In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Marla, a professional singer who bravely shares her experience of being publicly shamed and attacked after performing the national anthem at a major rugby event. 

Marla opens up about the intense wave of negative reactions she received from the press and social media, as well as the personal toll it took on her and her daughter. Christine helps Marla process the deep wounds this experience triggered, drawing connections to childhood trauma and longstanding beliefs of unworthiness and fear of rejection.

Through the coaching session, Christine guides Marla to reclaim her voice and inner power, emphasizing the importance of healing from past trauma and addressing limiting beliefs that may have reinforced feelings of shame and isolation. Marla's journey is a powerful example of how, even in the face of overwhelming negativity, we can find strength, regain our self-worth, and take a stand for ourselves.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you ever felt attacked, bullied, or shamed in your personal life or public spaces?
• Do you struggle with feelings of rejection or fear of judgment?
• Are there wounds from your childhood that still influence how you handle criticism or rejection today?
• How do you respond when you're unfairly criticized? Do you retreat or stand up for yourself?

The Guest's Key Insights & AHA's:

• Marla shares how being publicly shamed reignited deep fears of rejection and criticism that date back to her childhood.
• Christine helps Marla understand that her experience is not just a random occurrence but a reflection of longstanding limiting beliefs that are ready to be healed.
• Marla recognizes the importance of expressing her feelings and standing up for herself, not only in the present moment but also for her inner child, who was silenced in the past.
• The session highlights how reclaiming our voice, even in the face of fear, is a powerful way to shift out of victimhood and into empowerment.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Acknowledge the feelings of hurt and rejection that may arise when you're attacked or criticized, but don't allow them to define you.
• Revisit any limiting beliefs from your past that may contribute to how you perceive criticism or bullying.
• Practice giving voice to your feelings and standing up for yourself, even when difficult.
• Remember that reclaiming your voice and power is a process—allow yourself to move through the emotions and find strength in your vulnerability.

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Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's retreat is in Austin, Texas, in late September 2024. This immersive experience offers a deep dive into healing, self-awareness, and nervous system recalibration. Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Kelly Brogan, M.D. is a holistic psychiatrist, author of the NY Times Bestselling book, A Mind of Your Own, Own Your Self, the children’s book, A Time For Rain, and co-editor of the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression. She is the founder of the online healing program Vital Mind Reset, and the membership community, Vital Life Project. She completed her psychiatric training and fellowship at NYU Medical Center after graduating from Cornell University Medical College, and has a B.S. from M.I.T. in Systems Neuroscience. She is specialized in a root-cause resolution approach to psychiatric syndromes and symptoms. Learn more at https://www.kellybroganmd.com/

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Charlotte, a woman grappling with feelings of unworthiness and a deep-seated fear of being seen. Charlotte's inner struggle stems from a belief that she does not deserve love and attention, which leads her to hide her true self in many of her relationships.

During the coaching session, Christine helped Charlotte uncover how her childhood experiences of growing up with siblings with special needs and feeling responsible for minimizing her own needs contributed to her pattern of people-pleasing. This has resulted in Charlotte often putting others before herself, even to her detriment. Christine guides Charlotte to understand that this pattern, which was once a coping mechanism, no longer serves her as an adult, especially in her role as a mother.

