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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Dec 3, 2022

Athena Grace is now nearly nine months old and I'm finally ready to share the story of her birth. It was the most empowering and intense experience of my life and I'm deeply grateful to have delivered her at home. Stef joins me for the episode as he was o

Nov 30, 2022

This episode is about being open to opportunities by eliminating the walls we have up. Today’s caller, Rich, feels blocked in building his coaching practice but the session is not so much about building his coaching practice but about him becoming his own best client because his biggest blocks are his own beliefs and unresolved hurts.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode377]

 

We are told many things in our lives. Some of those things are not always positive. We tend to take on criticism much more than the compliments and acknowledgments we were given. Especially if that criticism came from a parent or any authority figure. Those criticisms from our past repeat like a broken record in our heads and impact our future. So, instead of living the life we want, we keep listening to the old story.

 

Whose voice is in your head that you have adopted as your own? It is time to give that voice back and not allow it to define you.

 

How we do anything is how we do everything. Many times we try to change our external circumstances thinking that a new job or new relationship will change the patterns and programming of things we don’t like. But, if how we do anything is how we do everything, then we just apply the same patterning and programming to the next thing.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you suffering because you cannot identify your purpose?
  • Is there a person in your life who is struggling to find their purpose? Do you push them to find their purpose or try to find it for them?
  • Do you feel worthy and deserving inside? And, how does your self-confidence, or lack thereof, impact your results?
  • Is someone else’s voice inside your head? Do you need to banish it?

 

Rich’s Question:

Rich would like to know how to get over his fear and anxiety to follow through with his goal of becoming a coach. He wants to overcome his limiting beliefs from his past, which may be blocking his future success.

 

Rich’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He was providing his coaching services for free.
  • He feels friends and family are expecting more of him.
  • He is getting married soon.
  • He suffers from social anxiety and has a hard time focusing.
  • He meditates and exercises to deal with his anxiety.
  • He has a mission to make an emotional impact on people’s lives.
  • He was criticized as a child by his stepfather.
  • He struggles with self-worth and fears failure.
  • He is a sensitive creative.
  • He has done work around self-compassion.
  • He is not sure of the source of his resistance.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Do emotional healing and forgive himself for buying into the misunderstanding that he is not worthy.
  • Realize the way he is treating himself is how his stepfather treated him.
  • Treat himself like he treats his clients.
  • Work through the emotional section of Expectation Hangover to release his anger.
  • Consider what makes him authentic and worthy.
  • Design a program for himself and become his best client.

 

Takeaways:

  • Write down your limiting beliefs and figure out who owns the voice.
  • Move into compassion for anyone who programmed your thoughts.
  • Write a letter to give an unwelcome belief back to the person who gave it to you.
  • Be honest about the emotional walls you have put up and be committed to taking them down.
  • Set up two chairs and carry out your own therapy session.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

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Nov 23, 2022

This is the final episode of a three-part couples coaching series with Claire and Jimmy together. In today’s call, Christine asks both Claire and Jimmy how they can acknowledge and appreciate each other more while empowering them to take responsibility for their childhood wounds and how they are playing out in their relationship.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode376]

 

If you are in a relationship and you find yourself continuing to loop on the same argument over and over again, dig a little deeper to discover what is underneath it. Figure out where you may not be taking responsibility for your stuff and whether you are expecting your partner to heal it. Also, ask yourself where you may not be compassionate for their stuff and where you may be missing the ways they show up for you, and how you can appreciate it more.

 

It is not our job in a relationship to heal our partner’s wounds but it is our responsibility as a loving, conscious partner to understand and empathize with them. It’s not to tolerate toxic behavior but to adjust our behavior and our request to show we are empathetic and understanding of who our partner is.

 

The process of relationship is to continue to work on ourselves, work out our own triggers, and move toward our partner. Every relationship takes comprise. Love is a verb, not just the words.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you in a relationship and you keep looping on the same argument over and over again?
  • Do you have a sense that the argument, the disagreement, or the trigger you’re having could be linked to a deeper issue?
  • Are you willing to compromise in your relationship or do you just want it your way?
  • Are you ignoring the ways your partner does love you and does show up for you because it is not exactly the way you want it?

 

Claire & Jimmy’s Question:

Claire & Jimmy together.

 

Claire & Jimmy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • Claire triggers Jimmy to put his walls up and he shuts down.
  • Jimmy’s version of being committed doesn’t match up with Claire’s.
  • Claire is yearning to have Jimmy all-in, in the relationship.
  • Intimacy is scary for Jimmy.
  • They are helping each other heal.
  • Claire is scared she can’t get her needs met in their relationship.
  • They both realize they need to make some changes.
  • Jimmy is sensitive to disappointing people and timid about the level of commitment Claire wants.
  • They have a coffee date, meditate together, and relax in the hot tub at night.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Claire can acknowledge all the things Jimmy is doing right.
  • Every night, Jimmy can tell Claire why he loves her.
  • Claire can give Jimmy time to feel safer in the relationship.
  • Show a greater level of empathy and understanding to each other.
  • Jimmy can talk to Claire with the kindness and compassion he shows his daughters.
  • Claire can have compassion for Jimmy as he is trying to figure things out.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

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Nov 19, 2022

Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista’s life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. 

