Sep 29, 2018
Christine welcomes CEO, Entrepreneur, Advisor, and Speaker Jennifer Love to the show to discuss changing your story around wealth and taking action to become even more successful. Jennifer Love is the CEO of One More Woman – a fast-track, high-performance educational and advisory community helping women entrepreneurs take the stress out of the money equation so they can effectively raise, make, manage, and give money. She is a nationally-acclaimed mentor, international business strategist, speaker, and successful thought leader who has guided thousands of entrepreneurs to position their businesses for long-term, sustainable growth. To learn more about the Personal Mastery Course or Signature Retreat that Christine mentions, go here: christinehassler.com/mastery christinehassler.com/spring-retreat
Sep 26, 2018
The heart of this coaching session is about feeling safe and speaking your truth. Sara’s mother is trying hard to mend a relationship damaged by alcoholism but is striking out when it comes to giving Sara what she needs. We work through the steps Sara can take to release the resentment and educate her mother about what she really needs because we cannot shift our relationships until we shift something inside ourselves. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode159] Expressing our needs is important. Often, we love others the way we need or want to be loved and we miss the mark with the other person. This is why it is important to ask the other person how they want to be loved and what they need and then for us to express our needs to them. Set people up for success, don’t expect them to be mind readers. And when dealing with the challenges of growing up fast or in an unpredictable and chaotic environment, it is hard to work with our inner child when our inner child wasn’t a child for very long. If life was always unpredictable or chaotic we are always strategizing about what we have to do to keep the peace. We live in a constant state of anxiety because we don’t feel safe. In an effort to not create more chaos and manage anxiety, we may become perfectionists. It gives the anxiety something to do. We shift old patterns with self-talk, by being curious, by letting go, being messy and asking for and receiving help. My for women only Signature Retreat has been upleveled. If you want to get clarity on your purpose and release the emotions that are holding you back, join me in March 2019. To connect with me and other like-minded women sign up before October 1st to get the $500 Early Bird discount. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Did you grow up with an alcoholic parent? Or in a very chaotic environment? ? Are you a perfectionist? ? How are you at setting boundaries? Are you afraid of how the other person might react? ? Do you want to be more social but it creates anxiety for you? ? Do you feel fully self-expressed? Sara’s Question: Sara would like guidance on how to move forward in her relationship with her mother and set appropriate boundaries. Sara’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She is the oldest of four children. ? She holds on to deep-seated beliefs about her role in her family. ? Her mother is an alcoholic and is in AA. ? She feels hurt by her mother. ? She has been trying to work through this for a long time. ? She had to grow up fast. ? She had to parent her parent. ? She surrenders control to others. ? She is attempting to mother herself through others. ? She wants to step into using her own voice and sharing her opinion. ? She becomes a chameleon when she feels unsafe. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should attend the upcoming Signature Spring Retreat to release her feelings for the final time. ? She should ask her fiance to reassure her and say “I got this,” when she falls into a control issue. ? She needs to deconstruct the belief that she has to do everything on her own. ? She should become an observer of people’s reactions when she speaks her truth. ? She needs to change her self-talk and reassure herself that she is safe. ? She needs to look at people as if they are puzzles. ? She needs to practice asking for help. ? She should write a letter to her mother including what she needs. Assignments For You: ? Let go of perfectionism and be messy. Ask for support and receiving it even if it’s not the way you would do something. ? Look at people like puzzles and manage your self-talk when you don’t feel safe. Take actions in your adult life that help reparent your inner child. ? Write a letter to someone you want to set boundaries or shift a relationship with. Sponsors: Express — No time for an outfit change after work? Express rewrites the rules of dressing for a job, with style by delivering fashion-forward...
