In this episode, Christine helps Mariel navigate the complex feelings following a breakup that has left her struggling to move on. Despite ending the relationship almost a year ago, Mariel finds herself still emotionally entangled and unable to let go. Christine delves into the deeper issues stemming from Mariel's childhood, particularly her relationship with her father, to uncover the root causes of her emotional struggle.
Mariel ended a relationship due to her partner's addiction issues, but she is finding it disproportionately challenging to move on. Christine explores the more profound emotional wounds from Mariel's childhood, especially those related to her father, which may be contributing to her current emotional state. The conversation reveals the importance of addressing and healing childhood wounds to move forward in adult relationships.
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If you're feeling boxed in by your current path, maybe it's time to think about how your skills can open new doors—not just for others, but for yourself too. If you’ve ever thought about what it might be like to teach others what you know or create a business doing what you love, don’t miss this episode.
Your skills can be the key to unlocking new doors, not just for others, but for you too.
Tune in as my guest Dean Graziosi, New York Times bestselling author and esteemed entrepreneur, and I discuss what it takes to become an entrepreneur…how to overcome the fears and limiting beliefs and step into your legacy.
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In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Liv, who is experiencing a significant life transition and is unsure about her career and future. Liv has worked with children as a teacher, babysitter, and nanny, but now she wants to explore other professional paths. She struggles with guilt over leaving her current line of work and fears the uncertainty of pursuing new opportunities.
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In this episode, Christine speaks with Samantha, who is struggling with emotional attachments to two past romantic relationships she ended. Despite being the one to end both relationships, Samantha finds herself constantly thinking about her ex-partners, missing the companionship, and fantasizing about what could have been. Christine helps Samantha uncover the deeper emotional issues rooted in her childhood, specifically her relationship with her father, which have influenced her current difficulties in moving on from these relationships.
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If you are navigating any kind of change or are considering making a choice that feels authentic but you question how it will impact others, don't miss this episode. Life Coach, author and speaker Andrea Owen joins Christine to talk about identity shifts and making choices from our intuition, not our trauma. Andrea is creating a global impact in women’s empowerment with her books being translated into 19 languages and available in 23 countries.
She helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, master their mindset, and magnify their courage. You can learn more at andreaowen.com.
In this insightful episode of "Over It and On with It," host Christine Hasler explores a deeply resonant topic—navigating and resolving anger towards one's mother. Our guest, Sarah, shares her struggles with frequent negative interactions with her mother, often marred by impatience and rudeness, despite her mother's consistent kindness. This conversation delves into the root causes of Sarah's feelings, the broader implications of parental relationships, and practical steps for healing and self-nurturing.
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Some women are childfree by choice while others are childless due to circumstances, not choice. Lana Manikowski: Certified Life Coach, Keynote Speaker, Infertility Activist and Founder of “The Other's Day Brunch” is on a mission to show that infertile women can create the life of their dreams, even when it didn’t turn out as planned.
When a 7-year fertility journey ended without a child - and donor egg & adoption wasn’t for her - Lana yearned for a community who could understand the loneliness, self judgment and grief around navigating a childless future. When she couldn’t find one, she established in 2021 by launching The “So Now What?” Podcast.
In her coaching practice, Lana helps women navigate a life unexpected. Her 4-part coaching foundation helps guide women through the rediscovery of their purpose, meaning and joy, so they can build a future they truly love.
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In this episode, Christine engages in a coaching call with Shelley, who grapples with the ramifications of her fear of loss in her relationships. Through deep, reflective conversation, Christine helps Shelley uncover how her attempts to avoid loss may actually be precipitating the outcomes she fears.
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Jade Luna is back on the show! He has been my astrologer for nearly a decade and gives us insight on what's been happening in the world and what we can expect. Jade has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high level practice for over 18 years. He is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format. Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia. Jade consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations world wide.
In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hasler coaches Margaret, who struggles with moving forward in her career due to past health challenges and financial needs. Margaret has experienced a mix of burnout and inertia, pushing too hard (and then needing more) as she tries to navigate a balanced approach to re-entering the workforce.
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Turning her postpartum sleep deprivation into an opportunity to serve the millions of women who suffer in sleeplessness, Dr. Leigha Saunders is a naturopathic doctor turned sleep guru.
