Feb 28, 2018
This call is about answering your soul’s calling and making a career transition. Today’s caller, Carrie, feels compelled to answer her soul’s calling but has limiting beliefs about herself that are holding her back. She doesn’t believe she can have the job she wants and make money at it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode129] I don’t think our soul comes with a specific career in mind. We may think our career is our soul’s purpose or our soul’s longing but really our career is just an expression of our desires and what we are most in alignment with. Don’t think you will not fill your soul’s destiny if you don’t have a career that you believe to be your calling. We fulfill the destiny of our soul by completing our life’s curriculum, our life’s lessons and by learning and growing in consciousness. Soul searching can be a distraction. Some people get stuck in the personal development world. Sometimes you have to stop doing the inner work and start doing the outer work. Integrate the lessons — an inner calling is not enough; you have to answer it by shifting inside and then taking action. If you are ready to answer your soul’s calling, or if you are living your calling but not doing it at the level you desire. Join in THE online business training program for entrepreneurs, Marie Forleo’s B-School. Use the link to take advantage of all the bonuses included for my listeners, including a free mastermind day with me. The cart closes March 1st so contact Jill@christinehassler.com if you have any questions. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel a longing to do something more in alignment with your soul’s calling? ? Do you have fears about being seen? ? How are you with yourself when you make mistakes or perceive you have failed? ? Does a part of you know you can have all of your dreams but another part of you that doubts it’s possible? Carrie’s Question: Carrie is experiencing fear about her upcoming career transition. Carrie's Key Insights and Aha’s: ? She doesn’t trust her abilities to start a business. ? She puts unrealistic expectations and pressure on herself. ? She doesn’t like being put on the spot. ? She puts herself into a fight-or-flight response. ? She likes working with children. ? She wouldn’t treat her students like she treats herself. ? She wants to align herself with her soul’s higher purpose. ? She’s a perfectionist. ? She wants to translate her passion for her students to herself. How to get over it and on with it: ? She should learn how to improve, grow, and create without judging herself. ? She should focus on the kind of boss she wants to be to herself. ? She should surrender to letting go and appreciate how far she has come. Assignments and Takeaways: ? What are you missing because you are looking — because you are thinking — too far ahead? ? Consider a recent failure or mistake you made. How were you with yourself? ? Put yourself out there and be seen. Don’t wait to be healed. Don’t wait to be perfect. Start sharing your message. B-SCHOOL can really help you to get over the blocks around being seen and helps you to just do it. ? Dissect your limiting beliefs. Sponsor: Freshbooks is easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. THIRDLOVE — What if you could take the away the hassle of bra shopping and find the perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz to find your perfect size, even if it’s a half size. They have over 60 bra sizes! Use the link to get 15% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation...
Feb 24, 2018
This call is about embracing your true self and moving away from the savior role. Today’s caller, William, thought he was looking for clarity about his career decision but it was more about learning to embrace his masculinity. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode128] Many men struggle with what masculinity means to them. I have compassion for the masculine. Recently, the masculine has gotten a bad rap. We have seen a lot of the shadow of masculine but I don’t think we have seen the light of masculine. We want to heal it and bring more of the healthy light of the masculine forward. We all have both masculine and feminine energies inside of us. It’s all about balance. A lot of men have an experience with a scary, forceful masculine and it makes them aware that they don’t want to be that, so they delve more into the feminine. These men might start to lose their purpose. I have talked with women who want a man who is not a pleaser or passive. Someone who matches their strength. The light of the masculine can be forceful without being aggressive. Listen to Stop Saving Others and Start Loving Yourself Ep. 127 I am hosting a two-day Coaching Training Workshop about how to build your coaching or service-based business, to make money and be masterful at it. Contact Jill@christinehassler.com if you are interested in attending on May 5th and 6th in San Diego. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you in a career transition into something that feels like it is a deeper calling for you? ? Have you healed a lot of aspects from your childhood but still feel a bit stuck? ? Can you relate to being a savior? ? If you are a man, how do you feel about being a man? What do you think your role should be? If you are a woman, how do you want men to show up in your life? William’s Question: William would like some clarity about a career decision. William's Key Insights and Aha’s: ? He has work-related PTSD. ? There were alcohol and drug abuses in his family. ? He wants to be a savior to women. ? He is asking for permission to move forward. ? He feels men are aggressive. ? He feels taken advantage of by women. ? He wants to save women. ? He has been looking for an identity. How to get over it and on with it: ? He should work on healing the divine masculine part of himself. ? He should embrace his masculinity and not be afraid of his power. ? He should move away from the extreme and bring his masculinity into balance. Assignments and Takeaways: ? Are you a rescuer? Do you relate to being a caretaker? ? Growing up, what opinions did you form about being a man or a woman? Write out, ‘being a man means…’ or ‘being a woman means…’ ? Write, from a spiritual perspective, what being in the divine masculine and feminine means to you. ? Get clear on your purpose and vision. Sponsor: Freshbooks is easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives, by Lewis Howes David Deida Books Allison Armstrong Resources
Feb 21, 2018
Christine chats with the one and only Marie Forleo. She is multi-passionate entrepreneur and founder of B-School an 8-week online learning program for big-hearted creatives who want to build a meaningful, profitable business online. Christine and Marie talk about the psychological importance of doing something you love, how to get over shitastic days and on with your dreams, how the best and most successful ideas are born and much more more! Christine is a proud partner of B-School and if you enroll in the program through her page you get TONS of extra special bonuses including a free mastermind and training day with her in California. Go to www.christinehassler.com/bschool for all the details. A regular coaching episode will air this Saturday!
