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CC: We Are in the Great Awakening. How to Navigate and Understanding Your Role 0

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Jun 6, 2020

In this episode, Christine speaks about how to navigate this challenging time with love. She also shares her insight on how and why this is the "Great Awakening" we have all been preparing for. Christine shares how we can all heal racism and how being anti-racist is truly about being a loving and awakening human being along with action steps you can take. Learn how you can step into your unique role in this changing ecosystem. Receive a prayer you can use to help shift mass consciousness.

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EP 247: I Feel Like a Failure with Alex 0

Jun 3, 2020

This call is about self-compassion and empowerment. Today’s caller, Alex, judges herself for not being where she feels she ‘should’ be in life and for not breaking free from a toxic relationship. She wants guidance on how to move forward but must first work through her unresolved wounding. No one makes significant changes by beating themselves up. True transformation and true change come from love.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode247]

When we judge ourselves as a failure we continue to feel like a failure because adding judgment only creates more self-loathing and it lowers our self-worth. It’s important to know that at any given moment we are doing the best we can at the time.

It’s not an excuse not to do better. It is like Maya Angelou says ‘the first time you didn’t know any better, the second time you know better, so do better.’ We always have the opportunity. There is always another time. The amazing thing about life is that as time keeps going on we are consistently presented with additional opportunities to do better. But, if you look back and only see yourself as a failure you’re not going to have the confidence and self-love you need to actually do better the next time you will just keep repeating the same ‘failure.’

It is important that we feel empowered so we don’t give our power away to others or exert our power over others.

Take a deep dive into how to understand your attachment style and heal your inner child in our three-day virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live, it will be recorded. ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you feel like you’re failing at life and not where you should be?
Do you have an alcoholic or addict parent and maybe did you have another parent that you were close to — maybe even a little too close?
Is it hard for you to break free of toxic relationships or situations even though you know that they are not healthy for you?

Alex’s Question:

Alex is tired of feeling like a victim and would like clarity on how to move forward in her life.

Alex’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She walked away from a toxic relationship but keeps in contact with him.
She is looking for a new job.
She feels like a failure and has hit rock bottom.
Her father is an alcoholic and a workaholic.
Her father didn’t pay much attention to her.
She lost touch with herself at a young age.
She feels alone.
She didn’t find value in therapy.
She is very close to her mother and doesn’t want to disappoint her.
She carries around shame.
She wants to learn to love herself.
She is love-starved.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Research codependence and work to break free of her codependent patterns.
Focus on self-compassion and empowerment.
Remind herself daily that she is enough and she doesn’t need anyone else’s approval.
Believe that she can take care of herself and meet her own needs.
Consider getting a coach or therapist to guide her.
Reparent herself and speak to herself in a more loving way.
Investigate her spiritual life more.

Takeaways:

Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.
Look where you might have codependent patterns. Do some online research or check out Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie.
Make a list of all your perceived failures or mistakes and reframe them. For every single one, I want you to write down at least three things you learn from them to start to see your failures and mistakes from a different perspective.
Do something that fills your cup. Do something that makes you feel safe and nurtured, something that calms that inner child.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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May 30, 2020

Enjoy this information rich episode where Christine speaks with one of the thought-leaders in women's brain health. Learn how you can protect your memory and avoid Alzheimer's disease. Dr. Lisa Mosconi, PhD, is the director of the Women's Brain Initiative and associate director of the Alzheimer's Prevention Clinic at Weill Cornell Medical College, where she serves as an associate professor of neuroscience in neurology and radiology. In addition, she is an adjunct faculty member at the NYU Department of Psychiatry and the author of Brain Food and The XX Brain.

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EP 246: Break Through Intimacy Blocks with Jasmine 0

May 27, 2020

This call is about overcoming a desire for control to feel safe. Today’s caller, Jasmine, is wondering why she has a strange relationship with her boyfriend and her sister and why she sabotages her work experience. What it comes down to is an issue with control and fear of intimacy created to protect herself due to her early experiences with an emotionally unavailable parent.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode246]

During a time when we feel out of control or too controlled we develop a compensatory strategy of ‘I have to be in control of everything to protect myself to avoid intimacy.’

Attachment styles are developed based on our early experiences in relationships. In the avoidant attachment style, we avoid or fear emotional intimacy because usually had a parent who was aloof, emotionally removed, unaffectionate, rejecting, or not attuned to our childhood emotional needs.

Maybe the parent provided food and shelter but children need affection and nurturing as well. When a child doesn’t have emotional availability or affection they can develop an avoidant attachment style. In adulthood, this can show up as being extremely independent and self-directed, controlling, and often uncomfortable with intimacy.

Those with an avoidant attachment style often get the rap of being commitment-phobes but it’s more that they have difficulty with commitment. They either rationalize themselves out of deep intimacy or they have certain complaints when in a relationship.