Nov 16, 2022

This episode is the second of a three-part couples coaching series. Christine coaches Claire and Jimmy separately, and then together in Part 3. In today’s call, with Jimmy, she explores the things from his childhood that may make commitment a bit hard for him.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode375]

 

It is okay if we have conflict. It is okay if plans need to be rearranged. It is okay if you unintentionally disappoint someone. There is a difference between promising someone you will be somewhere and not showing up versus having to renegotiate an agreement.

 

It is reframing conflict into clarification. Because not every situation, conversation, or engagement with someone that we think is going to be stressful is. If we go in thinking something is going to be confrontational, that the other person is going to be upset, or that it is not going to go well, we limit the possibilities. But if we go in seeking clarification, or as a renegotiation of a commitment, then it becomes an entirely different conversation.

 

When we find a safe space on our own, we don’t necessarily default to an avoidant attachment style, although it can happen. What we default to is that it is safer on our own. Intimacy or really committing to making plans is challenging. If we add in that we don’t want to disappoint anyone as a sort of reason or even a subconscious excuse not to make plans, not to get closer, then we have a great wall of protection built around us. It can prevent us from going to deeper levels of intimacy with others.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you sometimes commitment-phobic?
  • Do you love the idea of plans but when it comes to making them, it’s hard, or wish your partner would make plans and you don’t understand why they don’t?
  • Do you relate to being a lone wolf and find it hard to be in relationship because you sometimes do better on your own? And, although you want love, commitment, and relationship, at the same time you don’t want to disappoint anyone?
  • Do you not do things for fear of disappointing people but then you end up disappointing them anyway?

 

Jimmy’s Question:

Jimmy wonders if there isn’t more at play when he and Claire struggle with planning things together.

 

Jimmy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • When he gets pressed or pushed he feels blocked and withdraws.
  • He is worried his responsibilities hinder him from showing up responsibly.
  • He fears letting Claire down.
  • He is taking steps to adjust his work calendar.
  • His schedule to see his children is fluid.
  • It is important that he shows up responsibly for work.
  • His father wasn’t present for him in childhood.
  • He wants to show up for his daughters.
  • He has a pattern of avoiding conflict.
  • He wants harmony in his life.
  • At 14, he helped parent his siblings and worked outside of the home.
  • He didn’t have anyone looking out for him growing up.
  • He enjoys being committed but not committed.
  • He likes to be spontaneous.
  • He can see why Claire feels the way she does.
  • He is scared of intimacy.
  • His identity, confidence, and worth are tied to his work.
  • He has an opportunity for intimacy.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Reframe how he thinks about conflict.
  • Think about renegotiating plans as clarifying conversations.
  • Ask 14-year-old Jimmy what he is scared of.
  • Consider what kind of relationship he desires.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Nov 12, 2022

An enlightening psychologist and national speaker, Dr. Marisa G Franco is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and her forthcoming book Platonic: How The Science of AttachmentCan Help You Make—and Keep—Friends debuts with Penguin Random House in September 2022. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like The New York TimesThe Telegraph, and Vice. She speaks on belonging across the country.

Nov 9, 2022

This episode is the first of a three-part couples coaching series. Christine coaches Claire and Jimmy separately, and then together in Part 3. In today’s call, Claire reveals she would like Jimmy to make plans with her and make her a priority in his life. Christine uncovers some childhood patterns that may be at play in Claire’s current relationship.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode374]

 

When there is something that is bothering us and we are unable to shift it, we need to dig deeper. It is normal for us to be able to identify what is going on with someone else yet still to be blind to our own blocks. When we finally see it we realize how obvious it was but it is hard to see. We often just want to notice the current problem and fix our relationship, versus going back to see what it reminds us of in our past.

 

Things in our lives will continue to be frustrating until we unpack the message they are illuminating.

 

When we take the time to work on ourselves first, often it offers more clarity about issues in our relationships. We can’t work on issues in our relationships without working on ourselves.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there a constant pattern in your relationship you can’t seem to shift?
  • Do you and your partner argue about the same issues over and over?
  • Do you have an unmet need from a parent that is showing up in your relationship?
  • Are you willing to see your partner in a different light? Are you willing to see your partner for who they are, right here, right now?

 

Claire’s Question:

Claire would like guidance about how she can feel like a priority in her partner’s life.

 

Claire’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • Her childhood wound is abandonment.
  • She doesn’t feel like a priority in Jimmy’s life.
  • When she feels seen by Jimmy she feels empowered in the relationship.
  • She has different patterns than Jimmy.
  • She has been married before.
  • Her father wasn’t present every day in her childhood.
  • She is attached to planning and doing things.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Practice connection and intimacy with Jimmy in everyday life.
  • Remind her inner child that Jimmy isn’t her Dad and she can get love whenever she wants.
  • Let go of planning for a while to accept love in the here and now.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Nov 5, 2022
Christine's husband Stef who is a breathwork facilitator joins her to talk about the incredibly powerful modality of breathwork. Learn more about what breathwork is and how it may help you to tap into deeper levels of healing and freedom.
 
