wanted?

Guest Insights

• Samantha admits that she is attached to past relationships to avoid feeling the pain of their endings. She acknowledges that fantasizing about what could have been is a way to distract herself from the hurt.
• She identifies with a fearful, avoidant attachment style, which she believes is linked to her "father wound." Samantha describes her father as absent and inconsistent, leading to a deep-seated fear of being alone and unlovable.
• Christine helps Samantha realize that she has been projecting her unmet childhood needs onto her romantic relationships. Samantha's fear of being alone stems from childhood experiences and a longing for her father's approval and love.

A-Ha Moments:

• Christine emphasizes that feeling the pain and moving through it is necessary to avoid repeating the same mistakes in future relationships. By not fully processing the pain, Samantha has been unable to move on.
• The "Christ year" concept at age 33 is significant for personal awakening and transformation. Samantha, being 33, is at a pivotal point where she can either continue her old patterns or embrace deep healing and change.
• Christine advises Samantha to stop seeing her loneliness as a problem to fix and instead see it as a necessary phase to fully experience and understand. By doing this, Samantha can break the cycle of seeking relationships to fill the void left by her father.

How to Get Over It:

• Feel the Loneliness: Samantha is encouraged to fully feel her loneliness without trying to escape it through distractions or new relationships. This process will help her develop resilience and self-reliance.
• Inner Child Healing: Christine suggests that Samantha engage in inner child work to address the unresolved issues with her father. This can involve journaling, therapy, and self-reflection to give her inner child the love and validation she missed.
• Seek Professional Help: Working with a therapist, especially one trained in somatic therapy, can help Samantha stay connected to her body and healthily process her emotions.
• Practical Exercises: Samantha should write down the truth about her past relationships, focusing on what didn't work to ground herself in reality and avoid idealizing her ex-partners. Additionally, she should ask herself how her thoughts make her feel and if she likes feeling that way, then consciously choose thoughts that lead to feelings of peace and freedom.

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If you are navigating any kind of change or are considering making a choice that feels authentic but you question how it will impact others, don't miss this episode.  Life Coach, author and speaker  Andrea Owen joins Christine to talk about identity shifts and making choices from our intuition, not our trauma.  Andrea is creating a global impact in women’s empowerment with her books being translated into 19 languages and available in 23 countries.

She helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, master their mindset, and magnify their courage. You can learn more at andreaowen.com.

In this insightful episode of "Over It and On with It," host Christine Hasler explores a deeply resonant topic—navigating and resolving anger towards one's mother. Our guest, Sarah, shares her struggles with frequent negative interactions with her mother, often marred by impatience and rudeness, despite her mother's consistent kindness. This conversation delves into the root causes of Sarah's feelings, the broader implications of parental relationships, and practical steps for healing and self-nurturing.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have unresolved anger or resentment towards a parent that affects your current interactions?
• How have your childhood experiences shaped your emotional responses to your parents today?
• Can you meet your emotional needs independently, or do you find yourself seeking fulfillment from your parents?

Guest Insights:

• Sarah recognizes her anger stems from past unmet needs during her childhood, exacerbated by her mother's inability to protect her from an abusive situation.
• The conversation reveals Sarah's desire for her mother to push back against her, reflecting her unresolved need for assertiveness and protection.

A-Ha Moments:

• Realizing the necessity of mourning the 'ideal' parent and accepting the limitations of what one's parents can provide.
• Understanding the importance of becoming the source of comfort and security, one sought from one's parents.

How to Get Over It:

• Embrace self-mothering by acknowledging and nurturing one's inner child.
• Implementing practical exercises like visualizations where Sarah comforts her younger self promotes healing.
• Establishing boundaries and new emotional frameworks that do not rely on parental validation.

Sponsor:

• Caraway Cookware: Non-toxic cookware that combines modern aesthetics with functionality. Listeners can get special discounts at carawayhome.com/overit.

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• Follow Christine on Instagram @ChristineHassler
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Some women are childfree by choice while others are childless due to circumstances, not choice. Lana Manikowski: Certified Life Coach, Keynote Speaker, Infertility Activist and Founder of “The Other's Day Brunch” is on a mission to show that infertile women can create the life of their dreams, even when it didn’t turn out as planned.

When a 7-year fertility journey ended without a child - and donor egg & adoption wasn’t for her - Lana yearned for a community who could understand the loneliness, self judgment and grief around navigating a childless future. When she couldn’t find one, she established in 2021 by launching  The “So Now What?” Podcast.   

In her coaching practice, Lana helps women navigate a life unexpected. Her 4-part coaching foundation helps guide women through the rediscovery of their purpose, meaning and joy, so they can build a future they truly love.

Learn more here: https://lanamanikowski.com/

In this episode, Christine engages in a coaching call with Shelley, who grapples with the ramifications of her fear of loss in her relationships. Through deep, reflective conversation, Christine helps Shelley uncover how her attempts to avoid loss may actually be precipitating the outcomes she fears.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you often find yourself sabotaging situations not intentionally but as a protective measure?
• Are you hyper-vigilant in your relationships, constantly preparing for the worst?
• Can you recognize how your fear of loss might be contributing to the problems you experience in relationships?

 Guest Insights:

• Shelley shares her struggles as a highly sensitive person who takes things personally and tends to anticipate negative outcomes, even in positive situations.
• She realizes her need for control stems from a deep-seated fear of unexpected negative outcomes, which she tries to preempt by focusing on the negative possibilities.

A-Ha Moments:

• Recognizing that preparing for the worst as a way of coping with fear can inadvertently bring about negativeoutcomes.
• Understanding that her protective behaviors, while meant to safeguard her from pain, are keeping her from experiencing deeper connections and joy in relationships.

How to Get Over It:

• Embrace vulnerability by acknowledging and expressing fears without letting them dictate behaviors.
• Work on shifting focus from potential loss to the potential for joy and fulfillment in relationships.
• Consider therapy or coaching to address underlying fears and learn healthier coping mechanisms.

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Jade Luna is back on the show! He has been my astrologer for nearly a decade and gives us insight on what's been happening in the world and what we can expect. Jade has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high level practice for over 18 years. He is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format.  Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia. Jade consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations world wide.

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hasler coaches Margaret, who struggles with moving forward in her career due to past health challenges and financial needs. Margaret has experienced a mix of burnout and inertia, pushing too hard (and then needing more) as she tries to navigate a balanced approach to re-entering the workforce.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel safe at home but anxious elsewhere?
• Have you experienced vulnerability followed by rejection, causing you to withdraw?
• Do you find yourself pushing hard until you burn out, only to struggle to start again?

Guest Insights:

• Margaret shares her ongoing battle with adrenal fatigue, anxiety, and the pressure of financial constraints.
• She expresses frustration with the cyclic nature of pushing herself too hard and then needing extensive recovery time.
• Her journey has included deep personal insights, yet she still faces the challenge of balancing work demands with personal health.

A-Ha Moments:

• She realizes that her pattern of pushing and withdrawing relates to more profound, unresolved issues around safety and self-worth.
• She acknowledges the need for a deeper level of healing that isn't about repeating past efforts but about going deeper into her own emotional and psychological landscape.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Embrace inner child work to address past traumas and current fears.
• Reevaluate her beliefs about work and productivity to find a sustainable way of engaging with her career.
• Seek environments and work that align more closely with her needs as a sensitive and empathic person.

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