Over It And On With It

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CC: Clear your Money Blocks and Discover true Prosperity with Kate Northrup 0

Apr 22, 2023

My longtime friend and the #1 resource I recommend when it comes to shifting your relationship with money, Kate Northrup, joins me today for an insightful and inspiring conversation about money.

As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital platform called The Origin Company that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. She’s committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out. Kate teaches data and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. She’s the author of Money: A Love Story and Do Less and the creator of the Do Less Planner System. Kate’s work has been featured by Oprah Daily, The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women’s Health, Glamour, The NY Times, Harvard Business Review, and more. She lives with her husband and their daughters in Miami.

You can access her FREE workshop "Plenty" which will help you Clear Your Money Blocks and Discover True Prosperity While Positively Impacting the World here: christinehassler.com/relaxedmoney

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EP 397: When You Know What You Should Do But You Just Can't Seem to Do It with Cindy 0

Apr 19, 2023

This episode is about a conflict between what our inner child wants and what our adult self needs. Today’s caller, Cindy, is in a relationship that she knows she needs to leave but she feels frozen. She is looking for guidance on how to move forward and take action. This can be applied to anything whether it is a relationship, a job, or a pattern. There are some great tidbits about why we don't shift.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode397]

When we know there is an action we need to take but we just can't seem to do it we can analyze it, process it, and have awareness about it but we may still feel frozen and unable to take action.

Freeze is a trauma response. It doesn't matter how much we know what we “should” do when we are in a trauma response it all gets overridden with survival patterns. Our inner child believes that we will heal a wound by being with someone similar to the person who prompted our trauma.

One of the best ways that you can make a change in your life is to do something different to get out of your comfort zone but to do it with a lot of love.

For empathetic or people with co-dependent threads, love bombing is like a drug. Whether someone's a diagnosed narcissist or they have narcissistic tendencies, love bombing is not about the person receiving the love bomb. It's about control. It's not love.

So, choose yourself. Legitimately and authentically love yourself out of the situation.

My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their own consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. It is October 13-15 in San Diego, CA. Early bird pricing ends soon so to sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you in a situation, relationship, friendship, or work situation where you know you need to make a change but you just can't seem to do it?
Do you know that some of your choices are coming from your inner child but can't seem to make different choices?
Do you often let fear stop you from doing something you need to do?
Are you frustrated with yourself because you know better but you just keep wondering why you're not doing better?

Cindy’s Question:

Cindy is in a toxic marriage. She wants to end the relationship and get a divorce but she feels stuck and is not sure how to move forward.

Cindy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is finding it difficult to make a decision.
She struggles with shame and anger about not leaving.
She feels frozen.
She feels her partner and her father are similar.
Her father had an undiagnosed mental problem.
Her partner love bombed her at the beginning of her relationship.
She knows the relationship is not good for her.
She feels her partner destroyed her life.
She knows she has choices to make.
She is a people pleaser.
She feels financially tied to the relationship.
Her partner plays on her core wounds.
She found it easier to get out of her first marriage.
She will keep herself away from men that come with red flags.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Talk to her inner child about what love truly is.
Assure her inner child that she will take care of her.
Attend Christine’s Signature Retreat.
Make a decision by May 1, 2023.

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CC: When Your Side Hustle Becomes Your Main Hustle with Brooke Nichol 0

Apr 15, 2023

My friend Brooke Nichol joins me to talk about how to build a business by being great at relationships with people. Brooke is a registered nurse and the owner of Saving Face in Austin, TX. Her specialty is relationships and keeping clients looking natural and the best version of themselves. She has organically grown to two locations, becoming the most sought out feel good destination in Austin.

She has an extensive background and training from world renowned plastic surgeons and experts in the field of aesthetics.

She was named top 100 injector in the US in 2018. She is a national trainer for Allergan and was named top 10 lip expert in 2020. Brooke serves on Advisory Boards for Allergan and Revance.

Brooke is a true entrepreneur who wears many hats. She is mama to two beautiful children, Knox (5), Miller (8). She created Post Love Skincare and will soon launch Saving Face Academy. There is much growth for Saving Face in the future and Brooke is quite certain that goodness will bring about more goodness.

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EP 396: Healing Unworthiness with Matt 0

Apr 12, 2023

This episode is about healing anxiety, unworthiness, and shame. Today’s caller, Matt, recently came clean about some secrets about his past with his partner. He sabotaged his relationship but would like to date again, fully able to love and commit. Any listeners who felt instability in their childhood will benefit from this conversation.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode396]

Often, the people who are most free-spirited are the adults who as children wanted stability and didn’t have it. They’ve never known stability so they have to fall in love with freedom or fall in love with not having accountability.