If you want to join Stef and Christine for their next breathwork event, go here: https://stefanossifandos.com/feminine/
 
And if you are interested in their breathwork and meditation program, go here: https://christinehassler.com/breathwork
Nov 2, 2022

This episode is about trusting our intuition and keeping others’ voices out of our heads. Today’s caller, Hannah, has made a clear decision to do something for herself. Yet, doubts are creeping in due to the opinions of others. If you have a gut feeling about something and other people are doubting you or you want to get to the place where you can trust your own inner knowing, this call will be extremely helpful.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode373]

 

You do not owe anyone an explanation for your decisions. If your decisions directly impact others, then a discussion is necessary. But, when you make personal decisions that only impact you, it is nobody else’s business but yours.

 

And on the flip side, we need to respect other people’s choices even if we wouldn’t make the same ones.

 

When people are not respecting our boundaries, it is imperative we create a distance from them. And, just because someone is a family member, doesn’t give them the right to have unlimited opinions about our lives and to know everything about us. Other people’s voices should not be louder than our own intuition.

 

Join Stefanos live for Breathwork for the Feminine. It is designed for women only. Stefanos leads the breathwork and then he and Christine both do coaching and processing afterward. Join them live in Austin on November 7th, 2022, from 6‒9 CST, or join virtually — Go to Stefanossifandos.com/feminine to register. 

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Have you recently made a decision that others are doubting and you wonder if you should be doubting it yourself?
  • Do you have a habit of people-pleasing, being a chameleon, or going against what you want?
  • Do you doubt that you have intuition and don’t know how to connect to it?
  • Do you need to have stronger boundaries with certain people in your life?

 

Hannah’s Question:

Hannah is on the brink of a scheduled surgery. She knows this is the right choice for her but would like clarity about the pressure she feels.

 

Hannah’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She’s never wanted children.
  • She has a tubal ligation procedure scheduled.
  • Her inner voice is telling her she is broken.
  • She’s done personal development work for some time.
  • She is the only child in her family who isn’t married or doesn’t want children.
  • Having the procedure feels self-honoring.
  • Others around her question her judgment.
  • She struggles when making decisions for herself.
  • She feels pressure about not having rights over her body.
  • She felt a sense of relief after making a decision.
  • This may be the first decision she has made based on what she wants.
  • She is a people-pleaser.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Make choices without checking in with others.
  • Stop putting her needs aside in favor of the needs of others.
  • Practice making quicker decisions and go with her gut.

 

Takeaways:

  • Stay out of other people’s business.
  • Keep others out of your business.
  • Listen to your gut.
  • Don’t let people’s voices be louder than your own voice.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Oct 29, 2022

Have you forgotten who you truly are? Are you caught up in some self-doubt, guilt, loneliness, sadness or disappointment? Could you use a reminder of how lovable you are? Then don't miss this episode where Christine speaks straight to your heart.

Oct 26, 2022

This episode is about how loving actions help us heal. Today’s caller, Jada, was never shown love in childhood and wants to know how she can learn to love herself. When we don’t have loving stable parenting, we are at a disadvantage. But, people who have had a disadvantaged childhood and have done the work to heal it, find a force, love, and momentum that is unstoppable.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode372]

 

Growing up without a role model for what love feels like is akin to growing up in a house with only one language. Would you expect yourself to speak another language naturally? Would it just appear in your brain? No. When we don’t have models for what love is, it is hard to access love; it is hard to know what true healthy love is without other people. It makes it hard to access self-love as well.

 

When something bad happens, many people say that the experience has made them stronger and more resilient. But what that translates to is the experiences they endured created walls to protect their heart so they never really let love in because they are scared to death of being hurt again. For many people who had difficult childhoods, there is a lot of anger and grief they never got to feel.

 

When we are healing trauma it is not about going back and reliving the experience. It’s about giving ourselves the voice we never had. When looking at self-love, we have to take actions that signify self-care and actions that signify that we are being good to ourselves. That is the first step in learning how to love ourselves.

 

Love is a feeling that we can access through actions.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you want to love yourself but you are not sure how?
  • Did you have a traumatic childhood full of chaos and without a role model of love?
  • Do you question if you will get over your past?
  • Could it be possible that you are doing loving things but you don't even know it?

 

Jada’s Question:

Jada grew up without a role model of what love is and would like guidance on how to find genuine self-love.

