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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Nov 27, 2021
We cover so much ground in this episode about diet, metabolism, hormones and overall health.

Dr. Jade Teta is an integrative physician, author and expert in the realm of natural health, fitness, metabolism and self-development. He spent the last 25 years immersed in the study of strength and conditioning, hormonal metabolism and the psychology of change and success. He has written five books on metabolism, and coauthored the exercise and sports nutrition chapters, of The Textbook Of Natural Medicine.

Dr. Teta runs both, Jade Teta,LLC and Next Level Human Inc., that combine his medical and fitness knowledge with his expertise in self-development and mindset change.  He writes and lectures extensively on the subjects of lifestyle medicine, natural health, and mindset change to both healthcare professionals and the public. His latest book is a daily meditation on making life changes and based on his 6 Powers.  Human 365 is available on Amazon.

Nov 24, 2021

This episode is about breaking a pattern. Today’s caller, Aimee, wants to end a relationship but keeps going back for more. She has a lot of awareness about why it isn’t healthy but she hasn’t taken the action to end it for good. We work through how she can find clarity and commit to her truth.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode324]

 

When we don’t feel integrated, when all of our parts are not working in harmony, or we have parts of ourselves we have abandoned, we can feel fragmented, off-balance, and lost. If you ever feel lost, ask yourself — what parts of me have I lost versus why am I lost or why do I feel lost? — then, think about what parts of yourself you need to bring back in and integrate.

 

We can get caught in a bind and judgmental of ourselves when our adult brain, our conscious mind is like — this is a terrible situation. Why am I here? We can’t seem to get out of it or we get out of the situation and we go back for more. It is because the subconscious is looking for an unmet need.

 

Healing comes when we give ourselves what we need, take action, and keep our promises to ourselves. Remember, feeling relief is an indicator that we are on our way to the truth.

 

Do you want to call in a healthy relationship and break patterns when it comes to dating and men? To start your journey and create an epic relationship, on November 30th, Stefanos and I will facilitate our last Be the Queen program for a while. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen to apply.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there a situation you are in, a behavior you repeat, or a relationship you know needs to end but you just can’t seem to get out of it?
  • Do you find yourself calling something love or calling a relationship healthy or calling a situation okay but it isn’t? It is just familiar.
  • Are you confusing true love and safety with familiarity and certainty?
  • Are you abandoning your inner child by continuing to put yourself in situations that aren’t for your highest good?

 

Aimee’s Question:

Aimee doesn’t know how to end her relationship of 11 years. She keeps going back and putting her needs aside.

 

Aimee’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • Her relationship is not loving, it is familiar.
  • Her relationship doesn’t meet her needs.
  • She feels disconnected and lost.
  • As a child, she felt she had to earn her mother’s love.
  • She has chronic trauma and doesn’t feel safe.
  • She is ready to break her pattern of going back but feels guilty.
  • She knows she will never be loved by her mother the way she wants.
  • She doesn’t want to be in this relationship.
  • She cannot tend to her inner child if she goes back to the unhealthy relationship.
  • She finds it hard to get out of her head.
  • She is scared to show her true self.
  • It is time for her to receive.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Let her inner child grieve the pain for the love she didn’t get from her mother.
  • Connect and commit to her inner child.
  • Leave the relationship and get professional support.
  • Stay committed and strong when she feels guilty.
  • Write a letter or record the promises she is making to herself.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you have a pattern you can’t seem to quit, ask yourself if it is what you think it is.
  • If you need help connecting to your inner child, listen to the Inner Child Workshop at ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

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Nov 20, 2021
Nate Klemp joins me to talk about "The 80/80 Marriage," a new model for balancing career, family, and love. The 80/80 Marriage pushes couples beyond the limited idea of “fairness” toward a new model grounded on radical generosity and shared success, one that calls for each partner to contribute 80 percent to build the strongest possible relationship. Drawing from more than one hundred interviews with couples from all walks of life, stories from business and pop culture, scientific studies, and ancient philosophical insights, husband-and-wife team Nate and Kaley Klemp pinpoint exactly what’s not working in modern marriage. Their 80/80 model of marriage provides practical, powerful solutions to transform your relationship and open up space for greater love and connection.
 
Learn more here: https://www.8080marriage.com/
Nov 17, 2021

This episode is about opening ourselves up to opportunity by courageously embracing change. Today’s caller, Marilyn, just turned 50 and feels lost in life and with no clear direction for her future. She has been playing it safe and fears making changes in her life. We discuss how she can listen to her intuition to be open to the opportunities that may come from shaking up her life.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode323]

 

Many of us have put up a wall to protect ourselves and as long as we are more invested in protecting ourselves from getting hurt, we are not going to be open to living into our full potential and achieving our heart’s desire. Because that protective wall keeps us from being hurt and blocks out the amazing possibilities that can come from having an open heart.

