In this vulnerable session, Christine coaches Chloe, who finds herself caught in a painful loop of anxious and avoidant attachment patterns within her marriage. Chloe’s husband is navigating a midlife crisis and exploring his own healing journey, leaving Chloe feeling uncertain, hyper-vigilant, and emotionally stuck.

As they unpack Chloe’s longing for clarity and security, Christine gently guides her to examine the deeper soul lesson at play: reclaiming her own truth, needs, and emotional expression without waiting for external validation.

If you’ve ever dimmed your emotions to “keep the peace,” or found yourself anxiously waiting for someone else to decide your future, this episode will speak directly to your heart.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself waiting for someone else to give you clarity or permission?
• Are you stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing, withholding, or over-functioning?
• Do you often feel anxious in your romantic relationships—even if nothing is “wrong”?
• Are you afraid to fully express your emotions for fear of rocking the boat?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Anxious and avoidant attachment styles are two sides of the same insecure coin.
• Waiting for someone else's clarity can disempower your nervous system and inner child.
• Love without truth is not real intimacy—truth and love must go hand in hand.
• Emotional safety starts with allowing yourself to feel, express, and be seen—fully.
• We often attract partners who mirror the healing we still need to do within ourselves.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Pay attention to the moments you “pretend” everything is fine. Start telling the truth—gently but consistently.
• Stop waiting for clarity. Ask yourself: Is this relationship, as it is now, enough for me?
• Use the phrase: “What I’m making that mean is…” to clarify miscommunications in real time.
• Reconnect with your inner child and notice where she still believes love must be earned or tiptoed around.
• Set an anchor point in your calendar (like a retreat or personal milestone) to reassess from a place of greater embodiment and clarity.

Upcoming Retreat: October 17–19, 2025

Christine’s next live retreat for women is happening this October, and applications are now open. This is a curated, transformational space designed to help you release old patterns, reconnect with your inner wisdom, and receive the love and clarity you truly desire.

This retreat isn’t about pushing, fixing, or performing—it’s about truth, embodiment, and healing in a sacred space.

Dates: October 17–19, 2025
Apply Now: christinehassler.com/retreat

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• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
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Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couple therapist, speaker, author, professor,podcast host, and media personality, Dr. Alexandra is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity,and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals and research, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular and vibrant Instagram page, which has garnered over 200Kfollowers. She is an adjunct professor in the School of Education and Social Policy atNorthwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, has reached listeners across the globe and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You                    

Want, Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want,
and Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal,Grow, and Thrive. You can visit her online at DrAlexandraSolomon.com and on Instagram
at @dr.alexandra.solomon.

In this session, Christine coaches Mary, a high-achieving working mom who feels stuck in an anxious loop of striving, self-pressure, and “never-enoughness.” Underneath her drive for excellence is a deep fear of falling behind or being seen as “not good enough.”

Together, they unpack the childhood roots of her perfectionism and explore how nervous system patterns have reinforced the belief that love and safety must be earned through overachievement.

If you’re someone who struggles to be present, always feels like you have to “do more,” or battles guilt for not being the perfect parent or partner, this episode will hit home.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you define yourself by your productivity or achievements?
• Are you rarely satisfied—even when you reach your goals?
• Do you feel guilty for relaxing or being “unproductive”?
• Is it hard to be present with your children or loved ones?
• Is your inner critic louder than your inner cheerleader?

Key Themes and Insights:

• Perfectionism is a protective pattern, not an identity.
• True excellence is rooted in love—not fear or self-judgment.
• You can be present with others without fixing yourself first.
• Compassion is more transformational than self-criticism.
• Children (and your inner child) thrive when you slow down, not when you perform.

Ways to Integrate This Work:

• Create a daily ritual to transition from work mode to presence—especially with family.
• Let your children teach you presence through play, imagination, and simple joy.
• Notice when your anxious thoughts spiral, and give them a compassionate exit route.
• Replace judgment with curiosity: “What does this part of me really need?”
• Shift from proving your worth to practicing gentleness with yourself.

Upcoming Group Coaching Experience:
Join Christine for her virtual group session on August 4th, where she’ll guide you through powerful embodiment and nervous system practices to activate your divine capacity to receive. This is part two of her “Receive” series and is open to all women—whether or not you joined part one.