Sep 22, 2018
This is a fantastic episode that offers you practical tools for how to FEEL and DEAL with your emotions. Amber Rae is called a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green, Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Amber and Christine dive into how feelings are a messenger and will guide you through processes to make them your friends. To learn more about the Personal Mastery Course or Signature Retreat that Christine mentions, go here: christinehassler.com/mastery christinehassler.com/spring-retreat
Sep 19, 2018
The core issue in this coaching session is abandonment. Chrystal’s limiting beliefs around trust began when her father left the family to return to his home country. She took on her father’s issues by personalizing the event and she is still triggered by the event, even as an adult. She has a breakthrough when she realizes her father’s decisions had nothing to do with her and she is worthy of abundance and love. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode158] If you feel you are broken or unlovable in some way, it is important to know most humans in the western world struggle with this. Part of our journey as humans evolving in consciousness is to upgrade the limiting belief that we are not worthy in some way or there is something we have to do to prove our enoughness. It’s easy to fall into the conditioning that we have to do something to be worthy. That we have to do something to be enough and to be loved. It stems from childhood programming and conditioning. There is nothing you need to do to earn worthiness, enoughness, or love. If you have checked off a lot of boxes in your life and have done things you thought would make you feel worthy but you are still not feeling it, it's because nothing outside of you can make you feel worthy or embody worthiness. Feeling worthy is truly an inside job that requires going back and updating some beliefs, healing core issues and re-framing how you look at life experiences. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you struggle with self-worth? Do you know intellectually you are enough but you just aren’t feeling it? ? Did you have a significant life event when someone left or someone was critical so you started to believe you did something wrong? DId you personalize it? ? Do you relate to being a giver? Is it easy for you to show up for people and show compassion for others but have difficulty receiving compassion? ? Do you live life ‘on guard’? Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop or thinking in worst-case scenarios? Chrystal’s Question: Chrystal is having trouble loving herself and would like to understand her worth. Chrystal’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She has always struggled with knowing her worth. ? She was depressed and suicidal in her teens. ? She gets triggered by certain events. ? Her father left the family when she was a child. ? She felt loved by her father but she felt like the second option. ? She always considers the worst-case scenarios. ? She protects herself from being hurt again. ? She resigned from her job. ? She is perpetuating her limiting beliefs. ? She wants everything to be perfect. ? She realizes her father made decisions for him, not her. ? She internalizes other people’s pain. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should stop personalizing the situation. ? She should read Expectation Hangover and attend the Personal Mastery Course. ? During triggering events she needs to reassure 5-year-old Chrystal and make her feel worthy. ? She needs to realize her life lessons are a gift, not a punishment. ? She needs to remember she is worthy of abundance and love. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Freshbooks is offering an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just for my listeners who use OVERITANDONWITHIT in the ‘how did you hear about us?’ section. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch This Over It and On with It Episode on YouTube — Hit Subscribe! Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.
Sep 15, 2018
If you feel like you have a lot of awareness but things in your life are not changing…it may be time for some “experiential” work. In this episode Christine defines what experiential work is and why it’s important. Jill joins her and they talk about what happens at Christine’s signature retreat to help you discern if it’s right for you. More info about the retreat here: www.christinehassler.com/spring-retreat
Sep 12, 2018
The heart of this coaching session is about self-compassion. Steve has been in his masculine and repressing his pain for much of his life. Another level of his pain is surfacing and that’s because his unconscious knows he is ready to deal with it. If you are at a point in your life where you feel like you have done a lot of personal growth work but pain is resurfacing in your life you do not want to miss this episode. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode157] It takes a lot of energy to repress pain. And, that’s why it feels hard to move forward in our lives, it feels hard to get a career off the ground, or to connect in relationships because we are unconsciously suppressing a lot of pain. Pain wants to come up and out. Our bodies don’t want to hold terrible memories or trauma inside. Our unconscious mind wants to let it go. So, it continues to make us feel uncomfortable until we deal with it. Not just mentally, but emotionally as well. It may be difficult to go back and to feel the pain of your childhood but you are feeling it anyway, 24/7 — it is just repressed. It is healthier to go into it and feel it fully with self-compassion so it can come up and out. When pain doesn’t have a way to express with compassion, it sits inside you dormant and continues to drive your choices and behaviors. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel like you have hit a point where things were going well but old stuff started to come up? ? If you are a man, do you have difficulty feeling vulnerable? Do you judge it as weakness? ? Is vulnerability awkward for you? Maybe, it’s OK for others to be vulnerable but it’s hard for you? ? Do you trust yourself? Do you trust your decisions? Do you feel safe with your pain? ? Do you find yourself jumping to forgiveness too quickly? Are you able to mentally understand and justify things that have happened in your life but you notice the pain is still there? Steve’s Question: Steve is struggling with worrying about what other people think of him for what he believes to be the first time in his life. Steve’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He’s always had to prove himself. ? He has tried to be different his entire life. ? He joined a gang as a teenager. ? He hasn’t forgiven himself for betraying himself. ? His experience built loyalty. ? He is able to relate to many different types of people. ? He has a warrior spirit. ? His girlfriend was murdered. ? He didn’t have a relationship with his father. ? He is in the process of up-leveling. ? He wants to eliminate his pain completely. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to quit judging himself and create a space to be vulnerable. ? He needs to trust himself more. ? He needs to spend time feeling his feelings. ? He needs to do the emotional section of Expectation Hangover. ? He should write down what being a loving father to himself looks like. Sponsors: Express — No time for an outfit change after work? Express rewrites the rules of dressing for a job, with style by delivering fashion-forward essentials to your door. Express has pants, work tops, dresses, and more. Listeners to Over It and On With It will receive $25 off when you spend $100 by using the code ‘Christine’ at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch Christine Hassler on YouTube — Hit Subscribe! Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.
Sep 8, 2018
Since a lot of you were asking, I brought Stef back on the show to share the story of how we met and what we did to call each other in. We talk about listening to intuition, what being “whole and complete” really means, how to do the inner work to prepare for a partnership where you feel truly met, and much more!