With over a decade of experience, Leigha’s innovative approach to solving sleep struggles intertwines hormone health, nervous system regulation and what she calls a "soul-focused approach" to focus on the deeper reasons so many of us lie awake at night.
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Welcome to episode 448 of "Over It and On With It." Today, our host, Christine Hassler, engages in a compelling conversation with Lynn, who seeks guidance on boosting her self-confidence. This episode dives deep into the roots of self-confidence, touching on childhood experiences, personal insecurities, and the journey toward radical self-acceptance.
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Nedra Glover Tawwab is the author of the New York Times bestseller Set Boundaries, Find Peace. A licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, she has practiced relationship therapy for more than fifteen years. Tawwab has appeared as an expert on The Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS This Morning, to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Good Life Project, Sofia with an F, and Therapy for Black Girls. Tawwab runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As about boundaries and relationships. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her family. For more information, see nedratawwab.com.
This coaching call is about breaking habitual patterns that are no longer needed. Today’s caller, Jenny, is having completely different reactions to different situations. She asks for guidance on how to be consistent in all areas of her life and change her attachment style. Christine discovers that it is not so much about her attachment styles but about the story she tells herself in different situations.
[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode447].
For those of us who experienced a trauma, or when the worst happened or we got in trouble for something, a neural pathway in our minds created a belief that expecting something bad to happen at any moment prepares us for future traumas and the accompanying shock. The shock is what makes trauma stay in our bodies because when we think everything’s fine, and something happens, our system is surprised. It becomes an imprint in our psyche, subconscious, emotional body, and our nervous system. Neural nets create unconscious patterns. When we are triggered we are hijacked by our subconscious.
As we grow and develop we have to update our survival strategies. So many of our survival strategies were formed when we were young. They are outdated. We have updated almost every other tool we use in our lives, yet we haven’t updated our survival strategies. When you have a habitual reaction to something, interrupt the pattern.
If you have a situation where you are bracing, expecting the worst, or getting nervous, do whatever it takes to regulate your nervous system. Take deep breaths and pause to break the habit.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you feel like you’re a different person in different situations?
Are your reactions sometimes much bigger than a situation warrants?
Do you often prepare yourself for the worst even though usually the worst doesn’t happen?
As a kid, was there a part of you that felt like you were in trouble, and that you didn’t get things right?
Jenny’s Question:
Jenny would like guidance about why her reactions are different in different situations.
Jenny’s Key Insights and Ahas:
She feels she reacts differently to things at work, in relationships, and when with friends and family.
Her relationship with her parents has changed since childhood.
She often gets anxious at work and feels that she will be in trouble.
She remembers getting in trouble with her father when she didn’t do something right.
She wants validation and love from her father.
She doesn’t feel good enough at work.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
When triggered, regulate her system by putting a hand on her heart and her belly and saying “I’m not in trouble. I didn’t do anything wrong.”
Where is she telling herself she isn’t enough?
Give herself compassion and commitment. Don’t give up!
Takeaway:
When you have a habitual reaction to something, interrupt the pattern and update your survival strategy.
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This coaching call is about giving ourselves the love we deserve. Today’s caller, Nicole, is struggling to give the love and acceptance she gives to her child, to herself. She feels something is missing in her life because she didn’t receive love from her parents. Christine offers guidance on how she can change her story and start loving herself.
[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode446].
Is it possible to give ourselves unconditional love 100% of the time? Is it possible to be loving to ourselves most of the time and catch ourselves when we are not?
When we don't get the love we want, or need from our parents we can flip into the victim archetype easily. It is the subconscious way we try to get love for ourselves.
The challenge with loving ourselves the way we love other people is so pervasive. There is an epidemic of people who don't feel that they are enough in some way. Whether the feeling came from inside our childhood home or outside of it, it reinforced that limiting belief.
Love is our essence. It's naturally who we all are. But we move out of love and more into fear and judgment as we age. A practice we can do to be unconditionally loving to ourselves is to keep trying and keep showing up for ourselves. When we notice that we're not being loving to ourselves, when we're in judgment, fear, criticism, or shame, we can acknowledge it and bring ourselves back to love.
Press your hand on your heart and say “I am loved.” Press your hand on your belly and say “I am safe.“
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Did you feel unconditionally loved as a child, and if you didn't, are you sad and angry about it?