Grounding ourselves in the present moment and breathwork are great for people who have an avoidant attachment style.

To learn more about compensatory strategies get a free download from my book, Expectation Hangover at ChristineHassler.com/CS.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you have a habit of pushing people away?
Do you give too much advice to certain people?
Do you remember, as a child, having a lot of affection being hugged and feeling safe and nurtured in your home or do you remember feeling kind of alone?
Do you often sabotage an opportunity or relationship professional or personal even if it’s something you really want?

Jasmine’s Question:

Jasmine has a difficult time connecting in her relationships and pulls away before she gets what she wants.

Jasmine’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is trying to change the role she plays in her sister’s life.
She shrugs off affection when her boyfriend reaches out.
She wants things done a certain way.
She has adopted a protective pattern of control.
She has had very little intimacy in her life.
Her mother was emotionally unavailable.
As a child, she learned that loving other people meant telling them what to do.
Her father wasn’t around.
She doesn’t recognize the progress she has made.
She may have a deep fear of rejection.
She has a body memory of being rejected when giving love.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Research the avoidant attachment style.
Check-in with herself, with love, to see how she is doing.
Be more compassionate with herself.
Release self-judgment and add unconditional love.
Ground herself in the present because intimacy happens in the present moment.
Adopt the mantra of ‘I am safe. That was then. This is now.’ and ‘It is safe to let love in.’

Takeaways:

Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.
To learn more about compensatory strategies get a free download from my book, Expectation Hangover at ChristineHassler.com/CS.
Be patient with yourself and your growth.
Practice by naming your feelings and saying to yourself ‘I am safe. That was then. This is now.’
Listen to my Coaches Corner episode #217 on attachment styles.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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May 23, 2020

You are in for a treat a very talented and inspirational guest joins Christine on the podcast. IN-Q is a National Poetry Slam champion, award-winning poet, and multi-platinum songwriter. He is on Oprah's SuperSoul 100 list of the world's most influential thought leaders. He inspires audiences around the world through his live performances and storytelling workshops. 
IN-Q brings his words to paper in his heartfelt and entertaining debut book Inquire Within. His poetry contemplates themes of love, life, presence, forgiveness, and social issues including climate change, gun violence, racism and more.

After hearing IN-Q and reading his poetry, you’ll never look at poetry the same way again.

Learn more and grab a copy here: https://in-q.com/

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EP 245: Stop Trying to Prove Yourself with Britney 0

May 20, 2020

This is a call about knowing that you matter without constantly proving yourself. Today’s caller, Britney, is putting a lot of pressure on herself. She wants guidance on building her career but until she heals her inner child she will keep running into roadblocks. If you are career-driven you may relate to this.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode245]

What we all need the most is for someone to really see us and understand us.

If we are addicted to anything, be it success or alcohol, it is an attempt to cure pain or heal a wound. Any addiction is an attempt to numb something. We can be addicted to success or making something out of ourselves but that is not the purpose of our life. The purpose of the human experience is to come to the awareness that we are whole, complete, and loved no matter what we do. And, we are someone no matter what we do. We are one with everyone. That is why we are here.

When we do inner child work and we do the work of the spirit we realize there is nothing external that solves our internal tasks. There is nothing external that completes us. Inner child work can lead us to more aligned and greater success because we’re not hitting as many roadblocks.

I don’t want you to think that accepting ourselves and loving ourselves makes us complacent. Accepting and loving ourselves provides us with inspiration and success because it comes from a more aligned place.

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Take a deep dive into how to heal your inner child in our 3-day virtual Inner Child workshop on June 5th-7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live it will be recorded. Take advantage of the early bird discount if you sign up by May 25th at ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you feel like you are not living into your purpose or potential or like you should be doing more?
Did you have parents that were very success-oriented and expected a lot from you?
As a child, did you have a passion for something artistic or outside of the conventional box or what your parents maybe wanted you to do but you were discouraged from pursuing it because you were told you could never make money at it?
Do you feel blocked in the area of your life and it seems like no matter what you do you just can’t shift it?

Britney’s Question:

Britney would like to know more about stepping into her purpose.

Britney’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She disassociates and has self-worth issues.
She feels she is a strong hustler but is tired of it.
She is having trouble taking her career to the next level.
She feels she is not where she is supposed to be.
She pushes away love because she feels she doesn’t deserve it.
She was told she wouldn’t succeed in the arts.
She craved support and validation from her parents.
She feels like she doesn’t matter and has to prove herself.
Her parents believe the way out of suffering is money and success.
She is breaking a generational pattern.
She wants to play more.
She consistently looks for something external to heal internally.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Learn to release the expectations she puts on herself.
Perform the Empty Chair Process.
Look inside herself and not to external sources for healing.

