This is a call about overcoming codependent and anxious patterns. Today’s caller, Carson, is looking outside of himself for his worth. He would like to know how he can begin to heal and learn to trust himself. This call is a classic case of looking for what we didn't get as a child in other people, as an adult.
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Anything that made you feel unsafe, small, or unimportant as a child or adolescent can create codependent behaviors. The need to attach to someone else develops as a way to counteract the feelings of being small or unimportant. You try to grab on to someone to feel needed or to feel important in their eyes. Codependence can work in two ways. You could be the person that another person needs such as becoming a caretaker or rescuer. Or, you can be super needy.
The behavior of grasping onto others and being needy is not sustainable.
No one outside of us can make these wounds go away. We have to fill the voids ourselves. You have to learn to trust yourself so you can stop grabbing or clinging onto other people or allowing others to cling onto you to feel worthy. If you have any codependent patterns running, you must learn to get your needs met inside yourself.
If you resonate with having similar feelings know that you can heal. Nothing is insurmountable.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Carson’s Question:
Carson would like guidance on how to release his fear of abandonment and begin to trust again.
Carson’s Key Insights and Ahas:
How to Get Over It and On With It:
Takeaways:
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