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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Dec 30, 2017
Listen in as Christine wraps up 2017 and guides you through a beautiful meditation to bring 2017 to an intentional completion and begin to co-create 2018.
Dec 27, 2017
This episode is about finding the true sweetness in life. Today’s caller, Marina, feels like she is stuck, especially when it comes to resisting sugar and taking care of her body. As you will hear in the call, It’s not actually sugar she is craving. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode120] We don’t overcome our eating patterns with discipline alone. There is no one diet or one book that fixes it. Usually, there is a deeper issue at play that goes back to our childhood. When it comes to dealing with any kind of food addiction or self-sabotaging behavior when it comes to food or exercise it is important we get to the root of the issue and get support to start building new healthy habits. Most people try to change themselves because they want to get away from something. It may get them to a certain point but it is depleting because it employs criticism and restriction. This ‘moving away from’ motivation triggers your inner rebel which is why it usually doesn’t work. Having ‘toward’ motivation is becoming a disciple and having a loving following of the thing you are moving toward, like your health and well being. I find, people who crave sugar didn’t have a lot of sweetness or nurturing growing up. They internalize an overly critical or controlling parent or they use self-criticism as a motivator. Sweetness and nurturing is something we humans need. If you weren’t soothed as a child food can become a soothing strategy. Give yourself the sweetness and nurturing you may not have gotten growing up. Sign up for my newsletter to get my tips on how to say goodbye to 2017 and to say hello 2018! Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel stuck or like you are sabotaging yourself in some area of your life? ? Do you have a sugar or food addiction? ? Are you hard on yourself especially when judging yourself as lazy or lacking self-discipline? ? Did you grow up with a lot of sweetness and nurturing in your life? Marina’s Question: Marina feels limited in her ability to be happy and that she lacks discipline. Marina’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She has created self-supportive habits for herself. ? She breaks agreements with herself when it comes to food and exercise. ? She has an emotional craving for sweetness. ? She grew up with fear and criticism as motivators. ? She is a rebelling against herself. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should speak kindly to herself when feels stressed. ? She should soothe herself with something else. ? She should do grief work around what she wanted from her parents and be a loving parent to herself. ? She should find a way to do things without them feeling oppressive. ? She should research her blood sugar levels. Takeaways: ? Don't try to beat your sugar addiction with willpower alone. ? If you feel stuck in any aspect of your life become a disciple and find your ‘toward motivation’ to get what you want. ? Find ways to be sweet to yourself and self-soothe. ? Write an ‘I wish’ letter to your parents and then use it to give yourself the gift of inner sweetness. Sponsor: NOOM— Is a modern weight release program that turns temptations into behavioral breakthroughs. Use this link to receive your own customized course designed by psychologists, nutritionists, and physicians, 24/7 access to your own personal coach, and the first 2 weeks free + 50% off your subscription. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com University of Santa Monica Shift Your Health and Your Mindset — A Coaches Corner with JJ Virgin
Dec 23, 2017
Giovanni Marsico is the founder of Archangel - a community of superhero entrepreneurs, leaders and gamechangers that are making the world a better place through mission-driven entrepreneurship and philanthropy. In this Coaches Corner we talk about the importance of finding your tribe or like-minded people — especially if you are an introvert or feel like a “black sheep” in some way. Giovanni hosts his large-scale fundraiser in Toronto every September for thousands of entrepreneurs called Archangel Summit where all of the proceeds are used to support various charities and offer micro-loans to entrepreneurs creating positive impact. He also runs a invitation-only, private community called Archangel Masters for highly successful entrepreneurs impacting the lives of millions of people. Learn more here: http://www.archangelsummit.com/
Dec 20, 2017