 

Jada’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels anxiety when telling her story.
  • She was abused and didn’t have love in her childhood.
  • She feels unworthy and undeserving of love.
  • She wants to turn her memories into something else.
  • She has done self-work for three years.
  • She is repressing anger.
  • She wants love and support.
  • Her inner child craves unconditional love.
  • She recognizes how her lack of self-love shows up in her life.
  • She is tired of how her childhood has affected her.
  • She does not go into victim.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Discontinue trying to find beauty in the trauma.
  • Take the time to process her emotions.
  • Recognize that love; she may not know how to feel self-love but she knows what loving actions are.
  • Give herself credit for how far she’s come.
  • Know that as she continues on this healing path she will propel forward.
  • Find a seasoned therapist so she doesn’t have to do healing alone.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Oct 19, 2022

This episode is about accepting where we are in life and enjoying it to the fullest. Today’s caller, Lindsey, has wanted to find a partner to share her life with for a long time. She has done personal development work but still believes she needs to fix herself before calling in a partner. We work through ways she can trust life, trust divine timing, and enjoy her life.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode371]

 

When we have hindsight, it is easy to move into acceptance. We look back and consider that something happened for a reason it makes it easier to accept. When we have to accept something, or we choose to accept something that isn’t what we want, that is when the real spiritual ninja work comes in.

 

The constant trying to figure out why — which is something we all do to some degree — we don’t have something we want or something in our life isn’t working. We pick ourselves apart with a fine-toothed comb trying to find the reason. Because if we find the reason, it gives us control and then we can do something to solve it. It is a pattern of constantly looking.

 

Acceptance is when we move into the peace of what is. It is when we stop wishing for something to be different or when we have feelings about circumstances not being what we want, we don’t bypass them. Resignation is when we give up. Acceptance has relief energy. When we surrender we can be open to something shifting.

 

When we move into full acceptance of who we are and where we are in our lives, the acceptance keeps us in the energetic of love and shifts what we are broadcasting.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there something you want badly and think you will be happier when you get it?
  • Are you single and don’t want to be single but you can’t move into acceptance of it?
  • Have you done work to change an issue or circumstance but it isn’t shifting and you keep trying?
  • Do you believe your life would be better if you had something you don’t?

 

Lindsey’s Question:

Lindsey has been single for most of her life and would like guidance on how to call in a partner.

 

Lindsey’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has been single for 10+ years but wants to call in a partner.
  • She is an adventurous woman in life and work.
  • She has a belief that men find her good enough to sleep with but not good enough to date.
  • She believes she would be better in a relationship.
  • She is sad because she doesn’t have a partner.
  • She feels she has no control over finding a partner and pities herself.
  • She feels looked over by the people in her life.
  • She has limiting beliefs about herself.
  • She is constantly doing to not think about the uncertainty of life.
  • She believes that if she doesn’t work hard to get something she won’t get it.
  • She is incorporating practices to keep herself present.
  • She surrenders in water and with music.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Accept where she is right now.
  • Move toward acceptance and let go of wanting something else.
  • Make a playlist of songs that make her love her life in the now.
  • Stop herself from going down a spiral.
  • Stop trying to fix something that isn’t broken.
  • Trust life and trust divine timing.

 

Takeaways:

  • You can’t always get what you want but you can get what you need. If we can move into acceptance of wherever we are or are not, we have more enjoyment and freedom in our life.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Oct 15, 2022

If you feel like you have done lots of personal development work yet certain patterns or issues keep coming back, then don't miss this episode! Christine explains why you must plant flowers after you weed your consciousness and break circuits that are currently running your mental programming.

Oct 12, 2022

This episode is about the protective patterns we create when we don’t feel safe. Today’s caller, Amanda, says she wants guidance on how to access her sensuality but the core issue is truly about how she can feel safe and be vulnerable. We can’t feel safe in our sexuality or sensuality unless we feel safe in our vulnerability.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode370]

 

When women don’t feel safe in their bodies we tend to go into our heads. We talk, talk, talk, and don’t notice what is going on in our bodies. As human beings, we are a combination of doing and being, flowing and going, masculine and feminine, sensual and productive, right and left. So, one of our biggest turn-ons is safety. If we feel safe, we can let go. If we don’t feel safe, forget about it. We need to learn that it is safe to feel and to be emotionally vulnerable.

 

When we attempt to make changes while in frustration, it is important to shift into vulnerability and full self-expression. We need to accept all aspects of ourselves. Sensuality can feel scary because it feels out of control when we keep our safe place in our heads.

 

When we don’t feel safe, we have protective patterns that frustrate us. We judge the patterns and try to change them. But, nothing heals judgment. The first step of healing is to love, accept, and thank the pattern for protecting us.

 

If you don’t feel safe expressing yourself emotionally, you won’t feel safe expressing yourself sensually and sexually. When an expression is muted, all expressions are muted.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel blocked from your sensuality? Would you like to be more expressed in your life, especially sexually?
  • Did you have the space to be expressed as a child? Was vulnerability encouraged in your house or did you have to hide or numb your feelings or deal with them on your own?
  • Are you in a relationship and feel inhibited with your own partner?
  • Do people in your life give you feedback that they would like to be closer to you? Do you feel your relationships could be deeper but you are scared to go there?