 

And, often, the older we get, the harder it can be to make changes in our lives. Because we become comfortable and complacent. Some people are happy with complacency. They are content in a rinse-and-repeat life, comfort zones, and doing the same things. It is totally fine that they find meaning in other things. But we grow when we put ourselves through challenges and in new situations. So, no matter what your age, instead of settling and giving up on new experiences, make some changes.

 

Are you a woman looking to call in your beloved? Do you put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship? To start your journey, on November 30th, Stefanos and I will facilitate our last Be the Queen program for a while. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen to apply.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you more comfortable playing it safe even if it means you don’t love your life? Do you consider yourself risk-averse unless you weigh all the options and it seems like a smart thing to do?
  • Do you feel disconnected from the way you were as a child? Maybe you were brave,  creative, or outgoing as a child and as you’ve gotten older you’ve wondered where that person went?
  • When you think about making a change do you focus too much on all things that could go wrong versus what could go right?

 

Marilyn’s Question:

Marilyn feels lost and doesn’t have a clear path of what she wants for her future.

 

Marilyn’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is single and finds it easy to be alone.
  • She thought she would meet someone more quickly.
  • She feels lost and has a wall up.
  • She is conservative in her actions to protect herself.
  • She has done the inner child workshop.
  • She has been with the same company for 20 years.
  • She is considering relocating and finding a new position.
  • She was a brave child.
  • She is focusing on what could go wrong instead of opportunity.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Make a change. Shake her life up a little bit.
  • Tap into her warrior woman.
  • Consider what could be great about making a change.
  • Do the empty chair process with her inner child.

 

Takeaways:

  • Choose change or let life bring change to you.
  • Take some risks.
  • Start paying attention to things that could go right instead of what could go wrong.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Nov 13, 2021
A friend and former yoga buddy of mine, Todd McCullough, joins me to dispel some myths about what it takes to transform your body and live healthy!  He's a fitness and mindset expert and takes us through a wonderful meditation at the end of the interview.
 
Todd attended University of Florida, where he was a starting football player. Like many athletes, he suffered numerous injuries. He had a career in finance at Merrill Lynch, and was laid off during the financial crisis of 2008.

Todd knew it was time for a new direction. His football injuries led him to a
yoga studio, where he discovered a way to move with his physical
restrictions. This led Todd to merge his new passion for yoga with athletic
training — and TMAC FITNESS was born. It began as a personal training
business, where Todd trained thousands of clients, including Olympic
athletes and celebrity artists. Eventually, it was time to scale.

Now, TMAC FITNESS is an online membership-based company that
provides short, fast, and effective workouts — with a strong emphasis on
mindfulness. Todd's signature online program, TMAC 20, has helped
more than 20,000 people get in shape and get their mind right from home.
 
Learn more here: https://www.tmacfitness.com/
Nov 10, 2021

This episode is about realizing control is just a protective behavior. Today’s caller, Beck, wants to feel safe and worthy of love without feeling the need to calculate and devise a plan to control the outcome of a situation. We work through ways she can express her emotions and voice her truth to meet her needs.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode322]

 

We all have, at some level, an addiction to control. We have different relationships with it and it is hard for us to completely be in uncertainty, non-attachment, and surrender. The more personal development work we do, the more we are able to step into those things but it is naturally human to have those kinds of controlling pieces come up.

 

Often, what we consider as controlling is a part of us that doesn’t feel safe. And, that part is trying to protect us. I also believe semantics and words are very important. No one wants to be called controlling.

 

It is hard to get leverage and to do the work we need to do on ourselves when we use a word that has a lot of judgment on top of it. Instead of thinking of your behaviors as controlling, think of them as protective behaviors. It feels better and makes it easier to understand, accept, and shift them.

 

Are you a woman looking to call in a man? Do you put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship? To start your journey, join our free live call on November 11th, and then on November 30th Stefanos and I will facilitate our last Be the Queen program for a while. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen to apply.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you find yourself fighting for control or manipulating situations to make yourself feel safe?
  • Are you someone who holds your thoughts and emotions in for a long time?
  • How are you asking for what you need?
  • Think about your childhood and the times you got in trouble, or the times you were told you were naughty, or when you did something wrong, did you collapse the “I did something wrong” to mean “I am wrong”? Do you have an old childhood belief that because you did something bad or wrong it means you were wrong or unlovable?

 

Beck’s Question:

Beck wants to explore her relationship with control and guidance on how to work through it to support herself in her relationship.

 

Beck’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She’s been doing inner work.
  • She fears being perceived as a controlling person.
  • She manipulates situations to get what she wants.
  • She experiences expectation hangovers.
  • She controls things to protect herself.
  • Her parents loved her, but it felt conditional when she did something wrong.
  • She is afraid of losing love.
  • She is sensitive and has big feelings.
  • As a child, she couldn’t separate her actions being wrong from her being wrong.
  • She creates distance in her partnership when she doesn’t show her true emotion.
  • She doesn’t always know what she needs.
  • Her partner struggles to handle her emotions.
  • She tests people to see if they love her.
  • She outsources getting her needs met.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Communicate her truth when she feels it.
  • Ask for what she needs, consistently.
  • Know she can make mistakes and still be worthy of love.
  • Sprinkle the release of her emotions out when they arise, not to let the floodgates open after keeping them inside.

