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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Nov 28, 2018

This call is about finding the motivation to be consistent and committed to working on important projects and self-care. Today’s caller, Jenna, would like to follow through with her passion project but limiting beliefs created in during her childhood and her fear of disappointment keep her from taking action. If you can relate to a lack of motivation or self-sabotaging behavior, then you will receive a lot from this episode.

 [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode168]

We all know that taking care of ourselves and spending time investing in our dreams is important and “good” for us. So, why is it hard to actually do it? Are there enough hours in the day? Do we need a better motivation strategy? Are we just to busy with the to-dos and everyday demands of life? No. Not following through on the things that matter most has zero to do with time or obligations and 100% to do with our own internal blocks.

We often look too much at the things we want to change or how far we have to go to be healed in some way, without acknowledging and celebrating how incredibly far we’ve come.

Many people did not have an easy past. Most of your parents have not done any personal development work and raised you more from their own pain than from a truly healthy place. It’s not their fault — they were doing the best they could. But many of you missed out on some major developmental milestones because of your past and the way you were parented. So, cut yourself some slack when you run into obstacles as adults. The obstacles are there to bring awareness to the ways you need to go back and re-parent yourself.

If you had no one taking care of you and you were always taking care of other people, of course, self-care is not going to come naturally. Or, if you had the winds taken out of your sails many times, getting excited about something may come with a sense of caution because you are scared of an expectation hangover.

If you want to inspire yourself, find your why and then find a feel-good feeling to move you toward it.

Many people get lonely over the holidays, so I am bringing back my group sessions but this time I am holding them virtually on Zoom. The first group session will be held on December 3rd at 5 pm Pacific Time, 8 pm Eastern Time. No matter where you are in the world you can participate for just $20. I will be facilitating a live, guided meditation and visualization process plus we will focus on dealing with the stress and loneliness that many experience during the holidays, managing ‘shoulds’ and expectations, and setting crystal clear intentions for the new year. Sign up at ChristineHassler.com/Group or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you ‘shoulding’ all over yourself?

● Are there things you enjoy doing but getting yourself to do them is challenging?

● When you look back on your childhood, did you have one or did you have to grow up too early?

● Is it hard for you to get excited about things? But you are so terrified of disappointment or an expectation hangover that you keep your expectations and excitements low?

Jenna’s Question:

Jenna wants to know how she can show up for herself and follow through on her self-care goals.

Jenna’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She has started and stopped projects for much of her life.

● She wants to start a podcast.

● She is doesn’t know who she is.

● She felt like a chameleon growing up.

● She had a lot of expectation hangovers as a child.

● She feels alone in her motherhood journey.

● She doesn’t feel safe expressing herself.

● She has to separate herself from her negative self-talk. 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● Her why and her fear of not moving forward need to become bigger than the limiting beliefs that come up for her.

● She needs to establish her soul family and reach out to other beginner podcasters.

● She needs to expand her meetup group.

● She needs to trust that life is supporting her.

● She should revisit the emotional and mental sections of the Personal Mastery Course

Takeaways For You:

● If you are feeling blocked in your present, look to your past. There are unresolved issues, hurts, and missed developmental stages there to heal.

● Join my Personal Mastery Course to help unlock any keys from your past that are keeping you blocked.

● Find a why for your self-care and your passion project, then a feel-good feeling to go along with it.

● If fear is in your way then find something to be even more scared about.

● Talk back to the voices in your head.

● Get support in your life. You don’t have to do your passion project alone.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Nov 24, 2018
Christine shares her personal gratitude ritual and leads you through a gratitude affirmation process.  You can download her guided gratitude meditation at: https://christinehassler.com/gratitude
Nov 21, 2018

This call is about overcoming roadblocks to motivation. Desiree calls in concerned about her ability to follow through, and commit to her goals. But, in this as in most coaching sessions, we delve deeper into why she is holding herself back and suppressing her feelings. If you relate to not feeling motivated and are ready to shine your light, this episode will help you discover how to take risks and go after your dreams.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode167]

Often, when we have a parent that is hard on us or doesn’t create a safe space for us we think that not doing things will bring us safety and that feeling things is dangerous. And because of that, we miss out on being mothered. Anybody can be a mother. Mothering is more about the archetype of mother and holding a space of compassion, and nurturing. Maybe you don't need to be motivated right now, maybe what you need is some mothering.

As adults, if we expect someone else to come along and fulfill the places and the roles we yearned for from our parents, we will be waiting for a really long time. So much of our healing and growth happens when we consciously choose to be that parent that we didn't have.

The things we wish someone else would have done for us are the things we need to do for ourselves.