 

Amanda’s Question:

Amanda feels shame and guilt when it comes to sensuality and would like guidance on how to embody her sexuality without guilt and to feel good.

 

Amanda’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She will be 40 this year.
  • She is in a loving, committed relationship.
  • As a child, she was raised Christian and was taught to believe that “good girls don’t” do certain things.
  • She wants to let go of things that don’t serve her.
  • She feels awkward when expressing her sensual self.
  • Feeling uncomfortable and numb stems from her childhood.
  • She doesn’t feel safe being vulnerable.
  • People care about her and want to be honest with her.
  • She wants to break the pattern.
  • She commits to being in her body and creating opportunities to be emotionally vulnerable.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Remind herself that it is safe to feel.
  • Feel her discomfort but also feel she is safe.
  • Practice vulnerability.
  • Write three questions to evoke emotional vulnerability.
  • Recreate an opportunity to be fully expressed.
  • Forgive herself for judging herself and being hard on herself.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you want to be more sensually or sexually expressed, look at how emotionally expressed you are.
  • Do you make safe spaces for your sensuality?

 

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Resources:

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Oct 5, 2022

This episode is about upper limiting and discerning deal breakers versus growth opportunities in relationships. Everything seems to be finally working out for today’s caller, Daria, but she is having difficulty accepting it and her fiance. She asks for guidance on how to break existing patterns to make sure she doesn’t self-sabotage herself or her relationship.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode369]

 

It is very common that once we start to get the things we want, we start to wonder if we deserve them and if they are fleeting. We often have unexpected feelings when things start to go well.

 

When the hormones and infatuation of a new relationship wear off, in the realness of a relationship, there may be things about our partner that we don’t like. In most relationships, there are things about our partners we just don’t like and that we want to change. These things fall into several categories but more definitive would be to think of them as deal breakers or growth opportunities.

 

There are some things about our partner that we need to decide if it is truly annoying or not. Focusing on what we love about our partners and accepting them for who they are can go a long way. We can choose to focus on the great things about our partners.

 

When we want to request a change of behavior from our partner, they must feel safe in the relationship.

 

My Women’s Retreat is this weekend, October 7‒9, 2022 in Austin. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this gentle and nourishing life-changing opportunity. Whatever your issue or concern there is a place for you.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you sure about your relationship? You don’t have doubts but there are some things about your partner you wish they would change.
  • Do you tend to have high standards and wonder if you are settling?
  • Are you good at communicating what you need in a relationship? Or, maybe you are not as good at it as you think you are?
  • Are you willing to be the change you want to see in the relationship?

 

Daria’s Question:

Daria is feeling a sudden change of feelings toward her fiance and would like guidance to ensure she doesn’t self-sabotage.

 

Daria’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is upper limiting herself.
  • She discovered her ex-husband deceived her.
  • Her upbringing drastically changed when her mother got sick.
  • She loves her fiance.
  • She feels herself pulling away from her partner.
  • She wishes he could be more of a grownup with her.
  • She feels comfortable asking for things from him but feels she has to do it constantly.
  • She loves his sense of playfulness and is a good friend to people.
  • She is not sure when she is trying to change her partner or change the things he does.
  • She is trying to learn how to deal with him and her feelings.
  • Her relationship feels lopsided.
  • She wants to make the relationship work.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Read The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks.
  • Get turned on by the things she loves about her partner.
  • Realize her fiance feels her come-and-go energy and it can make him feel unsafe.
  • To break her pattern, consider when and how she can lean into how much she loves him.
  • Trust life and know that it is safe to be happy.

 

Takeaways:

  • Experiment with a person who annoys you. For one week, choose to only recognize the amazing things you like about them.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Oct 1, 2022
Author, speaker, teacher and force of love Danielle LaPorte joins Christine to dive deep into inner child work, forgiveness, radiance, choosing higher quality thoughts and so much more.
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Sep 28, 2022

This episode is about being the parent you always wanted and wanted to be. Today’s caller, Carrie, wants to repair a strained relationship with her children. She feels shame about her past behaviors and wants guidance on how to build a connection with them and their children. There is a lot of vulnerability and courage in this honest conversation.

 

It can be scary to be a generational pattern breaker and it takes a lot of courage to follow through but it can transform our relationships.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode368]

 

Many parents carry around a silent shame about some of the choices they made as parents. Parenting is hard. It doesn’t come with a manual. Creating a healthy environment for our children is challenging when we don’t have good parenting ourselves. We are still impacted by our trauma and our hurt; it can feel impossible not to pass it on.

 

The hard part about trauma, or behavior we categorize as hurtful or bad, is that it is not due to anyone setting out to hurt another person. People who have unprocessed trauma and don’t know how to deal with it. People who are hurt and sad all the time haven’t gotten to their anger. People who are angry and explosive haven’t gotten to their hurt and sadness.

 

What happens with parent-child relationships is the hurt parent wants a two-way street. Meaning, the hurt parent wants the child to make it okay for them as well, but that is not the child’s job. It is the parent’s job to make it okay for the child.