The essence of today’s episode is about breaking free of the roles we play in our families. Today’s caller, Jenna, is not stepping into her potential — specifically her financial potential — because she is still playing the role in her family that she played as a child and teenager. She wants to make sure everyone else is okay and it is holding her back. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode119] Many of us deal with the same issue as we individuate and become adults. There is a certain way we fit into our family to get safety, security, and love. When we start to have success and abundance, there is a part of us that feels like we are unworthy or unsafe. This is what I call an Upper Limits problem. We often stop ourselves from moving forward because we are so concerned about what other people think. If you think your success comes at the risk of someone else not getting it, feeling small, or not understanding, you will keep getting in your own way. If you value fitting in and protecting your role over living your dreams, you may need to shift. Sometimes your very existence may trigger someone. If other people in your family are suffering that is their choice. If they are making choices that make them unhappy it is not your job to suffer with them. Break free of the role of carrying your family’s burdens. Break free of trying to make everyone understand you. You cannot see your vision clearly or see your full potential clearly if you are watching and managing how people are reacting to what you are doing. Know that trying to make other people feel comfortable at the same time as living into your full potential is impossible. It is your job to fulfill your mission. If you resonated with this episode go back and listen to my coaching call #113 with Sarah about shining your light. BIG NEWS! I have four spaces open for my one-on-one coaching. If you want to uplevel your life and career email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to get an application. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? How are you getting in your own way? How are you sabotaging your own success, specifically financially? ? What role did you play in your family? What did you do to fit in, to please everyone else to keep yourself safe? ? How is that role potentially holding you back at this point in your life? ? Is there a part of you who is afraid to step into your full potential? Are you playing small because you don’t want to make other people feel small? Jenna’s Question: Jenna would like to become a bigger version of herself but feels something always pulls her back. She would like to uplevel her yoga business. Jenna’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She is keeping herself small to make other people comfortable. ? She was a caretaker in her family. ? She felt embarrassed by her ambitions. ? She didn’t want to make others feel small. ? She feels successful even with financial challenges. ? It’s okay for her to share herself with confidence even if it triggers other people. ? If she doesn’t shift she may end up resenting people. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should write letters she doesn’t intend to mail, to cut the energetic cords to family members. ? She should realize people are capable of handling their own experience. ? She should write down some new beliefs. ? She should turn her efforts inward to help her and her little girl make her dreams come true. Takeaways: ? Write a letter to the people you feel you will upset without mailing it. ? Visualize and practice yourself looking forward, not backward. ? Write a list of your competing intentions. Get fully aligned with the intentions that put you where you want to go and accept that you can’t make everyone happy. ? Consider how the role you played in your family is impacting your life right now and journal your thoughts. What is your new role? Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — What if you could take the away the hassle...
Dec 16, 2017
If things have been intense for you lately, you are not alone. Many of us are dealing with intense challenges and expectation hangovers. This is NOT the time to spiritual bypass or jump to the silver lining. This IS the time to dive deep and explore what the Universe is teaching you or calling you toward.
Listen in as Christine talks about the intensity of this time and takes you through a guided meditation to deal with the uncertainty.
Here is interview with Paul Chek on the Aubrey Marcus Podcast: https://www.aubreymarcus.com/blogs/aubrey-marcus/paul-chek-amp-128
Dec 13, 2017
This episode is about self-honoring choices, ultimatums, and jealousy in mother-daughter relationships. Todays caller, Kristin, is looking for guidance in how to proceed after her mother gave her an ultimatum. We also look at the compensatory strategies Kristin has adopted in an effort to deal with things from her childhood.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode118]