Takeaways:

Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild and get a $100 early bird discount if you register before May 25th.
Write a letter to that little boy or little girl inside of you about how worthy they are, what you love about them, and start validating yourself, not for what you do but for who you are.
If you are carrying anger or resentment write a couple a few letters that you never mail.
Stop hustling and do the internal work. Tap more into your intuition and inner child.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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May 16, 2020

Influential thought-leader, lifelong martial-artist, dedicated Yoga and meditation practitioner, retired Navy SEAL commander, successful serial entrepreneur, best-selling author, selfless mentor and teacher—Mark Divine joins Christine on the podcast today.

We discuss how to be courageous during this challenging time. Mark teaches us the 7 Commitments essential to building elite teams (and just being a great leader of yourself!) that are part of his new book, Staring down the Wolf.

Learn more here: staringdownthewolf.com

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EP 244: Finding the Right Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energy With Mark 0

May 13, 2020

This is a call about discovering your purpose by healing past wounds. Today’s caller, Mark, is feeling confused about his purpose after his divorce. He is struggling with his identity as he obsesses about his ex. After discussing his childhood, his wounding may have come from a family member long before he got married. Moving forward is clearer when you clean up the past.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode244]

There are so many ways we can be disconnected from our purpose. One of the main ways we become disconnected is when we play the role of peacekeeper. Our unconscious mind starts to become more concerned with being a peacekeeper than fulfilling our soul’s destiny. We believe that being a peacekeeper keeps us safe and gets us validation. But being a peacekeeper or being what other people want us to be, drains a lot of our energy.

And, it’s important when finding our purpose that we deal with our anger, resentment, sadness, and shame because often our purpose is underneath those things. Once we see through the unconscious programming, we understand better who we really are.

When you clean up the past, the future becomes clear. And in the clarity, you know what your next steps are. You know what to do about your job or relationships because old wounding and unconscious programming are no longer blinding you from seeing your path.

All human beings have both feminine and masculine energies they need to nurture. Our masculine energy thrives on the muse-like energy that is feminine. Feminine energy is inspiring, evocative, innovative, encouraging, and temptress.

We are in an unprecedented time of uncertainty and worry and overwhelm are running rampant. Do you have the tools to rise to your full strength, wisdom, and power? Please join me on May 13–16 for the Resilience Summit hosted by Ashley Turner. There are 24 interviews, including mine, about the science, spirituality, and psychology of resilience and best practices to build your inner strength. Visit ChristineHassler.com/ResilienceSummit.

Join Stefanos and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you ever feel depressed, frustrated, or lack motivation?
Do you question what your purpose is and often feel like you’re destined to do great things but you just don’t know what they are?
Growing up, did you feel you had a good balance of masculine and feminine behavior modeled to you?
Do you have an ex or any person in your life that is not in your life anymore that you just keep obsessing about or can’t quite seem to let them go?

Mark’s Question:

Mark recently got divorced but is still obsessing about his ex and would like guidance on how to move forward and find purpose in his life.

Mark’s Key Insights and Ahas:

He is critical of himself.
He says he is depressed.
He is searching for his purpose.
He married his ‘mom.’
He has never felt accepted by the women in his life.
He considers his mother and ex strong women.
His mother emasculated him when he was younger.
He spent his life trying to please and appease the feminine.
His father is his best friend.
He feels he was destined to lead.
He had to be the peacekeeper in his family.
He is afraid of his anger.
He craves love and acceptance.
He wants permission to be himself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

He needs to find a healthy release for his anger and resentment.
He needs to find a healthy model of feminine energy.
He needs to write letters to his ex and his mother he doesn’t intend to send.
He needs to tap into his feminine energy and find the muse inside himself.
He has to stop making getting a woman’s approval his purpose.
He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Takeaways:

Journal about what your parents modeled for you around masculine and feminine energy.
Are there any F-U letters you need to write to release some anger?
Go to ChristineHassler.com/AngerRelease to get the Temper Tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover.
Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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May 9, 2020

This is a MUST listen for all women and men who want to understand women better. Functional medicine and woman's hormone expert Alisa Vitti joins Christine to discuss how our "infradian rhythm" which is tied to our menstrual cycle impacts all aspects of your life. You'll learn what to eat, how to exercise, and how to work depending on what phase of your cycle you are in. By tapping into your biological rhythm, you'll get more done with less effort, fuel your body with the nutrients it needs and enjoy the freedom that comes from living in FLO.

