This episode is about never feeling good enough and always looking for what could go wrong. Today’s caller, Dana, didn’t have her needs met as a child and built a protective pattern to help her cope with her abandonment wound. We work through ways to calm her nervous system and feel safe when asking for what she needs.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode356]

Whether or not you grew up in a house where you felt like your needs were not met, all of us can relate to feeling not good enough, or the feeling that things in our lives are not good enough. Or, we can be either incredibly critical of ourselves or other people. We get ourselves into a vicious cycle.

When we have unmet needs, especially if we were raised in a way where we couldn’t have an outburst, had to be the good kid, or had to keep it together, it caused us to keep stuff inside. Those of us who had to withhold a lot as children can be mean to people internally but when it comes to saying something externally, we cower.

When we have awareness about one of our protective patterns, we don’t want to expect that we are immediately going to change it. That would just set us up for an Expectation Hangover and offer us more opportunities to beat ourselves up.

The purpose of personal development is not an overnight transformation. As evolving human beings, personal transformation is more about gaining awareness. We can spot the patterns we fall into and then work with ourselves while we are in the pattern.

True transformation comes when we find ourselves in the trigger, habit, or reaction and we become aware we are in it then, we choose differently.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have the feeling of never feeling good enough?
• Do you constantly look for what is wrong in a situation, or what could go wrong, and have a hard time finding peace and joy in what is?
• Did you grow up in a house where your needs were not met and you have a hard time communicating your needs now?
• Do you have a hard time being present and slowing down? Are you always thinking of what you have to do next?

Dana’s Question:

Dana would like to understand why no matter what she does or achieves it never feels enough.

Dana’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She is an achiever and is viewed as blessed.
• She finds fault with her husband in almost everything he does.
• She is always thinking about what comes next.
• She has an abandonment wound from her alcoholic father.
• Her mother was very young and always working.
• She over-achieves as a protective pattern.
• As a child, she always wanted to be accepted, heard, and understood.
• She looks for what is wrong so she can prepare for it.
• She has never had her needs met and is a bit angry because of it.
• She is afraid to trust the good things in her life.
• She is waiting for her partner to disappoint her.
• There is an intimacy-affection need that is not being met in her relationship.
• She needs a strong circle of friends around her.
• She doesn’t feel worthy of friendship and connectedness.
• She craves intimacy.
• She doesn’t know how to celebrate success.
• She holds a lot of tension and is often on edge.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Work with her protective pattern and know it is safe to trust the good in her life.
• Practice opening her heart and being less judgmental of herself.
• Focus on contentment and allow herself a moment to relax and feel relief in the moment.
• Breathe love into her heart and belly and tell herself she is safe.
• Bring conscious awareness to what she needs.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

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This episode is about opening our hearts by diving deep into our grief. Today’s caller, Sarah, lost her father unexpectedly. It was not the way she planned to go through the transition. She is moving through grief and feels resistance to grief. We talk about how she can receive more support and know that she doesn’t have to do it on her own.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode355]

The reality that our parents will die is something we all know. But, as it gets closer it is difficult to deal with. Whenever we have a looming feeling that something is close, we grasp onto anything that makes us feel like we have some sense of control.

We all have our coping strategies to bypass our feelings. Going into our feelings can make us feel out of control. How do we feel more in control? We control. This is a strategy that is rewarded because when we control things we are seen as productive, and efficient. But we don’t give ourselves the grace to fall apart and we need to fall apart sometimes. Often, it is in the falling apart that we crack our heart open to fully grieve and truly feel what we need to feel so we are not suppressing, which causes disease within our body and spirit.

The more we don’t allow ourselves to fall into the sea of grief, the more we are treading water, it seems like we are functioning; there is always a low-level suppression so, over time, it does impact us.

When we have a way to swim through the sea of grief and we have markers, it doesn’t feel as daunting.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Did something happen that didn’t go the way you planned and you’re having a hard time accepting it?
• Have you recently lost a parent or someone close to you or are you anticipating the loss of a parent soon?
• Do you attempt to control, plan, and strategize things when you feel helpless or that you don't know what to do?
• Are you afraid of grief because you think it is a pit you will fall into and never be able to get out?

Sarah’s Question:

Sarah is experiencing grief because her father passed somewhat unexpectedly but is not allowing herself to fully feel it.

Sarah’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She prepared for her father’s passing for years.
• She feels he was ripped away from her.
• Control is a coping strategy for her.
• Her father never wanted to be a burden.
• She didn’t want her father to suffer.
• She blames herself when she doesn’t get the results she wants.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Release her need for control.
• Honor the love she felt for her father by fully allowing herself to grieve.
• Tell people she needs time to grieve and be open to their support.
• When she drops into grief, play the song she and her father connected with.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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This episode is about how to get over heartbreak and open ourselves up to love again. Today’s caller, Gabriella, went through a recent breakup and wants guidance on how she can trust herself to not have her heart broken again. We never want to enter any situation hoping that what happened in the past doesn’t happen again. We discuss ways she can release her fears and open up to love to have a tender experience.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode354]

When we have a heartbreak, we tend to look at how we can prevent it in the future, but that is a limiting way to look at it. Instead, we can consider how we can leverage the heartbreak and heartache to open our hearts up even more.