To celebrate Thanksgiving week here in the U.S. I have a free gratitude visualization and meditation for all of my listeners. Follow me on Instagram, @ChristineHassler and I will announce how to access it.

And, thanks to Joovv Red Light Therapy I feel a difference in my muscle recovery and joint pain. I use it every day. It also improves skin health and reduces inflammation on a cellular level.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you feeling a block to motivation or are you really just blocking your feelings?

● Did you grow up in a house where it was safe to express yourself?

● How do you express your feelings? Do you suppress your feelings and sweep them under the rug?

● Are you incredibly critical of yourself? Do you feel ashamed, insecure, or nervous when you talk to people or in a group?

 

Desiree’s Question:

Desiree gets excited about her goals but never follows through with accomplishing them. She would like to know how to be more motivated.

 

Desiree’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She has problems setting realistic goals for herself.

● She doesn’t keep her personal commitments.

● She is a people pleaser.

● She feels that if she expressed herself she will be ignored, rejected, or judged.

● She plays it safe.

● She feels shame about not being motivated enough.

● She suppresses her feelings.

● She would like an apology from her mother.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to forgive herself for judging herself for not being motivated enough.

● She needs to recognize when she is upset and use the temper tantrum and release writing techniques from Expectation Hangover.

● She needs to mother herself and give herself a feeling of safety.

● She needs to remind herself that it is OK to be vulnerable and to feel her feelings.

 

Takeaways For You:

● If you were writing the screenplay of your life, what would you as the main character need to go through, to come into your own and to have the happy ending you deserve?

● If you want some additional help join my Personal Mastery Course, the online program that includes monthly coaching calls. Grab a copy of Expectation Hangover or attend my for-women-only Spring Retreat.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Joovv Red Light Therapy

Nov 17, 2018

Christine speaks with author and workplace expert Dan Schawbel about how technology has led to increased feelings of loneliness and isolation. Listen in to surprising stats about our how our addiction to devices is de-humanizing us and get tips on how to be more connected to actual human beings!

Dan Schawbel is a New York Times bestselling author, Partner and Research Director at Future Workplace, and the Founder of both Millennial Branding and WorkplaceTrends.com. He is the bestselling author of two career books: Promote Yourself and Me 2.0. His third book, Back to Human: How Great Leaders Create Connection in the Age of Isolation, is the one we discuss on this episode.

Dan and myself are also both featured experts in the upcoming documentary “The Revolution Generation”, which is directed by Josh Tickell and narrated by actress Shailene Woodley.

Nov 14, 2018

This call is about feeling worthy and transforming the inner critic. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a ‘toxic’ relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode166]

The feeling of not-enoughness is a major human problem. Eventually, we will evolve out of this not-enoughness thinking and raise children differently so we all don’t have to have this major human epidemic. Know that by listening to this show, doing inner work and by feeding yourself the truth you are doing your part to evolve human consciousness.

Nothing outside of you can fulfill you and nothing external comes to you until you truly know that you are worthy and enough. That being said, we live in an interdependent world. And, although we cannot look to the outside world to make us happy it is important to feel connected to others and attract and nurture healthy relationships no matter where we are in our journey.

The brain may confuse familiarity with love because it was wired from an early age to make love an equation. Many learn that if they act a certain way they will get love. Conditional love can feel familiar. But, worthiness is not conditional. 

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you struggle with not feeling enough?

● Have you ever had a ‘toxic’ relationship?

● Do you doubt that the people in your life really love you and see you? Do you fear that you will not measure up in some way?

● Is there a fierce inner critic that lives inside your head? And, even though you know you should be nicer to yourself you can’t seem to change your self-talk?

 

Elizabeth’s Question:

Elizabeth is searching for some daily mantras or actions that will make her feel enough and worthy.

 

Elizabeth’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She is having difficulty connecting her intellect with her heart.

● She feels not enough and that her life is pointless.

● She verbalizes the chaos she feels in her mind.

● She was in an eight-year ‘toxic’ relationship.

● She has ‘love’ attached to feeling a certain way.

● She has trouble quieting her inner critic.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to be in the present moment and feel her feelings.

● She needs to stop and breathe when her mind starts racing.

● She needs to realize that nothing is wrong with her. She is human.

● She needs to forgive herself for confusing familiarity with love.

● She needs to give her inner critic a new job description.

● She needs to do release writing when her inner critic is bratty.

 

Takeaways For You:

● If you struggle with not-enoughness, when you feel it coming on, stop and think that you are hungry for the truth. And then, feed yourself some truth. 

● Watch your language and watch what you are affirming.

● Slow down! Drop in and breathe.