Sep 5, 2018
This coaching session is about a man who wants to foster a deeper emotional connection with his father. Nicholas and his father have a good surface relationship but he wants it to become more intimate. This session is a great example of how men (especially the younger generation of men) are really looking to break some old patterns of men not having to be emotionally connected. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode156] If you are doing personal growth work you may be craving a deeper relationship with other people, especially a parent. The more you are connected to yourself the more connection you want with others But, it is also important to meet people where they are and to offer an invitation to a more emotionally intimate relationship. It's important, whether with our parent, spouse or friend, to work through our own wounding with that person before we try to have a deeper connection with them or before we talk with them. If we don't the conversation will be too emotionally charged. And, It is not our job to teach our parents but we do have an invitation to open a door to be a guide to vulnerability and consciousness as adult children are becoming generational pattern breakers. A Note to Coaches — It is important to not jump straight to advice. It's tempting to do but I encourage you to be more of an investigator than an advice giver. One of the most powerful questions to ask a client when they are talking about a shift or result they want is ‘Why do you want this?’ or ‘Why is this important to you?’ We assume a lot as coaches; it is important not to assume anything. If you want to overcome and heal the issues that are be holding you back from truly enjoying time with your family and you want to do deep inner work to reframe your beliefs to get to a place of forgiveness, join me in March for my Signature Spring Retreat for women only. Email Jill@Christinehassler.com or visit Christine Hassler Spring Retreat. The Early Bird pricing discount ends Oct 1st, 2018. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there a parent you are longing for a deeper connection to? ? Has doing personal growth work inspired more intimate conversations in most or all of your relationships? ? Is emotionally bonding with your father more challenging than your mother? ? Are you scared or nervous to attempt to shift a relationship because you may get shut down or rejected? Nicholas’s Question: Nicholas has been doing personal growth work and feels it is time to connect more deeply with his father. Nicholas’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He spent a lot of time with his father in nature. ? He never had an emotional or intimate connection with his father. ? He wants to know himself more. ? He used to self-medicate. ? He didn’t feel his father was interested in his passions. ? He is helping to bring healthy masculine into the world. ? He hasn’t taken action on his desires. ? He fears his dad will reject him. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He should acknowledge his father and share some of the personal growth work he has done. ? He needs to have other men in his life that are available to him. ? He needs to accept the way his father is even if he isn’t willing to change. ? His divine assignment is to usher in more healthy masculinity. ? He needs to release his attachment and come from a place of vulnerability and curiosity. ? He needs to write out what a healthy father looks like and acts like to him. Takeaways and Assignments: ? When you are having a conversation with a man, do it while moving. ? The best way to get someone to open up and to be vulnerable is to be vulnerable, ourselves. ? Be curious and be patient, especially with parents or older persons. ? Don’t take someone else’s unwillingness to discuss something personally. ? If you are looking for a deeper connection to your father or father figure, write out what a healthy father looks...
Sep 1, 2018
It is never good to feel bad about things that make you feel good! In this Coaches Corner Christine talks about six key things that are not only healthy to do - but healthy to feel really good about doing. For more info about Christine’s upcoming Spring retreat go to: https://belive.tv/broadcasts/face-to-face-e3hvjmotw8_m/face_guest
Aug 29, 2018
This coaching session is about sexuality and freedom of sexual expression. Frankie feels shame about who he truly is and who he is attracted to. Shame is one of the most painful feelings we experience as humans because it reinforces the illusion of separation, makes us feel like we don’t belong and can’t be who we truly are. It reinforces doubts about self-worth because we think there is something wrong with us that we need to hide or keep secret. So, if shame is something you deal with in any aspect of your life I encourage you to be present as you watch or listen to this episode. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode155] To shift and heal shame it is necessary to bring judgments and secrets out into the light. Talk about them, and share them. You can’t free yourself from shame sitting in your house alone journaling. You have to speak to people about it. Have the courage to share what is true for you. Self-express, take a risk and even if you are judged — no more hiding. Filling ourselves up with love and compassion will allow us not to take things personally when we are judged for being who we are. When other people judge, ridicule, or shame us it is out of their own self-protection. Their own unresolved issues are being triggered. It comes out as mean, aggressive energy. Don’t personalize it. The more you personalize it the more it reinforces shame. Greet it with compassion and find your tribe of people who do accept you. And, we have a lot we need to heal and shift when it comes to sexuality, sexual expression, and the freedom to love who we want to love. In times when you feel ashamed or alone, elevate your perspective and look at the divine assignment from a higher altitude. It’s a bog mission to shift the collective. The more people who shift these paradigms with love the more they are going to shift. People light up when shame is lifted! If you want to overcome and heal the issues that are be holding you back from truly enjoying time with your family and you want to do deep inner work to reframe your beliefs to get to a place of forgiveness, join me in March for my Signature Spring Retreat for women only. Email Jill@Christinehassler.com or visit Christine Hassler Spring Retreat. The Early Bird pricing discount ends Oct 1st, 2018. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Was there a time in your life where you felt bullied or ostracized? Do you still hold on to it and allow it to keep you separate? Are you willing to reframe it? ? Were you born into a family, community or a set of religious beliefs that conditioned you into beliefs you are not sure are yours? ? Do you feel like the black sheep of the family and are you scared to be who you are because of judgment? ? Are you scared to fully self-express and to be who you are because you don’t want to be judged? ? Do you internalize what people say about you? ? Are you scared to be who you are when it comes to your sexual expression? ? Are you ashamed to love who you want to love? Frankie’s Question: Frankie wants guidance on how he can truly free himself from shame. Frankie’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He is super involved in his Christian church. ? He is attracted to men. ? He separates himself in groups. ? He has been bullied and judged in school. ? He finds comfort in God. ? He repressed his sexuality. ? He was conditioned to believe his feelings were wrong. ? He is questioning himself. ? He wants to make an impact in the world. ? He heard a message from God that there was nothing wrong with him. ? He knows he has come into this world as a spiritual warrior of love. ? He understands he needs to radically love himself. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to create a place of acceptance and compassion inside of himself. ? He needs to not take things personally and shouldn’t repress his feelings. ? He needs to activate discomfort in others. ? He needs to forgive...
Aug 25, 2018
Marisa Peer shares my passion for helping people make lasting changes that don’t require years and years of therapy. That said, Marissa is a therapist, in fact one of the best in the world. She has spent over three decades treating a client list that includes international superstars, CEOs, Royalty, and Olympic athletes. Marisa teaches “simple steps that produce dramatic and life-changing results”. When she reveals her fundamental rule – that all our emotional and personal problems come from us believing that we’re not ‘enough’ – and explains how to overcome it, the results are tremendous and dramatic. In addition to being a Leading Celebrity Therapist & Pioneering Hypnotherapist Trainer, Marisa is also a motivational speaker and best-selling Author, her latest book titled “I am enough” which we talk about on this show. You can learn more about Marisa and her programs at https://www.marisapeer.com/
Aug 22, 2018
This coaching session is about shifting limiting beliefs. Nohemi is aware she has beliefs that are not serving her and she is aware of where these limiting beliefs came from yet they continue to drive her behavior and choices. She is having difficulty shifting the way she feels inside This session is a beautiful, courageous example of how we can go into our pain. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode154] Having awareness just isn’t enough We may have a lot of awareness about what our limiting beliefs are and how they got there but until we actually feel differently inside, until we shift it from a concept to embodying it into a physical, visceral experience, it is hard to get behavior and feelings to shift. Many times we think going into our pain has to be dark and dramatic, and sometimes we do have to go into deep, raw stuff which is highly emotional, but a lot of times it’s just going into the depths to reach the sadness and tenderness. We spend so much time resisting our pain and being afraid to go back to our memories but going back and dealing with them creates more peace inside. My coaching was to help Nohemi take her power back in a feminine way. Not by fighting, hating, judging, and not by being hard on herself but by going into deep levels of compassion and acceptance. Don't be afraid of doing the deep work, don't be afraid of the memories. You can take your power back through love and compassion. If you feel a bit stuck, but are ready to break through to the next level and actually be able to FEEL differently and to create different results then I highly recommend you join me in March for my Spring Retreat. It is designed for women only and includes highly experiential transformational work that can help you shift. Email Jill@Christinehassler.com or visit Christine Hassler Spring Retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you very self-aware? You know what your limiting beliefs are and where they came from but you are having a hard time shifting. ? Did you have a parent or authority figure that was critical of you? Does their voice still exist in your head? ? If you are a woman, do you have a hard time trusting men? ? Are you considering getting back into the dating world but you fear you may keep dating the same person over and over again but with a different face? Nohemi’s Question: Nohemi is aware of her limiting beliefs but would like guidance on how to shift them. Nohemi’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She feels not good enough. ? Her stepfather was abusive and disempowered her. ? She is very hard on herself. ? She is scared to step out of her comfort zone. ? She was hurt and angry. ? She is enough and she is powerful. ? There are good men she can trust. ? She is worthy of her own love. ? She doesn’t need to earn love. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? To get her power back, she should step into her feminine superpower of compassion. ? She should forgive herself for ever believing anything her stepfather said about her was true. ? She should realize all men are not like her stepfather. ? She should revisit her little girl to give her reassurance and love. Sponsors: Kopari Beauty — Are you looking for a safer alternative to aluminum-laden deodorants? Kopari is an aluminum-free deodorant with sage and coconut oil that really works, all day! It doesn’t leave the thick, white residue on your clothes and has the fresh, natural scent of coconut milk. Great for sensitive skin. Say aloha to Koparibeauty.com/overit and get $5 off your order. Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Freshbooks is offering an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just for my listeners who use OVERITANDONWITHIT in the ‘how did you hear about us?’ section. Resources: Christine Hassler —...