As they work through these deep emotions, Christine helps Charlotte recognize the importance of self-love, boundaries, and allowing herself to be seen and supported rather than always being the one to please others.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you often feel like you are not deserving of love or attention?
• Do you have difficulty receiving love and support, even though you crave it?
• Are you prone to people-pleasing and putting others' needs above your own?
• Can you identify patterns from your childhood that influence how you show up in your relationships today?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Charlotte's belief that she doesn't deserve love stems from her childhood, where she felt she needed to make things easier for her family, especially her mother, who had other children with special needs.
• Christine helps Charlotte realize that her habit of being "low maintenance" and avoiding taking up space prevents her from fully experiencing love and connection in her adult relationships.
• By identifying this belief and the behaviors it drives, Charlotte can start to reclaim her sense of worth and build relationships where her needs are met, too.
• The session emphasizes the importance of healing old wounds, setting boundaries, and embracing self-worth.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Acknowledge that you are just as deserving of love and attention as anyone else.
• Begin setting boundaries that protect your emotional well-being and ensure your needs are met.
• Practice receiving love and support without guilt or fear of being a burden.
• Reframe any childhood beliefs that make you feel less worthy of care and attention.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's retreat is in Austin, Texas, in late September 2024.
• Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Marcus, who is grappling with the emotional aftermath of a breakup. Marcus has a long-standing pattern of being the dependable "rock" everyone can rely on, but this role costs him dearly in his relationships.

During their coaching session, Christine helps Marcus see how his childhood experiences, particularly taking on the role of the "man of the house" from a young age, have influenced his adult relationships. Marcus often finds himself in situations where he is taking care of others' emotional needs at his own expense, leaving him feeling depleted and unsupported.

Christine explains that this dynamic stems from childhood coping mechanisms where Marcus learned that being responsible and reliable would earn him love and acceptance. By recognizing these patterns and setting healthier boundaries, Marcus can start to prioritize his own needs and break free from the caretaker role that has dominated his life.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself being the rock for everyone in your life but feel like no one is there for you?
• Are you struggling to set boundaries because you fear disappointing others?
• Do you often feel emotionally drained because you always put others' needs before yours?
• Can you identify patterns from your childhood that may be influencing your current relationships?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Marcus's need to be the dependable one comes from his childhood experience of having to take care of his mother after his father left, making him feel responsible for others from a young age.
• Christine identifies that Marcus's pattern of being the caretaker has left him feeling like he has no one to rely on in return, perpetuating feelings of loneliness and exhaustion.
• By acknowledging these childhood influences, Marcus can start to shift his mindset and create space for relationships that also meet his needs.
• The coaching session emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and learning to be comfortable saying “no,” even when it might disappoint others.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Please recognize that you don't have to be the rock for everyone; it's okay to need support yourself.
• Start setting boundaries in your relationships to protect your energy and emotional well-being.
• Practice saying “no” lovingly that honors your needs and respects your limits.
• Understand that it's healthy to have reciprocal relationships where support is mutual rather than one-sided.

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Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will occur in late September 2024 in Austin, Texas.
• Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Tina, who struggles with fear and doubt regarding her dreams of finding a partner and starting a family. 

At 41, Tina has done significant personal work to connect with herself and remain grounded in her feminine energy. However, she often experiences panic and doubt, mainly when influenced by external messages about age and time. Through their coaching session, Christine helps Tina explore the root causes of her panic and teaches her how to form a deeper connection with her inner child. This approach enables Tina to navigate her fears more effectively and stay aligned with her desires.

Christine explains that Tina's fear and panic are not just obstacles but are rooted in protective mechanisms formed in her childhood. By addressing these fears with compassion and understanding, Tina can move past them and create space for her dreams to manifest.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you sometimes believe in your dreams but get pulled off course by doubt and fear?
• Do you panic when doubt and fear arise, thinking you're sabotaging your desires?
• Have you done personal work but still find specific patterns, like fear or doubt, that are hard to change?
• Do you have a deep, nurturing connection with the younger parts of yourself?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Tina's fear and doubt are deeply connected to her inner child, who experienced instability and uncertainty in her early years.
• Christine identifies that Tina's panic is a form of protection, a response she developed to feel safe when her environment was unpredictable.
• By acknowledging and communicating with her inner child, Tina can begin to alleviate her fears and doubts, allowing her to stay aligned with her dreams.
• The coaching session emphasizes the importance of developing a deeper relationship with oneself, especially the parts that feel fear, doubt, and insecurity.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize that fear and doubt are not signs of failure but messages from parts of yourself that need care and attention.
• Develop a consistent practice of checking in with your inner child or younger self, offering reassurance and understanding.
• Allow yourself to feel your emotions fully without rushing to fix or change them. This will create a more authentic and healing experience.
• Integrate new, supportive beliefs by connecting with your inner child and affirming that you are safe and supported in your journey.