Did you find it hard to give yourself the love you so easily give others, especially a child or a partner?
Do you struggle with being kind to yourself?
Do you wish that you could have had the childhood that other children have or that your children have?
Nicole’s Question:
Nicole is struggling to give the love and acceptance she gives to her child, to herself.
Nicole’s Key Insights and Ahas:
Her son is autistic.
She gives her son an abundance of love and affection.
She believes her son chose her.
She feels sad.
She was not given unconditional love as a child.
She feels anger toward her parents for the love she didn’t get.
She feels there is a big missing piece in her life.
She has worked hard to not be a people pleaser and not to seek validation from others.
She shares her mother’s love for nature with her son.
She wants to nurture a spiritual relationship with her parents.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
Grieve and release feelings of rage or sadness.
Embrace the love she is getting.
Take the opportunity to parent herself as she parents her child.
Feel gratitude in place of sadness.
Step out of victim and into integration and application.
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Brandy Gillmore is a researcher and mind-body healing expert who has been captivating audiences worldwide with her incredible ability to demonstrate radical healing using only the mind.
Brandy's groundbreaking discoveries stemmed from her own debilitating injury. After an accident in 2003 left her disabled, in excruciating pain, and without hope of recovery, Brandy began searching for a cure. Through years of exploring every avenue for healing, Brandy eventually discovered obscure research that changed the course of her life and resulted in a complete recovery.
Now, she is releasing her brand-new cutting-edge book, Master Your Mind and Energy to Heal Your Body, where she shares the hidden research that is the key to her success!
This coaching call is about how to have a conscious conversation when anger is present. Today’s caller, Megan, values growth and communication, yet she gets triggered when her husband needs space during tense conversations. She asks Christine for guidance on how to process her anger and have conscious conversations in her relationship.
[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode445].
No one communicates well when anger is present because we are in a completely different part of our brains. The part of the brain that anger resides in is ready to fight and do damage. When we are in that part of our brain we don’t make the best choices. We are not in the part of our brain that accesses empathy, being resourced, cognitive functioning, and rationality. None of those skills are accessible when we are in anger.
Those of us who have done a lot of personal development work can sometimes have high expectations and high standards of how we should communicate and how other people should communicate with us. We need to remember that we are human. When we are in an argument, or we are not in a regulated state, it is difficult to consciously remind ourselves to use non-violent communication or to take a breath and release the anger in a healthy way or take some space.
Expecting ourselves to have amazing, empowered conversations when we are triggered is not an easy task. Because anger is a fiery, active energy that needs an outlet. If it isn’t given a safe outlet or isn’t expressed it will do other things.
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Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself to be conscious when you are in an argument?
Is anger a trigger for you? When someone gets angry, do you go into a trauma response, or do you fight, flight, or freeze?
What is your attachment style?
Growing up, were you shown how to deal with big feelings in a healthy way?
Megan’s Question:
Megan would like guidance about communication when anger is present and her husband needs space.
Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas:
She and her husband value growth and communication.
When anger is present she forgets her healthy communication skills.
She beats herself up for letting anger take over.
She goes into an anxious attachment style when she gets angry.
Her husband needs space to regulate when anger comes up.
She didn’t see much anger in her childhood.
Her grandfather had anger issues.
Her parents didn’t express their emotions.
She fears losing connection and love.
A past boyfriend had a pattern of love-bombing her and then pulling away.
She is not comfortable with big feelings.
She uses sarcasm to express anger.
She is ready to practice Christine’s guidance.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
Forgive herself for dropping into judgment.
Take a deep breath and have a temper tantrum when she feels triggered to regulate her nervous system.
When her husband needs space, actively release her anger.
Remind herself that her husband taking space is not him leaving the relationship.
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Suzy Ashworth is a single mum of three children, high school dropout, Hay House author, international keynote speaker, multiple seven-figure success coach, and serial entrepreneur on a mission. She has worked with 1000’s of impact driven leaders in business to create quantum shifts in their lives and their businesses over the last 10 years and Her vision is to help people receive more of what they want - without sacrificing who they really are or the people that love through the four pillars of Infinite Receiving.