Topic: The Superpower of Receiving
When: August 4, 2025
Cost: $20
Replay Available: Yes
Register: christinehassler.com/group

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• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this special episode, I’m sharing a powerful conversation with incredible women— all who have attended my womens retreat. They speak candidly about the fears and doubts they had before saying yes to themselves.

Maybe you’ve had similar thoughts:
“What if I don’t belong?”
“Is it really worth the investment?”
“I’m scared ....”

In this heartfelt panel, they reflect on what happened when they chose to trust the nudge, attend the retreat, and step fully into the sacred container of transformation.

You’ll hear about the emotional breakthroughs, sisterhood bonds, nervous system shifts, and life-altering ripple effects that are still unfolding long after the retreat.

If you’ve ever felt the pull to do something big for your healing but fear was in the way…this episode is for you.

To learn more and register for the womens retreat go here: https://christinehassler.com/womensretreat/

In this powerful and emotionally honest session, Christine coaches Tiffany—a gifted, intuitive woman who’s been living inside the identity of caretaker, rescuer, and savior. As someone raised in a family marked by addiction, loss, and emotional chaos, Tiffany learned early on to take responsibility for others’ well-being, often at the expense of her own.

Now, with a brother spiraling and a deep longing to create a family of her own, Tiffany finds herself stuck in an exhausting cycle of overgiving, people-pleasing, and spiritual burnout. Christine gently but firmly guides her toward a redefinition of love—one that includes boundaries, dignity, and surrender, not depletion.

This episode speaks to every empath, helper, or healer who struggles with giving too much, confusing martyrdom with love, and forgetting their own needs in service of saving others.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel responsible for other people’s healing, happiness, or choices?
• Have you been confusing helping with over-giving—or love with martyrdom?
• Are you exhausted from trying to fix or save others who haven’t asked for your support?
• What might open up for you if you believed that everyone is on their own soul path—and you don’t have to intervene?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Being the “savior” is often a survival role rooted in early identity confusion—not your true purpose.
• There’s a sacred difference between being of service and being responsible for others.
• You can give people the dignity of their own process—and that is its own act of love.
• God/Source never asks you to deplete yourself in the name of love.
• When you stop over-giving, you make space for reciprocal love, rest, and your rightful life.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Reflect on this mantra: “I no longer rob others of the dignity of their own process.”
• Get honest about where you’re still playing the role of rescuer—and release it with compassion.
• Reorient your energy through prayer, meditation, or spiritual practices that restore you.
• Redefine your non-negotiables in relationships, especially around addiction, boundaries, and reciprocity.
• Begin to build a new identity: one rooted in self-trust, clear agreements, and spiritual alignment—not sacrifice.
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Upcoming Event: The San Diego Women’s Retreat (Oct. 17–19, 2025)
If this episode resonated, you’re invited to Christine’s signature women’s retreat—a high-frequency, transformational experience designed to reconnect you with your truth, your joy, and your courage. Whether you’re in a season of rebuilding or simply seeking maintenance for your soul, this retreat offers intentional support and sacred community.

Early bird discount ending soon.
Learn more and register at: christinehassler.com/retreat

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode, I’m joined by Molly Rubesh—certified life coach, author, and creator of The Modern Marriage Blueprint. Molly brings a grounded, refreshingly honest perspective to love, marriage, and everything in between.

A former corporate leader turned coach, Molly now helps individuals and couples heal old patterns, strengthen emotional intimacy, and build marriages rooted in truth, clarity, and conscious choice. We dive deep into the real side of partnership—what it takes to grow together, how to have the hard conversations, and why things like pre-nups and practical planning deserve just as much attention as romance.

Whether you’re calling in a relationship, healing from one, or deepening the one you’re in, this conversation offers insights that are both emotionally and strategically empowering.

You can access her course here: https://mollyrubesh.com/course-mmb

What happens when you’re doing “all the right things”—and yet life just won’t give you a break?

In this vulnerable coaching session, Christine supports Lauren, who finds herself stuck in a difficult season marked by frustration, stagnation, and unmet desires. From canceled dates to cockroach infestations and business disappointments, Lauren feels blocked on multiple fronts—despite years of doing the inner work.