 

Takeaways:

  • Realize that you can make mistakes and still be worthy of love.
  • Look at where you are not speaking your truth.
  • Emotions are better let out than kept in.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Nov 6, 2021
This is such a rich conversation about relationships, sex and sexuality, monogamy and love. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in theDepartment of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University,  and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own YourSexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; NewHarbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the LoveYou Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. She is an international speaker and teacher whose work has been featured on six continents.  She is also a strong,positive resource on Instagram, where she has earned more than 160K followers to date.

 

Her website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/

Nov 3, 2021

This episode is about mothering the inner child and connecting to the little one inside. Today’s caller, Nyikia, is working to give herself the love and compassion she didn’t get as a child but is having difficulty connecting with her inner child. We work through that connection and a daily practice she can use to nurture herself and her little one.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode321]

 

We are often good at giving others what we need to give ourselves the most. This is where we can fall into traps in relationships. Whether it’s romantic relationships, work relationships, or friendships, we can be loving, compassionate, loyal, and show up for others but the person we need to do that for is our inner child and ourselves.

 

We can’t go back in a time machine and change our parents or live a different childhood. But, remember, the mind doesn’t know the difference between a well-imagined thought and current reality. So, we can give ourselves the childhood we never had by being a mother or father to our inner child.

 

Join Us for a Special Master Class, “Calling Him In Masterclass”. Learn How to Attract a Man Who Is Your True Match So You Can Experience the Epic Soul Mate Love You Desire Nov. 4th at 5:00 PM PST. Sign up here:  https://christinehassler.com/lovemasterclass.  

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Did you have a mother or father who didn’t fall into the traditional role? Maybe, your mom wasn’t nurturing or your father was absent or not protective and you have a hard time connecting with that inner parent?
  • Are you good at loving others and taking care of others but not so great at taking care of yourself?
  • Have you done a lot of self-work in the last several years or months, but feel in some areas, especially with the inner child, you don’t know what to do or you are not making progress?

 

Nyikia’s Question:

Nyikia is looking to heal and move past childhood issues but is finding it difficult to connect to her inner child.

 

Nyikia’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She grew up with only her mother as a caregiver.
  • Her mother was emotionally and verbally abusive.
  • Her father was absent, for the most part.
  • She has an adopted brother.
  • She is doing personal development work to connect with her inner child.
  • She has avoidant strategies and distracts herself.
  • She wants to acknowledge her inner child.
  • She longed for feeling safe when she was a child.
  • Her IQ has been rewarded more than her EQ.
  • She often shuts down her emotional releases.
  • It is easy for her to find compassion for others but not for herself.
  • Her inner child doesn’t feel worthy of nurturing.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Check-in with a picture of her as a child once a day.
  • Tell her inner child how worthy she is of nurturing and love. 

 

Takeaways:

  • Check-in daily with your inner child and have a conversation.
  • Re-visit the recording of the Inner Child Workshop at ChristineHassler.com/innerchild.
  • Consider what you didn’t get as a child and how you can give it to yourself.

 

Sponsor:

STORYWORTH is an online service that helps your family share stories through thought-provoking questions about their memories and personal thoughts. Storyworth has helped numerous families learn about each other in profound and special ways. After a year, Storyworth compiles stories and pictures in a keepsake book that ships for free. Give the important people in your life a meaningful gift Storyworth.com/overit and get $10 off your first purchase.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Oct 30, 2021
I am so thrilled to have one of my best - and also most powerful - friends back on the show.  Kate Reardon gives those in need of healing guidance the inspiration and tools for growth so they can achieve the unthinkable and conquer the impossible. 

Kate is a qualified practitioner of Naturopathy and Nutritional Medicine, an Intuitive Metaphysical Healer, best-selling author, keynote speaker, facilitator, yoga teacher, devoted mother and host of the ever-popular, Lean In podcast. 

Kate is the co-founder and managing director of Natural Instinct Healing, the internationally acclaimed and award-winning private Detox, Health and Wellness retreat centre in Bali - which now offers virtual cleansing retreats! Kate also mentors clients from all walks of life across the globe, including high profile celebrities, public figures, doctors, psychologists, business leaders and even royalty, treating and guiding each individual on a mind, body and soul level.

Her best-selling book, “The Essential Cleanse” is the ultimate guide to unlocking the potential to drastically heal from the inside out. 

When she’s not in the consulting room or preparing for a workshop, Kate can be found either being Mama bear to three beautiful girls, immersed in nature, soaking up a book or dancing her heart out!