● Give things you want to shift a new job description and a new role.

● If you want some additional help join my Personal Mastery Course, the online program that includes monthly coaching calls. Grab a copy of Expectation Hangover or attend my for-women-only Spring Retreat.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Nov 10, 2018

In this episode, Christine talks through why vulnerability is so important to healthy relationships and how to do it in a safe way.  Vulnerability creates more authenticity in our lives which leads to deeper connections and greater intimacy.  

Nov 7, 2018

This call is about being willing and committed to truly healing past trauma. The caller, Cori, asks how to process her trauma in a way that doesn’t make her feel more traumatized. If any of you are feeling this way and want to understand how to process your past without fear and crying all the time, I think you will appreciate this episode. And, if trauma has been part of your past listen to this episode in a calm space where you can really take it in.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode165]

Releasing pain and going through the process of healing is hard sometimes because we are finally giving ourselves permission to feel all the feelings that we didn’t get to feel at the time. We don't have to re-traumatize ourselves.

When more and more people speak openly about the trauma they have experienced, more of us are activated or triggered to remember our own trauma. When we dive into personal development work, we need to wear a seatbelt and sometimes we go a little too fast and sometimes we attempt to process things on our own. It can be overwhelming. It’s important to reach out and ask for guidance from a professional.

Often times, if we have experienced a lot of trauma, especially, abuse, our worthiness takes a hit and we identify with an addiction to suffering because we think that is what we deserve. But, individuals who have experienced the most pain in their past often have the biggest purposes, the biggest hearts, the biggest capacity to be healers. Know that there is a purpose to your pain and know that it doesn’t have to live inside of you.

Willingness and commitment to the healing process are all you need to get momentum started. You don’t need to know the ‘how.’ When dealing with trauma or major issues from our past, we can’t know the ‘how’ on our own. We are not supposed to. There are so many personal development resources. There are online products and online courses on my site. They are very useful and they can help people overcome a lot. I recommend working with a qualified and skillful practitioner to release traumatic experiences is not only important, but it is also imperative.

Reminders: The Spring Retreat for women in March is filling up. If you would like more information email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. My Personal Mastery Course is online and to help you co-create your life AND there is one personal coaching client space available. There are only 8 spaces per year available for personal coaching directly from me. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you doing a lot of personal development work but it’s beginning to feel overwhelming?

● Do you feel this life that you are dreaming of but your current reality is so far from it you don’t think it is ever going to happen?

● Are you terrified of actually feeling your feelings because you feel you may never get to the other side of it?

● When you do feel your feelings is there an inner judgment that comes up that analyzes and reacts so your feelings aren’t honored?

 

Cori’s Question:

Cori is looking for guidance about how not to be re-traumatized when she does personal development work to break the cycle of shame that started during her traumatic childhood.

 

Cori’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She is the feeling feelings that may have been tucked away for a long time.

● She has fear about releasing her feelings.

● She feels alone and isolated when she re-processes her trauma.

● She wants to be relaxed and comfortable in her body.

● She wants to feel secure in her life.

● She had some friendships dissolve over the summer.

● She is scared she won’t ever get the things she really wants.

● She has a comfort zone with pain and suffering.

● She is willing to heal and deal.

● She is worthy and deserving and there is nothing wrong with her.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to work with skilled practitioners.

● She needs to be willing to let herself fall apart.

● She needs to quiet down the internal Judger in her head and let compassion take over.

● She needs to reach out to a family member and ask for help.

● She needs to tell herself she is safe.

 

Takeaways For You:

● Consider if you have an addiction to suffering. If so, are you willing to break it?

● Get help. Get guidance. Ask for help and then express your emotions from a place of compassion.

● Find a way to connect to the part of you that knows it is not broken. You are worthy, and whole, and complete, and lovable.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Nov 3, 2018
Sadie Lincoln is the co-founder and CEO of barre3, a fitness company focused on teaching people to be balanced in body and empowered from within. Starting in 2008 with the flagship studio in Portland, Oregon, barre3 has grown to include more than 140 franchise studios powered by female entrepreneurs, plus an online-workout streaming-subscriber base in 98+ countries. What started as a workout has blossomed into a full-blown movement made up of millions of people focused on body positivity, being empowered, and redefining what success in fitness means.

 

Sadie is on Inc.'s Female Founders 100 list, has been featured on NPR's How I Built This, and speaks regularly on the topics of mindful leadership, the power of body wisdom, and the movement to redefine what success in fitness means. Beyond running her company and being a global spokesperson, Sadie still enjoys teaching barre3 classes to many of her founding clients in her hometown of Portland, Oregon.

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