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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Aug 30, 2017
This episode is about motivating a millennial out of their comfort zone. Todays caller, Jane, is a mother of a 28-year-old daughter who is still living at home. We dive into how Janes needing to be needed can impact relationships in a not-so-positive way.


The millennial generation was the most over-parented generation. The parenting advice at the time was to be your childs friend and that everyone is a winner. It has created a failure to launch, because the children never learned to make their own decisions. As a result, they may not do well when faced with challenges or uncertainty.

A lot of 20-Somethings blame their being dependent on the economy or the job market, but its more about a comfort zone. But, what is comfortable is not always what is healthy. 20-Somethings who are still financially or emotionally dependent on their parents are experiencing adult-a-lescence.

Adulthood is about being emotionally responsible for yourself, making your own decisions and falling on your face a few times, struggling a bit and paying your dues.

If you are a 20-Something who is still living at home its time to cut the umbilical cord. You are delaying and avoiding becoming an adult. Stop being afraid to struggle, suffer or fail.

If you are a parent you need to cut the cord. You are enabling your child if you allow them to rely on you, financially or emotionally. You may be setting them up for a lifetime of not learning how to truly trust and depend on themselves.

If you are looking for support, encouragement and love, my Personal Mastery Course, Over It and On With It is the most comprehensive virtual coaching program I have. You receive 6-weeks of personalized coaching with me, guided meditations, videos, and I engage with you live on Facebook Lives and in group coaching calls. This course starts in October, and its only offered once per year.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you a parent whose adult child is still living at home, and you like it?
Are you a millennial who is still living at home?
Does being needed make you feel good?
Is there someone you think you are helping but may actually be enabling them by not giving them a chance to take care of themselves and to not learn their own lessons?

Janes Question:
Jane would like to know how to motivate her 28-year-old daughter to get out of the house.

Janes Key Insights and Ahas:
Her daughter doesnt have any friends.
She has played a role in her daughters failure to launch.
She may be perpetuating her daughters belief that she is unstable.
She wants to fix all of her childrens problems.
She doesnt want to see her children suffer.
She is enabling her daughter to be complacent.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should read 20-Something Manifesto.
She should speak with her daughter the health of their relationship and create a plan to help her to be on her own.
She should stop giving her daughter so much advice.
She should find something that makes her feel purposeful.
She needs to shift her focus from her daughter to herself.
She should realize she did the best she could.

Takeaways:
If you are a millennial living at home or have a millennial living home, create a launch plan.
Work through the exercises in 20-Something Manifesto.
Look at where you may need to be needed and let go of it. It may be reinforcing co-dependent behaviors and patterns.
Look at how you may be enabling people by over-caretaking and rescuing them. Are being loving or enabling?

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Aug 26, 2017
Christine has the As to your Qs!! In this episode she responds to four questions and covers: dealing with infidelity, overcoming superstitions, and getting over major fears in relationships.

If youd like your question answered on air, email assist@christinehassler.com
Aug 23, 2017
This episode is about making self-serving decisions. Todays caller, Renae, is married, and questioning whether or not her marriage has reached its expiration date. As you can hear in the call, Renea intuitively knows what she should do but she needs to be empowered so she can take action.

Do all relationships where one person is on the growth path, and the other person isnt, have an expiration date? Not necessarily. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to know when its time to leave a relationship. When there is abuse, addiction, or toxic behavior, or the other person is unwilling to invest in the relationship, you have to be honest about why you are still in this type of relationship, and whether it is really serving your highest good.

When it is time to evaluate a relationship, or when its time to end it, be honest with yourself and listen to your intuition. You may already know the answer. When we seek counsel with others, we want to hear from someone else what we may already know. Sometimes we are looking for someone to give us permission.

If you are a parent who feels they may have messed up their kids, your fear is not helping you or them. What does help is to help them learn how to make self-honoring decisions. You should start equipping them with the personal development tools and mindset to help them break generational patterns, and to not personalize the situation. Children shouldnt feel that anything was their fault.