Alissa Vitta is also the author of Woman Code and In the Flo. The is the creator of MyFLO, the #1 paid period app and the first and only period tracking and cycle syncing app. Learn more at floliving.com

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EP 243: Are You Sabotaging Yourself Because of Low Self-Worth? With Odysseus 0

May 6, 2020

This is a call about imposter syndrome and feeling worthy. Today’s caller, Odysseus, feels that time is running out for him to have a deep, loving relationship or to have the career he desires. He would like guidance on how to ‘fix’ his pattern of stopping and starting things. We work through his limiting beliefs and discuss ways he can begin accepting himself.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode243]

A lot of times imposter syndrome comes from having competing intentions. We have our grown-up conscious self who wants to go out and help people, be a visionary, and have a big business but then we’ve got this younger part of us, our inner child or adolescent, who feels like they’re going to get rejected and doesn’t feel safe. It holds us back and that’s why we often feel like we’re taking one step forward and one step back.

And, for all of you that use words like quitter, lazy, self-sabotage — all those kinds of things — please don’t call yourself those names anymore. Those patterns are protective patterns that think that they’re doing you good so you need to understand them rather than hate on them and judge them and think to change them.

In many ways, it can be harder for men to connect with their inner child. But both men and women have a little child inside of them and he or she doesn’t want the shutdown, old-school masculine or the overwhelmed, unsupported feminine parent. It wants a loving present parent. So, give yourself that gift.

Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on navigating uncertainty and dealing with expectation hangovers on May 6th and the upcoming call on imposter syndrome. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the library of past and future group calls. Become part of my community for only $20.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you have a habit of what feels like quitting?
Would you say you are a bit of the black sheep of your family?
Do you want to do something but you just keep getting in your own way?
Do you have a fix-it approach to personal development?

Odysseus’s Question:

Odysseus would like guidance about a relationship and his finances and career.

Odysseus’s Key Insights and Ahas:

He feels he quits things too soon and he doesn’t put forth much effort.
He is a personal growth junkie.
He has cheated on his ex-girlfriends.
He battles with his limiting beliefs.
He has a pattern of low self-worth.
He doesn’t feel worthy of having a good relationship.
He didn’t feel wanted by his brothers as a child.
He was bullied when he was young.
He has Crohn’s disease.
He has a distant connection with his father.
His parents didn’t know how to parent his energy.
He aspires to be a coach but doubts he will follow through.
He feels like his time is running out.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

He needs to be kinder and gentler to himself.
He needs to search inside for who he really is.
He needs to create another pattern that protects him without limiting himself through reparenting.
He needs to start listening to his inner child and journal about what he says.
He needs to move into acceptance of himself and stop the judgments.
He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Takeaways:

Journal with your inner child. Choose different ages and write down both sides of your conversation.
Look at where imposter syndrome comes up for you and find the competing intention. There is a part of you that wants to move forward and be seen but the scared part of you that wants to protect yourself.
Celebrate your progress even if it’s just a small step in the direction you want to go.
Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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May 2, 2020

In this special coaches corner, Christine guides you through a beautiful meditation that will bring you both calm and clarity during this time.

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EP 242: Stop Being Needy with Carson 0

Apr 29, 2020

This is a call about overcoming codependent and anxious patterns. Today’s caller, Carson, is looking outside of himself for his worth. He would like to know how he can begin to heal and learn to trust himself. This call is a classic case of looking for what we didn't get as a child in other people, as an adult.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode242]

Anything that made you feel unsafe, small, or unimportant as a child or adolescent can create codependent behaviors. The need to attach to someone else develops as a way to counteract the feelings of being small or unimportant. You try to grab on to someone to feel needed or to feel important in their eyes. Codependence can work in two ways. You could be the person that another person needs such as becoming a caretaker or rescuer. Or, you can be super needy.

The behavior of grasping onto others and being needy is not sustainable.

No one outside of us can make these wounds go away. We have to fill the voids ourselves. You have to learn to trust yourself so you can stop grabbing or clinging onto other people or allowing others to cling onto you to feel worthy. If you have any codependent patterns running, you must learn to get your needs met inside yourself.

If you resonate with having similar feelings know that you can heal. Nothing is insurmountable.

Stefanos and I will be hosting our second ‘Be the Queen’ virtual teaching and coaching on May 5th. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Did you have your needs met as a child? If not, has that made you needy as an adult?
Have you ever thought that you have codependent behaviors?
Do people consistently disappoint, misunderstand, or abandon you?
Have you ever felt truly seen or understood by someone?

Carson’s Question:

Carson would like guidance on how to release his fear of abandonment and begin to trust again.

Carson’s Key Insights and Ahas:

He has been struggling with his fear of abandonment.
He is in a long-distance relationship.
He doesn’t feel supported or accepted by his family.
He is codependent and has an anxious attachment style.
He has felt misunderstood his entire life.
He doesn’t trust himself.
He has a creative outlet.
He is outsourcing his relief and happiness.
He replays past situations in his head.
He is seeking the things he didn’t get as a child.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

He should do the release writing practice.
He should do the temper tantrum technique.
He should become an observer of his needs.
He needs to say ‘I am safe and I am loved’ when he feels anxious.