Show Sponsor: This week's episode is sponsored by Air Doctor. Air Doctor provides a range of air purifiers designed to remove up to 99.99% of harmful pollutants from your indoor air, including allergens, dust mites, mold spores, and bacteria. With people spending 90% of their time indoors, ensuring clean air is crucial for health and well-being. Air Doctor's purifiers offer a powerful solution to maintain high air quality, especially in environments with increased indoor pollutants. Visit airdoctorpro.com and use promo code "OVERIT" to receive up to $300 off and a free three-year warranty on your purchase. Take control of your indoor air quality with Air Doctor today!

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will be held at the end of September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

I am thrilled to share with you the parenting expert whose work I resonate the most with. No matter how old your children are, this is a must listen! Janet Lansbury’s parenting advice (www.janetlansbury.com) is quoted and shared by millions of readers worldwide. Inspired by her mentor Magda Gerber, Janet popularized “respectful parenting” and is the author of two bestselling books, Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting and No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame. Janet is also the creator and host of “Janet Lansbury Unruffled,” one of the most downloaded parenting podcasts on the web and recommended listening by The Washington Post, New York Times, The Cut, USA Today and more.  

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Cassandra, who struggles with indecision. She often feels stuck, drifting through various aspects of her life rather than fully committing. At 39 years old, Cassandra is beginning to confront the deep-rooted patterns that have held her back, stemming from a traumatic and dysfunctional childhood.

Christine helps Cassandra understand that her indecision is not a personal flaw but a survival strategy developed during her chaotic upbringing. Through their coaching session, Christine encourages Cassandra to reconnect with her inner child, offering her the safety and nurturing she never received as a child, which is crucial for healing and moving forward with clarity and purpose.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you struggle to make decisions, often feeling stuck or paralyzed by overthinking?
• Have you had a chaotic or traumatic childhood that makes it difficult for you to trust yourself and others?
• Do you often find yourself drifting through life, unsure what you truly want or how to commit to it?
• Can you communicate your needs openly or bottle up emotions until they explode?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Cassandra's indecision and drifting are deeply rooted in her childhood trauma, where she felt trapped and unsafe.
• Christine highlights that Cassandra's struggle is not about a lack of decision-making ability but rather a lack of self-trust and safety.
• By reconnecting with her inner child and practicing self-compassion, Cassandra can begin to break free from the patterns that keep her stuck.
• The coaching session underscores the importance of nurturing oneself and creating a safe space for personal growth and decision-making.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Begin to see indecision not as a flaw but as a survival mechanism that can be transformed through self-compassion and nurturing.
• Practice reconnecting with your inner child by providing the safety and love you needed growing up.
• Communicate your needs clearly and honestly in your relationships, even if it initially feels uncomfortable.
• Create small, actionable steps towards the life you envision, focusing on integration rather than over-analysis.

Show Sponsor: This week's episode is sponsored by Organifi. Organifi offers a line of organic superfood blends that provide plant-based nutrition, high-quality ingredients, and less than three grams of sugar. One of Christine's favorites is the Red Juice, a delicious superfood berry blend packed with adaptogens, antioxidants, and a clinical dose of cordyceps. It's a perfect alternative to coffee, promoting energy without caffeine and supporting your overall health. You can get 20% off all Organifi orders by visiting organifi.com/overit or using the promo code "OVERIT" at checkout.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will be held at the end of September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Angela, who is struggling to connect with her inner child while grappling with anxiety. Angela's journey is marked by a history of complex PTSD, making it difficult for her to feel safe within her own body. 

Christine guides Angela in understanding that instead of trying to manage or eliminate anxiety, she can transform her relationship with it by embracing it with compassion and care.