And, actions speak louder than words. We must give someone the dignity of the process but honor our own boundaries. Dont be a victim. Consider Al-Anon, and find other people you can connect to. Dont bond over wounds, but find other people who understand your background. It will help empower you.

If you are looking for support, encouragement and love, my Personal Mastery Course, Over It and On With It is the most comprehensive virtual coaching program I have. You receive 6-weeks of personalized coaching with me, guided meditations, videos, and I engage with you on Facebook Lives and in group coaching calls. This course is starting in October, and its only offered once per year.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you questioning your current relationship? Are you in, or did you grow up in, an abusive environment?
Do you know what to do, but wish someone would give you permission to do it? Have you been attempting to change someone else, but realize the most important person to focus on right now is yourself?

Renaes Question:
Renae wants to know if she should stay in her current long-term relationship.

Renaes Key Insights and Ahas:
She grew up in an environment of physical and verbal abuse.
Her husband is verbally abusive to her and her children.
She doesnt focus on herself.
Her 15-year-old daughter wants her to get a divorce.
Shes afraid to make the wrong decision.
She recognizes she needs to change her life and to give her kids a different environment.
Shes known what to do, but needed validation to move forward.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She needs to make a decision to break patterns and to change things.
She needs to start documenting abuse.
She needs to stop beating herself up, and practice self-love and self-care.
She needs to believe in herself, and give herself positive encouragement.

Takeaways:
If you are questioning your relationship, ask yourself, What is this relationship teaching me? What patterns do I need to complete? Could it be time to go? What do I need to do to make a shift?
If you are a parent, and feel that your children have seen things in your life or marriage that have been tough and they are struggling, get them help! You cant be their therapist, counselor, or coach. They may need an objective person they can talk to, and to give them new tools.
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Aug 19, 2017
CC: Gut Health Part 2 with Dr Allison Siebecker

In this episode I talk to one of the leading experts on gut health and SIBO, Dr. Allison Siebecker. Listen in as we break down how very important gut health is and take the shame off any digestive issues!! We discuss the causes and cures of SIBO, IBS and how our gut impacts so many aspects of our life.

Allison Siebecker, ND, MSOM, LAc, has worked in the nutritional field since 1988 and is a 2005 graduate of The National University of Natural Medicine (NUNM), where she earned her Doctorate in Naturopathic Medicine and her Masters in Oriental Medicine. She was the co-founder and former medical director of the SIBO Center for Digestive Health at that Clinic and has specialized in the treatment of SIBO since 2010.

Dr. Siebecker is passionate about education- she is Instructor of Advanced Gastroenterology, shes on the IBS Board of Advisors & Faculty for the GI Health Foundation, Co-Founder & Curriculum Coordinator of the 2014-2016 SIBO Symposiums, teaches continuing education classes for physicians, and is the author of the free educational website siboinfo.com.

In 2005, 2013 and 2015 she received the Best in Naturopathy award from the Townsend Letter, for her articles: Traditional Bone Broth in Modern Health and Disease, "Small Intestine Bacterial Overgrowth: Often Overlooked Cause of IBS" and SIBO: Dysbiosis Has A New Name.

Dr. Siebecker is currently writing a book synthesizing the SIBO data into one source.
Aug 16, 2017
This episode is about taking action when faced with fear and anxiety. I coach todays caller, Suzanne, through her pattern of catastrophic thinking, worry, and anxiety, to allow her to respond differently to her fear-based thoughts. If you can relate to feeling like fear and anxiety stops you, or if you are a bit of a worrywart, you will receive a lot of value out of this coaching session.

Worry is using our mind to come up with and visualize worst case scenarios, instead of using the power of our mind to visualize what we truly want to occur.
On some level, we think its protecting us or keeping us safe. But all its doing is creating more anxiety.

When we feel fear, its important that we first be with the part of us that feels scared and anxious. When we get scared as adults, we need to learn how to respond to it in a way that feels reassuring. A big part of this can be addressed by self-soothing. Most of the ways we attempt to soothe ourselves are not about soothing at all. We may be numbing or distracting ourselves. We run away from the fear by working, eating, sedating ourselves with drugs or alcohol, or using social media for hours.