What is a self-honoring choice? A self-honoring choice is an honest choice rooted in truth that comes from love. Kristin felt she was always in competition with her mother. She became a perfectionist as a compensatory strategy because she felt that she could only receive love if she was perfect. Through her growth work, she is starting to make self-honoring choices for herself.

What are you passionate about? What you are passionate about is often a tie into our spiritual curriculum and our parents are part of that curriculum. Remember, we choose our parents as our teachers. When our parents dont see us for who we truly are, it can seem cruel. But, part of our soul journey is to heal from past cruelty.

What do you long for from your parents?

Be sure to check out Coaches Corner. Last week I talked about ghosting and flaky behavior, the week before I interviewed Jill about selling skills and I even answer questions. So, if you have a question for me, email assist@ChristineHassler.com.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Is there someone in your life you are not speaking to or have a strained relationship with?
If you grew up with two parents, was one more challenging for you to get along with or close to?
Do you tend to be attracted, date or marry people you feel you must earn their love?
Do you know what self-honoring choices are? If so, do you make them regularly?

Kristins Question:
Kristin would like to know how to approach her mother about a recent ultimatum.

Kristins Key Insights and Ahas:
She was in an abusive relationship.
She made a self-honoring choice.
She was always in competition with her mother.
Her mother was passive aggressive.
She yearned for attention from her mother.
Her parents had a horrible relationship.
Her existence triggers her mother.
She chose her mother.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should keep working on herself and stay strong to break the pattern of contorting herself to make her mother feel better.
She should realize her mom may not be able to face her issues.
She should continue making self-honoring choices.

Takeaways:
Where are you not making self-honoring choices because you are trying too much to please people?
And, where are you not making self-honoring choices because you are trying to be the bigger person vs. speaking your truth?
Why did you pick your parents and what are they here to teach you?
Let go of who you want your parents to be. Accept the fact that if your mother or father truly saw what they needed to see about themselves in order to give you the apology you crave, it might break them.

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Dec 9, 2017
Ever been ghosted which is when someone you were in communication with all of a sudden totally disappears with zero explanation. Most often it happens in dating. You are seeing someone and texting frequently and then all of a sudden . . . crickets. Ghosting can also happen in friendship.
It is incredibly painful and frustrating because you are left with no reason other than the reasons you make up in your head (which are usually not very healthy!).
Listen in as Christine goes on a rant about ghosting, explains why people do it from a psychological point of view and gives you tips to get over being ghosted.
Dec 6, 2017
This episode is about moving from awareness to integration. Todays caller, Natalie, has been on the path of personal growth for two years but is finding it difficult to integrate her new awareness and make real change happen in her life.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode117]

Awareness is great but its only a step to actually making changes in our lives. We have to take awareness and shift it into changes changes in the way we think, changes in the way we react and process our feelings, changes in our behavior. And, not from the perspective that there is anything wrong with us or that we are broken but from what am I going to do with this awareness now that I have it?

Trusting yourself is very important. You must stop doubting yourself and stop breaking your word with yourself in terms of commitments and self-care. If you do, consciously re-negotiate with yourself. When we dont have self-trust it is torture. We agonize over a decision and we search for someone out there to give us the answer or make us feel safe. No one else can do it. It is an inside job.

Be sure to check out this weekends Coaches Corner! I will be addressing ghosting and flaky behavior.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you find it challenging to move from awareness to integration?
Do you have a parent who has been absent in some way? A divorce, death, emotional unavailability and you sense it could be affecting your current relationships?
Can you relate to the feeling of being anxious in a relationship because of a fear that a person may leave and stop liking or loving you?
When it comes to trust, how are you at trusting others and do you trust yourself?

Natalies Question:
Natalie would like to know how to use her awareness to be happier with herself and in relationships.

Natalies Key Insights and Ahas:
She had a loving and supportive relationship with her parents.
She expects men to betray her and has fears of abandonment.
She created a story to block out her fathers affair.
She doesnt keep the self-honoring choices she makes to herself.
She had a strained relationship with her mother.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should be more patient with herself and less critical of her development.
She should read or listen to the book, Attachment.
She should start connecting with her inner child.
She should trust herself and rely on her inner resources.

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
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Dec 2, 2017
If you have a service based business OR are considering hiring a coach do not miss this episode. Listen in as I sit with Jill, who has worked with me for over eight years, and talk about:
1. Why sales and enrollment is not icky and really is a service to people
2. How to overcome objections and turn them into coachable moments
3. The most important things you need to do to build your service based biz and become successful and comfortable with enrollment
4. What to watch out for when hiring a coach
We also do a role-playing session where I play the client full of objections about money and Jill coaches me through it.
To contact Jill about coaching email jill@christinehassler.com
Nov 29, 2017
This episode is about breaking out of a self-imposed prison cell and taking a conscious action which will lead to change. Todays caller, Shanna, needs to squelch her limiting beliefs and embrace her strengths and her power.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode116]

Shanna has been punishing herself. Shame does that to us. When we feel ashamed about something we overcompensate and that becomes our punishment.

Anytime we are in overcompensation mode and do not allow ourselves to live the life we really want, we keep ourselves in a self-imposed prison.

Its a humbling thing to realize that we are the common denominator in situations we dont want. But, its important that we dont blame ourselves. When we find ourselves at this crossroads, it is time to start creating the things we want instead of the things we dont want.

Where are you procrastinating and what will it take for you to change?