Aug 18, 2018
In today’s episode Christine dives into two questions from listeners. The first question about getting over feeling stuck despite doing soooooo much work. The second question is regarding sexual desire and satisfying oneself when not in a relationship.
Aug 15, 2018
This call is about asking for what you want in a relationship and if you don’t get it how to leave without feeling guilty. Today’s caller, Brooke, is deciding whether or not to leave her marriage. She is struggling with guilt and obligation due to a major expectation hangover that came up after they were married. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode153] The big picture in ending a relationship with someone who is going through a difficult time like an expectation hangover, a physical diagnosis, death in the family etc. but those things do not give someone an excuse not to show up in a relationship. There may be an initial time when a diagnosis is given or the person is dealing with the shock when the person needs space or a little extra leeway where some extra TLC is in order. When our partner is down in the dumps dealing with a difficult issue we have to pull up and withhold the space to let them transition into their feelings. However, if they continue to pull away, withdraw, and be a victim then the issue is more about how they are showing up in the relationship. When we talk about vows such as, in sickness or in health, it doesn’t mean if a sickness occurs the sick person gets a permanent permission slip to stop showing up as a spouse or partner. We cannot let people off the hook because we feel sorry for them. And, we shouldn't allow our own issues to be an excuse for not being a good partner. Don’t let yourself off the hook because you feel sorry for yourself and don’t let your partner off the hook because you feel sorry for them. Loving someone does not include pity. Pity is not love and eventually, it leads to resentment. You don’t really know someone until a massive expectation hangover hits. How someone shows up in the difficult times is an indicator of how they will show up in the rest of their lives. I am pleased to announce a new way for you to collaborate with the universe to get things accomplished, my Over and On with It 40-Day Journal. This is the exact system I use to allow abundance, peace, and productivity into my life. And, when you order you get a free download of 12 new meditations to manifest what you want in life. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you make decisions out of guilt or obligation? Does guilt stop you from doing something you feel is self-honoring? ? Are you wondering why you are in a relationship where you don’t feel like you are being met? ? Is your partner going through a rough time or an expectation hangover and it impacts how they are showing up in the relationship? ? Do you pretend things are OK when they are not? Do you wear a mask or have trouble with vulnerability? Brooke’s Question: Brooke would like guidance about what to do after experiencing an expectation hangover in her marriage due to her husband’s illness. Brooke’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? Her husband was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis after they were married. ? Her husband has moved in with his parents. ? She feels betrayed. ? She feels obligated to stay with her husband. ? She felt sorry for her father. ? She chooses weaker men. ? She feels resentful towards her husband. ? She wants out of the relationship. ? She is playing the part of the victim. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should ask for what she needs from her husband using both her feminine and masculine energy. ? She needs to get a coach or a therapist and/or participate in my Personal Mastery Course. ? She needs to shed the guilt. Takeaways For You: ? If you are questioning your relationship and you want to leave, are you doing all you can so you can leave without the guilt and obligation? ? If you are in a relationship but don’t know why then ask yourself what you are learning from the relationship. ? To have difficult conversations, just do it. Don’t let fear stop you. ? Take off your mask. Often, it is vulnerability that gets us...
Aug 11, 2018
A lot of listeners have been reaching out for support around breakups so in this episode I share my five top tips for navigating the completion of a relationship. Learn how to get from breakup to breakthrough with grace!