But the more we ignore it, the bigger the monster becomes, so instead of running from your fear, face it head on. It doesnt mean you have to conquer it, just be with it. What does it need from you? If the fear has a message for you, whats the message? Can you trust yourself to sit with it rather than run? Tell yourself you are safe, and that everything is OK. Be a reassuring voice to yourself.

As you will hear in the call, Suzannes sense of self, and ability to feel safe regardless of external conditions, wasnt developed, so she didnt feel safe when she was outside of her home.

Like many of us, Suzanne said she understood my coaching intellectually but she still found it hard to shift in the moment. But, its the follow-through that matters.

Thats why I designed my Inner Circle membership community to focus on a certain quality every month. We focus on moving something from awareness into integration. So change actually happens. Its more than learning concepts, you learn to integrate what you are learning into your life.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you worry a lot? Do you have a tendency to imagine worst-case scenarios, or have a habit of waiting for the other shoe to drop?
Do you think that preparing for the worst protects you from being disappointed?
Did something challenging, traumatic or catastrophic happen to you as a kid, so you live with nervous anticipation that something bad will happen again?
How are you soothing yourself when you go into fear, anxiety, or panic? Are you able to calm yourself down? What are your coping mechanisms?

Suzannes Question:
Suzanne wants to know how to take action when she feels crippled by anxiety.

Suzannes Key Insights and Ahas:
She is a catastrophic thinker.
She doesnt deal with losses well.
She didnt feel emotionally safe as a child.
She had an eating disorder in college.
She surrounds herself with mentally stable people.
She tries to put her emotional health first.
She practices negative self-talk.
She seeks reassurance from outside herself.
She lets her mind run the show.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should find a new way to relate to herself to get a consistent experience.
She needs to acknowledge when she is in...
Aug 2, 2017
I recently found out I have SIBO. What the heck is that you ask? It stands for small intestinal bacterial overgrowth. I am actually relieved with this diagnosis because it has really brought my awareness about GUT HEALTH to the surface.

In this episode I share about my journey, the symptoms that led me to get tested (and ironically I was not really having stomach/digestion based issues), and the healing opportunity this has presented.

I also talk with Gut Health Expert Dr. Sayed A. Shah, MD. His personal journey with Integrative Medicine started when his son was diagnosed with Autism. By using Integrative Medicine practices, they have been able to overcome many of the challenges his son has faced. Integrative Medicine is personalized medicine that deals with the root cause of disease instead of just treating symptoms. Dr. Shah will search for underlying triggers that are contributing to your health problem through cutting edge lab testing and create a customized protocol to your specific needs as a unique individual. He seeks to promote wellness and healing by working together with you!

Learn more about Dr Shah and his center here: https://mimqc.com/
Aug 2, 2017
This episode is about making self-serving decisions. I coach todays caller, Michelle, through a decision about her long-term relationship. As you can hear in the call, Michelle intuitively knows what she should do, but she needs to be empowered so she can take action.

People feel most confident to make a decision or choice when they feel empowered. We feel most empowered when we arrive at our own answers. During the session, I reflected back to Michelle, and I asked her a lot of questions so she could get to her own answers.

Michelle was invested in saving her husband, but was it more about him or her? Her intentions were pure, but she was outsourcing her self-worth by trying to save him. There was a limiting belief that if she saves or heals him it gives her value.

Its important to unhook yourself from the role of caretaker or savior. Go back and listen to my after-the-call breakdown of Episode #97 with Trinette for my explanation of what codependency is.

All of us struggle, at one point, with a breakup, a challenging relationship, or lack of a relationship. Our struggles are often a catalyst to dive into personal growth work. We all want love and we all desire healthy, fulfilling relationships.

This is why I designed a special course, Get Over Your Breakup & On with Love. It includes all of my best stuff when it comes to love and relationships. It is for anyone who is looking to get over a hurt and step into self-love and a loving relationship. Over and On With It Podcast listeners get $100 off the course until Sept. 1st. Simply use the promo code: PODCAST.