One of my favorite ways to empower people is teaching retreats. So, in March 2018, I am hosting my annual signature retreat. It is an intense, 3-day, women-only spring event with only 20 spaces available. This is the last time I will lead the retreat, as I am training others. To find out more e-mail Jill@christinehassler.com or check out Spring Retreat.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you feel stuck in a job or relationship and you feel you cant get out of it?
Do you feel over-responsible in your life but is responsibility an area that could use some growth?
Are you really free? Are you locked in a self-imposed prison because you dont think you have any choices?
Do you procrastinate in making a change until you are forced to do so?

Shannas Question:
Shanna is having a hard time leaving a job she feels is a toxic environment.

Shannas Key Insights and Ahas:
She feels she may not find a better job.
She doesnt feel worthy of help.
Parenting is the hardest thing shes ever done.
She felt shame around her pregnancy.
She is brutally hard on herself.
She doesnt believe she can make an internal shift.
Her fear-based predictions of how things will go are off.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should start looking for another job.
She needs to believe she can succeed at what she wants to do.
She should avoid letting her outer experience dictate her inner experience.
She should remove the word try from her vocabulary.
She should uplevel her responsibility and embrace her power and strength.
She should write out her plan of action.

Takeaways:
You have the ability to respond to situations in life as you choose. How are you choosing to respond to things?
If you are stuck, what is your why? Why are you procrastinating and making excuses?
Stop trying to figure things out. Make the necessary internal shifts and take action.

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Nov 25, 2017
Most people think mental toughness when they imagine a Navy SEAL. What they don't expect is the thoughtful, yoga-innovating, joking and laughing, professor of leadership named Mark Divine.
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Listen in as Christine learns about having an unbeatable mind from Mark and don't miss the incredible breath work exercise he takes us through!

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Nov 22, 2017
This episode is about vanquishing self-criticism, letting things go that no longer serve you, and how to get what you want from life.

We are not always good friends to ourselves and it can be reflected back to us in our friendships like it is today in my call with Claire. One of Claires friendships has just reached an expiration date and she is learning valuable lessons from it.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode115]

Other people can be mirrors for us and often, it takes someone else to wake us up. If a friend treats us bad enough it causes us to look inside ourselves to understand what it is showing us. It can show us the kind of friend we are being to ourselves.

Don't stay in an unhealthy friendship or one that doesn't serve either of you. We tend to hold on to friendships just a little longer because we don't have to see the person as much. We justify putting up with it or we think we need to stay in the friendship because of the history. Or, we don't have the guts to end it because we don't want to upset somebody.

When we have a fierce inner critic it doesn't compartmentalize. It doesn't cheer us on in our career and then pick us apart physically. It is pervasive in all aspects of our lives. A fierce inner critic can impact our confidence. We can take something personally to our detriment or we can take it personally toward our growth.

To get what you want, you have to believe that what you want is out there. Your longing is your psychic knowing.

One of my favorite ways to empower people is teaching retreats. So, in March 2018 I am hosting my annual signature retreat. It is an intense 3-day, women-only spring event with only 20 spaces available. This is the last time I will lead the retreat as I am training others. For early-bird pricing or to find out more e-mail Jill@christinehassler.com or check out Spring Retreat.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you compartmentalizing your life? Are you stuck in one area that may be caused by an unresolved issue in another area of your life?
If you talked to or treated your friends like you do to yourself would you have any friends?
Is your confidence down? Do you find yourself on the receiving end of criticism from other people?
Do you have any friendships that have passed their expiration date and are no longer healthy for you to continue?

Claires Question:
Claire wants to get unstuck in her life after an emotional falling out with friends.

Claires Key Insights and Ahas:
She found a friends comments inappropriate.
She can be critical of herself and lack self-confidence.
Her friend is a mirror of how she treats herself.
Questioning herself has impacted her career momentum.
She goes through cycles of emotional sensitivity.
She doesnt enjoy certain aspects of her job.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should leverage this experience to perpetuate her growth.
She should write down 50 things about herself she is grateful for.
She should write out a description of what she wants from her work.
She should collect evidence about why the job she wants does exist.

Takeaways:
Do a friendship inventory. Look at the friends in your life and ask yourself Is this an aligned friendship? Has this friendship passed its expiration date and is it time to complete this relationship and move on?
How can you be a better friend to yourself? Start being kind to yourself.
Write a detailed list of what you want. Get a picture in your mind and take action.
Make a list of 50 things you are grateful for.