Through a powerful coaching session, Christine helps Angela uncover the underlying fears and beliefs fueling her anxiety. The session emphasizes the importance of being present, acknowledging inner feelings, and nurturing oneself in moments of discomfort.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you spend a lot of time, energy, and effort trying to manage or eliminate emotions like anxiety?
• Have you experienced complex PTSD or other traumas that have left you feeling disconnected from your body?
• Do you feel overwhelmed with fear when stepping out of your comfort zone or putting yourself out there?
• Have you connected with the younger parts of yourself and provided them with a sense of safety and belonging in your current life?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Angela's anxiety is deeply rooted in her childhood trauma and complex PTSD, leading her to feel unsafe in her own body.
• By observing and communicating with her anxiety, Angela begins to understand that it is a part of her, but not all of her.
• Christine demonstrates the power of separating oneself from overwhelming emotions, which can help one regain a sense of control and calm.
• The coaching session highlights the importance of nurturing inner parts of oneself, primarily when those parts are related to past traumas and fears.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Begin to view anxiety not as something to eliminate but as a part of you that needs understanding and compassion.
• Practice grounding techniques and self-soothing methods to help your nervous system feel safe in the present moment.
• Consider using the empty chair technique to separate yourself from anxiety and other overwhelming emotions, creating a dialogue that helps you manage them better.
• Embrace all parts of yourself, especially those that feel scared or vulnerable, and bring them into the present where they can feel safe and seen.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of “Over It and On With It,” Christine Hassler coaches Sarah, who struggles with the complexities of a relationship that appears both deeply meaningful and deeply troubling. Sarah's situation involves a partner who alternates between emotional closeness and sudden, unexplained withdrawal, triggering Sarah's abandonment fears.

Christine helps Sarah recognize the unhealthy patterns and offers guidance on finding the strength to set necessary boundaries. Christine's compassionate yet direct approach aims to support listeners who may find themselves rationalizing toxic behaviors in their relationships due to unresolved childhood wounds.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself attracted to relationships that cause you significant stress and anxiety?
• Are you making excuses for someone's unhealthy behavior because of their past trauma or because they express emotions sincerely?
• Did you grow up in a household where you felt neglected or unloved, leading you to accept less than you deserve in relationships?
• Do you struggle with setting firm boundaries and often talk yourself into staying in relationships that don't serve you?
• Are you ready to take bold actions to change unhealthy patterns in your relationships?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Sarah's intense connection with her partner is rooted in unresolved childhood abandonment issues, making her more tolerant of behaviors like ghosting and emotional withdrawal.
• Despite the partner's ability to articulate emotions, his repeated blocking and disappearing acts are red flags that cannot be overlooked.
• Christine highlights the importance of evaluating how someone handles stress and whether they take responsibility for their triggers and actions.
• The episode underscores the necessity of setting clear boundaries and recognizing when a relationship is unhealthy, regardless of the depth of emotional connection.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Acknowledge and address the old childhood wounds influencing your tolerance for unhealthy behaviors in relationships.
• Practice emotional and physical grounding techniques to reconnect with your sense of self-worth and power.
• Seek out trauma-informed therapy or coaching to work through past wounds in a supportive and healthy environment.
• Establish firm boundaries and recognize that justifying toxic behaviors is a coping strategy rooted in past trauma.
• Affirm your worthiness of love and respect, and take bold actions to protect your emotional well-being.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Mia, who struggles with self-blame and guilt following a challenging divorce. Mia's feelings of inadequacy and self-loathing stem from a history of emotional abuse and neglect in her childhood, compounded by her recent breakup. 