If you were adopted, didn’t have time with your mother, or something happened, it doesn’t mean you are doomed for life. Give yourself the dignity of your process. Give yourself the compassion, TLC, mothering, and nurturing you didn’t receive. Having compassion for yourself and an understanding of why you are the way you are is important.

Adoption is a beautiful thing. There are so many people who have had much better lives because they’ve been adopted versus if they had stayed with their biological parents. And people who choose to give their child up for adoption because they know another family could give them a better life are angels in so many ways. Adoption can create a beautiful life for someone.

And if you do meditation, or a personal practice with the intention of fixing something, remember nothing heals in judgment. Go into modalities to feel, to heal, and to allow what is there, not try to get rid of it. Because nothing heals when we think we are broken.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Did you grow up feeling a sense of not belonging? Perhaps you were adopted, you were a different race or culture and you had that feeling of where do I fit?
Do you deal with a sense of anxiety?
Do you ever feel a sense of unworthiness?
Have you shown up in relationships, friendships, or any aspects of your life that you haven’t been proud of or that you have shame about?
Have you held secrets and told lies?

Matt’s Question:

Matt wants to start dating again but would like guidance on how to heal from his deep childhood wounding.

Matt’s Key Insights and Ahas:

He moved into a van to pursue a new life.
He felt isolated after three months.
He kept his trauma a secret.
He was sexually abused.
He was adopted by parents of a different race.
He used drugs and alcohol to cope with his trauma.
He is on a self-awareness journey.
He opened up to his partner and they broke up.
He cheated on his partner during their time together.
He joined a 12-step program.
He is struggling with rejection and failure.
He doesn’t truly trust himself.
He has always felt like an outcast in many ways.
He hasn’t been able to love and commit in past relationships.
He knows he is loved and wanted but often forgets.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Use meditation and breathwork to rebirth himself and remove judgmental thoughts.
Have compassion for his journey.
Know that he deserves to be loved and accepted.
Find a practitioner to help him love his inner child.

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CC: When You Feel Stuck Do This with Kute Blackson 0

Apr 8, 2023

If you want to truly understand the power of surrender and acceptance, don't miss this episode! KUTE BLACKSON is a beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events including A-Fest, YPO (Young Presidents’ Organization), and EO (Entrepreneurs’ Organization). He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a select group of one hundred of the world’s foremost authorities in the personal development industry. Winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden Award, Blackson is widely considered a next generation leader in the field of personal development. His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life’s purpose.

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EP 395: How to Date When It Hasn’t Been Going So Well with Rocio 0

Apr 5, 2023

This episode is about love and relationships. Today’s caller, Rocio, is in a pattern that is blocking her from calling in love. She would like guidance on how much of her dating is based on divine timing or if there are things she can do to date from a more empowered, emotionally available space.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode395]

A lot of times we think we are emotionally available because we want love and connection and we’ve done the work to make ourselves vulnerable. But, often, there is a hurt part of us that is a protective mechanism that makes us put a guard up so we are not completely emotionally available.

We are co-creators in our life. The spirit of the divine meets us at the point of action and intention. If we are not actively participating in getting what we desire, then we are not fully meeting the divine at the point of action and intention. If we have fear, it can block us. A lot of the time we spend avoiding love because we are afraid of rejection more than we are into opening ourselves up and putting ourselves out there.

When we have a parent that created an anxious attachment style, we draw in people who trigger that feeling inside of us because we are attempting to heal it. As children, we can’t advocate for ourselves as we can as adults.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you frustrated with dating and want to know how you can shift it?
Did you think everything was going well with the last person you dated and then it just didn’t work out? If you look back at it, did you miss some red flags?
Did you have a parent you craved more from and you can see how that wound impacts how you date?
Are you willing to be vulnerable, emotionally available, and honest about what works for you and what doesn’t?

Rocio’s Question:

Rocio would like guidance about how much she should trust timing and intuition to call in love.

Rocio’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She has been meeting emotionally unavailable guys.
She fears rejection and being vulnerable.
Recently she thought she met someone and their energies aligned but there were inconsistencies.
She feels that she is putting herself out there and trusting her intuition.
There were inconsistencies in her relationship with her father.
She is not fully healed from an unmet need from her childhood.
She wants to call in a relationship.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

If triggered, call it out and stand up for herself right away.
Normalize being emotionally available and asking for what she wants.
Don’t let her fear of rejection stop her from speaking her truth.
Trust herself to express her needs.
Remember the guys she dates are not her father.

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