Aug 8, 2018
This call is about changing your perception of what fear is. Today’s caller, Roman, is a mission-driven entrepreneur who becomes paralyzed by fear. During this call, you will learn that fear is an internal alarm system and how to get it working in your favor and the assets and liabilities of being an entrepreneur. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode152] Being a mission-driven entrepreneur sounds good and you can make a difference but at the same time, it can be a trigger. As we help the people who are most like us in so many ways a lot of our old fears, unresolved issues, and limiting beliefs get triggered. And, it's frustrating when we feel like we have done personal development work but we still get triggered. When fear comes up, it takes a consistent practice of asking ourselves what the fear really means and to remind ourselves — that was then; this is now. If you get stopped in your tracks by fear, stop, realize that something is off and adjust and apply love in its place. Entrepreneurs tend to put a lot of pressure on themselves to have it all figured out. This is a liability. There is no badge of honor entrepreneurs get for figuring everything out their own. You can pick up the phone and ask for help. There are so many entrepreneurs who have decades of experience that you can go to for guidance. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you an entrepreneur who has bought into the understanding that you are supposed to figure it all out on your own, everything will work according to plan, and that you are never supposed to make mistakes? ? Have you had a painful past you have had to overcome and fear it might come back or you don’t trust how good your life really is? ? Is there a part of you that questions yourself or feels unworthy of love? ? Do you feel like you have a mission? Are you supposed to serve or impact others? Roman’s Question: Roman is feeling overwhelmed by fear and would like guidance on how to overcome it. Roman’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? His new entrepreneurial venture hasn’t gone as planned. ? He feels he is living his purpose. ? He needs to do his own thing. ? He is passionate about his career and fueled by his mission. ? He has done self-development work. ? His fear paralyzes him. ? He feels not good enough. ? He has a difficult time asking for help. ? He has surrounded himself with people who care about him. ? He beats himself up and holds himself to a higher standard than he does others. ? He deserves this good life. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to remind himself that he is worthy, valuable, and he doesn’t have to have it all figured out. ? When he feels fear, he needs to say “That was then and this is now. I am safe.” ? He needs to ask for guidance and help when he feels pressure and overwhelm. ? He needs to ask his inner critic to be his inner coach instead. ? He needs to allow himself to count on his soul family. Assignments For You: ? If you have a mission statement for your life make sure it doesn't reinforce something you don’t want to continue reinforcing. ? Make sure you are clear about what your definition of success is. ? As an entrepreneur, are you really walking your talk? Are you congruent with what you are trying to build and how you are trying to serve? ? Build your own soul family for guidance and support. ? If you’ve had a difficult journey, keep loving yourself up and use the affirmation “That was then, this is now. It’s over!” Sponsors: Kopari Beauty — Are you looking for a safer alternative to aluminum-laden deodorants? Kopari is an aluminum-free deodorant with sage and coconut oil that really works, all day! It doesn't leave the thick, white residue on your clothes and has the fresh, natural scent of coconut milk. Great for sensitive skin. Say aloha to Koparibeauty.com/overit. Daily Harvest — Let Daily Harvest help you make healthy eating easy. They...
Aug 4, 2018
Listen in as Christine tackles questions from listeners. The first one is from a woman who is considering ending her marriage because she feels she and her husband are on different paths. The second question is from a gentleman who wants to be free of his “gold-plating” behavior (and if you don’t know what that is, Christine defines it!)
Aug 1, 2018
This call is about setting boundaries and taking care of your own needs. Today’s caller, Caitlyn, is having an expectation hangover about her engagement planning process. She is excited about her wedding but her family and friends don't seem to be. This episode covers a lot of ground and we go really deep in this episode. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode151] Being a caretaker can be a survival skill. Survival needs can be the need to feel loved, to feel valued and to feel like we belong. When one of our patterns is tied to those needs, it is really hard to release. Consciously, you may know it’s not healthy for you to be a caretaker and that you should set boundaries but unconsciously, there may be a part of you that wonders who will love you and how will you fit into your family if you stop caretaking others. When your body is working hard to hold all of your suppressed emotions together it needs another outlet for release. Our third chakra, our energy center, is tied to personal empowerment. If you don’t have boundaries and allow other people to suck your energy, things will shift within the body to compensate. You can manifest a physical ailment when keeping emotional issues bottled up or by not feeling empowered. If you are in Los Angeles on August 3rd, 2018, I will be teaching at Unplug Meditation, follow the link to find out more. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there a current expectation hangover that is upsetting you and reminding you of something that happened in the past? ? Do you relate to being a caretaker in your life? Are you afraid to stop taking care of others because you fear losing something? ? Is it challenging for you to set boundaries? Do you say yes to things when you really mean no? ? Do you over-compromise and sacrifice your own needs because it is easier than upsetting people? ? Is there a prolonged physical condition you are dealing with that cannot be resolved? Caitlyn’s Question: Caitlyn wants to know why she is having so many expectation hangovers while she is planning her wedding. Caitlyn’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She wants more support from friends and family about her wedding. ? She has always been a planner. ? She feels disappointed and hurt. ? She was diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis at thirteen. ? She didn’t want attention growing up. ? She is manifesting her physical condition. ? Her sister is also planning a wedding. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to not worry about other people’s upset. ? She needs to say thank you to her illness for sending her the message. ? She needs to start writing from her heart with release writing. ? She needs to show herself compassion. ? She needs to be OK with having attention focused on her. Assignments For You: ? If you are dealing with any type of expectation hangover, go back in time and ask yourself, “What does this remind me of?” ? Do the ‘empty chair’ process at home. ? Let things go through journaling and release writing. ? Set and stand by your boundaries with people and let them be upset. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANCaitlynWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch this Coaching Session on Youtube Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show
Jul 28, 2018
n this episode, Christine breaks down what forgiveness really means. Listen in as she explains the misunderstands and misuse of forgiveness. If you want to experience true freedom, forgiveness is a must! Catch Christine as a guest speaker at Unplug Meditation Friday Aug 3. Details here: https://bit.ly/2KTqh3t