Takeaways:

To break free of an anxious pattern, identify it, name it, acknowledge it, and accept it.
Don’t slap labels on yourself. You may have a part of you that is codependent but that is not who you are.
Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

CC: What We Can Learn from Astrology with Jade Luna 0

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Apr 25, 2020

Today Asterian Astrologer Jade Luna joins me to discuss how the stars predicted this pandemic, what we can learn from it, and how we can move forward. Jade and I speak about the "new normal" emerging and this time as a beginning of a massive change of consciousness.

Jade S. Luna is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format. Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia.

Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations worldwide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high-level practice for over 18 years.

You can learn more or book a session with him here:

http://www.asterianastrology.com/

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EP 241: Why Anger is a Gift with Keira 0

Apr 22, 2020

This is a call about how to heal anger and discover the passion and creativity that lie underneath. Today’s caller, Keira, feels she got the short end of the stick in life. She has done a lot of personal growth work and introspection but she is still angry and sad and wants guidance on how to find her way through her feelings.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode241]

As children or adolescents, we make unconscious vows of ‘I will never be like mom,’ or ‘I’ll never be like dad,’ or ‘I will never be like that person who teased me,’ but just making that vow or that promise is not enough. If you don’t heal the wounds that perpetuated making that vow, either you become like them or you go so far in the opposite direction that it becomes a shadow side.

If we’re angry all the time or angry at the world it breeds a deep sense of low self-worth. People who are angry generally have low self-worth because unprocessed anger creates an intense sense of separation. Which is another reason I’m so passionate about helping people process anger in a healthy way.

Anger misdirected is dangerous but anger directed in a healthy way can be deeply healing. Underneath that anger is where we often find our passion and our purpose.

If you feel shut down or you don’t know what your purpose is or what you are supposed to do, do anger release work to see what is underneath your anger. You will become a clearer channel for ideas and innovation.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you ever feel like life just doesn’t work out for you to matter how hard you try?
Do you feel angry and/or sad and no matter how much personal development work you do?
When it comes to emotions in your home growing up what did you observe?
Have you been told you’re too emotional or too reactive or too irrational or *fill in the blank* and you're questioning whether or not it is true?

Keira’s Question:

Keira would like guidance on how to let go of her anger so she can enjoy life.

Keira’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is emotionally addicted to being angry.
She judges herself for not being able to change.
She wants to enjoy life.
Her father let her down.
She judges her mother for not being strong for her.
She feels her older brother let her down.
She gets triggered easily.
She believes her soul is a passionate one.
She is yearning to uncover her creativity.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to be grateful for how her anger has served her.
She needs to learn how to channel and use her anger.
She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover.
She needs to dive deeper into her wounding to free herself of it.
She needs to share her feelings with her mother by writing letters she doesn’t intend to send.

Takeaways:

Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.
Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.
Find your voice during this time, whatever that means to you. Don’t be too passive or too reactive. Find your middle ground.
Channel your feelings into writing, speaking, dancing, cooking, creating; something non-result-based that is just fun.
Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

CC: Understanding and Healing Trauma with Elaine Miller 0

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Apr 18, 2020

This is an incredibly informative and compassionate discussion about trauma. Trauma is something this is often misunderstood and mistreated which is why I'm so grateful to have had Elaine, who has been on the front lines of trauma, shed some light on this subject.

Elaine Miller-Karas is the Director of Innovation, Vision and Creativity and co-founder of the Trauma Resource Institute and author of the book, Building Resiliency to Trauma, the Trauma and Community Resiliency Models^®(2015). She has worked internationally to bring healing to the world’s community. Her models to date have been brought to 102 countries in Asia, Africa, North America, the Mid-East, South America and Europe. She is a recognized international speaker and author. Elaine’s book was recently selected by the United Nations curated on-line library as one of the innovations that can help meet the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals. Elaine is a founding member of the International Transformational Resilience Coalition and a leading advocate with regard to the impact of climate change on the human condition.

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EP 240: Finding Your Worth with Eliza 0

Apr 15, 2020

This is a call about releasing your anger to find your worth. Today’s caller, Eliza, desires a relationship but doesn’t feel worthy. As with many people who struggle with not-enoughness, unworthiness, or with people who are stuck, she has confused acceptance with resignation and her passion, fire, and worth lies beneath her anger.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode240]

Emotional release work is like a workout. You may not feel like doing it if you didn’t sleep well the night before or you had one too many glasses of wine but after you do it you feel so much better. During this time, emotional release work is very important. This isn't just a time to chill or to just clean out your closet. It’s time to bring your shadow out into the light of awareness and be willing to feel your emotions. That’s when things will start to move and shift.

Please don’t lie to yourself or brush things under the rug. Don’t harbor resentment and call it acceptance. Acceptance is not avoiding confrontation; that’s complacency, resignation, and emotional repression. You might say that you’ve accepted so-and-so for who they are but deep down you probably still have anger and pain.

