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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Feb 23, 2019
Get inspired as you listen to Amanda share how she has built an incredibly successful and impactful business…all by the age of 25! This episode will encourage you to break free of trying to look a certain way and step into full authentic expression!
 
Amanda Bucci is a lifestyle entrepreneur who’s main goal is to help others find their true selves and passions, and her podcastBucci Radiois a one-stop-shop for anyone looking to really find themselves. Her podcast is full of amazing guests who discuss anything from fitness, education, or personal anecdotes. Listen to her show and you’ll leave with a new sense of purpose and a fire lit inside you!

You can learn more about Amanda, her coaching and her online programs at https://www.amandabucci.com/

Feb 20, 2019

This episode is about getting a toxic person out of your life and taking action to set and enforce healthy boundaries. Today’s caller, Ashley, wasn’t loved the way she wanted to be loved as a child and her mother is still criticizing her. She wants guidance on how to coexist with her mother in a toxic relationship. Even if you don’t have someone toxic in your life, you will still get a ton of value out of this coaching session.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode180]

Many times we think we are keeping toxic people in our lives because we are weak but it’s not true. We keep them in our lives because we are hurt and we are hoping that someday they will love us. Whether it’s a parent who’s validation and love we want or even a boss who we allow to treat us poorly because we are hoping they will eventually see how really great we are at our job, we must realize we can’t change people and we can’t keep toxic people around, hoping they will change.

It's harder to have boundaries and distance with the primary people in our lives, especially a parent if we aren’t rooted in something more healthy like our higher power, our divine power. If you have an anchor inside yourself, it’s easier to create separation without feeling like we are having a major loss.

Remember, healing is not just inner work. It is outer work as well; especially when it comes to toxic people, we have to take action. As adults, we must do the things for ourselves that no one else did for us when we were kids.

 

Did you hear last week’s Coaches Corner with Marie Forleo? It is a great conversation about masculine and feminine dynamics at work. Check it out, Marie Forleo on Coaches Corner. I wholeheartedly support Marie Forleo’s B-School for Modern-Day Entrepreneurs. Marie is offering free training videos you will get so much out of. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Bschool to register and to get the bonus items. And join my live coaching call on February 27th, ChristineHassler.com/Live.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Is there a toxic person in your life or someone who just doesn’t treat you great but you keep them hanging around?

● Do you keep people who are not kind to you in your life out of obligation or because they are related?

● In your romantic life, do you go after emotionally unavailable people and obsess over why you can’t get them?

● Do you deeply trust yourself and your higher power?

 

Ashley’s Question:

Ashley questions her self-worth based on her relationship with her mother.

 

Ashley’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She is a single mom who is not financially independent.

● She has a toxic relationship with her mother.

● She has low self-worth.

● She sabotages herself.

● She goes after emotionally unavailable men.

● Her mother criticizes her.

● She didn’t feel loved the way she wanted to be loved.

● She hopes one day her mother will love her the way she wants to be loved.

● She needs to find a caretaker solution for her child.

● She is working through the Personal Mastery Course.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to make decisions and take action to protect herself.

● She needs to create some distance between her and her mother.

● She needs to check in with little Ashley more often.

● She needs to reach out to a therapist and read books about codependency.

● She needs to experience being a child again by playing with her child.

 

Takeaways:

● What boundaries do you need in your life?

● What people in your life have reached their expiration date? Is it time to take them out of your life?

● Do things to make your younger self trust you.

● Get a guide. Join the Personal Mastery Course or pray the right Healer/Guide/Teacher comes into your life.

● Connect with your younger self and be a stand for your worthiness. You deserve healthy people around you who love you and see you.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

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Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

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Feb 16, 2019

Jen Sincero is a bestselling author, success coach, and motivational speaker who spent more than a decade traveling the world helping people transform their lives and their bank accounts via her public appearances, private sessions, coaching seminars, and books, including the New York Times bestseller You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life. Her newest book is YOU ARE A BADASS EVERY DAY: How to Keep Your Motivation Strong, Your Vibe High, and Your Quest for Transformation Unstoppable, the companion designed to keep badasses on track.