Also, thanks to those of you who signed up for my Summer of Love Challenge. There are more Challenges coming, so sign up to get a daily email about spreading and sharing love, from me. Plus, when you sign up you become eligible to get 6-months free in my Inner Circle Membership Community.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you still hanging on to an ex, either emotionally or physically, even though you know its unhealthy to still be engaged?
Do you love taking care of others? Is part of your identity to help others or save others?
When it comes to self-love, are you good at taking outward actions, but maybe not so good at the internal compassion?
Are you more concerned about someone elses feelings than your own?

Michelles Question:
Michelle wants to know if she should move on after her partner broke up with her.

Michelles Key Insights and Ahas:
Her partner was abused as a child.
She was shocked when her partner broke up with her.
She felt unable to communicate her needs in the relationship.
She feels abandoned after giving so much.
She put herself on the backburner and put his needs first.
She would love to focus on her own needs.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should give herself love and compassion.
She should make self-honoring choices.
She should learn to be ok with being alone.
She should practice positive self-talk.

Assignments:
Check out my Get Over a Breakup and On with Love course.
Make a list of your healthy agreements in relationships.
Make a list of all the things you are good at doing for other people, and then do them for yourself.

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Resources:
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Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
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Aug 2, 2017
This episode is about being your authentic self and speaking your truth. I coach todays caller, Judy, through her feelings of isolation, and empower her to have an honest conversation with her husband, and herself, about her needs.

Loneliness is an epidemic, especially in this day and age when so many of us live alone. We are not close to our family geographically, or we dont have a soul family or community to be a part of. We need a healing connection. We need to feel part of something, part of a tribe. We need to feel connected to ourselves. What often perpetuates a feeling of loneliness is a disconnection to ourselves that comes from judging ourselves and being hard on ourselves. If you suffer from loneliness or a lack of self-esteem you are not alone. Let the fact that you are not alone motivate you to gain confidence and to connect with a community.

Speaking your truth is when you say whats true for you, and you are able to communicate your needs. When are you not speaking your truth?

Many of us think people pleasing is a way to get love and find validation. We think if people see the real us, they may not like us. The more you show the real you, and the more authentic you are, your relationship with yourself will improve, your self-esteem will improve, and the intimacy and connection you have with other people will also improve.

Its great to make other people happy but its more important to please ourselves first, by making self-honoring choices. People pleasing could be the reason you are feeling isolated. On some level, people pleasing is draining.

Drop the people pleasing, up your self-esteem by making self-honoring choices and get out there and find your tribe!

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you feel isolated? Are you craving more connection?
Are you in a marriage or relationship where you feel isolated? Do you feel like you are dependent on your partner or you are living according to their dreams and desires more than your own?
Are you a people pleaser? Do you have a hard time making your needs a priority?
Do you find it challenging to speak your truth?

Judys Question:
Judy wants to know how to find herself and how to raise her self-esteem.

Judys Key Insights and Ahas:
She has been continuously moving for a year.
Her husband tries to support her but he doesnt really get it.
Her husband has a stronger personality than she does.
Shes dependent on her husband and doesnt go places on her own.
She always puts other people first.
She has a hard time saying no.
She takes care of people, hoping it will help to build intimacy.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should be honest and vulnerable with her husband about her feelings.
She should speak up when she feels she wants to say something.
She should lean more into authenticity and less into people pleasing.
She should spend some time on her own engaging with other people.

Takeaways:
If you are in a relationship with the opposite sex, and would like to improve your masculine/feminine communication dynamics, consider studying the subject more.
If you are feeling isolated, start with a goal of talking to five new people every day, and then build on that number. Start getting yourself out there and finding your tribe.
Speak your truth authentically. If you have trouble doing it, join the Inner Circle community. Authenticity is this months area of focus.
Communicate your needs to the most important people in your life.

Sponsor:
Daily Harvest Organic Superfoods delivered to your door. Use promo code OVERIT to get 3 free Daily Harvest cups.

Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
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