Christine provides a compassionate and insightful discussion, helping Mia recognize that her pain is not her fault and offering strategies to address deep-seated beliefs and patterns. The episode aims to support listeners who might feel responsible for their suffering and struggle to break free from negative self-perceptions.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you struggle to move past events because you believe it's your fault?
• Are you stuck in a pattern of self-blame and self-loathing that prevents you from healing?
• Did you grow up in an environment where you felt neglected or abused, leading you to believe you deserve lousy treatment?
• Are you aware of any patterns of gaslighting or unhealthy relationships in your life?
• Do you find it challenging to let go of beliefs and thinking patterns that aren't serving you?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Mia's self-blame and feelings of inadequacy are deeply rooted in her childhood experiences with a narcissistic family system.
• The belief that she deserves to be treated poorly is a result of internalizing abusive and neglectful behavior from her parents.
• Christine highlights that Mia's recent breakup and the blame placed on her by her ex-husband are symptoms of unresolved trauma and not reflective of her worth.
• The episode underscores the importance of differentiating between childhood trauma and current situations to avoid projecting past pain onto present circumstances.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize and challenge the old beliefs stemming from childhood trauma that are influencing your current self-perception.
• Engage in physical and emotional grounding techniques, such as standing with feet on the floor and deep breathing, to reconnect with your sense of power and presence.
• Seek trauma-informed therapy and inner child work to address and heal from past abuse and neglect.
• Write down the facts of your situation to distinguish between reality and distorted beliefs.
• Affirm that the abuse and neglect you experienced were not your fault and that you are worthy of love and respect.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.
• Free coaching call on July 31^st focused on reducing stress and anxiety. Sign-up at christinehassler.com/freeworkshop.

Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
• @ChristinHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Assist@ChristineHassler.com
• Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services
• Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Dr. Melillo is one of the most respected specialists in neurological disorders in America, Dr. Robert Melillo has been helping children overcome learning disabilities for over 30 years. His areas of expertise include: autism spectrum disorders, PDD/NOS, ADD/ADHD, OCD, dyslexia, Asperger’s, Tourette’s, bipolar disorder, and other mental, attention, behavioral and learning disorders. He is also an expert in diet, nutrition and neuroimmune disorders in children and adults. He is best known for his best selling book, Disconnected Kids. He has a brand new version of this book coming out the first week of August (and is available now for pre-orders on Amazon).

 In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Niamh, who struggles with the fear and inner critic preventing her from pursuing her passion for music. Niamh shares her journey of reconnecting with her love for music after being laid off from her corporate job.

Despite her progress, she faces a recurring block of fear, especially around visibility and judgment. Christine guides her through strategies to work with her fear rather than trying to overcome it, emphasizing the importance of nurturing and comforting the inner child.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you want to pursue a passion but feel paralyzed by fear?
• Do you have a loud inner critic that stops you from taking action?
• Do you take fear as a sign that you shouldn’t do something?
• Are you afraid of judgment from others?

Guest Insights:

• Niamh has a deep passion for music but is hindered by a protective part that triggers fear and self-criticism.
• She recognizes that fear stems from childhood and struggles with visibility and harsh self-judgment.
• Niamh has tried forcing herself through fear but finds it counterproductive and re-traumatizing.

A-Ha Moments:

• Fear is not the absence of courage but moving forward despite fear.
• The inner critic often stems from past experiences where visibility and vulnerability were met with harsh judgment or unsafe situations.
• Working with fear involves nurturing the inner child and compassionately acknowledging the inner critic.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Slow down and break down fast-paced, subconscious thoughts to create separation from the inner critic.
• Bring the inner child into the process, comforting and holding her hand through fearful moments.
• Have a plan to support yourself if faced with negative feedback, such as deleting comments and seeking comfort.
• Write and perform songs that express the journey of dancing with fear rather than trying to overcome it.

Social Media Info:

• Follow Christine on Instagram @ChristineHassler
• Tweet your insights to Christine @ChristineHassler on Twitter

Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

ana James MS, CNS, CDN, is a triple certified nutritionist, functional medicine practitioner and cogitative behavioral therapist. She takes a rare approach to women’s weight loss and hormonal health – putting self-worth at the center of the conversation. As a self-worth expert, James has spent the past 22 years studying the complex relationship between food, metabolic issues, and emotions.