Feb 13, 2019

This episode is about how to stop parenting your parents. If you are a parent it is a great listen to make sure you are not falling into codependent patterns with your child. Today’s caller, Gina, is a people pleaser who is at the beginning of her journey of connecting all the dots. She is searching for guidance on how to become her own person, free of the guilt she imparts on herself about what she should or should not be doing for her mother. We discuss how she can free herself and how it has been impacting her relationships.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode179]

Growing up in a codependent household is when you are the caretaker and you are not getting the love and attention you need from a parent. When you step into a parent role and you are the child, it’s very common to develop the compensatory strategy of a people pleaser. Why? Because you decided at a young age it was your job to keep your parent happy or to keep them from yelling at you. You grew very strong at making sure someone else was okay before you.

The way out of people pleasing is learning about codependency, setting boundaries, and getting professional help. There is a lot that goes into being a people pleaser and sometimes you need someone by your side helping you by telling you, “You are not being selfish. You are being self-honoring.”

Any personal development work or therapy should be used to get an understanding, not an excuse. It is important to understand the impact of our parent’s influence so we can shift it, not so we can use our past as a scapegoat. We want to liberate ourselves from anything in our past that is limiting us from living the life we truly love. Everything is healable.

Your past does not have to determine your present or future. You don’t have to repeat patterns!

Do you love what you do? Are you expressing your calling and purpose or are you stuck in a job you hate? I wholeheartedly support Marie Forleo’s B-School for entrepreneurs. Marie is offering free training videos you will get so much out of. Go to Christinehassler.com/freetraining

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● How are you at acknowledging yourself? Are you a people pleaser and are able to acknowledge others but when it comes to yourself, you’re not so great?

● Do you have a parent or someone in your life you feel responsible for? Do you put your happiness on the backburner to theirs?

● Do you try to set boundaries with difficult people in your life but then feel guilty and get hooked back in?

● Are your co-dependent relationships with a parent or someone else preventing you from having a healthy, loving relationship of your own?

 

Gina’s Question:

Gina lived most of her life based on her mother’s needs. She would like tools to help her heal and guidance on how to move forward in her life.

 

Gina’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● Her mother is an alcoholic.

● She has had to take care of her mother her entire life.

● She struggles with depression.

● She has an eating disorder.

● She hasn’t been able to have healthy relationships.

● She is in therapy.

● She’s not sure how to express her needs.

● She is attracting a certain type of men.

● She is in a codependent relationship with her mother.

● She doesn’t know how to deal with her feelings.

● She doesn’t want to be in an unhealthy relationship.

● She would like to inspire other people.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to acknowledge the progress she has made.

● She needs to put some distance between her and her mother.

● She shouldn’t feel guilty for putting herself first.

● She should be a mother to herself.

● She needs to reframe her life to make it into what she wants.

● She needs to write her mother a letter she doesn’t intend to send.

 

Takeaways:

● Write a letter to your parent you don’t intend to send emancipating yourself.

● Search for codependency books and read the ones that call out to you.

● Work with a guide in some way. If you resonate with me, sign up for my Personal Mastery Course. Or, join me at the Retreat in Hawaii for men, women, and couples.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Feb 9, 2019

Get ready for an incredible conversation with one of the most heart-centered, boss lady, bad-asses I know: Marie Forleo! Marie runs an online business school for modern entrepreneurs, called B School  In this interview we cover a lot of ground from what you really do need to do in your business, what you should NOT do, how to balance masculine and feminine energies, and how to stop giving a crap about what people think of you.

Marie just released a free video training series where she shares some really awesome information and a ton of value!  You’ll get to know Marie (and love her if you don’t already), as she shares her incredible story of how she has built a multi-million dollar business online with integrity.

Access those here: Christinehassler.com/freetraining
 
I’ll also be announcing ways I can support you in B School so be sure to sign up at christinehassler.com to get my latest announcements. 
Feb 6, 2019

This episode really isn’t about sex, it’s secondary. What this call is really about is letting go of your past so you can enjoy your present and future and letting go of judgment, especially of other people. Today’s caller, Michaela, feels guilty about judging her partner about something she perceives as a problem. And, whenever we are judgmental of another person it’s usually an indicator that there is something inside of us we need to look at.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode178]

If you notice you are being judgmental or being irritated with someone else, you may be projecting some part of yourself onto them. Maybe it is reflecting a part of you that you don’t want to look at or you don’t like about yourself.

Are you neglecting some part of your life — your sex life maybe? You may have a good reason for it. You are too busy, or tired, or you have kids? Or, is there a history of abuse that has made you disconnect from your sexuality all together?