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Nov 18, 2017
Christine speaks with Women For One Founder and author Kelly McNelis about her new book Your Messy Brilliance. This is a must listen for all perfectionists and over-doers out there. Learn how to embrace ALL parts of you, even the messy ones, and live a more authentic life.
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Nov 15, 2017
This episode is about understanding the basis of relationships that feel like an addiction. Todays caller, Arelle, has some unresolved daddy issues which keep her latched on to a much older man.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode114]

When we have a strong co-dependent relationship and it feels like an addiction or a drug it generally comes from a childhood wound. It is important, developmentally and psychologically, to have a healthy relationship with our parents. If we don't have a healthy relationship with our parents and as adults, we don't resolve our issues through inner work, therapy, coaching or spiritual practices, we go look for what we didnt get from our parents from the people we date. Often, it is our younger self who picks our relationships. Our survival instinct tells us that if our parents are not there for us we will die. This is why codependent relationships can feel like a death when we try to separate from them, it is because it is triggering the child in us to feel like they may not survive.

Arelles relationship issue was more about her father than it was about her guy. Arelle may not have fully grieved the relationship she didn't have with her father. She never received the validation and attention she wanted from her father so she is playing out the scenario with her guy.

If you relate to this on-again-off-again relationship, you have to choose to stop your relationship. Accept that it is not good for you and get out. A codependent, abusive, toxic relationship is not safe and its not what you want.

One of my favorite ways to empower people is teaching retreats. So, in March 2018 I am hosting my annual signature retreat. It is an intense 3-day, women only spring event with only 20 spaces available. This is the last time I will lead the retreat as I am training others. For early bird pricing or to find out more e-mail Jill@christinehassler.com or check out Spring Retreat.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you in a relationship that some part of you knows is not good for you but you cant seem to permanently break it off?
Are you going through withdrawal because you recently ended a relationship and are tempted to rekindle it?
Did you lose a parent at a young age from death, divorce, or abandonment?
Do you find yourself looking for safety and security in someone else and identify with being a bit dependent or are do you provide that to someone else?

Arelles Question:
Arelle would like to end her codependent relationship but cant seem to stop going back to him.

Arelles Key Insights and Ahas:
Her father passed when she was young.
There is a significant age difference between her and the guy.
She has difficulty feeling safe.
She may have not completely dealt with her fathers death.
She has an eating disorder.
She has left her addiction six times.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should find a counselor who is able to connect her past relationships with her present relationships.
She should consider going cold turkey and not see or speak with her guy again.
She should research codependency support groups and see if there is one in her area.
She needs to be a grown up and set herself up for success.

Takeaways:
Take off your rose-colored glasses. Make a list of the things that are true about your relationship and what you fantasize it to be.
Find a counselor or coach who will help you connect the dots. There is no shame in going to counseling.
If you are in an on-again-off-again relationship, turn it off. Do something that is good for you and end it for good.

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Nov 11, 2017
Its 11/11 do you know the significance of that number? Listen to find out!

In this Coaches Corner Christine also teaches the difference between a trigger or issue based choice and a preference. She empowers you to honor who you are and what you like and let go of FOMO.

She then shares some great take-aways from top speakers like Brene Brown, Jane Fonda, Shonda Rhimes and Marianne Williamson that she just heard speak at a big event.

Christine reveals one of her preferences when it comes to massive crowds and events that may help you feel more like yourself the next time you are in a social situation.
Nov 8, 2017
This episode is about shining your light and stepping into your full potential. Todays caller, Sara, wants to break her pattern of self-sabotage, stop playing small and to live an abundant life.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode113]

We dont just arrive at our full potential. We take steps to move into our full potential by not limiting ourselves, by sharing our gifts, by expressing ourselves authentically, and by going after what we truly want and not feeling any guilt or shame about it wanting it or having it. We fear success and are worried about what other people will think or feel, particularly leaving people behind, because we are growing at different rates. We doubt the goodness coming into our lives and we wait for the other shoe to drop. We end up sabotaging our health, wealth and relationships. But why?