I believe that acceptance and forgiveness are beautiful places for all of us to be in but good luck being a human being and trying to bypass your emotions and get right to acceptance and forgiveness. That is a spiritual bypass. I hope that in this global Expectation Hangover we’re having more people will do emotional release writing, emotional release work, and the temper tantrum technique to look at the ways that they’re no longer able to sustain their behavior.

Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.

Stefan and I will be hosting our second ‘Be the Queen’ virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you struggle with feeling not enough or unworthiness?
Did you have a parent you felt shut you down? Maybe you felt they were disappointed in you or they never looked at you with love or adoration?
Do you feel stuck? Do you have trouble motivating yourself?
Do you have a hard time speaking your truth to people? Do you prefer to stay in the status quo?

Eliza’s Question:

Eliza wants to be in a relationship but feels unworthy of love.

Eliza’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She believes she is unlikeable.
She doesn’t feel good enough, especially at work.
She blames and judges herself.
She is fluent in the ‘I am not enough’ language.
She believes that blaming herself will help her heal.
She would like to forgive her parents freely.
She didn’t feel seen by her father.
She believes if she accepts her father then she will feel worthy.
She doesn’t feel loved by her family.
She swallows resentment to try and keep the peace.
She wants to feel loved and accepted.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should join our Be the Queen program.
She needs to change her self-talk and re-parent herself.
She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover.

Takeaways:

Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.
Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Free Fourself From Anxiety with EFT Led by Jess Ortner 0

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Apr 11, 2020

Jessica Ortner joins Christine to speak about how the Emotional Freedom Technique, which is also called "Tapping," can help bring relief from difficult emotions and thoughts. Jess is a producer of The Tapping Solution, the breakthrough documentary film on EFT/meridian tapping. She guides you through a tapping process to help release worry and tension in this episode. You can also more free EFT resources at www.christinehassler.com/tapping.

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EP 239: Finding Faith When You Think You Don’t Have It with Emma 0

Apr 8, 2020

This is a call about accessing faith when your logical mind has doubts. Today’s caller, Emma, is feeling anxious about not being able to access her faith. She says the mental understanding of God has her optimistic about the future but she wasn’t experientially getting it. And, an uncertain future is exacerbating her anxiety.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode239]

A relationship with a higher power can be complicated just like a relationship with people. We can go through ebbs and flows where we are totally into it and we feel it and then there are times when we are questioning everything.

Part of the reason many of us feel anger toward God is that we see a lot of suffering. We even see something like the pandemic and wonder if there really is a God. Remember that we are made from the image and likeness of God. The reason there is suffering in the world isn’t necessarily because God or the universe did it, it is our free will that has created what we live with on a day-to-day basis.

The universe, I believe, is always helping us move more and more toward evolution. It points out the contrast of when we are out of alignment with harmony, balance, and love. And as a collective, we have been out of alignment for a long time which is just one of the reasons we are experiencing this difficult time.

If we project human behavior onto God or onto the universe it will never make sense to us. We have to see our higher power, without judgment. God/Universe is an all-knowing, all-loving thing. All it wants is for us to know ourselves as it, to know ourselves as unconditional love, untapped possibility, and oneness.

We forget that God exists inside of each of us and we live in a world where we are still evolving. You don’t have to earn God. The more we shift into the energy of love, the energy of gratitude, and the energy of worthiness, there will be less suffering.

How can you experience the unconditional love of the universe if you don’t feel worthy to receive it?

Join Stef and me three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and download the call from 4/4/20 about anger.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

What does faith mean to you? Do you feel like you have it?
Do you want to have faith but you just don’t feel it?
Do you think you are worthy of being loved and supported by God or a higher power?
Are you a bit angry at God and the universe and you are not sure what to do about it?

Emma’s Question:

Emma doesn’t understand why she can’t access feelings of faith; she would like guidance about how to find meaning and connection.

Emma’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is feeling anxious about the future.
She believes she doesn’t have faith.
She doesn’t connect with any particular religion.
She has had bouts of extreme uncertainty.
She doesn’t believe things are fair.
She has a pattern of being unable to express her feelings.
She believes she is not enough and unworthy.
She was bullied when she was a child.
She has been repressing anger for a long time.
Deep down she remembers what it is like to be connected.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code ‘HEALTH’ and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.
She needs a good emotional release.
She needs to work through the anger by doing the empty chair practice putting God in the opposite chair.