When you have the identity of a sexual abuse survivor you can get caught up in it. What you really want to be is a sexual thriver. If you were abused or molested and you are not enjoying your body you are giving the abuser, or molester, power over your body even today. By not reclaiming your power in a healthy way you continue to perpetuate the cycle of abuse. It’s time to take your power back.

There are two common reactions to being sexually abused.  One is being promiscuous or over-sexualized, having fewer boundaries around sex, or who you have sex with. This is more common when sexual abuse happened at a younger age.

Then the other extreme is disconnecting from sexuality altogether. When true intimacy sets in or if life gets busy, you feel like you can take sex or leave it. Sex may not feel enjoyable and many people can check out of their bodies during sex. Now, this doesn’t just apply to sexual abuse victims. This happens to a lot of people especially women when we get too much in our heads and we’ve got too much baggage we are repressing. It mutes our sexuality.

If your sexuality is on the back burner and it is not something you have given much attention to then perhaps it’s time to start giving it some attention. Sexuality isn’t just about having sex. It’s about having pleasure in our bodies and being connected.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● If there is someone in your life you are judging harshly without taking an honest look at yourself?

● To all the moms out there, have you paid more attention to the kids and less to your partner or spouse?

● Have you had sexual trauma or bad sexual experiences that have dimmed your desire or enjoyment of sex?

● Are you avoiding going back and reprocessing pain from your past because you think it’s going to retraumatize you?

 

Michaela’s Question:

Michaela would like guidance on how to take the judgment, and the guilt she feels from it, out of her marriage.

 

Michaela’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

● Her partner is overweight.

● There is love but no passion in her marriage.

● She experienced sexual abuse as a child.

● She has difficulty with intimacy.

● She focuses on the kids more than her partner.

● She realizes her husband is starved for physical intimacy.

● She wants to take back her power for giving and receiving pleasure.

● She feels hopeful.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to forgive herself for how she feels.

● She should seek out a Somatic therapist who focuses on sexual abuse.

● She should look into S-Factor classes or dance classes.

● She should listen to the “Pleasure on Purpose” interview with Dr. Heike Joy Hudson.

● She will be attending my Spring Retreat in San Diego.

 

Takeaways:

● Practice projection. If you spot it, you got it.

● Listen to Episode #131 about Self-love and my Coaches Corner the “Pleasure on Purpose” interview with Dr. Heike Joy Hudson.

● Do something that brings you pleasure. Dance, put your feet in the grass, just do something that makes you feel good.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Feb 2, 2019

Alexia Vernon is the author of the book, Step into Your Moxie: Amplify Your Voice, Visibility, and Influence in the World. Branded a “Moxie Maven” by President Obama’s White House Office of Public Engagement for her unique and effective approach to women’s empowerment, Alexia Vernon is a sought-after speaking and leadership coach to female (and male) executives, entrepreneurs, media personalities, and change makers who want to spread their ideas, positively impact people’s lives, grow their businesses, and advance their thought leadership. A renowned women’s empowerment speaker who has committed her life to showing women how to “step into their moxie®”, since winning the Miss Junior America competition as a college freshman, Alexia has delivered transformational keynotes and corporate trainings for Fortune 500 companies, college campuses, professional associations, the United Nations, and she has delivered a TEDx talk on the future of feminism. Connect with Alexia online at alexiavernon.com.

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Jan 30, 2019

This call is about trust, belonging, and establishing connections in relationships. Today’s caller, Jesse, has a lot of awareness about what is holding her back but can’t seem to change her behavior specifically when it comes to having close connections, intimate relationships, and trusting others. If you feel you don’t belong, know you are not alone. We all have felt that way at one time or another.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode177]

It’s important we do inner work but we live in an interdependent world. For things to shift we have to practice with other people, especially when it comes to trust. If we always keep people at a distance, we will never learn how to trust people.

When practicing it is good to start in safe environments — a personal growth workshop, a yoga class, or a community where you can practice being vulnerable in front of other people. And, in intimate relationships, take ownership of your stuff when it comes up.

Most intimate relationships fail because rather than speaking the truth or being vulnerable and saying what we are scared of we create what we are scared of. We are scared of losing the relationship but we don’t speak it. We don’t give the other person the opportunity to work through it with us. We sabotage it or just leave. We create our worst nightmare.