 

Give your children the opportunity to hear the things they always wanted to hear.

 

Register for my upcoming Women’s Retreat which will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this gentle and nourishing life-changing opportunity. Whatever your issue or concern there is a place for you.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you a parent that has guilt or shame about how you parented or how you treated your child or children?
  • Do you know that you are passing on generational patterns and trauma? Have you told yourself you would never do it yet you find yourself doing it?
  • Do you have a strained or strange relationship with one of your children that you want to remedy? You want to have a connection with them but you are not sure how.
  • Do you trust yourself enough to parent yourself in a way that can help you parent your child better, and your adult children who still need parenting?

 

Carrie’s Question:

Carrie was a parent who inflicted trauma on her children. She would like guidance on how to repair their relationship.

 

Carrie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She was a single mother.
  • Her children were teenagers when she made regrettable decisions.
  • She acted in ways that made her children feel unsafe.
  • Inconsistent behaviors were common while she was raising her children.
  • She is a full-time traveler.
  • Her children don’t acknowledge her as family.
  • Her children’s father isn’t accessible.
  • She feels shame about repeating the actions of her parents.
  • She fears triggering her daughter when around her grandchildren.
  • Her daughter doesn’t reach out to her.
  • She doesn’t want to hear what her daughter may say to her.
  • She fears confronting her anger.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Trust that it is time to remove her shame.
  • Step into her mama bear and expect more from herself as a mother.
  • Have a heart-to-heart conversation, apologize to her daughter, and listen and love her.
  • Allow herself to feel her sadness.
  • Do the Anger Release process.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Sep 21, 2022

This episode is about navigating a relationship with a new baby coming. Today’s caller, Cassie, is about to have a child but is uncertain about staying with the baby’s father. She would like guidance about how to feel supported emotionally and financially during this trying time.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode367]

 

It is difficult enough for women who are becoming new mothers but for them to not have support can be really challenging. But, on the other hand, couples who stay together for the children who are not in a healthy relationship don’t have kids that turn out any better than the kids whose parents got divorced. Kids pick up on unhealthy relationships when they are not aligned and may model their future relationships on them.

 

When a baby comes, it transforms and changes a relationship. The focus of attention is on the baby and not as much on the partners. That is why it is important to have clear agreements in place about parenting responsibilities before a child is born.

 

I’m excited about my upcoming Women’s Retreat which will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity. Whatever your issue or concern there is a place for you.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you in a relationship and you don’t know whether to stay or go?
  • Do you have children and you are concerned the relationship isn’t a fit and you don’t know if you should stay in it for the children?
  • Do you feel your partner isn’t holding up their end of the agreement? financially, personal development, or any other way?
  • Do you have clear agreements with your partner so each of you knows what you can expect and count on from each other to prevent expectation hangovers?

 

Cassie’s Question:

Cassie is pregnant with her partner of 2-plus years. She is having some difficulty in her relationship and would like guidance on whether or not to leave the relationship.

 

Cassie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is seven months pregnant.
  • Her pregnancy has highlighted some of her fears about her relationship.
  • She is unsure if her intuition is telling her to step away from the relationship.
  • She is excited about becoming a mother.
  • She and her partner have different values around money.
  • She is confused about her next steps.
  • Her partner wants to be in the relationship.
  • Her partner recently left his career.
  • She feels emotionally distressed from their disagreements.
  • She wants her partner to monetarily provide for the family.
  • She is not yet sure about what agreements she will need to clarify.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Get clear agreements from her partner about the upcoming parenting responsibilities.
  • Consider how she can respond to his requests without anger or resentment.
  • Recognize that she is a co-parent with her partner.
  • Appeal to her partner’s heart about the parenting and healing opportunity.
  • Pay attention to the things she appreciates and loves about her partner.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

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Sep 17, 2022

Christine shares five reminders that may come at the perfect time for you. If you are disappointed with something in your life, judging yourself, lacking in self-care,  don't feel like all the "work" you are doing is paying off, or just need some inspiration today - don't miss this episode!

Sep 14, 2022

This episode is a couple’s coaching session with the partners currently experiencing struggles in their relationship. Rory & Tyler have listened to their partner’s individual sessions and spoken with each other about what they heard. Christine discusses strategies and opportunities the couple can use to move their relationship forward.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode366]

 

Relationships are challenging. It is generally easy in the first year when there is infatuation and hormones but afterward comes the depth, transformation, and healing. In any relationship, struggles and doubts are normal and natural. It is important to uncover where the doubt is coming from. Does it come from red flags or deep intuition?

 

There is a difference between a relationship that has potential versus a relationship that has the key ingredients to go the difference. Love isn’t always enough for a relationship to go the distance and to be healthy. However, love plus a commitment to do the work independently and together can be the game-changer in a relationship.