Sara had a habit of creating intimacy through people needing her, through pleasing people or through having a problem or issue she could commiserate about. She would make herself small to create a bond or connection with someone else. I helped her realize what was the payoff of why she was scared to shine her light.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you currently, or has there been a time in the past, where things start going great and you sabotage it?
Are you afraid of shining your light because of what other people might think or you may leave people behind?
Do you long to feel connected to people so much that you engage in people pleasing or caretaking just because you want to feel like you matter and you want to be connected?
Are you willing to admit that you live in a scarcity mindset instead of an abundant mindset?

Saras Question:
Sara would like to break her cycle of self-sabotage when it comes to her business and health.

Saras Key Insights and Ahas:
She fears she will be separate if she lets herself shine.
She may be addicted to suffering.
She is scared to disrupt the dynamic that creates intimacy.
She is afraid of how powerful she really is.
She grew up in a scarcity mindset.
She is trying to be in both scarcity and abundance.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She needs a new picture of what success and health will look like for her.
She should shine brightly from her essence without comparing it to others.
She needs to shine so she can empower others to do the same.

Takeaways:
If you are engaging in self-sabotaging behavior, determine what the payoff is. Write down a new way to get the same payoff. Reflect on any limited beliefs you may have inherited.
Think about people who are shining their light and how they inspire you. Get a new picture of what living into your new potential looks like.
Write down what your life would look like if you were shining brightly.

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Nov 4, 2017
Picture a time, maybe it is even now, when you have been preparing for something BIG like an interview, event, presentation, or the release of some creative endeavor. Now consider how much mental, physical, and emotional energy you put into it.

Was it a lot -perhaps too much? Did you find yourself stressing out about it?

On top of that did your perfectionist start to kick in like you kept tweaking and editing and trying to make it better?

Where is the line between healthy preparation and perfectionism/obsessing?

Thats exactly what Christine covers in this quickie episode of Coaches Corner.
Nov 1, 2017
This episode is about acknowledging successes and how releasing emotional weight can help release physical weight. Todays caller, Lindsay, is continuing on her course to personal mastery but she feels stuck when it comes to her health and wellness.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode112]

If you are wondering why is it so hard to implement personal growth efforts, its because neural pathways are created over time, especially when you have been doing things the same way for years. Simply being aware of something doesnt create change. Growth is a process, not an event.

And growth is part of being human. There is always more growing to do and with the right tools the easier it becomes. We have to stop approaching growth as a fix-it, self-improvement, something is wrong with me project. Its important to celebrate how much growth you have experienced and how far youve come towards personal mastery.

If you need emotional release, do the Temper Tantrum exercise in Expectation Hangover. As you work through the emotional residue you will need less and less of the emotional release work but It takes more than one time to deal with suppressed emotions.

Practice is the key to transformation.

Lindsays Question:
Lindsay has been successful in shifting many parts of her life but is still struggling with health and weight issues.

Lindsays Key Insights and Ahas:
She has shifted her relationship with herself.
She is on a strict food diet.
She has taken my Personal Mastery course.
She has an emotional relationship with junk food.
Her parents divorce may still be affecting her.
She feels not worthy.
She is going to get off the diet treadmill and get healthy.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should find a holistic nutritionist and learn what her body needs.
She should write an apology and a thank you letter to her body.
She should choose to be worthy.

Takeaways:
Watch the Why You Are Not Losing Weight Despite Doing Everything Right, Why Willpower Isn't Enough When It Comes To Emotional Eating videos I did for FitLife.tv.
Write a letter to your body for how hard youve been on it and ask it what it needs.
Consider what you didnt get from a parent and start giving that to yourself.

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Resources:
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Christine Hassler Podcasts
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
What Are You Truly Craving? with Alexandra Jamieson
Shift Your Health and Your Mindset with JJ Virgin
Optimize Your Health with Mark Sisson
What Your Body is Telling You Podcast with Tiffany
Possible Side Effects of Maltodextrin and Sucralose, by Jessica Bruso
Oct 28, 2017
Scott Stabile is the author of Big Love: The Power of Living with a Wide Open Heart. His positive outlook and the inner and outer experiences he shares in Big Love offer striking examples of the power of love in action. Whether trying (as we all must) to silence shame, show up for friends, or overcome dreaded what-ifs, the hard-won insights that Scott shares are sure to help us do so with a renewed sense of love.