It’s much healthier to practice vulnerability and to speak up in relationships because then we have an opportunity to move through it. And, in social situations, instead of practicing vulnerability, try practicing curiosity. Get out of your own head by asking people about themselves.

There are people who want you in their tribe. You have to believe that you do belong with your people. And, you have to give people a chance. Don’t assume you don’t belong somewhere.

People may surprise you.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you have a story you are carrying around from your past that impacts your present in a not-so-great way?

● Are you from a divorced family?

● Do you see how your limiting beliefs limit you but you can’t seem to change them?

● Do you struggle with vulnerability and intimate relationships?

● Do you have anxiety around social situations?

 

Jesse’s Question:

Jesse doesn’t feel like she belongs and has difficulty connecting with people.

 

Jesse’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

● She comes from a divorced family.

● She is aware she doesn’t trust.

● She has done therapy.

● She has anxiety in social environments.

● She’s a people pleaser.

● She finds it difficult to be vulnerable.

● She feels judged and abandoned.

● She sabotages relationships.

● She abandons herself.

● She is ready to integrate changes into her story.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to remind herself that being vulnerable leads to relief and compassion.

● She needs to be more honorable and vulnerable in relationships.

● She needs to tap into her five-year-old self and get curious about other people in social situations, like my Spring Retreat in San Diego or the Hawaii Retreat.

 

Takeaways:

● Connect to the part of you that is thriving, joyous, happy and free. My Personal Mastery course will give you the tools and techniques for it.

● Learn how to be vulnerable in safe places.

● Speak your truth in intimate relationships.

● Practice the superpower of curiosity. Ask questions!

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Have feedback about this podcast?

 

Jan 26, 2019
My dear friend Lissa Rankin, best selling author, physician, speaker, mystic and founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute joins me for a heartwarming conversation about how to connect more deeply to our inner voice and only take action when it is aligned with our deepest truth. We also discuss why self-help is not (and really cannot be) something we do all by ourselves.  Lissa also guides you through a beautiful and powerful process to connect with what she calls, “Your Inner Pilot Light”
 
To buy Lissa’s newest book and get all the AMAZING free goodies she is offering, go here: https://innerpilotlight.com/ 
 
 
Lissa Rankin, MD, New York Times bestselling author of The Daily Flame,  Mind Over MedicineThe Fear Cure, and The Anatomy of a Calling is a physician, speaker, founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute, creator of The Daily Flame, and mystic. Passionate about what makes people optimally healthy and what predisposes them to illness, she discovered that connecting with your “Inner Pilot Light” is not only essential to optimal health, making your body ripe for miracles; it’s also the golden ticket to finding and fulfilling your calling, nurturing healthy relationships, being a loving, responsible, ethical Soul Tribe member, downloading creative new ideas from the muse, and restoring peace on earth. Bridging between seemingly disparate worlds, Lissa is a connector, collaborator, curator, and amplifier, broadcasting not only her unique visionary ideas, but also those of cutting edge visionaries she discerns and trusts, especially in the field of her latest research into “Sacred Medicine.” In 2012, Lissa founded the Whole Health Medicine Institute, where she and a team of luminary faculty like Deepak Chopra, Rachel Naomi Remen, Bernie Siegel, and Joan Borysenko train physicians and other health care providers about “Whole Health” and the “6 Steps to Healing Yourself.” Lissa has starred in two National Public Television specials, her TEDx talks have been viewed over 4 million times, and she leads workshops, both online and at retreat centers like Esalen, 1440, Omega, and Kripalu.
 
Jan 23, 2019

This call is about breaking patterns, shifting identities, and looking at life from a spiritual perspective. Today’s caller, Betsy, has done some therapy but can’t seem to shift her story. During our discussion, we uncover that Betsy is basing too much of her identity on her past and with people who weren’t meant to play such a big role in her life.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode176]

 

So many of us are addicted to suffering. Why? Because it’s a comfort zone, it’s familiar, it’s what we know. It’s perpetuated by our limiting beliefs and on some level, we think we are supposed to be suffering. And, we hang on to our addiction to suffering because it gets us love and attention. Or, at least we think it does. Do you think you need to earn the good things in your life?

