Nicole J. Sachs, LCSW, is a speaker, writer, psychotherapist, retreat leader, and podcaster who has dedicated her work and her practice to the treatment of chronic pain and anxiety. She is the author of the books MIND YOUR BODY (Penguin/Random House 2/25) and The Meaning of Truth  (2016) and creator of the online courses “Freedom from Chronic Pain,” “Freedom From an Anxious Life,” and “The Sarno x Sachs Solution” practitioner training. Her brands, BreakAwake and The Cure for Chronic Pain, include a website, podcast, YouTube channel, membership community, and newsletter. Sachs is on faculty at the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies in New York. Learn more about Nicole's work at: YourBreakAwake.com

In this heartfelt and eye-opening coaching session, Christine Hassler supports Darletha as she bravely opens up about her struggles with intimacy, abandonment, and the fear of emotional vulnerability. Despite years of personal growth, therapy, and conscious dating efforts, Darletha finds herself in a recurring pattern of attracting men who aren’t aligned with her values—and pushing them away when things get too close.

Christine guides Darletha to explore the deeper emotional roots of her relationship dynamics, including childhood wounds, generational trauma, and the nervous system’s response to perceived threats in intimacy. Together, they highlight the difference between discernment and sabotage, and how inner child healing can shift these long-held patterns.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who feels frustrated with their dating experiences, struggles with emotional closeness, or feels misunderstood by their own protective patterns.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself attracting partners who aren’t quite right, then pushing them away?
• Are you hyper-aware of red flags to the point that it blocks connection?
• Can you tell the difference between discernment and emotional avoidance?
• Are you willing to explore how your nervous system and inner child might be influencing your relationship patterns?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Pushing people away can be a protective response, not a personal flaw.
• Childhood experiences of abandonment can lead to subconscious avoidance of intimacy.
• Discernment is not the same as fear—knowing the difference is key.
• Emotional safety begins within the self, not through control over others.
• True healing comes through compassion, vulnerability, and nervous system regulation.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Practice tuning into your body instead of staying in your head during dates or emotionally triggering moments.
• Acknowledge and soothe the inner child when feelings of rejection or abandonment arise.
• Let go of hyper-vigilance and perfectionism; focus instead on how you feel around a person, not just how they perform.
• Redefine vulnerability as strength, not weakness—it’s the gateway to authentic connection.
• Surround yourself with safe containers and communities (like Be the Queen) to reinforce new relational patterns.

Social Media + Resources:

•  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this insightful coaching session, Christine works with Karin, who has repeatedly found herself in cycles of earning and losing money, leading to a persistent struggle and anxiety around finances. Karin shares her experiences of attempting various methods—from manifesting practices to lifestyle adjustments—to improve her financial stability, yet continually finds herself back in scarcity.

Christine helps Karin uncover deep-seated generational patterns and subconscious beliefs around money that perpetuate this cycle. They discuss the nervous system’s role in financial stability and how chronic anxiety and fear can block abundance, even when consciously pursuing financial goals.

Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of how past familial beliefs, generational trauma, and nervous system dysregulation can influence their current relationship with money. Christine provides tangible insights into shifting from scarcity and struggle toward a more grounded, regulated, and abundant state.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you notice patterns of gaining and losing money repeatedly in your life?
• Are you constantly anxious about your financial situation, even if things momentarily improve?
• Can you see any generational patterns in your family around money and struggle?
• Would you like to shift from feeling overwhelmed and fearful about money to feeling calm and abundant?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Financial stability is closely tied to nervous system regulation.
• Generational patterns deeply impact our subconscious relationship with money.
• Fear and anxiety about money can create blocks to consistent financial abundance.
• It's essential to consciously decide to break cycles of financial struggle.
• Cultivating a regulated nervous system can significantly shift your relationship with money.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Identify and acknowledge your underlying fears and anxieties around money.
• Work actively to regulate your nervous system before engaging in financial tasks or conversations.
• Clearly define your financial desires without minimizing or compromising.
• Decide consciously to break generational patterns of financial struggle and scarcity.
• Practice daily habits that reinforce a regulated nervous system state, promoting calm and abundance.

Social Media + Resources:

•  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this inspiring and heartfelt coaching session, Christine works with Sarah, who is navigating life after the dissolution of a 20-year marriage. While Sarah has processed much of her grief and feels more grounded, she finds herself in an in-between space—caught between who she was in the relationship and the new version of herself that she is becoming.

Christine helps Sarah explore the deeper roots of her feelings of being held back, which stem from earlier life experiences where she felt disempowered. Through their conversation, they discuss the challenges of moving forward when parts of your old life still linger, and how to embrace your growth without slipping back into past patterns.

Listeners will learn how to acknowledge and honor their own progress, release the need to please others, and fully step into their new life. This episode encourages listeners to choose themselves, embrace their own story, and trust that moving forward—while uncomfortable at times—is worth it.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you feeling stuck between your past and your future?
• Do you tend to hold back because you fear upsetting others?
• Are you fully acknowledging your own progress, or are you still telling yourself an old story?
• Can you trust that your choices, even if they come with loss, are the best ones for your growth?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Holding back can feel familiar, but it doesn’t serve your growth.
• Grief can come in waves, even after you think you’ve moved on.
• Choosing yourself may mean letting go of old relationships, and that’s okay.
• You don’t have to wait for external validation to step into your new story.
• Acknowledging your growth is essential to moving forward.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Identify the ways you are holding back and consciously choose to move forward.
• Allow yourself to feel the grief of letting go without letting it hold you back.
• Practice trusting your choices and recognize your progress without minimizing it.
• Find your support network and let them remind you of your growth when self-doubt creeps in.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!