Dana has a Master of Science in Medical Nutrition from Columbia University. She is trained by Institute for Functional Medicine and the American Academy of Anti-Aging Medicine. She wrote the Amazon best selling book, The Archetype Diet, which weaves together food, hormones and self-worth. She now splits her time between Europe and US. 

In this heartfelt episode, Christine Hassler works with Pamela, who is struggling to overcome an unhealthy relationship with food stemming from unresolved childhood trauma. Pamela seeks guidance to heal herself for her well-being and to prevent passing these issues on to her daughter. Christine provides compassionate and insightful coaching, helping Pamela make significant connections and encouraging her to seek ongoing support for her healing journey.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have an unhealthy relationship with food or another aspect of your life?
• Are there unresolved childhood traumas affecting your current behaviors?
• Have you noticed that your children are modeling unhealthy behaviors that concern you?
• Are you seeking a solution for a long-standing issue but feel stuck?

Guest Insights:

• Pamela connects her unhealthy relationship with food to childhood sexual abuse by her stepfather.
• She realizes that her behaviors are affecting her daughter, who believes confident food choices equate to receiving love.
• After disclosing her trauma to a friend, Pamela noticed a temporary improvement in her relationship with food.
• Christine guides Pamela in acknowledging her inner child's pain and understanding the roots of her trauma.

A-Ha Moments:

• Pamela understands that her obsession with food is a coping mechanism for her unresolved trauma.
• By addressing her inner child's need for validation and safety, Pamela experiences relief.
• Christine emphasizes the importance of ongoing support to heal from deep-seated trauma fully.

How to Get Over It:

• Seek therapy or coaching to address unresolved childhood traumas.
• Validate your inner child's experiences and emotions.
• Commit to a healing journey, recognizing that aha moments are just the beginning.
• Engage in inner child work and somatic practices to release trauma from the body.

Resources:

Social Media Info:

• Follow Christine on Instagram @ChristineHassler
• Tweet your insights to Christine @ChristineHassler on Twitter

Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

In this episode I talk about the three things we *must* do if we desire freedom from the issues that are holding us back.  I also go into more detail about what to expect at my live retreat in September that you can register for here: Christinehassler.com/retreat

In this episode, Christine coaches Shreya through her anger, isolation, and self-sabotage struggles. Shreya reveals a long-standing separation from others, characterized by intense rage and difficulty forming connections. Christine helps her uncover the root causes of these feelings, tracing them back to her childhood and an emotionally unavailable mother. Together, they explore strategies for healing, self-compassion, and the importance of relational dynamics in overcoming deep-seated patterns.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have a history of pushing people away?
• Do you often feel angry or rageful?
• Are you mean to others despite not wanting to be?
• Were you a deeply feeling child in a home where that wasn't safe, causing you to find it hard to deal with pain?

Guest Insights:

• Shreya feels a persistent separation from others, accompanied by intense anger.
• She acknowledges a tumultuous relationship with her emotionally unavailable mother.
• She recognizes her anger as a protective mechanism to avoid being hurt.
• Despite feeling broken, she experiences a meaningful connection with Christine during the call, proving she can relate to others.

A-Ha Moments:

• Christine highlights that Shreya's awareness of her "weird" behavior indicates it's not her true self.
• Understanding that pushing people away is a defense mechanism provides Shreya with a new perspective on her actions.
• Recognizing the role of her childhood experiences in shaping her current behavior is a step toward healing.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Seek one-on-one therapy or coaching to work through relational dynamics and patterns.
• Allow the protective part of yourself to express its fears through journaling or audio notes, then connect with the part of you that craves connection.
• Practice self-compassion and recognize the protective nature of your anger and isolation.