Jul 25, 2018
This call is about the importance of self-trust and acceptance in a relationship. Today’s caller, Don, recently reunited with his partner after a seven-month break from their long-distance relationship and would like guidance on how to make sure he gets what he needs from the relationship during the ‘do-over.’ [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode150] So many of us go into the compensatory strategy of over-achieving whenever we feel ‘less than’ in any way. Whenever we feel less than our ego has to come up with a way to compensate for it. It only serves to distance ourselves from who we truly are. When we are out there consistently trying to prove ourselves we are unconsciously running with the belief that we are never enough. We look for external validation through the acknowledgment of others. Many people who believe they have ‘good’ childhoods often minimize something that happened that impacts the rest of their life. Issues in relationships CAN be resolved through communication. Create agreements in your relationship rather than expectations. Don’t expect the other person to read your mind and don’t think that just because you say something it’s ‘message sent, message received.’ Be sensitive about your partner’s needs; make agreements about how you can reassure them and how you can meet their needs. If you meet the agreements and it still isn’t working then it’s time to reevaluate the relationship to ensure it’s a value match. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you giving a relationship a second chance? Are you in a do-over? ? Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship? ? Growing up, did you feel like you were in the shadow of a sibling? ? Have you ever felt invisible? Do you have to try extra hard to get noticed? Don’s Question: Don wants to know Christine’s thoughts about the ‘do-over’ in his current relationship. Don’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He is in a two-year, long-distance relationship. ? They took a seven-month break. ? There were trust issues in the relationship. ? He feels limited by his partner’s insecurities. ? He grew up in the shadow of his older sister. ? He overcompensates to get attention. ? His relationship choices are based on safety. ? He doesn’t know true intimacy. ? He wants to be appreciated for just being him. ? He has trust issues. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to get clear about what he values and what he deserves from a relationship. ? He needs to express his needs and make clear agreements. ? He needs to fall in love with himself. ? He needs to be in gratitude to himself. Assignments For You: ? No relationship with others is bulletproof. So, don’t put pressure on it to be. ? Evaluate your relationship with yourself. Is it a healthy relationship? ? Identify your compensatory strategies. ? Give from your energy overflow. Don’t empty yourself out. ? Write down your top five core values for a relationship. ? Practice self-acknowledgment. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. HP — Do you need serious-performance from your laptop? 8th generation Intel-powered HP PCs offer better performance and longer battery life. And, they come with 24/7 dedicated support from US-based specialists. To get high-computing power and enhanced security features go to HP.com/overit for an extra 10% off (until Sept. 17, 2018). Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch this Coaching...
Jul 21, 2018
This is a juicy one! Meet the man in my life and listen in as we talk about what being a “conscious man” means and requires. Learn about his new program which begins August 8th that I HIGHLY endorse: Reclaim Your Kingdom. http://reclaimyourkingdom.com/ A little more about Stef Sifandos. He is a Relational Alchemist, Community Builder and Change Maker who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, mindfulness, an integration of Eastern wisdom, diverse spiritual praxis and western psychology to improve, evolves end enhance the quality of your relationships.
Jul 18, 2018
This call is about setting a balance between caretaking and nurturing, loving and empowering children. Today’s caller, Alexis, is feeling overwhelmed and guilty about how she deals with her daughter’s physical and emotional state. We talk through the tools that will help her navigate through the natural overwhelm. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode149] Whenever we are faced with something that feels overwhelming or confusing, we may feel helpless. When it’s our stuff it’s hard, but when our child is suffering the helplessness is intensified. As a parent, we feel we are supposed to know how to take care of our children but when we are not sure what to do, it can be incredibly overwhelming. When you address your child with compassion instead of taking on their suffering you go with them. This is where spiritual altitude comes in handy. It may feel like our children belong to us but they really belong to God, to the universe. They are souls having their own unique human experience. On some level, your child chose you to be the perfect person to guide their experience and to help them with their soul curriculum. When you see them as a child of light you can shift your perspective to not see them as a victim. If you go too much into caretaking it disempowers them from using their own inner resources. The healthier you are as an adult the healthier children you will raise. My one-day Over It and On With It workshop for men and women in London on July 21st only has 2 spots left. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? As a parent do you feel a bit guilty about not being a good enough parent or about thoughts you have about your kids or yourself? ? Do you sometimes want to run away from being a parent and then beat yourself up about it? ? Do you have a child that is suffering from something physical or emotional? Is that suffering wearing you down? ? How do you parent yourself? Are you critical of yourself? If you were raising yourself right now, how are you doing? ? Do you relate to the things in your life as a victim or as a spiritual seeker? Alexis’s Question: Alexis wants guidance on how to be the best caretaker for her daughter who has a chronic condition. Alexis’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? Her daughter’s condition requires a lot of financial support. ? She wants to be more available for her daughter. ? She wants to protect everyone’s emotions. ? She struggles with guilt and overwhelm. ? She reads to her daughter. ? Her children make her feel valuable. ? Her daughter is emotionally mature. ? She is not comfortable in dealing with negative emotions. ? She knows that guilt is useless. ? She realized she doesn’t need to have the answers. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to forgive herself for guilty feelings and remind herself she is doing the best that she can. ? She needs to write out her feelings and then tear it up. ? She should teach her daughter to express her emotions. ? When she feels the guilt, she should ask herself if it is a good use of her energy. ? She should stop seeing her daughter as a victim and nurture her courageous spirit. Assignments For You: ? When something challenging is happening in your or your child’s life, take the big deal factor out of it. ? Allow yourself to feel your feelings. Have a temper tantrum or write a big ‘FU’ letter. ? Move into acceptance of your challenges and be a seeker and look for the lessons. ? As a parent, make sure you have your own release system for your emotions. ? Read empowering stories about people who have overcome similar challenges. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software...