Register for her 7 day immersion here: https://go.naturalinstincthealing.com/free-vital-wellbeing-immersion

Learn more about Kate here: http://katereardon.com.au/

 

Oct 27, 2021

This episode is about obsessive thinking and anxiety. Today’s caller, Megan, wants to know why she obsesses over things such as decisions, relationships, and her body image. She would like guidance on how to shift her patterns but feels she may always have anxiety. We dial back the clock to discover why she adopted it as a coping strategy and work through how she can empower herself so her anxiety can be an alarm instead of a constraint.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode320]

 

One of the best things the mind does to deal with anxiety in the body is to obsess because it is a distraction and keeps us from feeling the physiological discomfort in the body. Anxiety is energy that is fast buzzing energy. This frenetic energy is in our minds and our nervous systems. It can be really overwhelming so we develop ways to do something with it or to turn it into something. When we obsess over things and think about things over and over and over again, it’s the way the mind is trying to deal with all that frenetic energy.

 

Obsessive thinking is a coping strategy. If we look at those patterns as alarm systems, have compassion for ourselves, and understand there is nothing wrong with us, it is easier to shift patterns like anxiety and obsessive thinking that are not serving us.

 

The hardest things to change about ourselves are the things that are protecting us. The patterns cling to us because they believe they are helping us like they had in our childhood.

 

If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. In late November, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last live event until at least next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information. Sign up early and get access to the Bonus Call on 11/11/21.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are there things in your life you obsess about or just can’t stop thinking about?
  • Do you obsess about your body, what people are thinking about you, or your dating experiences?
  • Did you grow up with an anxious parent?
  • Do you doubt your self-worth?
  • Do you fear you will never be able to change the patterns you don’t like or judge yourself over?

 

Megan’s Question:

Megan has a pattern of obsessing over things in her life and would like guidance on how to shift her obsessive thinking and to become more empowered.

 

Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She obsesses over body image issues, men, and romantic relationships.
  • She feels her anxiety is robbing her sense of inner peace.
  • She has done personal development work.
  • She believes she has always had anxiety.
  • Her mother was hard to predict and inconsistent.
  • She gets frustrated trying to shift her patterns.
  • She fears she will always have anxiety.
  • She doesn’t speak up for herself or set self-honoring boundaries.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Be compassionate and make friends with her obsessions.
  • Make a list of the things she is certain of and has control over in her life.
  • Surrender and accept that her anxiety is trying to protect her from getting hurt.
  • Focus on meeting her needs and speaking her truth by empowering herself.
  • Listen to the Coaches Corner How to Navigate, Resolve, and Prevent Conflict with Jayson Gaddis.

 

Takeaways:

  • When you feel anxiety, consider the highest purpose of your obsessiveness. How is it serving you?
  • Do not put a label on yourself. Empower yourself to react to things differently.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Oct 23, 2021

My guest today talks to us about what attention really is, how to focus it (and stop a wandering mind), and leverage our minds to not only bring us success, but peace. Dr. Amishi Jha is a professor of psychology at the University of Miami. She serves as the Director of Contemplative Neuroscience for the Mindfulness Research and Practice Initiative, which she co-founded in 2010. She received her Ph.D. from the University of California–Davis and postdoctoral training at the Brain Imaging and Analysis Center at Duke University. Dr. Jha’s work has been featured at NATO, the World Economic Forum, and The Pentagon. She has received coverage in The New York Times, NPR, TIMEForbes and more. She is the author of the new book Peak Mind which we talk about in this episode.

Oct 20, 2021

This episode is about overcoming not-enoughness and meeting our own needs to be secure in relationships. Today’s caller, Boston, has a protective pattern from his childhood that shows up as jealousy. It is blocking him from feeling secure in his relationship. He is working to shift his jealous feelings and is asking for guidance to understand the origin of his feelings and heal his anxious attachment style.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode319]

 

We are human. We are going to have patterns and we are going to have programming. There will be feelings that come up. There may be anxiety, OCD, insecurities, jealousy, co-dependence, people-pleasing, etc. It is not who you are. I say it again, it is not who you are.

 

Just because you have jealousy doesn’t mean you are a jealous person. Just because a pattern comes up for you, jealousy, or anything else you want to shift, it doesn’t mean you are that pattern. It is so important that whenever we are working to shift something, we accept it. The more we judge and shame ourselves, the more it sticks and the harder it is to change. So, if you are trying hard to change things about yourself, do not make yourself miserable. Being aware and accepting your patterns is the path forward.

 

Often, we make things more complicated than they need to be. Our primary desire is to feel safe, seen, heard, and loved. The more we get it from within ourselves the more we get it from others. The more we can acknowledge the tender parts inside of us the less we need external validation.

 

If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. So, starting late November or early December, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last event until next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you struggle with jealousy in your relationship even if there is no reason for it?
  • Do you judge yourself for getting jealous?
  • Did you grow up feeling like you fit into society, your family, or your peer group? Did you look or feel different, like you were not good enough?
  • How are you at meeting your own needs?