The main reason for going back and reflecting on your past is so we understand why we think, feel, and behave the way we do. Not to blame your past or to try and go back and change it. Your past doesn’t define you. If you grew up feeling scared, rejected, and unloved, it does not mean you have to feel that way now or in the future. It has nothing to do with your identity.

My next Spring Retreat in San Diego is taking place on March 15 - 17.  If you want to feel physically lighter, emotionally free of sadness, worry, and anxiety, mentally clear and accepting and confident of your body go to ChristineHassler.com/Spring-Retreat or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to save your spot.

And, I will be conducting a Retreat for Men, Women, and Couples on the magical island of Maui! Spots are limited for this intimate gathering. There is an application for this retreat; visit ChristineHassler.com/Hawaii or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you ever struggle with depression but you mask it well by doing, doing, doing?

● Are you more comfortable in the masculine energy of doing, doing, doing? Do you really like control?

● Have you ever felt unwanted? Were you an accident, adopted, or abandoned as a child?

● Did you grow up with an absent parent and you didn’t feel protected?

● Have romantic relationships been a challenge for you?

 

Betsy’s Question:

Betsy would like guidance on how to get over her childhood trauma.

 

Betsy’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

● She’s done therapy.

● Her past is still alive in her present.

● She saw her mother being abused.

● Her mother passed away.

● She feels more comfortable in her masculine.

● She’s afraid to trust.

● She’s recently dropped physical and emotional weight.

● She deals with depression.

● She has had bad examples of men in her life.

● She feels unwanted.

● She felt she had to be emotionally numb to survive.

● She will be perceiving her life differently.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to lean into her feminine energy, trust, and vulnerability.

● She needs to shift her survival identity to a soul curriculum-based identity.

● She needs to realize she was meant to be here.

● She doesn’t need to prove herself to be worthy or lovable.

● She should write her mother letters.

● She should join my Personal Mastery Course and attend my Spring Retreat.

● She should trust and express her emotions.

 

Takeaways:

● Look at your life from a spiritual perspective. Things are happening for you and not to you.

● Consider the things in your past and think about why you chose them.

● Is there someone in your life you are giving more power too than you should be?

● Repeat this affirmation — “I’m enjoying life and I belong here.”

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Have feedback about this podcast?

 

Jan 19, 2019

In this quickie episode, Christine discusses why asking for help is key to your success and well being.  She gives you tips for getting over the common obstacles that arise when asking for help (like feeling like we are a bother or being afraid of a getting a no).  You’ll also learn a very simple, practical process for asking for help from your inner guidance and the Universe.

Jan 16, 2019

This call is about changing your story and how to thrive, not just survive. Today’s caller, Chris, is dealing with shame and frustration around the story she has about money. Oppression and scarcity have been major themes in her life and she is looking for guidance about how to shift it. We work through how she can be open to giving and receiving love and moving out of ‘victim’ and into acceptance in order to shift her energy.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode175]

When we have been through a lot of trauma we prepare ourselves for the worst. And, when we are in immersed in fight or flight mode, it’s hard to start the healing process. In order to change the story we have about our life, we can’t wait for the external world to change it for us. We must change it inside ourselves and then things will change in the external world.

Know that how you relate to an issue can be the issue. Shifting the way you relate to an issue can lead to acceptance. And a big part of acceptance is becoming aware of how the past has created your current reality. Once you are aware of the origin of your story you can begin the healing process. And healing your past can be scary.

An important lesson to remember is we don’t always have to do everything on our own. Being loved, supported, and held, especially when we are vulnerable, can help us to realize we are worthy of love and help us to shift our energy toward abundance.

 

My next Spring Retreat in San Diego is taking place on March 15 - 17.  If you want to feel physically lighter, emotionally free of sadness, worry, and anxiety, mentally clear and accepting and confident of your body go to ChristineHassler.com/Spring-Retreat or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to save your spot.

And, special announcement, I will be conducting a Retreat for Men, Women, and Couples on the magical island of Maui! Spots are limited for this intimate gathering. There is an application for this retreat; email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you have a story about money that you can’t seem to shift?

● Do you have a story about not being able to trust people? When you ask for help do you get shot down?

● Do you have some trauma and you’ve done courses and read books but you can’t seem to get to the other side of it?

● Although you want love and support, when it comes your direction, how are you about receiving it?

 

Chris’s Question:

Chris would like to shift the energy around her finances and start thriving instead of surviving.

