This episode is about disordered eating and yo-yo dieting. Today’s caller, Alyssa, was diagnosed with an eating disorder when she was younger. She has been to therapy to help her understand abuse she endured as a child, but has not yet overcome the effect it had on her. For Alyssa to experience true healing and transformation she needs to make shifts on emotional, mental, behavioral and spiritual levels.
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Many people have the experience of making progress only to see old patterns re-emerge. It can be discouraging and frustrating it can be to feel like you are backtracking, but you can get off the rollercoaster and experience growth without major setbacks.
During my coaching session with Alyssa, I held a space of compassion for Alyssa without reinforcing her victim story. There were people who would pity her and people she could blame, but pity and blame are not going to stop her from binge eating. In fact, it would trigger the behavior. We can take our power back by making choices that create change. So, I created steps to help her feel empowered.
A lot of people who were abused hold on to weight as a protective measure. because it’s our body’s response to the message from the mind of ‘I want to hide. I want to be invisible.’ If this resonates with you, listen to the podcast I did with Drew Manning, “Transforming Your Inner Critic into an Inner Coach”.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
● Do you struggle with gaining and losing weight? Perhaps so much so that you may have an eating disorder.
● Have you processed your issues and made progress in therapy regarding your past, but the old habits keep coming back?
● Do you sabotage your health and well-being? Is it hard for you to be disciplined and stick to a plan?
● Do you feel safe to be seen?
Alyssa’s Question:
Alyssa would like to know how to move past her eating disorder for good.
Alyssa’s Key Insights and Ahas:
● She has always felt not good enough.
● She’s forgiven people from her past.
● She didn’t feel safe as a child.
● She feels she should be beyond her issue.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
● She shouldn’t identify with herself as a victim.
● She needs a behavioral shift to make her feel safe in her body.
● She needs to send love to a picture of her younger self.
● She needs to reframe the belief that she can trust people.
● She should ask God to help to make her feel safe and protected.
Action Steps:
● If you have a re-emerging pattern like binge eating, what’s the payoff? It’s serving a purpose. Do some journaling as to what purpose it serves.
● If weight is something you struggle with move, into acceptance. Ask the weight what it needs. When you get the answer, create your own holistic treatment plan. Pick one thing on the behavioral, emotional, mental, and spiritual level you can commit to.
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