Dec 30, 2017
Listen in as Christine wraps up 2017 and guides you through a beautiful meditation to bring 2017 to an intentional completion and begin to co-create 2018.
Dec 27, 2017
This episode is about finding the true sweetness in life. Today’s caller, Marina, feels like she is stuck, especially when it comes to resisting sugar and taking care of her body. As you will hear in the call, It’s not actually sugar she is craving. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode120] We don’t overcome our eating patterns with discipline alone. There is no one diet or one book that fixes it. Usually, there is a deeper issue at play that goes back to our childhood. When it comes to dealing with any kind of food addiction or self-sabotaging behavior when it comes to food or exercise it is important we get to the root of the issue and get support to start building new healthy habits. Most people try to change themselves because they want to get away from something. It may get them to a certain point but it is depleting because it employs criticism and restriction. This ‘moving away from’ motivation triggers your inner rebel which is why it usually doesn’t work. Having ‘toward’ motivation is becoming a disciple and having a loving following of the thing you are moving toward, like your health and well being. I find, people who crave sugar didn’t have a lot of sweetness or nurturing growing up. They internalize an overly critical or controlling parent or they use self-criticism as a motivator. Sweetness and nurturing is something we humans need. If you weren’t soothed as a child food can become a soothing strategy. Give yourself the sweetness and nurturing you may not have gotten growing up. Sign up for my newsletter to get my tips on how to say goodbye to 2017 and to say hello 2018! Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel stuck or like you are sabotaging yourself in some area of your life? ? Do you have a sugar or food addiction? ? Are you hard on yourself especially when judging yourself as lazy or lacking self-discipline? ? Did you grow up with a lot of sweetness and nurturing in your life? Marina’s Question: Marina feels limited in her ability to be happy and that she lacks discipline. Marina’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She has created self-supportive habits for herself. ? She breaks agreements with herself when it comes to food and exercise. ? She has an emotional craving for sweetness. ? She grew up with fear and criticism as motivators. ? She is a rebelling against herself. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should speak kindly to herself when feels stressed. ? She should soothe herself with something else. ? She should do grief work around what she wanted from her parents and be a loving parent to herself. ? She should find a way to do things without them feeling oppressive. ? She should research her blood sugar levels. Takeaways: ? Don't try to beat your sugar addiction with willpower alone. ? If you feel stuck in any aspect of your life become a disciple and find your ‘toward motivation’ to get what you want. ? Find ways to be sweet to yourself and self-soothe. ? Write an ‘I wish’ letter to your parents and then use it to give yourself the gift of inner sweetness. Sponsor: NOOM— Is a modern weight release program that turns temptations into behavioral breakthroughs. Use this link to receive your own customized course designed by psychologists, nutritionists, and physicians, 24/7 access to your own personal coach, and the first 2 weeks free + 50% off your subscription. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com University of Santa Monica Shift Your Health and Your Mindset — A Coaches Corner with JJ Virgin
Dec 23, 2017
Giovanni Marsico is the founder of Archangel - a community of superhero entrepreneurs, leaders and gamechangers that are making the world a better place through mission-driven entrepreneurship and philanthropy. In this Coaches Corner we talk about the importance of finding your tribe or like-minded people — especially if you are an introvert or feel like a “black sheep” in some way. Giovanni hosts his large-scale fundraiser in Toronto every September for thousands of entrepreneurs called Archangel Summit where all of the proceeds are used to support various charities and offer micro-loans to entrepreneurs creating positive impact. He also runs a invitation-only, private community called Archangel Masters for highly successful entrepreneurs impacting the lives of millions of people. Learn more here: http://www.archangelsummit.com/
Dec 20, 2017