After a breakup, ask yourself proactive questions such as:

• What did you learn from the relationship?
• Who do you want to be, in a relationship?
• What do you need in a relationship?
• What are the red flags you may have overlooked?
•  How did you show up in the relationship that you don't want to duplicate?
•  What values do you have?

We learn to trust ourselves by taking care of ourselves. If you feel you need an extra layer of support so you don’t fall into the same hole twice, allow yourself a misstep or two. If trusting yourself is hard, take steps to make it easier. Take baby steps.

If you are nervous about making the same mistake twice or opening your heart again, think about the action steps you need to put in place so that you feel safer. When it comes to love, it is risky sometimes. We cannot prevent getting hurt. Love is tender but the risk is worth it. The reward of opening your heart and finding an aligned partnership or friendship is worth any risk.

If you feel that something is missing in your life you may be focusing too much on what’s missing and not paying enough attention or gratitude to what you have.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you going through a breakup or maybe haven’t gotten over one from your past?
• Do you not trust yourself when it comes to making the right decision when it comes to your next relationship?
• Are you romanticizing your past relationship or are you a hopeless romantic?
• What do you believe the purpose of a romantic relationship is?

Gabriella’s Question:

Gabriella would like guidance on how to listen to her intuition, trust herself, and keep her heart open to a new relationship.

Gabriella’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She was in an intense relationship that ended recently.
• She believed her past partner was THE one.
• She is afraid of future heartbreak.
• She was blindsided and deeply hurt.
• She is in the beginning stages of her life.
• She became more self-aware and grew because of the breakup.
• She is a bit of a hopeless romantic.
• She had an inner child abandonment wound.
• She does inner child work and it helps.
• She is aware of her anxious attachment style.
• She doesn’t trust herself completely.
• She fears leaving people behind as she grows.
• She took some months away from dating.
• She loves being in love and partnership.
• She is in the middle of a career change.
• The ending of the relationship has been a catalyst for her breakthroughs.
• She understands that she is not in control and to go into new things with an open heart and open eyes.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Write a letter, something tangible, to herself about her red flags and share it with someone she trusts and ask them to hold her accountable.
• Make dating a discovery process about herself and the other person.
• Be grateful for the experience, do the healing, and move forward.

Takeaways:

• If you are going through a breakup or transition, consider the questions you are asking yourself and challenge yourself. Are they productive questions? Are they getting you anywhere?
• If you relate to being a hopeless romantic, take off your rose-colored glasses. Redefine what your definition of romance is.
• Remember, we may outgrow certain people. But it opens us up to meet people who are more aligned and more in the right vibration.
• Write out a plan of all the things you learned and the red flags you ignored.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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The heart of this coaching session is about self-compassion. Steve has been in his masculine and repressing his pain for much of his life. Another level of his pain is surfacing and that’s because his unconscious knows he is ready to deal with it. If you are at a point in your life where you feel like you have done a lot of personal growth work but pain is resurfacing in your life you do not want to miss this episode.

It takes a lot of energy to repress pain. And, that’s why it feels hard to move forward in our lives, it feels hard to get a career off the ground, or to connect in relationships because we are unconsciously suppressing a lot of pain.

Pain wants to come up and out. Our bodies don’t want to hold terrible memories or trauma inside. Our unconscious mind wants to let it go. So, it continues to make us feel uncomfortable until we deal with it. Not just mentally, but emotionally as well.

It may be difficult to go back and to feel the pain of your childhood but you are feeling it anyway, 24/7 — it is just repressed. It is healthier to go into it and feel it fully with self-compassion so it can come up and out.

When pain doesn’t have a way to express with compassion, it sits inside you dormant and continues to drive your choices and behaviors.

This episode is about understanding why we have uncertainty when making decisions. Today’s caller, Kathy, wants to know how to make a decision about something important to her. She is hesitating and feels that it has been a pattern throughout her life. We discuss what in her past may have caused her hesitancy and how to clear the blocks she has around making decisions.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode353]

When we feel we don't know what to do, or we don’t feel like making a decision at the moment, it actually is a decision. Oftentimes, we beat ourselves up when we feel we should decide something and we become frustrated that we can’t decide. Our pause, and the not knowing, is the window of time we need to get clarity.

Many of us agonize over making a decision about whether it will be right or wrong. We may feel panic when a certain subject comes up. And, when panic comes up, it is often because of that unspoken fear.

But, whenever we have trouble making decisions it usually means we don’t trust our inner wisdom. If we trusted ourselves fully, we wouldn’t agonize over the decision-making process. Everyone to some degree agonizes over decisions from time to time, especially big decisions.

It may be that we resist making a decision about marriage and/or children because our family of origin wounds are still raw. Our inner child may not be ready to get into that trauma again. We may think it is our present-day self that is feeling the resistance or lack of excitement, but it is our inner child that is feeling it.

If your head is making your decisions, you will make decisions from a place of fear. If you make decisions from the heart, it is the heart’s job to make decisions from love. The head keeps us safe. But when we play it too safe, we block love and we don’t get to see what is possible.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Is there a conversation, question, or thought that brings up panic or anxiety for you?
• Do you want something in your life but are scared of it?
• As a child, did you have a lot of opportunities to make decisions, or were your decisions made for you? Were you sheltered or protected?
• Do you trust yourself to make a choice and to deal with the consequences?