Jul 14, 2018
Listen in as Christine talks about why when things start going really well in your life or you make a positive change, anxiety, doubt or sabotaging behaviors emerge. It is called an "Upper Limits" issue and Christine explains how to deal with it in a way that keeps you moving onward and upward.
Jul 11, 2018
This call demonstrates how strong vulnerability can be. Today’s caller, Nicholas, wants to know how he can be more connected in his life. During our conversation, we uncover a core wound from when, as an infant, he was separated from his mother. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode148] Whenever we have core wounding with our mother or father we have to find the divine parent inside of us. We need to find our innate nurturing, soothing and compassionate qualities. Feelings of abandonment trigger the amygdala in our brain. It triggers a fight or flight fear-based response. The truth is none of us can ever be abandoned. We are all one. We are all connected, even when physical people leave our lives. The more we have the internal connection to ourselves and to our higher power the more we realize we can never truly be abandoned. It takes a lot of energy to hold it all together and to not be weak. When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable it can provide insights into our core issues. Through our vulnerability, we find true strength. My one-day Over It and On With It workshop for men and women in London on July 21st only has 10 spots left. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Have you lived your life with a pattern of abandonment? ? Are you someone who likes to have it all figured out? Do you like being someone everyone can depend on? ? Do you often use self-deprecating humor? ? How are you at receiving compliments? ? Would you like to have more intimate, vulnerable relationships with people you feel close too? Nicholas’s Question: Nicholas wants guidance on how to have deeper connections in his life. Nicholas’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He feels disconnected from the people in his life. ? He felt like a hand-me-down kid. ? He was separated from his mother at a young age. ? He always feels like an outsider. ? He gets easily triggered to anger. ? He doesn’t feel connected to himself. ? He finds it difficult to trust people. ? He doesn’t feel emotionally safe. ? He is extremely loyal to others. ? He uses self-deprecating humor. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to find a sense of home and belonging within himself. ? He needs to find a specialist trained in infant trauma. ? He needs to work through his anger and forgive his mother. ? He needs to allow himself to be loved. ? He needs to embrace compassion and vulnerability. ? He needs to trust his impulses. Assignments For You: ? Get out of your own way and be open to someone else’s perspective and insights. ? When the student is ready the teacher appears. ? Know that you have masculine and feminine inside of you. ? Ask the people in your life for what you need. ? Trust your impulses. Sponsors: Daily Harvest delivers frozen, one-step prep, plant-based eats right to your door. Use promo code OVERIT to get 3 free Daily Harvest cups added to your first box. Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine Hassler on Youtube Christine on Facebook Episode 148 Video Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show
Jul 7, 2018
Lauren Handel Zander is the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, an international corporate consulting and life coaching company dedicated to teaching people how to realize their personal and professional visions. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private and corporate clients and hasbeen a featured expert in The New York Times, BBC, Forbes, Women’s Health, Dr. Oz, and Marie Claire and she is a regular contributor to Businessweek and the Huffington Post. In this episode we talk about the dangers of lying and Lauren’s new book, Maybe It’s You which walks readers through the innovative step-by-step process that has transformed the lives of tens of thousands of HG clients, and explains how anyone can achieve amazing things when we stop lying and finally start keeping the promises we make to ourselves. This is a no-nonsense, funny, and proven approach that teaches people how to reset their lives. Find out which areas of life you may need to work on with the free coaching tool from Lauren Zander and Handel Group, The Current Reality Quiz. It's an easy (and fun!) way to self assess. http://bit.ly/OverOnWithItCRQ Inner.U is the digital coaching course from Lauren Zander and Handel Group - 14+ hours of audio coaching, 50+ written assignments, community chat, and much more. Use code OVERITANDONWITHIT75 for $75 off a subscription level at checkout! InnerU.Coach