 

Making loving requests is a great way to not build resentment in relationships. Requests from a loving place are much different than demands from a defensive or pissed-off place. People who come from a defensive or pissed-off place have difficulty getting their needs met.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • When you hear your partner give feedback about you, can you hear it or do you get triggered immediately?
  • Are you playing out little boy or girl behavior in your relationship that is a turn-off for your partner? Are you respecting and tending to the little boy or girl inside your partner?
  • Are you willing to go the distance in your partnership by doing the work? Is your partner willing? Are you willing to be in a relationship where your partner isn’t doing the work?
  • Can you make powerful, loving requests of your partner to get your needs met?

 

Rory & Tyler’s Question:

After their separate coaching sessions, Rory & Tyler come together to work through their issues and discuss ways to move their relationship forward.

 

Rory & Tyler’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • Tyler wants to hold space for Rory to really see her.
  • Rory wants to be her whole self and allow Tyler to be his whole self in the relationship.
  • They both would like unclouded, infinite, real love.
  • Tyler would like words of confirmation from Rory.
  • Tyler finds it hard to release anger.
  • Tyler feels triggered when Rory acts a certain way.
  • Tyler needs to be inspired romantically.
  • Rory loves Tyler for his support.
  • Tyler loves Rory for her joviality.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Tyler, do emotional release work.
  • Rory, explore her sensuality and sexuality.
  • Get specific with each other about what they want.
  • Work with a therapist together and separately.
  • Tyler, when he is triggered to remind himself that Rory is not his mother.
  • Use a simple codeword to help their partner recognize their triggers.
  • Rory, inspire Tyler romantically.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Sep 10, 2022
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Sep 7, 2022

This episode is a couple’s coaching session with the female partner in the relationship. Today’s caller, Rory, finds herself at a crossroads after being in a three-year relationship with Tyler. She would like guidance on whether or not she can get her needs met in this relationship. During this session, Christine questions whether there are enough shared values for both of them to go the distance in a side-by-side partnership.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode365]

 

The length of a relationship does not determine its success. If a relationship doesn’t last, it is not a failure. Some of the most successful relationships have ended. Relationships are successful when you learn a lot or heal from them. Unfortunately, love isn’t enough in a relationship.

 

Physically, for men, attraction is very important. They like to feel attracted to their partner consistently over the long term. For a female to feel sexual and safe, she needs to feel like there is a commitment to consciousness, emotional vulnerability, and intimacy.

 

A couple needs shared values, vision, the right polarity, and an equal amount of willingness and commitment. A couple must want the same things in life to make a relationship work.

 

I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity. There is still time to register!

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you in any kind of relationship, be it friendship, romantic, or work where you feel you are giving more than you are getting?
  • Did you grow up in a family where love was confused with validation? Did you only feel loved and seen when you accomplished something?
  • Are you a female who has been accused of being too much in your masculine energy?
  • Do you feel you have done a lot of work but your romantic partner isn’t doing their work? Do you think you will be willing and able to grow together as a couple?

 

Rory’s Question:

Rory is at a crossroads with her partner and trying to figure out if the relationship has run its course.

 

Rory’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She believes she operates in the masculine and her partner in the feminine.
  • She believes things need structure and that a relationship needs work.
  • She feels she does more than she receives.
  • As a child, she only felt love when she accomplished something.
  • Her relationship feels safe to her.
  • She doesn’t feel taken care of in the relationship.
  • She knows, logically, that Tyler loves her but her emotional needs aren’t being met.
  • She has been a victim of sexual assault.
  • She feels less than when she is being herself.
  • She feels she is not supported when she makes decisions.
  • They took a short break from the relationship.
  • She would like Tyler to dive deep into the work needed in their relationship.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Look into the protective patterns that show up in her relationship.
  • Be completely herself in the relationship.
  • Ask for what she needs in a vulnerable way.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Sep 3, 2022

In this episode I share my fertility and pregnancy journey.  My intention is to share information that may be helpful and inspiring. I've received a lot of questions about getting pregnant in my 40s and I've been hesitant to share since fertility is such a tender topic and I have deep compassion for anyone going through fertility or pregnancy challenges. Please know you are not doing anything wrong and there is nothing wrong with you. I hope this episode is helpful.

Aug 31, 2022

This episode is a couple’s coaching session with the male partner in the relationship. Today’s caller, Tyler, is in a relationship with an amazing woman. He says they are at a crossroads and would like guidance on whether or not to make her his life partner or if they are better served to let each other go. Christine uncovers a childhood wound that may be keeping him from experiencing true intimacy with his partner.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode364]

 

In a relationship, over time the attraction changes. It becomes more about intimacy and about exploring sexuality together. The initial infatuation attraction is easy. That is the low-hanging fruit attraction. Next-level relationships take intimacy, sexuality, and affection to another level. In a relationship, it is about exploring and going deeper with each other and not relying on the quick high.

 

The beginning of a relationship is almost always the easiest. We have hormones attracting us to each other and things are new and shiny. It is when we go deeper that intimacy blocks reveal themselves.

