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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Mar 30, 2019
Christine and her fiancé Stefanos discuss what “conscious dating” is and give you tips to date with more peace and authenticity.  They break dating down into three phases: preparing to date conscious, exploring (swiping) conscious, and entering into dating dynamics consciously.

 

Mar 27, 2019

This episode is about redefining personal freedom, stepping out of one’s comfort zone, and opening up to intimate relationships. Today’s caller, Scott, has met someone who is different from the women he usually attracts. He finds himself distancing himself from her and would like some guidance on whether he is doing it as part of an unhealthy pattern or if it is because he fears losing his freedom. Whether or not you are in a relationship I think you will relate to a lot of things we discussed on this call.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode185]

It is common for anyone who grows up in a restrictive environment or a volatile household to yearn for freedom. And if something holds them down, they just want to run.

The closer we get to what we want or things we have always longed for, the more we push it away; the more we get scared. We become unsure as to if it is the thing we really want. We don’t know if we can trust it or if it will last. Whenever there is uncertainty, there is a part of us that doesn’t know what to trust.

But unless you are going to pursue a life of isolation as your spiritual path, part of the biggest way you can grow is with people. If you are living in this world, don’t think you will achieve enlightenment without any kind of relationships. We need friendships, colleagues, and romantic relationships. We need those mirrors to help us get to the next level.

And freedom isn’t about not being committed to something. Freedom isn’t about doing whatever you want whenever you want — that’s running. Freedom is really about being the fullest expression of you are. You can be incredibly committed to people and projects and feel freer than you ever have before.

Update your definition of freedom to being fully self-expressed and notice how you can lean into situations that in the past may have felt confining and find freedom there.

 

Enrollment has started for my six-day Maui Retreat on September 8-13, 2019. Men, Women, and Couples can embrace the atmosphere of Aloha and reconnect to themselves, Mother Earth, the divine, and to other amazing like-minded people who will be there. Reserve your spot at ChristineHassler.com/hawaii or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Did you grow up in an environment that felt super-constrictive in someway?

● Do you feel safer on your own? Is not being in a relationship a better way for you to grow?

● Is freedom one of your top values; and what does freedom mean to you?

● Have you or do you attract mean or critical people?

● When things get intimate and vulnerable with another person, do you let them get close; do your walls go up or do you run?

 

Scott’s Question:

Scott has a tendency to attract mean people but he has met someone nice and is not sure if he is comfortable with it.

 

Scott’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● His personal healing practice is important to him.

● He is used to attracting mean people.

● He was criticized as a child.

● He withdraws into himself when he feels constricted.

● He doesn’t want to lose an opportunity for a good relationship.

● His is in the Personal Mastery course and the Inner Circle.

● His father would go into violent rages.

● Freedom means being able to be himself.

● He fears being seen as inadequate.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● He needs to decide if he wants intimacy in his life.

● He needs to stand up for himself and set boundaries.

● He needs to be crystal clear about how he feels externally.

● He needs to step out of his comfort zone.

● He needs to let the woman in question see him more.

 

Takeaways:

● Ask yourself what your core values are. If freedom is one, give it a good definition.

● Consider what your protective patterns are. Ask yourself if you want to continue playing out the pattern or is it time to shift it?

● Notice where you are giving your younger self a voice; are you speaking up? Are you standing up for yourself?

● Where can you lean further into intimacy? Where do you still have walls around your heart?

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Mar 23, 2019

Christine explains how your inner critic was formed and why it exists.  She also shares why getting rid of your inner critic is not a good idea (and attempting to do so doesn’t really work anyway).  Instead, learn how to “promote” your inner critic through a six-step process Christine walks you through.

Mar 20, 2019

This episode is about self-judgment and overwhelm and how to nourish yourself through it. Today’s caller, Luca, is on a mission to make wellness accessible to others but has a pattern of starting a project and then stopping. As soon as he gains momentum he feels unworthy of his progress so he judges and criticizes himself, stopping him in his tracks. How do we stop sabotaging behavior?

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode184]

It can be really easy to get overwhelmed if you think you are not enough. If you think you are an imposter or don’t have what it takes. Of course, it will feel overwhelming because you don’t believe you can do it.

Sometimes feeling overwhelmed is a disguise for insecurity. But if you come at it from a place of self-acceptance, self-acknowledgment, and true pride it won't feel so overwhelming. Your power is in how you treat yourself. Have compassion for when your inner judger comes up and consider speaking to yourself with a little more encouragement.

If you combine encouragement with being proud of yourself when you take action steps it will be easier to keep momentum and in the future, the judger won’t come up as much. Because you won’t be taking action from a place of not-enoughness. You will be taking action from a place of pride.