Takeaways:

Download my free meditation to help you slip into your sense of faith and sense of spirituality. Download it at ChristineHassler.com/Faith.
Tap into your worthiness by using a picture of yourself as a child and feel into love and worthiness.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Make Your Love Life Thrive During This Challenging Time (for Couples and Singles!) 0

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Apr 4, 2020

Join Christine as Stef as they offer tips for both couples and singles to keep love alive. If you're in a relationship, your partner can either be your greatest asset or the greatest source of irritation . . . we support you in making him or her your asset and share specific ways you can do that. And if you are single, you're going to love what we have to say about why this is a fantastic time to call in love. We also discuss our program for women who are calling in their man: www.christinehassler.com/bethequeen

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EP 238: Your Passion and Purpose Might Be Hiding Underneath Your Anger with Kirsten 0

Apr 1, 2020

This is a call about releasing anger to find passion and calm. Today’s caller, Kirsten, is feeling anxious about what comes next for her. She is a stay-at-home mom who has fallen into the trap of looking for something external to relieve something internal. But as you know, something external never fixes or resolves what’s going on internally.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode238]

For many of us, we are so busy being ‘human doings’ that we forget about being human beings. And during this time when we are staying at home, we have an opportunity to come face-to-face with who we really are because we are less distracted. I encourage you, during this time, to go within and delve into nothingness and see what comes up. That's why my Mastery course is such a good investment at this time. This is the perfect time to do your inner work.

Our passion and our true calling often reside underneath our anger. If we haven’t addressed our anger, especially as women who tend not to let it out, it is hard to find our passion. And, passion and purpose is a juicy, fiery energy.

What we think we want to do often comes from a place of conditioning. But when we release the energy of compassion, we open up the second chakra of our body and when we pull the anger out all of the passion opens up.

Releasing anger in a healthy way, as in Expectation Hangover, basically it is finding a safe space. It is important that we voice our feelings at our parents in particular, not at them directly but in a therapeutic way. They don’t need to know about it. In our effort to protect them, we suppress our feelings. When we get the anger out, let it go and eventually get to forgiveness, real forgiveness, then we can have healthier relationships with our parents.

It is important to release our anger, release our sadness and to get our energy up and moving so it doesn’t turn into anxiety, fear, pain, or disease.

Would you like to work directly with me? I have two Private Client spots open. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you wondering what’s next? Are you returning to the work environment or reevaluating what you want to be doing?
Did you have a parent who had a temper but maybe it wasn’t directed at you so you could see their loving side so you don’t think it impacted you?
Do you have a hard time feeling and expressing anger in a healthy way? Or, do you feel guilty about acknowledging your anger at someone you love because you feel protective of that person?
How do you deal in calm when there is nothing to do?
Does anxiety get triggered when you don’t know what is next?

Kirsten’s Question:

Kirsten feels lost and is trying to find herself now that her kids are getting older.

Kirsten’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is married with two children.
She worries about where her worth and value will come from in the future.
Her identity is based on her being a wife and mother.
She was financially self-reliant from a very young age.
She is not fond of relying on her husband for money.
Her father had a temper and was aggressive with other family members.
She feels anger toward her parents but is very protective of her father.
She felt unsettled as a child.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should read 20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction, by Christine Hassler.
She needs to work toward true forgiveness toward her father.
She needs to practice release writing and start the sentences with “I am angry because…”
She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Assignments and Takeaways:

Go back and listen to Coaches Corner with Nicole Sachs on how emotions create chronic pain in our body.
If you are in your twenties or early thirties, grab a copy of 20-Something, 20-Everything for women or 20-Something Manifesto: Quarter-Lifers Speak Out About Who They Are, What They Want, and How to Get It, by Christine Hassler.
Re-read Expectation Hangover or join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code ‘HEALTH’ and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.
Don’t be afraid to follow any feelings of nervousness or anxiety into bigger feelings that reside underneath them. You will find your passion and calm.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Get Out of Pain (Permanently!) with Nicole Sachs 0

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Mar 28, 2020

Nicole Sachs, LCSW is a speaker, writer, podcaster and psychotherapist who has dedicated her work and her practice to the treatment of chronic pain, symptoms, syndromes and conditions. She is the author of the book The Meaning of Truth, and the online course FREEDOM FROM CHRONIC PAIN. Her brand, The Cure for Chronic Pain, includes a Website, Podcast and YouTube Channel. Her personal experience as well as work with thousands of people around the world have shaped and evolved Nicole’s theories, which serve to teach those suffering how to heal themselves completely with no medication or surgery.

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EP 237: You Are Not Defective with Lisa 0

Mar 25, 2020

This is a call about feeling worthy, trusting yourself, and knowing you are enough. Today’s caller, Lisa, mistakenly believes she is defective in some way, but it’s not true. She initially questions her career path but we unpack her question to get to the root of what is blocking her. There are some powerful ‘ahas’ in this call.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode237]

When our desires and our wants are not congruent with our beliefs about ourselves, we can fall into the trap of looking outside ourselves to make us feel a certain way. The universe will keep blocking that from happening because it wants us to learn that we can generate those feelings from inside ourselves and we don’t need anyone or anything else to make us feel confident or believe in ourselves.