This coaching call is about how being authentic attracts things most in alignment with what we want. Today’s caller, Lisa, wants to call in a committed relationship. She feels her life choices may be keeping her from finding a partner. She asks for guidance about how to call in the partner she desires.
[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode444].
One of our superpowers as women is that we are highly adaptable and it can be a beautiful asset. But, it can also serve as a liability because, often, we think we need to adapt ourselves to get a man or to not scare someone off.
Anytime we become adaptable to try and align with a partner we contract our true selves. Our adaptability becomes a shadow side of our superpower because it doesn’t feel super powerful to contract ourselves and to be something we are not.
Our unresolved issues from childhood, basically the beliefs and patterns we carry around, are one of the biggest blocks to calling in the relationship we desire. Doing inner child work is the foundation for us to be our authentic selves.
Being our authentic selves and living in alignment with who we truly are is the shift that will bring in the kind of partner that is in the most perfect alignment with us.
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Have you been trying to strategically date or strategically do something to get what you want, and it is not working?
Do you think that the way you are isn’t going to get you what you want?
Are you somebody who does things differently and thinks that you need to change to get what you want?
Do you trust that you can receive what you want?
Lisa’s Question:
Lisa wants to be in a committed relationship but feels her life choices are keeping her from finding a partner.
Lisa’s Key Insights and Ahas:
She moved to a different city to leave a toxic relationship.
She believed the universe had a plan when she met another person but it didn’t work out.
She is nomadic.
She wants a committed relationship but struggles in partnership.
She is sad and feels stuck.
She has a scarcity mindset.
She feels she is on a constant mission to find a partner.
She is an introvert.
She is not being authentic to who she is.
In childhood, she had to perform to get affection.
She doubts herself.
She doesn’t want a partner who is tied to one place.
She enjoys being by herself.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
Consider what her version of stability is.
Lean into who she authentically is.
Stop focusing on the void she feels.
Start energetically bringing in her ideal partner.
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This coaching call is overcoming the blocks that keep us from achieving goals. Today’s caller, Hannah Jade, feels her past decisions are holding her back from achieving her financial goals. She would like to understand the root cause of her block and how she can pursue her goals without conditions.
[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode443].
Ideally, there should be consistency in a child’s life so they can focus on learning who they are, independent of their parents, and learn to take the initiative to have a sense of power and purpose in the world.
Our childhood doesn’t have to define us or limit us. When we find the root cause and help our inner child get what they didn’t get, have the developmental leap that they didn’t have at that time, then it’s like our past doesn’t have to keep presenting itself in our present.
There is so much other work we can do around mind shifts and beliefs, and the work is powerful. When we combine it with inner child work and understanding what happens to us developmentally and what needs we needed to be met at certain times in our lives, it can help us make profound shifts faster.
Combining inner child work with mindset work is a great recipe for experiencing transformation in our lives.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you ever find that you can’t seem to make your dreams happen?
Do you feel ashamed when it comes to buying a house, getting married, or other milestone goals?
Do you have debt you are ashamed of?
Did you have some hard times in your childhood that may be impacting your life now?
Hannah Jade’s Question:
Hannah Jade feels her financial goals aren’t attainable. She asks for guidance on how to make her goals feel possible.
Hannah Jade’s Key Insights and Ahas:
She feels her past choices are holding her back.
She is loving herself through her experiences.
She experienced a lot of changes during her childhood.
She didn’t have heavy trauma but she had many inconsistencies.
She shied away from things she wanted to explore.
She feels safe with people who are grounded.
She has initiative but doubts her abilities.
She has a strong connection with her inner child.
She feels buying a home will fill her up with happiness.
She feels she has stagnant or sluggish energy at times.
She may have gone into debt to feel more connected.
She is an entrepreneur.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
Ask little Hannah Jade what she needs to be comfortable with taking initiatives.
Create a bedtime routine for herself to support her inner child.
Prioritize connections and intentions with herself.
Treat herself and her debt with tenderness.
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Alexandra Roxo is an artist, bestselling author, spiritual teacher, and transformational coach. She has been featured as a guest speaker on many renowned podcasts and at numerous festivals and events worldwide, and she has been featured in multiple TV appearances, including two seasons of Netflix’s hit show Too Hot to Handle. Her work has also been featured in the New York Times, Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, the Guardian, Nylon, and Playboy. For more, visit alexandraroxo.com.