 

Chris’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

● Her veterinary practice closed.

● She will be moving soon.

● The topic of money scares her.

● She wasn’t acknowledged when she asked for things as a child.

● She inherited her money story.

● She doesn’t feel worthy.

● She participated in a Personal Mastery course.

● She has a hard time asking for help.

● She is looking for a tangible solution to her problem.

● She feels stuck.

● Her victim mentality pushes her into a panic.

● She received very little positive attention.

● She has strained family relationships.

● She’s had a lot of violence and scarcity in her life.

● She has PTSD.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She should perform the Temper Tantrum Technique from the emotional section of Expectation Hangover.

● She needs to transform her frustration into acceptance, move out of ‘victim,’ and have compassion for herself.

● She needs to find people who can care for her, nurture her, and guide her.

● She should research EMDR therapy.

● She should start telling a new story about her worthiness to receive help.

● She should start asking for help in little ways.

● She should start a meditative process and lean into her spirituality.

● When she feels frustrated she should stand up and move her body’s energy around.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Have feedback about this podcast?

Jan 12, 2019

Join Christine and Rob as they talk about leaving a “safe, secure, good enough” career to pursue what you are really passionate about, lessons learned from taking a massive leap of faith, the importance of intentional experiences and connections with like-minded people, and forgiveness.

Rob has overcome his share of obstacles in order to architect the life of his dreams. Growing up in Queens (literally on the wrong side of the tracks), his early years were tumultuous, marked by hardship and violence. With home being a less-than-idyllic place, he clung to work and education as his ticket out of the bedroom he shared with three brothers, and the low-income reality of the life his parents couldn’t seem to escape. The minute he was old enough, he threw himself into any job he could get, from washing cars at filling stations, to washing hair in salons.

He ultimately built a successful chiropractic practice, welcomed his first child, experienced the heartbreak of a challenging divorce, found healing and redemption when he met and married his wife, Kim and read the 4 hour work week by Tim Ferris that changed his life.

You’ll hear what happened next in our interview …and I really encourage you to listen all the way through the end because I ask Rob a very powerful question about what it took to get over his challenging upbringing.

To learn more about Rob’s Mastermind go here:  https://workhardplayhardpodcast.com/

Jan 9, 2019

This call is about sticking to a routine. Today’s caller, Megan, wants to stick to a routine that allows her to accomplish her goals but is instead modeling her life around other people in her life. This is a great episode to kick off the new year as we delve into how to narrow down what is really important, becoming aware of how you respond to stress and how to focus on high-value priorities.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode174]

When we feel we want to be disciplined about something, or have more of a routine, we think that it has to be hardcore and restrictive. But that is not a great way to look at discipline. And while it does require discipline to create new habits, we should look at discipline as a loving follower of something that matters to us.

Discipline comes from the word disciple and the origin of the word disciple comes from the original followers of Jesus during his lifetime. It also can be defined as a follower or student of a teacher, leader, or philosopher. When we think about discipline coming from our heart because something truly matters to us, our why totally changes. Instead of it being rigid and restrictive it becomes full of devotion and love

It is much easier to stick to a routine when you are devoted from a place of love than from a place of being hard on yourself. So, to start a new year why not take a few things off of your plate instead of adding more on to it.

If you missed my Coaches Corner episode on my 7-step Goal Setting Process or my Free Guided Meditation listen to them now!

Get my printed, spiral bound 40-Day Journal and use it to start your new healthy habits for 2019!  

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are certain routines hard for you to stick to?

● Are there things in your life you find easy to stay disciplined to but others — not so much?

● Growing up, were you overly disciplined or under-disciplined? Or was it a mix?

● When it comes to routines and discipline, do you do things because you think you have to or should? Or, do you do it because you truly enjoy it?

● Are you putting way too much on your plate, especially at the beginning of the year? Are you already starting to feel overwhelmed?

 

Megan’s Question:

Megan is looking for guidance on how to execute a routine that will allow her to accomplish her goals.

 

Megan’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

● She finds it difficult to stick with self-care routines.

● She does have routines she enjoys following.

● She felt lost as a child in a big family.

● She felt seen by her parents when she accomplished something.

● She is modeling herself around her partner.

● She’s good at reflecting on herself.

● Her mom was always stressed out when she was a child.

● Her father wasn’t in the house much.

● She stresses out a lot.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to narrow down the number of projects she focuses on.

● She needs to be more connected to her needs.

● She needs to bring awareness to how she modeled her world after her parents.

● She needs to create a ‘Someday, Idea Book’ for herself.

● She needs to let her personal growth and self-care become a higher value priority than her accomplishments and performance.

 

Assignments & Takeaways:

● When it comes to establishing a new routine or creating a new habit, look at the obstacles that are in your way.

● If you feel overwhelmed, choose the one thing that matters most to you in your life and focus on doing that one thing extraordinarily well.

● Look at how you respond to stress. Become a student of your stress for the next month.

● Make getting some sleep one of your action steps for the new year.

● One of the easiest ways to meet like-minded people is to put yourself in places and situations where you can meet them like my 2019 Spring Retreat in March. It’s a great opportunity to meet like-minded people.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Have feedback about this podcast? 

 

Jan 5, 2019

Christine guides you through a new seven-step transformational goal-setting process that will make manifesting your dreams A LOT easier. Going through this process will support you in identifying what is blocking you and then taking action toward your goals. 

Use this process in combination with last week’s guided meditation to release 2018 and call in 2019 and you will be kicking off the year feelings so clear and inspired!

 

Jan 2, 2019

This call is about moving out of indecision, making a choice, and taking action. Today’s caller, Cecilia, wants permission to make a decision. She has allowed logistics to block any action she is considering and she is overwhelmed with the ‘hows’ and hasn’t fully examined the ‘what ifs.’ During the call, we uncover what her intuition is telling her and why she should listen to it.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode173]

Often, we are so obsessed with making the wrong choice we find ourselves paralyzed in the limbo of indecision, which can be hell. Even those big leap of faith decisions which include a high degree of uncertainty need resolution. You cannot choose wrong, so I encourage you to JUST choose. The only way we get support from the universe is if we take a step and make a decision.

When you are deciding between two things you must get in 100% alignment with the choice you are making. Even if you have made a choice, be honest with yourself. Are you in 100% alignment with it or are you still looking for an out? Get strong and clear in your intention. The universe cannot reveal the next steps when you are half in a decision.

It’s never too late to go for your dreams!

*Coaches take note — I wanted to get Cecilia out of her head and more into her feelings. I knew talking through her issue wasn’t going to get her anywhere. So, I set up two situations, I painted a picture or laid out what the outcomes would be if she chose option ‘A’ and I did the same for option ‘B.’ I allowed her intuition to choose the outcome.

You can get the 6-step Intuitive Decision Making Process I mention in the episode FREE if you text ‘Christine’ to 444999. If you are an international listener, e-mail Jill@christinehassler.com and write Free Gift in the subject line and explain that you are an international listener.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself: 

● Is there a decision you are having a hard time making? Are you living in limbo land as you analyze the decision you have to make?

● Are you waiting for permission to do something you know in your heart you want to do?

● Do you collect evidence that supports your dreams or supports your fears?

 

Cecilia’s Question:

Cecilia would like to know if her longing to be somewhere else is the universe calling her to go there or if she has glamorized a moment in time.

 

Cecilia’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

● She feels relieved when someone gives her permission.

● She feels lonely and hasn’t found her tribe.

● She knows she runs away from things.

● She assumes she is going to make the wrong decision.

● She’s living in limbo-land.

● She’s not resisting the push towards making a clear choice.

● She doesn’t have a lot to lose.

● Her biggest obstacle is fear.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It: 

● She should answer her ‘what ifs.’

● She should get 100% aligned and behind one decision.

● She should project 20 years in the future to see if she regrets her inaction.

● Understand the universe will support her and the decision she makes.

 

Assignments & Takeaways:

● Get 2 sheets of paper, write one choice on one of the sheets and one choice on the other sheet then step forward using your intuition onto both sheets of paper at different times to see how your body reacts. This provides incredible feedback.

● Give yourself permission to choose and permission to take a leap.

● Remember, it’s never too late to go for your dreams. My “Why Going for Your Dreams Matters Most… No Matter What” podcast addresses how to move past fear and doubt to hear your inner voice.

● Listen to my Coaches Corner on “How to Get Over Feeling Lonely”. 

● One of the easiest ways to meet like-minded people is to put yourself in places and situations where you can meet them like my 2019 Spring Retreat in March. It’s a great opportunity to meet like-minded people.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

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