The essence of today’s episode is about breaking free of the roles we play in our families. Today’s caller, Jenna, is not stepping into her potential — specifically her financial potential — because she is still playing the role in her family that she played as a child and teenager. She wants to make sure everyone else is okay and it is holding her back. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode119] Many of us deal with the same issue as we individuate and become adults. There is a certain way we fit into our family to get safety, security, and love. When we start to have success and abundance, there is a part of us that feels like we are unworthy or unsafe. This is what I call an Upper Limits problem. We often stop ourselves from moving forward because we are so concerned about what other people think. If you think your success comes at the risk of someone else not getting it, feeling small, or not understanding, you will keep getting in your own way. If you value fitting in and protecting your role over living your dreams, you may need to shift. Sometimes your very existence may trigger someone. If other people in your family are suffering that is their choice. If they are making choices that make them unhappy it is not your job to suffer with them. Break free of the role of carrying your family’s burdens. Break free of trying to make everyone understand you. You cannot see your vision clearly or see your full potential clearly if you are watching and managing how people are reacting to what you are doing. Know that trying to make other people feel comfortable at the same time as living into your full potential is impossible. It is your job to fulfill your mission. If you resonated with this episode go back and listen to my coaching call #113 with Sarah about shining your light. BIG NEWS! I have four spaces open for my one-on-one coaching. If you want to uplevel your life and career email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to get an application. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? How are you getting in your own way? How are you sabotaging your own success, specifically financially? ? What role did you play in your family? What did you do to fit in, to please everyone else to keep yourself safe? ? How is that role potentially holding you back at this point in your life? ? Is there a part of you who is afraid to step into your full potential? Are you playing small because you don’t want to make other people feel small? Jenna’s Question: Jenna would like to become a bigger version of herself but feels something always pulls her back. She would like to uplevel her yoga business. Jenna’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She is keeping herself small to make other people comfortable. ? She was a caretaker in her family. ? She felt embarrassed by her ambitions. ? She didn’t want to make others feel small. ? She feels successful even with financial challenges. ? It’s okay for her to share herself with confidence even if it triggers other people. ? If she doesn’t shift she may end up resenting people. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should write letters she doesn’t intend to mail, to cut the energetic cords to family members. ? She should realize people are capable of handling their own experience. ? She should write down some new beliefs. ? She should turn her efforts inward to help her and her little girl make her dreams come true. Takeaways: ? Write a letter to the people you feel you will upset without mailing it. ? Visualize and practice yourself looking forward, not backward. ? Write a list of your competing intentions. Get fully aligned with the intentions that put you where you want to go and accept that you can’t make everyone happy. ? Consider how the role you played in your family is impacting your life right now and journal your thoughts. What is your new role? Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — What if you could take the away the hassle...
Dec 16, 2017
If things have been intense for you lately, you are not alone. Many of us are dealing with intense challenges and expectation hangovers. This is NOT the time to spiritual bypass or jump to the silver lining. This IS the time to dive deep and explore what the Universe is teaching you or calling you toward.
Listen in as Christine talks about the intensity of this time and takes you through a guided meditation to deal with the uncertainty.
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Dec 13, 2017
This episode is about self-honoring choices, ultimatums, and jealousy in mother-daughter relationships. Todays caller, Kristin, is looking for guidance in how to proceed after her mother gave her an ultimatum. We also look at the compensatory strategies Kristin has adopted in an effort to deal with things from her childhood.
[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode118]
What is a self-honoring choice? A self-honoring choice is an honest choice rooted in truth that comes from love. Kristin felt she was always in competition with her mother. She became a perfectionist as a compensatory strategy because she felt that she could only receive love if she was perfect. Through her growth work, she is starting to make self-honoring choices for herself.
What are you passionate about? What you are passionate about is often a tie into our spiritual curriculum and our parents are part of that curriculum. Remember, we choose our parents as our teachers. When our parents dont see us for who we truly are, it can seem cruel. But, part of our soul journey is to heal from past cruelty.
What do you long for from your parents?
Be sure to check out Coaches Corner. Last week I talked about ghosting and flaky behavior, the week before I interviewed Jill about selling skills and I even answer questions. So, if you have a question for me, email assist@ChristineHassler.com.