His inspirational posts and videos have attracted a huge and devoted social media following, including over 350K Facebook fans and counting. A regular contributor to the Huffington Post, he lives in Michigan and conducts personal empowerment workshops around the world. Visit him online at http://www.scottstabile.com.
Oct 25, 2017
This episode is about making yourself a priority and living in the now. Todays caller, Montana, is wondering what she should do professionally. She is waiting for something to happen instead of making it happen for herself.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode111]

We all have seasons in our lives. Our ability to travel to the past and the future in our minds may make us miss out on the present moment. When we are constantly thinking about what is next, we forget about what is now.

When our minds are in the future we are not honoring the season of the life we are in. Consider what season you are in. Are you honoring that season? When you take the time to honor the current season it is easier to leverage the learning opportunities and you will have a greater appreciation for the next season you are in.

Montana found it hard to make a clear choice because she has a fierce inner critic. Often times, clarity comes when we stop thinking about something or we get curious and try different things to get feedback.

Would you like to be coached on this show? E-mail assist@ChristineHassler.com.

Montanas Question:
Montana would like help navigating through her confidence issues with regards to her professional life.

Montanas Key Insights and Ahas:
She will be spending the coming year at home with her child.
She longs to have a passion for what she is doing.
She feels like she always has to have it all together.
She was criticized instead of encouraged when she was younger.
She equated love with validation.
She should be grateful for where she is right now.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should accept the season of life she is in.
She should feel proud of herself and not make her self-love conditional.
Every night she should write down three things she is proud of herself for.
She should be curious about career possibilities.

Takeaways:
If you are self-critical or had an overly critical parent, or parents, you need to reinforce the feeling of pride within yourself. Every night write three things you are proud of yourself for.
If you are confused about what to do professionally, reach out to people and request an informational interview.
Consider taking the What Do I Want To Do with My Life career course.
Enjoy the season you are in and live in the now!

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Resources:
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Christine Hassler Podcasts
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
Coaches Corner Decision-Making Tips
Oct 21, 2017
In this episode of Coach's Corner Christine give you some tips on how to make a decision. So many of us hang out in limbo WAY too long when it comes to making a choice - and limbo is hell. Listen in for some advice on how to make a self-honoring choice and get two really powerful exercises you can do to get clarity about a current decision that you may be struggling with.
Oct 18, 2017
This episode is about health and well-being. Todays caller, Tiffany, is a month away from having surgery and would like to understand what her body is attempting to teach her.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode110]

Having a physical ailment caused Tiffany to be more vulnerable and to reach out to more people. Our bodies need to know we got the message and that we have a plan of forgiveness and healing. The body will then know it doesnt need to alert us by way of physical symptoms anymore.

I hope after this call you can see the power and the wisdom our body has for us. And how physical symptoms, ailments, or diseases often have emotional roots with powerful messages. However, I do not want to plant the seed that we cause our own health conditions. You dont have a physical condition because you did something wrong. If you are suffering from something, be open to looking at the cause or the message without going into a cycle of self-blame.

I will delve more into this topic with Brandy Gilmore on an upcoming Coaches Corner. She has taught me a lot about how our thoughts and feelings show up physically.

If you need a strategy to remove your internal blocks and turn your struggles into your superpowers, join me for my Over and On With It Personal Mastery 7-week online course. Enrollees get videos, guided meditations, personal guidance, and more. Plus, graduates of my Personal Mastery course receive a ticket to a one-day retreat in San Diego. Email Jill@christinehassler.com to register. Sign up ends on October 19, 2017.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you or have you dealt with a physical condition or pain?
When it comes to physical ailments how do you deal with it?
Do you have a chronic physical condition you cant get to the bottom of? Have you considered exploring the emotional or psychological roots of it?
Are you harboring heartache? Is there someone or something you have not forgiven?

Tiffanys Question:
Tiffany is wondering about the significance and the lesson of her upcoming surgery.

Tiffanys Key Insights and Ahas:
She is experiencing a lot of internal changes.
She believes her physical ailment could be caused by her emotional past.
Its time for her to find her guide.
She needs to forgive herself for past judgments.
She may have hidden behind her ailment.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should write down her gratitude towards the fibroid and write down her agreements to herself to let it go.
She needs to find someone to guide her before her surgery.
She should do the exercises from the Emotional section of Expectation Hangover.
She should let her feelings drain away through a comforting bath.