Our life lessons, our parents, the things that impact our personality and behavioral patterns; all of it is changeable. All of that is healable, I promise you. What is not shiftable is your soul and your spirit. Your soul essence, who you are, your spirit can never be defective or deflated.

Join Stef and I three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and allow us to support you.

Listen to my last Coaches Corner where Emily Fletcher shares a meditation designed to help us stress less. After listening go to Zivameditation.com/online/ to get 50% off one of her mediation training.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you feel defective because you can’t seem to get to where you want to be in your life?
Are you trying a lot of things, hoping to find something you are passionate about or love doing?
Did you have too much responsibility as a child?
Do you have contradicting desires and beliefs?

Lisa’s Question:

Lisa has spent years in a job she doesn’t like and feels stuck but can’t pinpoint what she really wants to do.

Lisa’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is in a career she doesn’t like.
She feels like she is a procrastinator and lazy.
She took the first job she was offered.
She wants to be in a more strategic position.
She feels stressed.
She started pursuing fashion as a hobby.
She believes that she is unworthy.
She has never felt connected to anything.
She didn’t have the opportunity to play and be herself as a child.
She is a generational pattern breaker.
She lived in a state of survival as a child.
Her spirit wants more.
She is doing EMDR therapy.
Her desires and her wants are not congruent with her beliefs about herself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should be proud of herself for getting out there and trying new things.
She needs to reparent and heal herself.
She needs to tap into her shadow self and express herself.
She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Assignments and Takeaways:

Think about things that you were shamed for as a child and have compassion for yourself, take back your power, and give yourself permission to start enjoying the things you love.
Commit to feeling again. It’s not about discipline, it’s about being attuned to what is going on in the moment.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Stress Less & Guided Meditation with Emily Fletcher 0

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Mar 21, 2020

Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and the leading expert in meditation for extraordinary performance. In this very timely interview, she speaks to why mediation is so imperative for our wellbeing - particularly for our immune system. Emily guides you through a powerful meditation and offers you 50% off her Ziza meditation training which you can access at https://zivameditation.com/online/ The Ziva Technique is a powerful trifecta of mindfulness, meditation and manifesting designed to unlock your full potential.

Also check out her book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon.

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EP 236: Should You Give an Old Relationship a New Chance? With Megan 0

Mar 18, 2020

This is a call about issue-based relationships. Today’s caller, Megan, is curious about whether she should go back to a relationship that is on a break. She wants to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship. I explain what an issue-based relationship is and give her some guidance about how to listen to her inner knowing.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode236]

The five relationships are issue-based, journey mate, compatibility, fantasy, and side-by-side partnership. Not every relationship is made to last forever or should last forever. Different relationships come for different reasons and teach us different things. When we understand what type of relationship we have then it is a little bit easier to deal with.

An issue-based relationship is when our childhood wounds attract us to each other. We tend to date our unresolved issues from our childhood. Normally one person dumps feelings all over the other and the other person either dumps feelings back or tries to clean up the mess. They keep triggering each other and playing out patterns. When couples go to couple’s counseling it doesn’t really work because they keep trying to work on the relationship but they should be working on their own issues. It’s like two people who speak totally different languages and you are trying to teach them how to speak a third language.

For people in issue-based relationships, I recommend taking a break and separating, working on themselves, and then re-evaluating the relationship. By then they may decide the relationship is not what they want or they get back together.

March 18, 2020, Stefanos and I are co-hosting a group call about relationships. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. If you missed my live group coaching call about how to care for your energetic and spiritual hygiene and cope during times of stress download it for free at Christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Is there someone from your past that you are considering bringing back into your life?
Are you in an issue-based relationship?
Have you been in a relationship that has felt like great chemistry but it was actually codependence?
Are you willing to be on your own, or not in a relationship, for as long as it takes to see clearly what you need from a relationship?

Megan’s Question:

Megan would like to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship.

Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She attended my Spring Retreat.
She is in an issue-based relationship.
She entered into the relationship from an unhealthy space.
She has an opportunity to reconnect with her boyfriend who she has strong feelings for.
She has a pattern of giving men multiple chances.
Her father wasn’t emotionally available.
She feels an extremely strong connection to her boyfriend.
She has a pattern of asking external sources for answers to her internal questions.
She wants to get more into her healthy masculine.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She may want to let her boyfriend complete his coaching before reconnecting.
She needs to trust herself and her inner knowing.
She should reaffirm advice from others by writing it down and considering how it feels to her.
She should pray for the highest good of all parties.

Assignments and Takeaways:

Relationships are always learning opportunities. Look at your triggering relationships and consider what they are reflecting back to you.
If you are in an issue-based relationship and are not getting anywhere, take a break and work separately for a year and then see where you stand.
Evaluate the kind of partner you are being to yourself and work on your self-care and self-love.

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Resources:

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Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner