Jul 28, 2018
n this episode, Christine breaks down what forgiveness really means. Listen in as she explains the misunderstands and misuse of forgiveness. If you want to experience true freedom, forgiveness is a must! Catch Christine as a guest speaker at Unplug Meditation Friday Aug 3. Details here: https://bit.ly/2KTqh3t
Jul 25, 2018
This call is about the importance of self-trust and acceptance in a relationship. Today’s caller, Don, recently reunited with his partner after a seven-month break from their long-distance relationship and would like guidance on how to make sure he gets what he needs from the relationship during the ‘do-over.’ [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode150] So many of us go into the compensatory strategy of over-achieving whenever we feel ‘less than’ in any way. Whenever we feel less than our ego has to come up with a way to compensate for it. It only serves to distance ourselves from who we truly are. When we are out there consistently trying to prove ourselves we are unconsciously running with the belief that we are never enough. We look for external validation through the acknowledgment of others. Many people who believe they have ‘good’ childhoods often minimize something that happened that impacts the rest of their life. Issues in relationships CAN be resolved through communication. Create agreements in your relationship rather than expectations. Don’t expect the other person to read your mind and don’t think that just because you say something it’s ‘message sent, message received.’ Be sensitive about your partner’s needs; make agreements about how you can reassure them and how you can meet their needs. If you meet the agreements and it still isn’t working then it’s time to reevaluate the relationship to ensure it’s a value match. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you giving a relationship a second chance? Are you in a do-over? ? Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship? ? Growing up, did you feel like you were in the shadow of a sibling? ? Have you ever felt invisible? Do you have to try extra hard to get noticed? Don’s Question: Don wants to know Christine’s thoughts about the ‘do-over’ in his current relationship. Don’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He is in a two-year, long-distance relationship. ? They took a seven-month break. ? There were trust issues in the relationship. ? He feels limited by his partner’s insecurities. ? He grew up in the shadow of his older sister. ? He overcompensates to get attention. ? His relationship choices are based on safety. ? He doesn’t know true intimacy. ? He wants to be appreciated for just being him. ? He has trust issues. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to get clear about what he values and what he deserves from a relationship. ? He needs to express his needs and make clear agreements. ? He needs to fall in love with himself. ? He needs to be in gratitude to himself. Assignments For You: ? No relationship with others is bulletproof. So, don’t put pressure on it to be. ? Evaluate your relationship with yourself. Is it a healthy relationship? ? Identify your compensatory strategies. ? Give from your energy overflow. Don’t empty yourself out. ? Write down your top five core values for a relationship. ? Practice self-acknowledgment. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. HP — Do you need serious-performance from your laptop? 8th generation Intel-powered HP PCs offer better performance and longer battery life. And, they come with 24/7 dedicated support from US-based specialists. To get high-computing power and enhanced security features go to HP.com/overit for an extra 10% off (until Sept. 17, 2018). Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch this Coaching...
Jul 21, 2018
This is a juicy one! Meet the man in my life and listen in as we talk about what being a “conscious man” means and requires. Learn about his new program which begins August 8th that I HIGHLY endorse: Reclaim Your Kingdom. http://reclaimyourkingdom.com/ A little more about Stef Sifandos. He is a Relational Alchemist, Community Builder and Change Maker who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, mindfulness, an integration of Eastern wisdom, diverse spiritual praxis and western psychology to improve, evolves end enhance the quality of your relationships.
Jul 18, 2018
This call is about setting a balance between caretaking and nurturing, loving and empowering children. Today’s caller, Alexis, is feeling overwhelmed and guilty about how she deals with her daughter’s physical and emotional state. We talk through the tools that will help her navigate through the natural overwhelm. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode149] Whenever we are faced with something that feels overwhelming or confusing, we may feel helpless. When it’s our stuff it’s hard, but when our child is suffering the helplessness is intensified. As a parent, we feel we are supposed to know how to take care of our children but when we are not sure what to do, it can be incredibly overwhelming. When you address your child with compassion instead of taking on their suffering you go with them. This is where spiritual altitude comes in handy. It may feel like our children belong to us but they really belong to God, to the universe. They are souls having their own unique human experience. On some level, your child chose you to be the perfect person to guide their experience and to help them with their soul curriculum. When you see them as a child of light you can shift your perspective to not see them as a victim. If you go too much into caretaking it disempowers them from using their own inner resources. The healthier you are as an adult the healthier children you will raise. My one-day Over It and On With It workshop for men and women in London on July 21st only has 2 spots left. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? As a parent do you feel a bit guilty about not being a good enough parent or about thoughts you have about your kids or yourself? ? Do you sometimes want to run away from being a parent and then beat yourself up about it? ? Do you have a child that is suffering from something physical or emotional? Is that suffering wearing you down? ? How do you parent yourself? Are you critical of yourself? If you were raising yourself right now, how are you doing? ? Do you relate to the things in your life as a victim or as a spiritual seeker? Alexis’s Question: Alexis wants guidance on how to be the best caretaker for her daughter who has a chronic condition. Alexis’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? Her daughter’s condition requires a lot of financial support. ? She wants to be more available for her daughter. ? She wants to protect everyone’s emotions. ? She struggles with guilt and overwhelm. ? She reads to her daughter. ? Her children make her feel valuable. ? Her daughter is emotionally mature. ? She is not comfortable in dealing with negative emotions. ? She knows that guilt is useless. ? She realized she doesn’t need to have the answers. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to forgive herself for guilty feelings and remind herself she is doing the best that she can. ? She needs to write out her feelings and then tear it up. ? She should teach her daughter to express her emotions. ? When she feels the guilt, she should ask herself if it is a good use of her energy. ? She should stop seeing her daughter as a victim and nurture her courageous spirit. Assignments For You: ? When something challenging is happening in your or your child’s life, take the big deal factor out of it. ? Allow yourself to feel your feelings. Have a temper tantrum or write a big ‘FU’ letter. ? Move into acceptance of your challenges and be a seeker and look for the lessons. ? As a parent, make sure you have your own release system for your emotions. ? Read empowering stories about people who have overcome similar challenges. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software...
Jul 14, 2018
Listen in as Christine talks about why when things start going really well in your life or you make a positive change, anxiety, doubt or sabotaging behaviors emerge. It is called an "Upper Limits" issue and Christine explains how to deal with it in a way that keeps you moving onward and upward.
Jul 11, 2018
This call demonstrates how strong vulnerability can be. Today’s caller, Nicholas, wants to know how he can be more connected in his life. During our conversation, we uncover a core wound from when, as an infant, he was separated from his mother. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode148] Whenever we have core wounding with our mother or father we have to find the divine parent inside of us. We need to find our innate nurturing, soothing and compassionate qualities. Feelings of abandonment trigger the amygdala in our brain. It triggers a fight or flight fear-based response. The truth is none of us can ever be abandoned. We are all one. We are all connected, even when physical people leave our lives. The more we have the internal connection to ourselves and to our higher power the more we realize we can never truly be abandoned. It takes a lot of energy to hold it all together and to not be weak. When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable it can provide insights into our core issues. Through our vulnerability, we find true strength. My one-day Over It and On With It workshop for men and women in London on July 21st only has 10 spots left. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Have you lived your life with a pattern of abandonment? ? Are you someone who likes to have it all figured out? Do you like being someone everyone can depend on? ? Do you often use self-deprecating humor? ? How are you at receiving compliments? ? Would you like to have more intimate, vulnerable relationships with people you feel close too? Nicholas’s Question: Nicholas wants guidance on how to have deeper connections in his life. Nicholas’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He feels disconnected from the people in his life. ? He felt like a hand-me-down kid. ? He was separated from his mother at a young age. ? He always feels like an outsider. ? He gets easily triggered to anger. ? He doesn’t feel connected to himself. ? He finds it difficult to trust people. ? He doesn’t feel emotionally safe. ? He is extremely loyal to others. ? He uses self-deprecating humor. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to find a sense of home and belonging within himself. ? He needs to find a specialist trained in infant trauma. ? He needs to work through his anger and forgive his mother. ? He needs to allow himself to be loved. ? He needs to embrace compassion and vulnerability. ? He needs to trust his impulses. Assignments For You: ? Get out of your own way and be open to someone else’s perspective and insights. ? When the student is ready the teacher appears. ? Know that you have masculine and feminine inside of you. ? Ask the people in your life for what you need. ? Trust your impulses. Sponsors: Daily Harvest delivers frozen, one-step prep, plant-based eats right to your door. Use promo code OVERIT to get 3 free Daily Harvest cups added to your first box. Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine Hassler on Youtube Christine on Facebook Episode 148 Video Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show
Jul 7, 2018
Lauren Handel Zander is the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, an international corporate consulting and life coaching company dedicated to teaching people how to realize their personal and professional visions. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private and corporate clients and hasbeen a featured expert in The New York Times, BBC, Forbes, Women’s Health, Dr. Oz, and Marie Claire and she is a regular contributor to Businessweek and the Huffington Post. In this episode we talk about the dangers of lying and Lauren’s new book, Maybe It’s You which walks readers through the innovative step-by-step process that has transformed the lives of tens of thousands of HG clients, and explains how anyone can achieve amazing things when we stop lying and finally start keeping the promises we make to ourselves. This is a no-nonsense, funny, and proven approach that teaches people how to reset their lives. Find out which areas of life you may need to work on with the free coaching tool from Lauren Zander and Handel Group, The Current Reality Quiz. It's an easy (and fun!) way to self assess. http://bit.ly/OverOnWithItCRQ Inner.U is the digital coaching course from Lauren Zander and Handel Group - 14+ hours of audio coaching, 50+ written assignments, community chat, and much more. Use code OVERITANDONWITHIT75 for $75 off a subscription level at checkout! InnerU.Coach
Jul 4, 2018
This call is about changing your perception of a difficult memory from the past. Today’s caller, Sam, has a perception of a past event that is clouding the way she sees herself and her life. She doesn’t feel comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t want to truly be seen. This session is a beautiful demonstration of a miracle. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode147] The spiritual definition of a miracle is a change in perception. And often it’s a change in perception from fear to love. I encourage you to look back on how you are holding certain memories. If you continue to hold certain memories as the victim you will continue to feel like the victim and it will continue to show up in your life. I am conducting a one-day workshop for men and women in London on July 21st. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there a significant life event that has impacted you but you can’t seem to shift? ? Do you feel comfortable in your own skin? ? Do you hold yourself back? ? Are you overly concerned about what people think of you? ? Are you more comfortable being a caretaker or providing for others than getting attention because you are concerned about being judged? ? How connected to your sexuality are you? Do you carry any shame around it or feel inhibited? Sam’s Question: Sam wants to know how she can step into her light, allow herself to be seen and to feel comfortable in her skin. Sam’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She feels disconnected. ? She is depressed and feels sad. ? She feels blocked. ? She fears being seen. ? She was publicly shamed. ? Her parents were critical of her. ? She is a free spirit at her core. ? She was searching for validation and approval. ? She doesn’t trust her impulses. ? She feels disconnected from her body. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to forgive herself. ? She needs to reframe her situation. ? She needs to let go of her shame. ? She should have more fun. Assignments For You: ? Know you are desirable, feel safe in your body and allow the people you want into your life. You are not prey. You are desirable. ? Consider how you can reawaken your sexual energy and desires through dance, tantra, or other creative outlets. ? Write out the worst thing people could say or think about you. ? Look for the positive projections in your life. Sponsors: Wander Beauty — is a line of multi-tasking beauty essentials that are easy to use, cruelty-free and travel-friendly. Make-up should give you maximum impact with minimum effort. So, make the most out of your beauty routine. Get 20% off your purchase at Wanderbeauty.com/OVERIT or click the link above. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine Hassler on Youtube Christine on Facebook Episode 147 Video Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show