The most important thing you can do is to give yourself self-care when you feel burnt out or overwhelmed. We human beings put way too much on our plate. Life is more complicated and complex than it has ever been. We are infiltrated with information and input more than ever before. We need breaks. It is very important to give yourself a break before overwhelm overload takes hold. You have to build in self-care and rest into your routine.

 

Start believing in yourself!

 

Sign up for a live Virtual Group Coaching Call at ChristineHassler.com/group. You get one-on-one coaching and a guided meditation for only $20.

Enrollment has started for my six-day Maui Retreat on September 8-13, 2019. Men, Women, and Couples can embrace the atmosphere of Aloha and reconnect to themselves, Mother Earth, the divine, and to other amazing like-minded people who will be there. Reserve your spot at ChristineHassler.com/hawaii or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you have a ‘start, stop’ pattern? Do you tend to gain momentum on things or have great ideas but then something happens to stop it?

● How are you at self-care? When you do take a break from work do you nourish yourself?

● Did you have a parent that was judgmental or critical? Have you internalized that parent?

● Do you ever deal with overwhelm? Especially when it comes to taking action steps toward your dreams?

 

Luca’s Question:

Luca would like to move past his pattern of getting excited about and starting a project and then giving up on it quickly.

 

Luca’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● He hides away when he feels stressed or unhappy.

● He doesn’t nourish himself when he takes a break.

● He rebels and judges himself for it.

● He felt judged by his parents.

● He internalized the judgment his father placed on him.

● He lacks self-worth.

● He has been sending love secretly to his father.

● His survival strategy is judgment.

● He has taken huge steps to be his true self.

● He is looking for relief from judgment.

● He has a hard time taking consistent actions.

● His passion is in wellness.

● He is going to dedicate time to self-nourishing practices.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● He needs to have compassion for himself.

● He needs to shift how he is with himself when he takes a break.

● He needs to acknowledge how well he is doing.

● He needs to leverage his survival skills.

● He needs to encourage himself.

● He needs to enjoy moments and his process more.

 

Takeaways:

● When you give yourself a break, is it a breakdown or are you consciously putting breaks in your to-do list so you can regenerate your energy?

● If you have a strong inner judger, examine whose voice it is and instead of criticizing, treat it with compassion.

● Think of the things you really wanted to hear from the parent you wanted approval from. Write down all the things you wanted to hear and say those things to yourself.

● Be a cheerleader for yourself. Be proud of yourself. Acknowledge yourself.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist to be coached on this show.

Mar 16, 2019
One of my besties, Alexi and I sit down to talk about how to create healthy friendships.  We share our stories and advice for healing your past wounds regarding friendship and tips for how to create and maintain really nourishing friendships.  We also discuss why friendship is SO important and the value it adds to your health, business, and relationships.

A little more about Alexi:

A leader in the Emergent Wisdom movement, Alexi Panos is on a mission to make personal development mainstream through her books, experiential trainings, inspirational videos, online education community SOUL SCHOOL, and working with her non profit, E.P.I.C. in Africa. She’s one of FORBES Magazine’s Top 11 Women Entrepreneurs, INC Magazine's TOP 10 WOMEN ENTREPRENEURS MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD, Origin Magazines TOP 100 CREATIVES CHANGING THE WORLD, and is a featured expert in the documentary films THE ABUNDANCE FACTOR and RISEUP.  As a bestseller, she’s authored the books 50 WAYS TO YAY! and NOW OR NEVER, both by Simon & Schuster. Follow her on Facebook, Instagram and Youtube @alexipanos. www.alexipanos.com
Mar 13, 2019

This episode is about feeling worthy of love. Today’s caller, Melissa, is being triggered by her divorce and is seeking ways to have spiritual altitude during the process. We discover what she really needs right now is more of a human perspective. We also work through how she can express her warrior woman.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode183]

Is your soul setting up harsh outer conditions because it wants to be free of old pain, limiting beliefs, or generational patterns? Hard times are tough to go through but if we milk them for all they are worth there can be massive growth and transformation on the other side.

Remember, we are spiritual beings having a human experience so honoring our humanity is spiritual. We can confuse alignment with higher self with spiritual bypass. It’s important to let yourself have your feelings about your human experience. Don’t indulge in those feelings forever but don’t bypass them either.

And, be careful about confusing compassion with copping out. Have compassion for people’s pain but set boundaries around their actions. If your defense mechanism is people pleasing you probably need to call out your inner warrior more. Always reach out for support; there is no battle you have to fight alone.

 

Sign up for a live Virtual Group Coaching Call at ChristineHassler.com/group. You get one-on-one coaching and a guided meditation for only $20.