 

Boston’s Question:

Boston has a pattern of exhibiting jealousy in his relationships. He would like guidance on how to heal his triggers.

 

Boston’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He recently started his personal development journey.
  • He puts his jealous behavior on to his partner.
  • He judges himself for his jealous tendencies.
  • He is mentally working through his patterns to interrupt them.
  • He has an anxious attachment style.
  • He is looking for reassurance in his relationship.
  • He grew up in an area where people were discriminatory.
  • He had very little emotional connection with his parents.
  • His parents argued a lot in his childhood.
  • He didn’t feel good enough as a child.
  • He was jealous of other families and the love he thought they shared.
  • He moved to a new country at a very young age.
  • He developed tough skin to protect himself.
  • His partner is patient and understanding.
  • He has old hurts and insecurity.
  • His fear of losing his family is preventing him from enjoying it.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Understand his jealousy is trying to protect him.
  • Be compassionate with himself when he is triggered.
  • Remind himself he is enough.
  • Talk to his younger self about what he needs and reassure himself.
  • Ask his partner to work with him on his inner child work.
  • Embrace and enjoy the life he has created.

 

Takeaways:

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Oct 16, 2021
If you avoid or dread conflict or find you have too much of it in your life, you will find this episode so helpful! Jayson Gaddis is here to talk about his new book Getting To Zero: How to Work through Conflicts in your High-Stake Relationships and teach us SO much about how to have healthier relationships.  He is a relationship expert and sought-after coach, as well as the Founder of The Relationship School and host of the successful Relationship School podcast. Jayson leads the most comprehensive relationship training in the world of intimate relationships and partnership, as well as trains and certifies relationship coaches. He has a master’s in psychology and lives with his wife and two children in Boulder, Colorado.
 
Get the book and free goodies here:  https://www.gettingtozerobook.com/
Oct 13, 2021

This episode is about taking the pressure off of self-imposed timelines. Today’s caller, Elizabeth, has a sense of urgency. She feels she needs to get into a relationship and have children. But, at the same time, she is experiencing rejection, ghosting, and men leaving. She thinks she is doing something wrong.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode318]

 

For whatever reason, we put ridiculous timelines on ourselves. Who knows where they come from society, parents, or our inner critic. We also put unnecessary pressure on ourselves to be or to achieve certain things. And, all the while we’re not really paying attention to what we truly need to be learning. We miss out on the magic that can come from being present and in the moment.

 

And, enmeshment or co-dependence means that we are a little bit too reliant or dependent on another person to make us feel a certain way. We all want a mother to be the constant source of love and nurturing but we also want a mother to let us go on our way or let us suffer and find our own way.

 

If we have someone who always rescues us, how do we ever learn to rescue ourselves?

 

If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. So, starting late November or early December, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last event until next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you unconsciously put pressure on yourself or others and it is sabotaging you from getting the things you truly want?
  • Did you have too close of a relationship with your mother or a parent?
  • Do you feel a timeline or sense of urgency to get married, have babies, or accomplish something at a certain time?
  • Would you say that you were an exceptional partner to yourself?

 

Elizabeth’s Question:

Elizabeth feels she is the reason her relationships don’t work out.

 

Elizabeth’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels she can’t get relationships right.
  • She feels she has been called to have children.
  • She was very close to her mother, maybe too close.
  • She is trying to source her love through other people to fill the void.
  • She clings on to men.
  • She misses being in a close relationship.
  • She didn’t develop her own sense of self.
  • She is scared to voice her feelings in relationships.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Prioritize loving herself and individuating.
  • Find her wise inner mother and untangle her enmeshment with her mother.
  • Look back at past relationships and consider how she could do things differently.
  • Write a reassuring letter to her future self that everything is going to be alright and then have her future self write back.
  • Realize it wasn’t her fault that guys take off but she can take responsibility for her part in the relationship.

 

Takeaways:

  • Listen to the Coaches Corner interview with Bethany Webster, The Mother Wound.
  • If you feel pressured to get somewhere, write a letter to your future self and then have your future self write back to you about how everything works out.
  • If you are in a pattern, ask yourself what wound is it bringing attention to that could be healed.
  • Join the Be the Queen program.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Oct 9, 2021
Sex and sexuality. These are part of the human experience.  Yet for so many, sex and sexualty brings up shame, insecurity and even painful memories.  It is possible to enjoy your sexual expression no matter what you have been through while empowering yourself by learning about your preferences and consent.
 
There is no one better to discuss these topics with me than. Dr. Betty Martin.

She has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice,  as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator.  Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®.