Is there someone in your life you are not speaking to or have a strained relationship with?
If you grew up with two parents, was one more challenging for you to get along with or close to?
Do you tend to be attracted, date or marry people you feel you must earn their love?
Do you know what self-honoring choices are? If so, do you make them regularly?
Kristin would like to know how to approach her mother about a recent ultimatum.
Kristins Key Insights and Ahas:
She was in an abusive relationship.
She made a self-honoring choice.
She was always in competition with her mother.
Her mother was passive aggressive.
She yearned for attention from her mother.
Her parents had a horrible relationship.
Her existence triggers her mother.
She chose her mother.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should keep working on herself and stay strong to break the pattern of contorting herself to make her mother feel better.
She should realize her mom may not be able to face her issues.
She should continue making self-honoring choices.
Where are you not making self-honoring choices because you are trying too much to please people?
And, where are you not making self-honoring choices because you are trying to be the bigger person vs. speaking your truth?
Why did you pick your parents and what are they here to teach you?
Let go of who you want your parents to be. Accept the fact that if your mother or father truly saw what they needed to see about themselves in order to give you the apology you crave, it might break them.
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Dec 9, 2017
Ever been ghosted which is when someone you were in communication with all of a sudden totally disappears with zero explanation. Most often it happens in dating. You are seeing someone and texting frequently and then all of a sudden . . . crickets. Ghosting can also happen in friendship.
It is incredibly painful and frustrating because you are left with no reason other than the reasons you make up in your head (which are usually not very healthy!).
Listen in as Christine goes on a rant about ghosting, explains why people do it from a psychological point of view and gives you tips to get over being ghosted.
Dec 6, 2017
This episode is about moving from awareness to integration. Todays caller, Natalie, has been on the path of personal growth for two years but is finding it difficult to integrate her new awareness and make real change happen in her life.
[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode117]
Awareness is great but its only a step to actually making changes in our lives. We have to take awareness and shift it into changes changes in the way we think, changes in the way we react and process our feelings, changes in our behavior. And, not from the perspective that there is anything wrong with us or that we are broken but from what am I going to do with this awareness now that I have it?
Trusting yourself is very important. You must stop doubting yourself and stop breaking your word with yourself in terms of commitments and self-care. If you do, consciously re-negotiate with yourself. When we dont have self-trust it is torture. We agonize over a decision and we search for someone out there to give us the answer or make us feel safe. No one else can do it. It is an inside job.
Be sure to check out this weekends Coaches Corner! I will be addressing ghosting and flaky behavior.
Do you find it challenging to move from awareness to integration?
Do you have a parent who has been absent in some way? A divorce, death, emotional unavailability and you sense it could be affecting your current relationships?
Can you relate to the feeling of being anxious in a relationship because of a fear that a person may leave and stop liking or loving you?
When it comes to trust, how are you at trusting others and do you trust yourself?
Natalie would like to know how to use her awareness to be happier with herself and in relationships.
Natalies Key Insights and Ahas:
She had a loving and supportive relationship with her parents.
She expects men to betray her and has fears of abandonment.
She created a story to block out her fathers affair.
She doesnt keep the self-honoring choices she makes to herself.
She had a strained relationship with her mother.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should be more patient with herself and less critical of her development.
She should read or listen to the book, Attachment.
She should start connecting with her inner child.
She should trust herself and rely on her inner resources.
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Dec 2, 2017
If you have a service based business OR are considering hiring a coach do not miss this episode. Listen in as I sit with Jill, who has worked with me for over eight years, and talk about:
1. Why sales and enrollment is not icky and really is a service to people
2. How to overcome objections and turn them into coachable moments
3. The most important things you need to do to build your service based biz and become successful and comfortable with enrollment
4. What to watch out for when hiring a coach
We also do a role-playing session where I play the client full of objections about money and Jill coaches me through it.
To contact Jill about coaching email firstname.lastname@example.org