Enrollment has started for the Maui Retreat September 8-3, 2019. Men, Women, and Couples can embrace the atmosphere of Aloha and reconnect to themselves, mother earth, the divine, and to other amazing like-minded people who will be there. Reserve your spot at ChristineHassler.com/hawaii or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Is there a challenging situation in your life you are attempting to find peace in but you just can’t seem to get there?

● Have you been through or are you going through a breakup or divorce that is rocking your sense of self-worth?

● Are you feeling the choices you may have made are a result of pain from your past rather than a choice that is in alignment with your highest good?

● For women, are you tapped into your warrior woman?

 

Melissa’s Question:

Melissa is looking for guidance on how to stay in alignment with her higher self while going through a breakup.

 

Melissa’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● Her ex is attempting to cause her pain and suffering.

● She would like to move on with her life as quickly as possible.

● Her ex had affairs with other women.

● She wants to remember she is worthy of love.

● Her biological father gave up his parental rights of her.

● She felt something was wrong with her.

● She judges herself for continuing a generational pattern.

● She is running an unconscious pattern of unworthiness.

● She is trying to be compassionate toward her ex.

● She signed up for the Personal Mastery Course.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to fully feel her feelings.

● She needs to realize she has been doing the best she could.

● She needs to bring forth her warrior woman.

● She needs to speak her truth.

● She should milk the situation for all it’s worth emotionally.

● She needs to be kind to the little girl inside of her.

● She needs to find a therapist to work with.

 

Takeaways:

● If you are in an expectation hangover or a challenging time, milk it for all it’s worth. Do the work and get the pain out.

● Don't make excuses for people who are treating you poorly.

● Find a guide to help you on your journey. Attend a retreat or participate in my Personal Mastery Course.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist to be coached on this show.

Mar 9, 2019

Several years ago I wrote a powerful passage after a pretty deep meditation. I wrote it to myself but really it is to all of us. To this day, it is one of my most favorite things I have ever written and I read it to you on this episode. I suggest using it as a meditation. I hope you enjoy it.

Mar 6, 2019

This episode is about surrendering to the divine and raising your vibrations. Today’s caller, Vanessa, has done the personal development and feels she is ready to call in a life partner but still struggles with her worthiness and in trusting that her partner is coming. If you have the awareness that the universe supports you but you don’t find trusting and letting go of control easy you will find value in this call whether you are calling in a partner or not.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode182]

Are you controlling a little too much through either your actions or your continual pursuit to figure things out or manifest things? Are you willing to 100% believe the universe has heard your request and the only thing you need to do is get in alignment with believing it will happen?

I know a lot of people who have a lot of awareness; they’ve done a lot of personal growth work but when it comes to really deeply surrendering and trusting that everything is going to work out and our dreams can’t come true, that’s when roadblocks show up.

Internal work is important. But there comes a time when we know we have done the work and released the blocks and it’s time to trust. A superpower of the feminine is to relax into surrendering. Surrendering does not mean complacency. It takes a lot of courage because you are surrendering into trusting that your higher self and your higher power are co-creating your deepest desires and partnerships.

Sign up for my live Virtual Group Coaching Call on March 20th at ChristineHassler.com/group. You get coaching and a guided meditation for only $20.

Enrollment has started for the Maui Retreat September 8-3, 2019. Men, Women, and Couples can embrace the atmosphere of Aloha and reconnect to themselves, mother earth, the divine, and to other amazing like-minded people who will be there. Reserve your spot at ChristineHassler.com/hawaii or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you compare yourself to others and it seems as if they are getting what they want but you aren’t?

● Have you done work on yourself and are patiently waiting to see the results of your work?

● Are you tempted to settle for good enough when it comes to relationships or your dreams because you are tired of waiting?

● Do you really trust?

 

Vanessa’s Question:

Vanessa would like to call in a lifetime partnership.

 

Vanessa’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She has been doing personal development work.

● She has noticed a shift in who she attracts.

● She hasn’t dated heavily in the past few years.

● She feels a strong fear of commitment.

● She didn’t feel comfortable with who she was.

● She feels good when she has things under control.

● She doesn’t feel like she hasn’t fully surrendered.

● She is forgetting who she really is.

● She compares herself with others.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to recognize maybe her partner isn’t ready yet.

● She needs to spend time leaning into her connection with the divine.

● She should be careful about comparisons and trust God loves her the way she is.

● She needs to trust her partner is coming.

● She needs to elevate her vibration and surrender.

● She needs to fall deeply in love with herself.

 

Takeaways:

● Ditch all the lists you’ve made about what you want and make one about how you want to feel.

● Have an attachment release ceremony.

● Raise your vibration and act as if what you want is already here.

● Be your own best partner. Enjoy your life.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist to be coached on this show.

Mar 2, 2019
In this episode Christine answers questions from listeners on matters of the heart.  She discusses addictive love, getting over someone, vulnerability hangovers and calling in your partner.

 

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