As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” 

Wheel of consent videos:

short: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7x2jAm3HxHM

long; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=auokDp_EA80

Oct 6, 2021

This episode is about doing inner child work to heal the mother wound. Today’s caller, Abigail, feels she is struggling to connect with her feminine energy but we discover that she is being triggered by her circumstances and it is revealing a coping strategy she relied on in her childhood. We discuss ways she can make the most of this healing opportunity.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode317]

 

You can’t really tap into true masculine and feminine until you do inner child work. Because we can confuse being in our feminine or masculine energy with protective behaviors and coping strategies. It is important for us to find our divine mother and father energy but healing our childhood wounds is the starting point.

 

When past trauma in her child wounding is triggered, it is an invitation for us to deal with it by speaking to our little one and giving them a voice. It makes it much easier to trust because our inner child isn’t tugging at us telling us they are not okay.

 

What keeps some people from doing inner child work is that they think they have to relive their trauma or relive memories of their childhoods. It is possible to heal your childhood and connect with your inner child even if you have no memories or traumatic memories.

 

When we are given pauses in life, or when we feel we are in limbo, they are opportunities for us to focus on our inner work.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild. If you can’t make it live you can get the recording. If you need help financially go to ChristineHassler.com/Scholarship.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you struggling with identifying what is masculine and feminine energy? Or, you are not sure how to be in your masculine or feminine?
  • Have you worked on the mother wound and know intuitively there is still more to do?
  • Do you identify with being a caretaker? Someone who takes care of other people’s needs as a way to try and get your own needs met?
  • As a child, were you more in the parent role than you were in the child role? Did a parent count on you for emotional support? Did they confide in you? Were you more of a friend to them and not allowed to truly be a kid?

 

Abigail’s Question:

Abigail struggles with staying in her feminine energy.

 

Abigail’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has had a lot of uncertainty in her life.
  • She has difficulty adjusting and trusting changes.
  • She holds fear about changes in her life.
  • She frequently changes her residence.
  • She left her nursing career to be a doula.
  • Her parents dealt with uncertainty differently.
  • She didn’t have a good role model for embracing uncertainty.
  • She didn’t feel safe as a child.
  • Caretaking became a coping strategy for her.
  • She beats herself up emotionally.
  • She felt responsible for everyone else’s happiness.
  • She wants to be free to express her needs.
  • Her mom treated her like a friend and not a child.
  • She feels worthless if she isn’t caring for others.
  • Her partner feels safe to her.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Check-in with little Abigail to see how she is.
  • Accept and have compassion for herself.
  • Give her rage a voice and write an F-U letter to her mother.
  • This is a healing opportunity for her. She is exactly where she needs to be.
  • Join the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Check out the Mother Wound Coaches Corner and the work of Bethany Webster.

 

Takeaways:

  • Use the pauses in your life to give your inner child a voice and to heal unhealed wounding.

 

Sponsor:

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Oct 2, 2021
Don't miss this episode with Bethany Webster where we discuss a wound we ALL have: the mother wound.  Bethany Webster is a writer, international speaker and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. Bethany speaks, consults and mentors around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women’s leadership and personal development. Learn more at www.bethanywebster.com

Bethany's book: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780062884442
Bethany's online course: https://www.bethanywebster.com/inner-mother-course/
Bethany's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/innermother
Sep 29, 2021

This episode is about finding your passion by releasing repressed anger. Today’s caller, Illarion, feels lost. He is in his twenties and is struggling to find his purpose. Emotions from his childhood are bubbling to the surface of his unconscious. If you relate to this call and feel blocked, anxious, or lost, this episode will help you tap into your fire and find your voice.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode316]

 

So many of us that may be dealing with anxiety, depression, or feeling lost have a bit of indifference, hopelessness, and apathy we can slip into. That is a dangerous place because there is numbness. Whereas anger, if understood and expressed in a healthy way, is a very useful emotion. Anger is often the gateway to reaching our deeper hurts and it’s the thing that unleashes our passion. Repressed anger takes up a lot of energy. It is a fiery emotion that just sits inside of us. Passion is fire too. If we have a lot of anger that we haven’t processed, it can be a block to our creativity and passion.

 

A lot of creative and artistic people have trouble accessing their anger. It ends up manifesting as anxiety. When we have the creative archetype, there is also gentleness. We want to be the peacekeeper and avoid conflict. We don’t feel the warrior spirit because we are more on the creative side. However, when we don’t access our anger and our rage, it can hold our passion back.

 

It is often anger and resentment that keep us from getting to the true energy of forgiveness.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel stuck or lost in your life?
  • Did you have parents that supported who you are but not 100% of the time?
  • Have you analyzed and talked about your issues and have been in therapy but things are not changing?
  • Is anger something that turns you off?

 

Illarion’s Question:

Illarion feels lost and is struggling to find his purpose. He goes through bouts of loneliness, anxiety, and low self-worth.