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Erika Alaura is a psychic, channel, healer and coach. She is a certified consultant in Spiritual Response Therapy, a ThetaHealing® instructor and practitioner, Reiki Energy Healer, Angel Intuitive through Doreen Virtue and a conduit for the Deeksha Oneness Blessing. She's a Master Coach through Evolved Leadership and has studied life coaching and Byron Katie's work through Martha Beck's life coaching program.  Erika integrates her love of Tarot into her sessions as a powerful way to dialogue with the Soul's higher wisdom.

Welcome to "Over It and On With It," I'm Christine Hassler, your host. 

In this episode, I coach Mallorie through her fear and money blocks, providing a blend of practical and spiritual advice. Join us for an enlightening discussion about internal and external work and uncover actionable insights to overcome your financial fears.

Mallorie shares her struggles with fear and limiting beliefs about money, which stems from her childhood experiences. Christine helps her identify the root causes and guides her in shifting her mindset and establishing boundaries. The conversation emphasizes the importance of addressing inner child triggers and creating a new narrative around financial security.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have blocks and fear around money?
• Do you often say, "I can't afford it"?
• Were you raised in a home where money was a source of stress and strain?
• Do you often doubt your ability to achieve your goals due to financial constraints?

Guest Insights:

• Fear of judgment and failure, especially around financial security, can stem from childhood experiences.
• Recognizing that fear is often tied to inner child triggers is crucial for overcoming financial anxiety.
• Establishing boundaries with family members who perpetuate negative beliefs about money can help break the cycle.

A-Ha Moments:

• Acknowledging and addressing fear-based thoughts about money can help shift your mindset.
• Connecting with your deeper values and desires can motivate you to overcome financial fears.
• Practical steps, such as handling unexpected expenses (calmly and groundedly), are essential.

How to Get Over It:

• Recognize and affirm that inherited financial fears are not your beliefs.
• Establish clear boundaries with family members around discussions of money.
• Shift your focus from fear to gratitude and present-moment safety.
• Regularly connect with your inner child to provide reassurance and emotional support.

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Brett Larkin is an award-winning digital pioneer in online yoga classes and teacher training, a successful wellness entrepreneur, author, and busy mom.

Brett’s new book “Yoga Life: Habits, Poses, and Breathwork to Channel Joy Amidst the Chaos” (Balance) empowers you to design your own yoga style. Practice yoga in a way that honors who YOU are, in all your beautiful uniqueness. In a world with personalized medicine and personalized nutrition, you should of course have your own personalized yoga ritual. This is how yoga was always MEANT to be.

In this 2017 re-air, we delve into dealing with difficult people, setting boundaries, and compensatory strategies. Melissa shares her struggles with her in-laws' criticism and lack of support, revealing the challenge of maintaining her self-worth and confidence.

Melissa moved away from her family and friends to be with her husband. Over time, her in-laws' criticism and lack of support have worn her down. They accuse her of controlling her husband and ruining his life, leading her to question her decisions and struggle with asserting herself. Christine helps Melissa explore her compensatory strategy of people-pleasing and the deeper issues stemming from her past that contribute to her difficulties.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are there difficult people in your life who hurt you, yet you seek their approval?
• Do you struggle to set boundaries and stand up for yourself?
• Are you a caretaker who prioritizes others' happiness over your own?

Guest Insights:

• Melissa moved to be with her husband and now regrets leaving her support system.
• Her in-laws criticize her, causing her to doubt herself and feel unconfident.
• After seeing how deeply it affects her, her husband has started to stand up for her.
• Melissa has a history of being a caretaker and seeks approval from others.

A-Ha Moments:

• Melissa realizes her lack of confidence stems from trying to fit in and please others.
• Christine highlights that her in-laws' behavior mirrors Melissa's self-doubt.
• The episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and standing firm in truth.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Acknowledge your emotions and release pent-up feelings through writing or physical activity.
• Limit time with unsupportive people and seek out supportive friends.
• Practice assertive communication by setting clear, respectful boundaries.
• Focus on self-acceptance and authenticity rather than trying to fit in or please others.