Takeaways:
If you have any pain, disease, or physical ailment try having a dialogue with it to see what the message is.
If you are harboring emotion, resentment, or old heartbreak, it is time to get it up and out. Often, those emotions turn into physical symptoms.
Join my Personal Mastery course to learn how to let go of any emotional baggage you have been carrying around.
Make agreements with your body and stick to those agreements.
Perform rituals to assist your unconscious mind to let go.

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Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Coaches Corner with Drew Canole
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
2018 Bali Retreat Wait List Email Jill
Personal Mastery 7-Week Course - Enrollment ends October 19, 2017
Oct 14, 2017
Youll LOVE this conversation. Drew came over to my house and we had an incredible chat that covered a lot of ground: healing our past, forgiveness, relationships, health and weight release, detox, and SO much more.

Fueled by small-town values and a big vision for a better planet, Drew Canole begins each day with one simple goal in mind to positively impact the lives of others. Through his work as a Personal Coach and endeavors such as EnrichYourExistence.com and FitLife.tv, Drew aims to inspire and motivate others to search deep within themselves to create an abundant, healthy and fulfilling life. "Improve one life; improve the world."

Drew was born and raised in the small, rural community of Lake City in Northern Michigan. After attending Central Michigan University, he launched a successful career in finance before recognizing that his greatest talent was helping others discover their untapped potential. He currently resides in San Diego, where his work as an author, fitness specialist and transformation expert has made him one of the most reputable Personal Coaches in Southern California.

Drew is committed to the conviction that people are at their best when challenged. He pushes others to bust through personal barriers and reach new heights in physical, mental and spiritual well-being.

http://fitlife.tv/

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Oct 11, 2017
This episode is about how a compensatory strategy is an action. Todays caller, Melissa, wants to know how to deal with difficult in-laws who are triggering her compensatory strategy.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode109]

A compensatory strategy is a behavior we adopt to feel safe, validated, and worthy. These strategies block us from seeing and being who we truly are, keeping us stuck.

Usually, we get stuck when we are attempting to do two things at once. Melissa was attempting to navigate standing up for herself AND she was attempting to keep her compensatory strategy in action. We can't live in our truth and be in our compensatory strategies. She had competing intentions.

People who trigger you are your spiritual teachers. They are illuminating something for you to see. When you feel you are being triggered, look back at the events in your life that have led up to it.

You don't need to justify or explain your truth. Its time to start having boundaries and using your voice. Often, setting boundaries will upset the people you are setting boundaries with because they are used to you being a pushover. Setting boundaries is a self-honoring choice.

Today, October 11, 2018, dont miss my free No Regrets Master Class. You need a strategy to turn your remove your internal blocks and turn your struggles into your superpowers.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are there some difficult people in your life? Are you hurt by them when you just want them to like and understand you?
Are you a caretaker and want to make sure others are happy?
Is it hard for you to stick up for yourself and set boundaries?

Melissas Question:
Melissa feels judged and criticized by her in-laws and wants to know how to move past it.

Melissas Key Insights and Ahas:
She feels surrounded by people who are trying to bring her down.
She looks to others for validation.
Shes a caretaker.
She hasnt set boundaries with her husbands family.
She feels she needs to keep people happy to keep them around.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should ask herself how she can grow and heal, not how should she fix herself.
Get her emotions out by using the Release Writing or Temper Tantrum techniques in Expectation Hangover.
She should take a long, compassionate, loving look at herself.
She should start being an example to her daughters and create boundaries.
She should look at which beliefs she holds that make her feel more valuable when she fits in.
She should take the Mastery Course.

Takeaways:
Join the free Master Class and sign up for the Mastery Course.
Remember the people who trigger you the most are your spiritual teachers. Look at the learning opportunity they offer you.
Have boundaries. If you are not good with replying in the moment, write some thoughts down and practice saying them.
If you are a people pleaser, listen to The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck with a Free 30-day trial from Audible.

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2018 Bali Retreat Wait List Email Jill
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Oct 7, 2017
Christine gives you an experience of her Bali retreat and talks you through a powerful process.

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