 

Illarion’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He moved to New York City.
  • He is going through imposter syndrome.
  • He doubts every choice he makes.
  • His feelings go up and down.
  • He may have unresolved issues from childhood.
  • He has been in therapy for three years.
  • He looks at what he should be instead of what he is meant to be.
  • He didn’t feel he was able to be himself as a child.
  • What he is going through is normal for his age.
  • He is not sure he is lovable and enough for his parents.
  • He doesn’t speak with his father.
  • He hasn’t dealt with the anger he feels at his parents.
  • He seeks approval from other people.
  • He wanted someone to stick up for him as a child.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Tap into his anger and be pissed.
  • Do the temper-tantrum technique at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease
  • Write an F-U letter to his mom and dad without sending it to them.
  • Go to a quiet place and expel rage while he punches a pillow.
  • Find his fiery passion.

 

Sponsor:

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Sep 25, 2021
This is an episode NOT to miss. My husband and I get so raw and vulnerable as we talk through something that upset Stef and triggered his inner child.  If you want an intimate look at how we work though triggers and comfort our own (and each other's) inner child, be sure to listen. You will learn so much about your relationship with your own inner child as well.  We all have a tender, sensitive little one inside who needs us to parent them with love, safety, acceptance and consistency.
 
If you want to learn more about the virtual retreat we are teaching on healing your inner child, please go here: https://christinehassler.com/innerchild/
Sep 22, 2021

This episode is about taking a stand for what we value. Today’s caller, Sebastian, is not getting his needs met in his relationship. He is attempting to talk through his issues, but the results are not changing. We discuss ways to get clarification from his partner about what she needs and how he can have his needs met by taking a stand for his values.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode315]

 

If communication solved every issue in a relationship, we could all just read communication books and have the most amazing relationships, friendships, and parental relationships. Everything would be easy. But, it is not. We need to do the inner work. We play out our childhood stuff in our adult life, especially in relationships.

 

When a child has emotionally unavailable parents, they learn to tolerate a lot more hurt. When they grow into adults, they may have a pattern of thinking things are better than they truly are in their intimate relationships.

 

In relationships, friendships, or any kind of intimate relationship, we often love and give in the way we want to be given to and loved, not necessarily the way that person needs or wants it.

 

We have to be bold when it comes to things like love, our families, our health, our well-being, and what is important to us. We must take a stand for our values.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you find yourself not being a firm stand for what you want in your life?
  • Do you ever tiptoe around people afraid of upsetting them?
  • Do you often feel disrespected in conversations or just not heard?
  • Do you have some codependent patterns and let people walk all over you?
  • Do you often find yourself with emotionally unavailable or avoidant-type people?

 

Sebastian’s Question:

Sebastian feels he doesn’t get his needs met in his relationship and would like guidance on how to have a healthier relationship.

 

Sebastian’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • His relationship has ups and downs.
  • Hurtful things are said between him and his partner.
  • He and his partner have done couple counseling.
  • He has a 10-year-old son with his partner.
  • He feels disrespected by his partner.
  • He loves his family.
  • His partner finds it is overwhelming to deal with his emotions.
  • He is trying to uncover and overcome the relationship issues.
  • He is codependent.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Get curious about what his partner needs.
  • Have a conversation about what each other needs emotionally.
  • Stand in his strong, healthy masculine and ask his partner if she wants the relationship to work.
  • Step into his power and take a stand for himself and the relationship.

 

Takeaways:

  • Take a stand for your values. Be very clear about what you want and where you are going.

 

Sponsor:

SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Sep 18, 2021
If you ever struggle with anxiety, worry or even depression, do NOT miss this episode.  One of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and an international bestselling author Mel Robbins joins Christine and gives a TON of soothing and practical advice for creating more calm in your life.

Mel's work includes the global phenomenon The 5 Second Rule, the upcoming The High 5 Habit, four #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide. 

Her groundbreaking work on behavior change has been translated into 36 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled.

As one of the most widely booked and followed public speakers in the world, Mel coaches more than 60 million people online every month and videos featuring her work have more than a billion views online, including her TEDx talk, which is one of the most popular of all time.

There’s nothing Mel loves more than making a real difference in people’s lives by teaching them to believe in themselves and inspiring them to take the actions that will change their lives. Mel lives in New England with her husband of 25 years and their three kids, but she is and will always be a Midwesterner at heart.

Sep 15, 2021

This episode will support you in getting through and to the other side of any kind of loss. Today’s caller, Regina, is a widow who is grieving over the loss of her husband. She says she regrets not being the best mother in the world and not living the life she wanted to live. She is questioning her purpose and experiencing quite a bit of apathy in her life.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode314]

 

Loss is an incredibly painful but inevitable part of our life. When it happens it is important we give ourselves time to grieve and not try to be strong and move on right away. But there comes a point in our life when life has to go on.

 

Whether it is the death of a loved one, a pet, a relationship, or a job, we can’t allow loss to suck the life out of us. Otherwise, we end up existing, not truly living. We honor those who transition by continuing to live.