 

Remember, more often than not, things that come up in our relationships stem from things that we did not get in our childhood.

 

I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity. The early-bird promo ends on Sept. 1, 2022. So register ASAP!

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you someone who loves romance, and the infatuation period in a relationship but after it wears off you find it gets hard?
  • Do you feel that your needs are not being met or do you have a hard time communicating your needs?
  • Do you have a mother or father wound and you think it may be impacting how you are showing up in a relationship?
  • Are you questioning whether the relationship you are in is the one you should be in or whether it has an expiration date and it is time for you to move forward?

 

Tyler’s Question:

Tyler is in a relationship and is looking for guidance on how to make strides toward making her a life partner or if they are better served to let each other go.

 

Tyler’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • His partner has some core traits he wants in a partner.
  • He feels they are at a crossroads with some important decisions to make.
  • Emotionally, he may be half-in and half-out.
  • He is an overthinker.
  • He may push her away because he senses her masculinity.
  • His partner reminds him of his mother.
  • They have been together for three years.
  • He feels guilty about not showing up as the man he is capable of being.
  • He doesn’t lead the relationship the way he feels he should.
  • He is still trying to decide how to show up in the relationship.
  • He loves his partner, Rory.
  • He attracts “masculine” women.
  • He has a mother wound because he feels resentful for feeling as if he was her caregiver in his childhood.
  • A part of him may not know how to have intimacy with a woman.
  • He fears being let down by a woman.
  • He is tired of it being so hard to feel loved, desired, and cared for.
  • He is craving deep intimacy with a woman.
  • He wants to be more expressive in a relationship.
  • He feels he needs to initiate sexual relations within the relationship.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Do emotional release work and grieve the relationship he never had with his mother, at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.
  • Don’t make a relationship decision right now.
  • Be open and appreciate how his partner desires him.
  • Find passion and purpose in other areas of his life besides romance.
  • Practice intimacy with his partner.

 

Sponsor:

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Aug 27, 2022

The human experience is a beautiful thing, even when it’s challenging. It is sacred when someone is vulnerable. Today’s caller, Toni, shares her vulnerability as she asks for guidance. She reveals that many of the decisions of her life come from a place of fear. Toni is confused about what security and love really are. 

 

We talk about having a relationship with a higher power especially after she has gone through times in her life when she didn’t feel there was any kind of God. There IS some kind of higher power. There are so many names for it, so many ways people interpret it, but to me, it is infinite unconditional love. It may be hard to believe in any kind of God, when there is so much suffering in the world. 

 

The best way I can attempt to understand all the horrible things that happen, is that they happen as a result of human choice and free will. While many human choices are still made from a place of pain and fear, we are in a time of awakening. We are in a massive shift in consciousness. What is available to us all, is to make the choice to see the world through spiritual eyes. See ourselves through more spiritual eyes, without judgment; to see through the eyes of infinite and unconditional love. To heal our own pain that is preventing us from feeling connected to a higher power. 

 

We are moving into more acceptance, forgiveness and gratitude. If you are craving a deeper spiritual connection, please don’t wait for God to prove itself to you -- instead, open your heart, and pray to be shown the way. You are a spiritual being having a human experience. You are one. You are love. You are connected.   

 

Consider/Ask Yourself: 

● Do you feel you are operating more out of fear than faith? 

● Are you making a lot of decisions with fear or self-doubt? 

● Are you a people pleaser, who is afraid of disappointing people? 

● Is connecting to a higher power challenging to you? If you do have a connection, would you like to deepen it? 

● Are there situations in your life that make you doubt whether a God exists?   

 

Toni's Question: Toni feels all aspects of her life are affected by her making decisions from a place of fear. She would like to find a way to think more productively.   

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Toni's Key Insights and Aha’s: 

● She fears failing and disappointing people. 

● Her self-worth is based on her people pleasing. 

● She’s confused about what security and love really are. 

● She hasn’t felt protected, or connected to her spirituality, since her father passed. 

● She feels like she would be clearer, if she had a spiritual connection. 

● She has been operating in survival mode. 

● She should know she is not broken. 

● She can change her relationship with herself, today. 

● She can focus on her blessings, not on her fears.   

 

How to Get Over It and On With It: 

● She should realize she can access her spirituality. 

● She should start processing her pain, and remove judgment, to arrive at forgiveness and love. 

● She should put herself in an environment where she can heal. 

● She can start cultivating her relationship with God, by talking to him/her.  

 

Assignments and Takeaways: 

 

● What is in your way of a connection to a higher power? 

● What is keeping you in patterns of people pleasing and indecision? 

● Do you have old trauma that needs to be processed? 

● What beliefs may be keeping you from having beliefs? 

● What religious upbringing did you have, which no longer resonates with you? 

● You need to find which truth resonates with you. 

● Look for a spiritual community of people who are committed to awakening, and who know we are all connected to source.  ● Start to develop a relationship with your higher power. 

● Pray. Pray for experiences, feelings, and pray to be shown the way.   

 

 Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book 

 

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