Kathy’s Question:

Kathy feels she may be making some decisions out of fear and would like guidance about how to trust in her decision-making process.

Kathy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• When conversations concerning marriage and children come about she is resisting talking about them.
•  She doesn’t trust her decision-making process.
• She was sheltered as a child. She didn’t have to work through big issues.
• She may have a rigid personality pattern.
• She has made decisions on a whim.
• She has a fierce inner critic.
• She is worried about making the wrong decision.
• Her parents respected and loved each other.
• She is clear that she wants a family.
• She and her partner come from different backgrounds.
• She worries about the compromises she may have to make in the future.
• She fears her partner is not being honest about where he wants to live.
• She may be withholding information from her partner about how she feels.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Listen to the Coaches Corner with Steven Kessler about the Five Personality Patterns.
• Turn her concerns into curiosity.
• Be okay with not knowing what to do.
• Speak with her partner about her true feelings.
• Don’t focus on what may go wrong when she makes a decision.
• Let her head and heart work together. Open your heart to possibilities.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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This episode is about being your authentic self and speaking your truth. I coach today’s caller, Judy, through her feelings of isolation, and empower her to have an honest conversation with her husband, and herself, about her needs.

Loneliness is an epidemic, especially in this day and age when so many of us live alone. We are not close to our family geographically, or we don’t have a soul family or community to be a part of. We need a healing connection. We need to feel part of something, part of a tribe. We need to feel connected to ourselves. What often perpetuates a feeling of loneliness is a disconnection to ourselves that comes from judging ourselves and being hard on ourselves. If you suffer from loneliness or a lack of self-esteem you are not alone. Let the fact that you are not alone motivate you to gain confidence and to connect with a community.

Speaking your truth is when you say what’s true for you, and you are able to communicate your needs. When are you not speaking your truth?

Many of us think people pleasing is a way to get love and find validation. We think if people see the real us, they may not like us. The more you show the real you, and the more authentic you are, your relationship with yourself will improve, your self-esteem will improve, and the intimacy and connection you have with other people will also improve.

It’s great to make other people happy but it’s more important to please ourselves first, by making self-honoring choices. People pleasing could be the reason you are feeling isolated. On some level, people pleasing is draining.

Drop the people pleasing, up your self-esteem by making self-honoring choices and get out there and find your tribe!

This episode is about embodying the personal development work we do. Today’s caller, Dominique, would like to have a relationship with her sister. There is a lot of family history and many things have happened between them. She wants a closer relationship but her sister is not doing the work. We discuss ways she can not take things personally and how she can be the change she wants to see.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode352]

When we are learning about ourselves and digging up old wounds, going back to the source is intense. Everything can feel amplified and we tend to be more sensitive to triggers, especially around our family. Personal development is not an overnight process and we need to look at triggers as opportunities for growth.

When we constantly want people to be different, we are constantly disappointed and triggered. We waste time and energy that we could be spending doing our own work. We create the possibility of people being different when we are different. When we are the change we want to see. It is the best advertisement for anyone to want a different relationship with us.

When we say yes to being any kind of facilitator, coach, or therapist any time we work with people’s emotions and their past, all of our stuff comes forward. We have to show up in a way that is embodied to help others. You can read all the books and read all the theories but until you do the work and embody it, how are you going to help people?

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you in a dynamic where you want a more vulnerable, deeper connection but the other person isn’t?
• Do you continue to be triggered in certain family situations or a relationship dynamic?
• Does someone make you feel rejected, judged, or dismissed?
• Are you doing the work and feel as if you had made progress but then, when with your family, you get triggered?

Dominique’s Question:

Dominique gets triggered by her sister. She would like to share a deeper connection with her but is not sure how to get there.

Dominique’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She is in grad school to become a therapist.
• She has faced her childhood trauma and the toxic dynamic within her family.
• She has been a people-pleaser.
• She had a psychological and spiritual awakening.
• She is the middle child in an immigrant family.
• Her younger sister patronizes her and disrespects her.
• She craves attention and love from her sister.
• She has more awareness than her sister.
• Her inner child gets defensive and she retreats inside herself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Accept that her sister’s soul may not be ready to do the deep work.
• Do not take her sister’s actions personally and honor her boundaries.
• Ask her sister for clarity about the things she says while maintaining a high vibration.
• Set an intention to find her soul sisters.
• Let her sister see her be loving and embodying the change she would like to see.
• Be gentle with herself during this process.
• Perform a ritual to ground herself before meeting with her family.
• Remove expectations of herself and others and accept where everyone is.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Guest on The Optimal Body Podcast: Calling in the One with Christine Hassler

This episode is about taking the pressure off of a decision. Today’s callers, Demi and James, have different religions but both value faith. They have both drawn in someone who challenges their rigidity in their belief systems. They would like guidance on whether or not their differences can be overcome. We work through that it is possible to understand another person’s belief system without making it wrong and that we can believe different things and still love each other.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode351]

The purpose of a relationship isn’t to get married at a certain time or to have a certain number of kids. Remember, everything in life is for our growth and evolution and to move us out of judgment and fear and more into love.

In relationships, we are not always going to agree. It’s important that we have differences in relationships because we don’t want to marry ourselves. But, our differences can’t be extreme. We can differ in personality and preferences. For example, we don't have to be compatible in terms of liking the same music but we do need to have the same values.

We can believe different things but we can still love each other. If you zoom out of all the guidelines and beliefs of all religions, what it all comes down to is love. Whatever God or religion you believe in, it is about love.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you ever been or are you in a situation where you may have to compromise about a value that is important to you?
• Have you ever broken up or not dated someone because they don’t subscribe to the same political ideology or they are not of the same religion? Or, have you written someone off because you consider those things a dealbreaker?
• Are you in a relationship where you had potential deal breakers but you’ve found your way through or are you in a relationship now where you wonder if something is a dealbreaker?

Demi and James’s Question:

Demi and James have different religious beliefs and would like to know if it will become an issue that cannot be overcome.

Demi and James’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• They are taking a break from their relationship.
• They are willing to do whatever it takes to overcome the differences.
• James questions his beliefs.
• James is finding it difficult to overcome the religious differences.
• They get stuck when it comes to how to raise their children.
• Demi believes being Jewish is not something you can walk away from.
• There are some aspects of Christianity that seem unhealthy to Demi.
• Demi admires James for his faith.
• James is hurt because he feels as if his Christian identity is the enemy.
• This is the best relationship Demi has ever been in.
• They have a hard time defining boundaries.
• They have mutual respect.
• Demi is afraid to wait for a year because of her age.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Look at the relationship through the eyes of love.
• Date for a year to figure out how they work as a couple without deciding whether or not the relationship is long-term.
• If they do work after a year, seek out a counselor who specializes in blended faiths.
• Talk about their values and dreams they can get excited about together.

Takeaway:

• If you are trying to make a big decision about something, where are you putting too much pressure on yourself? Maybe it’s not time to make a decision.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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This episode is about step-parenting from a healed place. Today’s caller, Kendra, has two step-children who are triggering her anxiety. She then feels guilt and shame about being angry. We work through her past issues that are coming up to be healed and how she can navigate the situation in a way that is beneficial to her and her step-children.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode350]

Anxiety is not bad. It is an alarm system that is alerting us to something we are not paying attention to. There is something we are repressing or that needs our awareness. The energy of anxiety is frenetic energy. It is when the nervous system is hyper-aroused due to a trauma, a past memory is being activated or, we are repressing such big emotions our nervous system is overloaded. When that happens we likely go into fight, flight, or freeze.

When we are in survival brain, all the personal development tools we've learned aren't accessible. So, don't beat yourself up if you have done a lot of work but still get triggered in the moment or your nervous system is dysregulated; you are in a part of your brain that doesn't have access to those tools.

And, just like our children choose us or we have soul contracts with certain people when we are a step-parent, those children choose us on some level as well. There are so many challenges that can come with blended families. In a divorce, there is often so much guilt that a parent may collapse some of their parental boundaries and let the kids get away with more than they would normally.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you notice yourself being triggered by your children or step-children and then feel guilt or shame about it?
• Do you have anxiety that has gotten worse due to a situation?
• When you were growing up, what were your tween and early teenage years like? Was it a difficult time? Do you think you have dealt with it?
• Do you often have anger or frustration at your spouse because of the way they are parenting?

Kendra’s Question:

Kendra would like guidance on how to have connection and a relationship with her step-children while paying attention to the anxiety that triggers her.

Kendra’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• Her partner has two children from a previous marriage.
• They have 50% custody of the children.
• The situation affects her life and has always caused her anxiety.
• She has struggled with anxiety in other areas of her life.
• Her step-children bring high energy into their house.
• Her adolescence was confusing for her.
• She was raised in a traditional Christian home.
• She was made to feel as a female she should dim her light.
• She realizes the universe brought male step-children into her life for a reason.
• She lost her example of unconditional love when she was starting puberty.
• During adolescence, she didn’t have the same freedoms that boys in her life had.
• She feels anger and resentment toward her step-children and then feels guilty for it.
• She is angry at her husband for letting his kids treat him like they do.
• She has trust issues around men.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Express her thoughts and feelings.
• Regulate her breath and bring herself into the present moment.
• Call her husband forward to enforce parental boundaries.
• Teach the kids to release their emotions and to have an anger burn.
• Know it is OK to get away from the house, or situation if she needs to.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Let’s talk about finding the “one”. You know the magical person who is your soulmate, your other half, the one who completes you. I say these things with a tinge of sarcasm but I don’t inject the sarcasm because I am jaded or don’t believe in love, it’s there because of the misunderstandings regarding soulmates and the pain many of us go through when it comes to romantic relationships. I believe there are lots of “ones” out there for us.

My definition of a soulmate is someone who helps our soul to grow. Sometimes it’s through a gut-wrenching break-up, sometimes it’s through dating someone who triggers us and sometimes it’s through someone who just comes in, loves us and holds up a beautiful mirror to  remind us of who we truly are.  Soulmates can be romantic partners, friends, colleagues and even someone you share a plane ride with once and never see again.   So, why are many romantic relationships so painful?

1. The relationships are mirrors which can trigger unresolved issues from our childhood.

2. We often look to a romantic partner to fill our needs that our parents did not meet. This doesn’t attract the best people to us.

3. We may want a relationship so badly to fill our voids or make us feel less alone that we move into a fantasy-based relationship.  

Today’s call with Michael is a beautiful example of masculine vulnerability and strength. He finds himself dating from a place of pain rather than from love. He wants to move past the feeling that he needs to prove himself to women. Michael’s mother wasn’t really there for him and so he ends up with women who don’t treat him well and who are not really there for him. This is the problem with trying to fill a void left by a parent through dating. We long so badly for the love of a parent that we attract someone just like them, which re-opens our unhealed wounds. We have to bring love and forgiveness to those places inside and fill ourselves with our own loving acceptance. It’s time to let go of our fears about rejection, abandonment and getting hurt.  I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners.

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Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you longing for a soulmate so much that it is causing you to suffer? Do you keep dating the same person but they have a different face? Could issues from your childhood influence who and how you are dating? Are you in a fantasy based relationship? Could it be time to remove your rose-colored glasses?  

Michael's Question: Michael wants to know how to move past the pain of a previous relationship and how to know when the person he is dating is the right one.  

Michael's Key Insights and Aha’s: He is trying to heal a core wound from his childhood through a romantic relationship He is putting a lot of pressure on the women he dates He realizes he keeps running back to fix past relationships He carries fear and his unanswered questions around with him He feels unworthy and feels he needs to prove himself to women His strength is in his vulnerability, his honesty and his courage  

How to get over it and on with it: He should forgive the misunderstanding that he is unlovable or anything in his past was his fault He needs to re-parent his younger self in a way he always longed for  He needs to take a dating hiatus 

Assignments and Takeaways: Is there a little boy or girl inside of you that has some misunderstandings which really need to be healed? Could it be time to end or transform your fantasy-based or issue-based relationship? Perhaps it’s time for a dating hiatus and taking some time to date yourself.    Fall back in love with yourself and realize just how lovable you are.   

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This emotional episode is a great example of getting stuck in our story. Today’s caller, Aurora, has had to overcome an incredible past. She has been through many challenges, and feels enough is enough. She wants her life to change. But as you will hear, she is still committed to the story. We discuss ways she can take her power back and shift out of victim.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode349]

Our minds have a way of not allowing new information or tools in so we can integrate them. There is resistance to change because we all have a comfort zone with our suffering. As much as we think we want to change, do we truly want to? Holding on to trauma comforts us because it is familiar.

And, if we try to tackle all of our trauma at once or solve everything that ails us at once, it will feel overwhelming. When we sit up in an open body position it tells our subconscious mind and our nervous system we are safe. Anytime we are hunched over, crossed-legged, or protecting our heart, solar plexus, or root chakra, it communicates to our subconscious mind that we may not be safe. Sitting up straight is how we step into our power. Because when we say step into our power, we are really saying step into our truth.

Taking responsibility is huge when it comes to healing. Responsibility is not the same as blaming ourselves. Take responsibility for things you wish you would have done differently without blaming yourself.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you had a toxic, or unhealthy relationship with your past that you have trouble breaking free from?
• Do you get stuck in the same story over and over again?
• Do you feel not enough?
• Do you have trouble stepping into your power?

Aurora’s Question:

Aurora would like guidance on how to free herself from feeling not enough, to be able to express herself freely, and to get her power back.

Aurora’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She told her ex-husband she needed some space.
• She got violent with her ex even though she didn’t want to.
• She doesn’t condone violence.
• Her ex believes that once she got what she wanted from the relationship she ended it.
• She has been judged and traumatized by her older sister.
• A teacher body-shamed her and created toxic competitiveness.
• Her parents exhibit narcissistic attributes.
• She goes through a cycle of making progress and then starting over.
• She recently went through an intensive therapy treatment.
• She feels more at peace.
• She is proud of herself for doing the generational trauma healing work.
• She has suppressed herself for a long time.
• She has a habit of being emotionally collapsed.
• She is not so great at meeting her own needs.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Sit in an open body position to let her subconscious mind know she is safe.
• Think about what her needs are and then give that thing to herself.
• Love and accept where she is, have compassion for herself, and work with what she has.
• Take her power back by forgiving herself for buying into any misunderstandings.
• Listen to this podcast, take responsibility, move out of victim, and believe she is able to shift out of this.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about moving into acceptance and forgiveness. Today’s caller, Jen, is having a hard time getting to forgiveness because she doesn't believe her parents did the best they could. Her grudge may be costing her the very thing she longs for the most.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode94]

One of the ways we get to forgiveness is knowing people did the best they could, even if we believe they could have done better. Knowing they did the best they could with the tools they had is one of the ways we can get to forgiveness. It can be difficult, especially when it was a parent or a loved one.

Holding on to anger, blame, and resentment is toxic. It will eat you up inside and keep you from what you want. Continuing to use the past as a scapegoat for why you don’t have want you want gives your past power. Until you move into acceptance and forgiveness, your past will infiltrate every aspect of your present and your future.

Look at the places where you are not letting love into your life. Are you focusing too much on the people that didn’t love you in the way you wanted, and missing out on all the love around you?

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Is there someone you have not been able to forgive because you truly feel what they did is unforgivable?

● Is there someone you are blaming for your not having what you want in your life?

● Do you tend to imagine worst-case scenarios and feel that things just don’t go your way in life?

● Did you grow up around addicts or as the child of addicts?

Jen’s Question:

Jen would like to forgive her mother and accept that her parents did the best they could.

Jen’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She didn’t get the love and attention she wanted as a child.

● She wants closure with her mother who recently passed.

● She feels broken.

● She’s created the healthy family she always wanted.

● She is keeping herself from fully appreciating and accepting the love of her current family.

● She is using her past as a scapegoat.

● As a child, she had low expectations so she wouldn’t be disappointed.

● It wasn’t her job to save her parents.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She shouldn’t identify with the victim role, and understand she received what she needed.

● She should stop mimicking her mother’s behaviors.

● She should do projection work and let the love that exists in her current life in.

● She should have appreciation and have life-affirming and positive thoughts.

Takeaways:

● If there is someone you want to hear something from, some kind of forgiveness, write a letter to you from them. Write down all the things you wanted to hear from them and read it to yourself.

● Do projection work. Look at judgments you have towards others and see how you may be doing it in your own life, externally or internally.

● Be honest about the cost of holding onto a grudge and write down what it is keeping you from. Write down all the blessings you have in life and how you may be blinded to them because of the grudge.

● Have positive expectations and use your imagination to consider the best-case scenario.

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Coaches Corner with Gabby Bernstein — Turn Your Pain Into Purpose

Inner Circle Membership Community 

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Jill@ChristineHassler.com

This emotional episode is about getting to the root of anger to be able to release it. Today’s caller, Rose, has a deep-seated rage she directs toward her sister. But as we work through in the coaching call, she chose her sister, who poses less of a threat, to release her rage upon instead of the real person she is enraged with, her father.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode348]

Whenever our reaction doesn’t match with the circumstance, it means there is something else going on. Oftentimes, we have rage or anger just by being a human being on the planet, and we direct it at certain people or we become obsessive about certain people.

The thing about anger is that it needs an exit route. It is a huge energetic wave and it needs a way to get out. Anger can leak out as irritability, addiction, aggression at other people or just being angry at ourselves. We spend so much energy keeping anger inside that we can get depressed or we might just direct it at someone who is an easy scapegoat but isn’t actually the person we are enraged about.

Go to ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease to get my Anger Release Program.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have a sibling or family member you are mad at and you can’t shake it no matter how much work you do?
• Do you struggle with jealousy, envy, or wish you could have had someone else’s life?
• Did you have a parent you were loyal to but as an adult, you question why you were so loyal?
• Do you have a hard time expressing your rage?

Rose’s Question:

Rose struggles with her anger toward her sister and would like guidance on how to shift her feelings.

Rose’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She formed an unhealthy alliance against her younger sister with her father.
• She loves her sister but feels deep rage toward her.
• She has done a lot of work around the issue.
• She has always felt mad at her sister and has taken her frustrations out on her.
• She didn’t feel seen or appreciated as a child.
• She feels her sister takes her oxygen when they are in the same room.
• She feels her mom blames her for how she treats her sister.
• Her father was explosive.
• She swallows her rage.
• She gets enraged by her sister’s bigness and how strong she is.
• Her anger makes her feel darkly powerful, righteous, and justified.
• She feels it is not OK to be herself.
• She is really mad at her father for making her feel small as a child.
• Her father was fragile and was inappropriate toward her.
• Her father made her feel ashamed for growing into her womanhood.
• Her father took his life.
• She realizes she transferred her anger toward her dad onto her sister.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Get the rage and anger out through an Anger Release exercise or by writing F-U letters she doesn’t send.
• Fully accept herself for who she is.
• Not be afraid of her rage because it is where her passion lives.
• Stay focused on who she is mad at to get to grief and then forgiveness.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Inner Child

This episode is about patience and becoming a loving partner to ourselves so we are ready to call in our soul match. Today’s caller, Asma, is ready to call in a partner but may have some work to do around building faith and trust based on her inner child’s wounding. Even if you are not looking for your person, you will get value from the conversations about patience, trust, and relationships.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode347]

It’s easy to believe in the magic of the universe when everything is going our way. It’s harder when we are scared or things aren’t going along with our plan. So many of our core trust issues come from our childhood. They come from the survival skills we adopted. That is where trust wounds begin.

Surrender invites the masculine in because it is fiercely brave. It is a deep level of trust in our intuition, a higher power, and in life because we relinquish control. It creates receptivity and an entry point for the masculine. Most healthy masculine men don’t like being told what to do.

Those of us who are more on the spectrum of controlling have less faith and trust. Part of the way we deal with our spiritual crisis and our fear of trust and surrender is to over plan, over control, and be overly self-sufficient.

When it comes to relationships we don’t have as much control because another person is involved. When it comes to love, the other person is on their own timeline, even when we may feel ready. Our soul-match people are harder to find because we are growing with them, not growing from them. Soul match people share our visions and values and match more where we want to go instead of where we have been. It requires a person who has done their work.

To all the single women who want to call in their person, I encourage you to take the Be the Queen course. Be empowered and intentional about calling in the relationship you desire. Experience a complete transformation. Get $200 off at ChristineHassler.com/bethequeen with the promo code “OVERIT”.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel like you have done the work but wondering where your prize is?
• Are you divorced or broken up and back in the dating scene and find yourself being impatient?
• Do you have a pattern of dating emotionally unavailable people or people who are not ready for a relationship?
• Are you patient with yourself or do you have a harsh inner critic?

Asma’s Question:

Asma has wounding from a previous relationship but has done the work. She feels ready to receive her new partner but grows impatient with the lack of candidates.

Asma’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She married young and is now divorced.
• She has done a lot of personal development work.
• She has created the home life she wants.
• She is ready to attract a partner with whom she feels a deep alignment.
• She is impatient and hard on herself.
• She wants a masculine man.
• She would like to develop trust.
• She didn’t feel seen or heard by her father but she has abandonment wounding.
• Some men she dates are not ready to be in a relationship.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Work on being patient.
• Look at how she can become a good partner and lover to herself.
• Be upfront at the beginning of a relationship about where she is and where she wants to go.
• Be clear about what she wants and where she wants to go.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

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Nicole Sachs, LCSW is a speaker, writer, podcaster and psychotherapist who has dedicated her work and her practice to the treatment of chronic pain, symptoms, syndromes and conditions. She is the author of the book The Meaning of Truth, and the online course FREEDOM FROM CHRONIC PAIN. Her brand, The Cure for Chronic Pain, includes a Website, Podcast and YouTube Channel. Her personal experience as well as work with thousands of people around the world have shaped and evolved Nicole’s theories, which serve to teach those suffering how to heal themselves completely with no medication or surgery.

This episode is breaking familiar generational patterns. Today’s caller, Angel, grew up in a chaotic home. As an adult, he seeks out chaos and uses numbing strategies when he feels triggered. We work through ways he can recognize the triggers and how he can make them an opportunity for healing without self-blame or shame.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode346]

Unraveling and healing from trauma in our childhoods take time. It is hard to deal with our past when we distract ourselves by things happening in the present or with numbing strategies.

Because we are often drawn to what is familiar, not what is healthy, that gets a lot of us stuck. We keep going back to things we know are not healthy, then we get stuck in the cycle of self-blame and shame without being compassionate with ourselves.

A trigger is a gateway to healing, but if we go to a distraction or a quick fix we miss the opportunity for deeper healing. It’s about making the decision at the time of the trigger to go inside and that is when we do the work.

A disorganized attachment style is formed when we have had a chaotic childhood. A disorganized attachment style is like a “come here, now go away” pattern. It is the wanting of attention and affection, wanting to be seen but also wanting to withdraw. When real intimacy and real love get too close, the person with a disorganized attachment style wants to push it away.

If you want to learn more about attachment styles you can download a great group coaching call for only $20 at ChristineHassler.com/group-coaching-replays.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have trouble being alone?
• Did you grow up in a chaotic environment where you didn’t feel seen and safe? Did you witness violence?
• Do you find yourself in a cycle of going into dysfunctional relationships or abusing a substance and you feel shame about it?
• Do you have a lot of awareness but feel you are not changing?

Angel’s Question:

Angel seeks chaos and conflict and would like guidance on how to feel a sense of safety and be in his body.

Angel’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• His childhood home was chaotic.
• He is social around other people.
• He finds it difficult to be alone with his thoughts.
• He feels empty.
• He seeks out chaos in his life.
• He uses substances in excess.
• His cycle of shame repeats.
• He shut down as a child to cope with the domestic violence he witnessed.
• He feels not-enough and has a disorganized attachment style.
• He has never felt loved or safe.
• He is always looking to find what he didn’t get as a child.
• He feels he has awareness.
• He feels comforted when other people are around.
• His intuition tells him he should wait to enter a romantic relationship.
• He was in a trauma-bond relationship that blew up.
• He finds it hard to forget the trauma he experienced as a child.
• He still lives with his mom, and he feels anger toward her when she tries to parent him.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Have compassion for himself.
• Acknowledge himself and tell himself he is not alone.
• Have patience with his process and acknowledge his progress.
• Resist the urge to go to the quick fix when he feels triggered.
• Leverage triggers when they come up.
• Write a letter to his mother he does not intend to give to her.
• Make the intention to make relationships with male mentors or build up more healthy male relationships.

Takeaway:

• Use the moments when you feel triggered to reach for a distraction or a numbing strategy, to instead leverage the triggering opportunity to use your healing tools.
• Find healthy male groups to be a part of such as Mpowered Brotherhood on Instagram.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about overcoming the pain our inner bullies create. Today’s caller, Ravi, was bullied as a child, and uses his inner critic as a protective measure. He became isolated and disconnected from his intuition, and he cut off listening to his heart because he didn’t want to feel.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode82]

When we cut off our feelings we not only cut off the pain, but we cut off the love and inspiration as well. What happened in the past does not have to create your future. You can get over it and on with it, but you must be consciously committed to letting it go.

To transform, you need love, wisdom, and compassion from your heart, and alchemy. I guided Ravi through a heart meditation, like this one from a Coaches Corner episode. Ravi experienced clarity after the meditation. His heart said it wanted expression through art.

The next step was to transform his trauma and pain, but Ravi said he didn’t want to go there. Remember, the fear of feeling pain is what keeps you from transforming it. It is possible to alchemize passion, or suffering, into something you love. It takes a lot of energy to suppress pain. If you have had trauma, it can be scary to go there on your own. You should find someone to work with, someone who can go there with you to hold a space for you.

The more you listen to your heart, the more it speaks to you!

Join me this September at my retreat in Bali. Visiting a magical place with like-minded people will transform your mind, body, and spirit. It’s a unique experience where you can experience significant healing that will last the rest of your life. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you trying to figure out your issues or challenges in your head?

● Were you bullied, teased or criticized as a child or a teenager, and it still haunts you today?

● Do you have a past trauma you are terrified to address and feel?

● Would you say you live more in your head than in your heart?

Ravi's Question:

Ravi wants to know how to find purpose in his life.

Ravi's Key Insights and Ahas:

● He disconnected from his conscious mind to cope with the trauma.

● He internalizes the external bullying.

● He’s scared of failure and being made fun of.

● He has managed his pain, but has not yet transformed it.

● He is in an avoidance pattern and protective mode.

● He’s been in the midst of self-loathing.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● He should tap into the passion he experienced to create art.

● He could help other people who have been bullied.

● He needs to listen to his heart.

● He needs to start alchemizing his pain.

● He should practice release writing when he feels sadness.

Assignments:

● Read The Lesson Quest and Your Life’s Purpose in Chapter 9, The Spiritual Level in Expectation Hangover.

● Be honest about what you are attempting to figure out, and alchemize it.

● Listen to my Coaches Corner with Jim Kwik.

● Volunteer and be of service to someone else to help you with your inner critic.

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Over It and On With It Listener Survey

Expectation Hangover

Inner Circle Membership Community

Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler

@christinhassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information

Bali Retreat Enrollment Page

This episode is about communicating with someone who has more of a controlling and rigid personality structure. Today’s caller, Danielle, would like to reduce the friction between her and her husband when it comes to their parenting priorities. I coach Danielle on how to work with her husband to be a little less rigid and less controlling when it comes to her sons and when it comes to herself. And, how to get her sons to express themselves emotionally.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode345]

When we are butting heads with someone, trying to get them to see our side of something will never work. Having curiosity and compassion for the other person’s model of the world and the way they see things is the way forward.

A lot of men, boys, and those who identify as masculine have been conditioned to suppress, to be less emotional, and that their value is the security and legacy they can provide or the money they can provide. Oftentimes emotional connection, the ability to be in their heart, the ability to trust, or to have more of a connection with their feminine side is difficult because there has been so much attention on the other.

Remember, when someone says that something made them stronger it generally doesn’t mean they now have the courage to be vulnerable and to seek help, to think deep into their wounds, to dig into their generational patterns to transform their experience.

When children are not raised with the ability to have autonomy, sovereignty, and speak up for themselves, it can go one of two ways. Either they become overly compliant and get pushed around or they become overly aggressive because they are trying to get their power back.

A lot of us can relate to us having differences in the way we see the world and what we think is right. Anytime we can heal a division in our home or within our families, it has a ripple effect elsewhere. So, at a time when it seems there is a lot of division, finger-pointing, and judgment in the world, shifting this in the home helps to collectively shift it.

Are you in a relationship right now and you would like the relationship to be better? Or, your relationship is at a point where it is falling apart and you want to save it? Would you like to know what makes a relationship work? You can at any time by going to christinehassler.com/relationshipcourse. Listeners of this podcast get $50 off with promo code ‘OVERIT’. Learn how to bring the zest back into your relationship.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find there is someone in your life who is controlling and you wish they would be more intuitive and more emotionally available?
• Do you find it is hard to set boundaries with someone who is structured and set in their ways?
• Is it hard for you to have compassion for your partner or children because you are frustrated by what they are doing?
• Are you willing to see the little child inside of the adults you love and have compassion for the way they act the way they do?

Danielle’s Question:

Danielle would like to know how she can enforce boundaries with her children while respecting her husband’s role in the family.

Danielle’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She set boundaries to keep burnout at bay.
• She and her husband lead a busy lifestyle.
• She and her husband are both active military.
• Her husband is high-energy and she is more passive.
• She values her parenting skills.
• She wants her boys to grow up with sovereignty.
• Her boys are diagnosed with ADHD/ADD.
• Her husband may have wounds around his relationship with his father.
• She is triggered by her husband’s actions.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Carve some time out with her husband to ask him what he wished would have been different between him and his father.
• Realize her husband has a father wound and she may be dealing with a tender little boy inside.
• Acknowledge her husband when he does emotional work.
• Approach her husband in a way that doesn’t make him feel judged.
• Lean into her vulnerability and speak her needs in an empowered way.
• Create a fun way to empower her boys to express themselves.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

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Do you know the value of positive thinking but just can’t seem to shift out of negative thinking? This coaching session is about expectations and shifting negative patterns. During this call, we examine Danielle’s past to understand what formed her current expectations and get to the root of why she is sabotaging herself in relationships.