 

People who deal with expectation hangovers often feel guilty to admit it but they tend to be apathetic to life. The reason for the apathy is the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference or apathy. When we go through something challenging, especially if we are lonely through it, we allow our self-love tank to get so low that we slip into indifference. Without love there is apathy. Getting out of it requires choosing to live, not just to go through the motions; we need something we want to live for.

 

Give yourself permission to live for and find something that reconnects you back to love.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Have you recently been through a loss and can’t seem to move on?
  • Have you been through a loss and are aware you need time to grieve?
  • Do you tend to look back on your life and wish you could have done things differently?
  • Are you at a point in your life where you are just existing and need to start living again?

 

Regina’s Question:

Regina would like to move past her sadness and regret of not living the life she wanted.

 

Regina’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is approaching retirement.
  • She is not in the place she thought she would be in her life.
  • She lives alone.
  • There is a part of her that doesn’t want to be anymore.
  • She has regrets about how she raised her children.
  • She doesn’t believe we get more than one love in our lives.
  • Her husband was her best friend.
  • She beats herself up a lot.
  • She knows if she can create a negative story for herself, she is capable of creating a positive story, too.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Choose to create a future that is enlivening.
  • Give herself permission to live and allow love in.
  • Have a loving relationship with herself.
  • Speak to herself as a loving mother would to a child.
  • Forgive herself for being mean to herself.
  • Write out some promises to herself.

 

Takeaways:

  • Practice self-love.
  • Consider that loved ones who have transitioned are angels and guides in your life.
  • Accept that you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time.
  • Content that focuses on overcoming regret.

 

Sponsor:

THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Check out their new seamless Form line. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Sep 11, 2021

Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and body mind transformation for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. fromStanford in 1974, Gay served as Professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap, Conscious Loving and Conscious Loving Ever After, (the last two co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks). He is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu, as well as a new mystery series featuring a Victorian-era London detective, Sir ErrolHyde. His latest book, Conscious Luck, reveals eight ways to change your fortune through the power of intention. Gay has appeared on more than 500 radio andtelevision shows, including Oprah, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. His new book, The Genius Zone, was published in June, 2021.

Sep 8, 2021

This episode is about learning the tools to deal with triggers and the avoidant attachment style. This week’s caller, Mike, would like guidance on how to be more open-hearted and vulnerable in his intimate relationships. This session will be of service to those who have an avoidant style and for those who attract Avoidants. We discuss how to understand them and how not to take their actions personally.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode313]

 

Anything is healable. It doesn’t matter what is in your background, childhood, or past. I’ve seen it over and over again. Does it happen overnight? No. Is it always easy? No. Is it going to change overnight? Healable doesn’t mean we go from having an avoidant attachment style to being totally open-hearted, totally secure, and never having triggers.

 

Healing is not being perfect, not being free of any triggers but really learning how to work with those triggers, manage those triggers, so that they don’t become roadblocks in our life. Triggers can be alarm systems for growth and not a dead end. Awareness is not enough to heal.

 

People with an avoidant attachment style are not trying to avoid being close or being in love. They are trying to avoid rejection, hurt, and pain. When we are with an Avoidant, and they pull away or put walls up, it can make us feel as if we have done something wrong. But, we cannot take it personally. If you are with an Avoidant, the best thing you can do when they are triggered is don’t attack them, don’t tell them they are doing anything wrong, then reassure them that you are there and you love them.

 

On September 14th, Christine and Stefanos will teach a virtual group call at 5 pm PST.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8‒10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.

 

Mike’s Question:

Mike would like guidance on how to be more open-minded and open-hearted when approaching his relationships.

 

Mike’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • His marriage of 12 years recently ended.
  • He emotionally shut down in his relationships.
  • He has an insecure attachment style.
  • Fear of rejection keeps him from being vulnerable.
  • He was not loved for being himself as a child.
  • He is self-aware.
  • He feels as if his personal development work has stalled.
  • He does not want to repeat the mistakes of his past.
  • He is ready to date again.
  • He has high standards.
  • He puts walls up to protect himself.
  • He struggles to be vulnerable.
  • He feels he can apply the practical guidance.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Acknowledge himself for the personal development work he is doing.
  • Start dating again.
  • Lean into vulnerability.
  • Accept himself for who he is.
  • Have compassion for himself and his fear.
  • It is okay to be scared.

 

Takeaways:

  • On the field is the best way to get good at a game. We cannot run from hurt. We have to expose ourselves to triggers so we can integrate and deal with hurt and fear.

 

Sponsor:

SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

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Sep 4, 2021

The feeling of being in love is the best. Not to mention the blissful feeling of certainty when we feel like you’ve met “the one” (finally!). You start fantasizing about the future and are convinced that the other person is on the same page you are. And then it ends. And you are not only heartbroken, but shocked because it seemed so right and you don’t understand what went wrong. I know that is not comforting if you are in the pain of a break-up, but understanding why the one you thought was going to be forever ended may offer you some relief. This Coaches Corner will help!

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