Feb 17, 2018
Christine received a lot of messages from listeners who had Expectation Hangovers this Valentines Day. If you feel lonely, disappointed, heart-broken or just plain bitter about love, then listen up! Christine talks about what self-love really is, how to not suffer over being single and how to release expectations of your romantic partner.
Feb 14, 2018
This call is about being a people pleaser in an effort to connect with other people. Today’s caller, Alice, lives in the Savior archetype. She identifies with doing for others and taking care of others. People in the Savior archetype often end up sacrificing themselves and their time in “service” to others. But, is it really service when we are not making choices that support our own self-care? [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode127] Being a people pleaser empties our cup and gets in the way of our being able to serve at our highest potential. You do not need to attract love through people feeling bad for you and you don't need a sob story to connect or to be valuable. Making self-honoring choices is not selfish! You are not here to save anyone else. Life is all about connecting to and nourishing your own soul. Accept who you are, where you are and your path. Honor your soul’s path. Don’t let your past become your future. I am in Australia until the end of February. If any of you Aussies would like a one-hour, four-hour or all day session with me contact Jill@ChristineHassler.com. And, I have a new Coaches Corner episode with Marie Forleo to listen to about how to make an impact in the world by doing what you love. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you still carrying around your childhood trauma or your parent’s pain, fears, or belief systems? ? Do you want to feel more connected and have better relationships in your life? ? What is your relationship with trust like? Do you trust others? Do you trust yourself? ? Do you like to take care of others so much so much so that you are better at it than you are of taking care of yourself? Alice’s Question: Alice wants to know how to move past her past traumas to have better relationships. Alice's Key Insights and Aha’s: ? She has a problem trusting other people, including friends. ? She doesn’t share all of herself with other people. ? She feels judged by her mother. ? She is hard on herself. ? She is working with a therapist. ? She sees herself as damaged. ? She comes from a pure place. How to get over it and on with it: ? She shouldn’t internalize her mother’s judgments and fears. ? She should stop thinking about herself as damaged and know she deserves love and connection. ? She should research the Savior archetype. ? She should get in touch with her own body. Assignments and Takeaways: ? Be honest about who you are trying to save. It’s time to bring the focus back to yourself. ? Break generational patterns without any attachment to changing, teaching, or helping your parents. ? Consider the Savior archetype. If it resonates with you look at you are trying to save yourself and/or get love through saving others. ? Tell yourself things about yourself that are amazing. Own who you are and what we love about ourselves and tell others; it’s not bragging. Sponsor: Daily Burn — An online fitness video program that gets results that last. They provide a personalized workout plan including cardio, yoga, dance, kickboxing and more. Free 60-day trial by using the link above. Freshbooks is easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show
Feb 10, 2018
In this episode of Coaches Corner, Christine opens her inbox and answers three emails from listeners. Tune in for guidance on relationships, healing old wounds, and choosing a career path that lights up your soul!
Feb 7, 2018
This call is about self-acceptance and self-love. Today’s caller, Aly, wants to move into acceptance of an illness but she is attempting to do it with a lot of judgment about herself and not from a place of love. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode126] It’s wonderful to be a seeker but it’s important to be mindful of coming from a place of wanting to learn and grow, not from a place of there is something wrong with me and I need to fix it. If you are overdosing on personal growth from the perspective of ‘solving all your problems’ — you are not broken! Self-love is a daily practice and sometimes even a moment-to-moment practice. Self-love is truly the process and practice of acceptance. We are human. We are not going to love everything about ourselves all the time. We are going to say and do things that we may want to take back. It’s OK. Self-love is about forgiving ourselves in the process. Remember we always have another present moment to do better. The key to acceptance is taking responsibility for your thoughts and behaviors without beating yourself up. You are not broken! Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you see yourself as a constant self-improvement project? ? Do you approach self-love with an all-or-nothing attitude? ? Are you hard on yourself — especially your body? ? Is there something you are attempting to get rid of by sweeping it under the rug or hating it? Aly’s Question: Aly has spent many years trying to get rid of chronic disease and would like to know how to accept it and get unstuck. Aly's Key Insights and Aha’s: ? She feels she is not good enough. ? She can’t seem to accept who she is. ? She is afraid to be happy. ? She uses her weight as a happiness meter. ? She abuses herself and feels guilty about it. How to get over it and on with it: ? She needs to realize she is not broken. ? She should get the anger out by writing letters to the guys who broke her heart. ? She should write an apology letter to her body. ? She should give her body a love bath every morning. ? By realizing she is proud of herself. Assignments and Takeaways: ? Give yourself permission to write an F-U letter — write it and then destroy it. ? Write an apology letter to your body using these sentence stems: ? I’m sorry because… ? I’m learning from you that… ? I forgive myself for… ? I forgive you, body, for… ? Give yourself a body love bath. ? Make self-honoring choices and make new agreements with yourself. Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — What if you could take the away the hassle of bra shopping and find the perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz to find your perfect size, even if it’s a half size. They have over 60 bra sizes! Use the link to get 15% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. Stitch Fix — Shop in a productive way and end up with purchases you actually love, right from home. Use this link to get 25% off when you keep all the items in your box. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show
Feb 3, 2018
As Christine navigates her way through a massive Expectation Hangover, she shares with you tips for dealing with unwanted change in a way that decreases suffering and increases faith. Listen in for some advice and also a guided meditation that will support you in becoming more present and full of peace.