Resources:

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In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Alexa, who has struggled with body image, self-esteem, and her relationship with food her entire life. Alexa shares her journey from childhood, where she was surrounded by family members who perpetuated negative body images, to her recent progress post-divorce. Christine helps Alexa uncover the underlying emotional causes of her issues, focusing on unexpressed anger and rage towards her parents and ex-husband. Through the session, Christine guides Alexa to recognize and release these pent-up emotions to transform her relationship with her body and herself.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you struggle with body image and self-esteem issues?
• Have you experienced negative influences from family or significant others regarding your body?
• Do you find yourself turning to food for comfort or as an enemy?
• Are there unexpressed emotions, particularly anger, that might affect your well-being?

Guest Insights:

• Alexa's body image issues stem from childhood influences and family dynamics.
• Her negative relationship with food is tied to emotional comfort and self-punishment.
• Unexpressed anger towards her parents and ex-husband has been internalized, affecting her body and self-esteem.
• Recognizing and expressing her anger is crucial for her healing process.

A-Ha Moments:

• Alexa realizes that her negative self-talk and body hatred are survival strategies she adopted from her environment.
• Understanding that unexpressed emotions, especially anger, can manifest physically, contributing to weight issues.
• The importance of finding her voice and expressing her true feelings is to release emotional baggage and transform her relationship with her body.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Express Your Anger: Allow yourself to feel and express your anger healthily. This could be through journaling, therapy, or physical activities.
• Compassion for Yourself: Shift the narrative from self-loathing to self-compassion. Understand that you did the best you could to survive.
• Inner Child Work: Connect with your inner child and provide the love and support that were missing during your upbringing.
• Find Your Fierceness: Embrace your anger and fierceness as power sources to make transformative changes.

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In this interview we talk about our memories. What and how we remember and how we can improve our memory. Dr. Ranganath is one of the world’s top memory researchers. He is a Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience at UC Davis, where he leads their Dynamic Memory Lab. His book WHY WE REMEMBER radically reframes the way we think about the everyday act of remembering and reveals the role memory plays in every aspect of our lives, from recalling faces and names to learning, decision-making, trauma and healing.

In this episode, Christine Hassler speaks with Sabrina, a single mom struggling to break the cycle of emotional unavailability that has plagued her family for generations. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, healing past wounds, and creating a safe and supportive environment for Sabrina's son.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Did you have a parent who was unavailable, and does feeling disconnected or dismissed trigger you?
• Are you a parent struggling with your child's independence and need for space?
• Do you know that healing starts within, but you're unsure how to begin?

Guest Insights:

• Sabrina's Background: Sabrina is a single mom whose parents were emotionally unavailable. She recognizes that her father's drinking and her mother's choice of a similarly unavailable partner impacted her.
• Current Struggle: Sabrina wants to break this cycle with her 12-year-old son, who is becoming more distant as he grows older.
• Coaching Challenges: Sabrina's tendency to over-coach and talk too much pushes her son away. Her unresolved anger towards men and trust issues further complicate her relationship with her son.

A-Ha Moments:

• Mirror Effect: Children reflect on their parents' unresolved issues. Sabrina's son is mirroring her feelings of being dismissed and not prioritized.
• Generational Patterns: Breaking the cycle starts with addressing her inner child wounds and not projecting unmet needs onto her son.
• Letting Go: Sabrina needs to let her son navigate his relationship with his father on his terms and provide unconditional support without overstepping.

How to Get Over It:

• Self-Compassion: Acknowledge and be proud of the effort and awareness in tackling tough parental questions.
• Inner Child Work: Engage in healing work to address unresolved anger and grief towards men and her childhood experiences.
• Space and Support: Allow her son to explore his relationship with his father while being a supportive presence, not an overprotective one.
• Professional Help: Consider working with a coach or therapist to navigate the challenges of parenting a tween and personal healing.

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