What unfolds is a compassionate deep dive into the exhaustion of “efforting” without reward, the hidden cost of spiritual performance, and the powerful shift that comes when we release the idea that life must be “fair” to be good. Together, Christine and Lauren explore how to trade spiritual perfectionism and judgment for something much softer: acceptance, self-advocacy, and grounded trust in the unseen support that’s already working on our behalf.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel like you’ve done the work, but life still feels hard or stagnant?
• Are you stuck in a loop of striving, yet not seeing results?
• Does part of you still believe life is supposed to reward effort like a transaction?
• Are you ready to shift from pushing to receiving—from performance to presence?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Sometimes, when life “isn’t working,” we’re actually in a season of integration, not failure.
• “Life isn’t fair” is often a core wound—and learning to advocate for ourselves is the healing path.
• Taking empowered action is only part of the equation; our energy and beliefs must match.
• Self-advocacy is different from self-protection or hyper-independence—it’s rooted in worth.
• Relief, not elation, is the most powerful emotional setpoint to restore inner alignment.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Ask: “Where in my life can I lovingly advocate for myself?”
• Practice shifting from judgment to relief. Try the affirmation: “This is what is—and I am safe.”
• Notice when you assign meaning to disappointment. Can you stay curious instead of collapsing?
• Look for the difference between resignation and true acceptance. One drains, the other restores.
• Journal on this question: “What am I learning to receive in this season of life?”

Upcoming Event: Christine’s Women’s Retreat – October 17–19, 2025
If you feel stuck, depleted, or unsure where to go next, Christine invites you to her signature Women’s Retreat. It’s designed to help you shift frequencies—not just fix external problems. This immersive, high-frequency weekend supports deep healing, soul reconnection, and sustainable transformation.

Location: San Diego, California
Details + registration: christinehassler.com/retreat
Early bird registration ends soon

Want to be coached on the show?
Join the waitlist at: christinehassler.com/waitlist

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• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this deeply tender session, Christine works with Holly, who’s navigating the exhausting grip of fear and the inner conflict that arises when she tries to override it. Holly describes the frustration of knowing she’s done the inner work—yet still feeling paralyzed by fear when it comes to speaking up, setting boundaries, or simply sending a message to a friend.

What emerges is a powerful reframe: fear is not the enemy. It’s a messenger from past pain, particularly childhood wounds of abandonment and emotional neglect. Christine guides Holly through a shift from judgment to compassion, from pushing through fear to gently parenting the scared parts of herself with curiosity and care.

This conversation is for anyone who feels “stuck” in their fear despite years of personal growth—and who needs a reminder that softness, not force, is the path forward.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you judging yourself for still feeling fear, even after doing years of self-development work?
• Do small tasks, like expressing a need or setting a boundary, send you into overanalysis or self-doubt?
• Were you raised in an environment that didn’t feel safe or affirming—and are you carrying those patterns into adulthood?
• What might shift if you treated your fear with compassion instead of frustration?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Fear often stems from childhood wounds, not present-day reality.
• Self-judgment reinforces abandonment. Compassion heals it.
• We don’t have to “push through” fear to transform—it’s more powerful to honor it, tend to it, and respond with care.
• Hyper-independence can be a trauma response—not a personality trait.
• Healing happens through curiosity, compassion, and courage—not pressure and shame.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Practice speaking to yourself the way a nurturing parent would: “It’s okay to be scared. I’m here.”
• Try the three-step emotional approach Christine recommends: Compassion → Curiosity → Courage.
• Journal about where fear still holds you back—and what your younger self might need in those moments.
• Explore whether you're bypassing your feelings by “pushing through,” and ask what might happen if you softened instead.
• Identify safe relationships where you can start practicing self-expression and vulnerability in small ways.

Upcoming Event: The San Diego Women’s Retreat (Oct. 17–19, 2025)
If this episode resonated, you’re invited to Christine’s signature women’s retreat—a high-frequency, transformational experience designed to reconnect you with your truth, your joy, and your courage. Whether you’re in a season of rebuilding or simply seeking maintenance for your soul, this retreat offers intentional support and sacred community.

Early bird discount ending soon.
Learn more and register at: christinehassler.com/retreat

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.