Happy New Year! This is a guided visualization and meditation that will support you in completing this year and consciously creating the next. In this twelve minute journey, I guide you through identifying the lessons and blessings from the last year so that you can clearly envision and begin creating what you’d like to experience in the coming year. This is especially great to listen to around the New Year but you can listen to it anytime of year to complete your past, focus on your present and create your future. Set some time aside to gift yourself with this process. Sending you love for a prosperous and joyful New Year
LIsten in as I coach Anneke on putting her self doubt behind her so she can make the career changes she longs for by tapping into her unique gifts. It is important we all take time to look at the gifts we were born with. They are the gifts that lead to your calling, and the gifts that make you, you. Often, we disconnect from our gifts and the truth of who we are. It is when we are too paralyzed and blinded by self-doubt that we forget about and disconnect from our natural gifts. This call with Anneke was the first episode of the Over and On With It podcast. This session stands out for me because we explored the question, “Who am I?” and because of the level of vulnerability Anneke shared. Remember, we get to choose who we are. Not being who we are can be suffocating. We are not defined by other people’s views of us. We are all born with natural gifts from the divine. It’s up to us to embrace them and use them. After listening to this call I welcome you to revisit and complete the ‘Who am I?’ essence exercise from my introductory episode, The Why Behind this Podcast. Would you like to connect with a community of like-minded people and get all of my #lifehacks? You will when you join my Inner Circle. The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Do you feel like you are really living authentically? ● Are you fully expressing who you are, or are you being a version of yourself? ● Do you struggle with loneliness? ● Are you in touch with your emotions? ● Are you concerned about what other people think of you? Anneke's Question: Anneke is about to make a big career change and would like to know how to be open and honest about who she really is, and to shift from her pattern of keeping herself small and not seen. Anneke's Key Insights and Ahas: ● Acknowledging she sugarcoats her difficult emotions. ● She doesn’t want to be a burden on others. ● Loneliness has been her friend, because it’s when she gives herself a break. ● It’s ok for other people not to like it when she is her authentic self. ● Recognizing she is staying in her comfort zone, because those emotions are familiar. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● Try taking actions to trust yourself and be consistently authentic. ● Don’t compare yourself to other people, embrace your own essence. ● Be willing to remember the essence of who you truly are. ● Invite spirit into your space. ● Practice self-forgiveness. ● Don’t be defined by what other people have told you about you. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Write out who you are, what is your unique essence? Then, for 30 days get in front of a mirror and make ‘I am’ statements with your answers. ● Pick 2‒3 people to practice intimacy and authenticity with. ● Write a thank you letter to loneliness for giving you time alone. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts The 'Who Am I?' Essence Exercise Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com
Happy Holidays!! This is a beautiful and sweet time of year, which can bring forward so many feelings and experiences. Some of you may be absolutely blissful – you love this season and are in a place of peace. Others of you may be really struggling this time of year. Perhaps you feel alone. Or family dynamics are challenging. And some may be feeling a mix of both. You have moments of peace and joy and other moments of loneliness, anxiety or even sadness. Wherever you are is okay. Please remove the expectation that your holidays are supposed to be any certain way – otherwise you will just keep waking up with an expectation hangover! My intention in sharing this meditation with you today is to remind you about what is most important not only this time of year but in every moment of every day, which is LOVE.
The holidays can be stressful. The good news is, you get to decide how much stress you are willing to take this holiday season. Oftentimes we have stress because we allow ourselves to have it. We say yes to too many things, and we hold an image of perfection, and it is the perfect, perfect, perfect BS, that stresses us out. Remember there really is no stress, only stressful thoughts. This can also be a very lonely time of year. Especially if you are not in a romantic relationship, or recently went through a breakup. There is a blessing to be found in a lonely holiday. It can be a time to turn within and nourish your relationship with spirit. We can practice self-love through the act of being kind, gentle, and accepting with ourselves. Then from a place of self-acceptance, you can set strong intentions, and take action to bring more love into your life. In today’s incredibly moving coaching session, Daniel would like to know how to deal with anxiety when he is away from home or in social situations. He is working towards moving past the abuse he experienced in his youth, but he needs practical advice from someone who acknowledges him from a place of love. Our call was less about the why’s of Daniel’s anxieties, and more about coaching him into the experience of connecting with his younger self. It’s his younger self that is being triggered by events, not his grown-up self. All kinds of abuse are painful. But, you do not have to be sentenced to a lifetime of suffering, because you are not a victim. I encourage you to break the cycle of abuse by healing your own. It is time to do healing work with the younger parts of yourself, so you can mentally process what happened, and tend to the part of you that went through the experience. Healing is the application of love to the places inside that hurt. If you are feeling guilt and shame about being abusive to others, your healing involves applying love to the places inside that hurt. Reach out and get support from real people. Therapists and coaches can be extremely helpful in working with you, through dealing with your abuse. Would you like a behind-the-scenes look into all of my #lifehacks and to join my Inner Circle? The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. Finally, a place to meet like-minded people! Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is anxiety something you struggle with, especially in social situations? ● Have you mentally processed your past, but can’t seem to shake some of the feelings that went with it? ● Do you have a history of physical, mental, or emotional abuse? ● Do you tend to minimize things from your past, because they weren’t as bad as things that happened to other people? Daniel's Question: Daniel would like Christine to help him through his anxiety in social situations, and to dismantle his protective shell. Daniel's Key Insights and Ahas: ● He feels physical discomfort from his anxiety. ● He is minimizing his abuse. ● He can’t seem to shift his guilt and shame. ● He needs to tend to his younger self. ● He should talk to himself from a place of love. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● He should practice the “empty chair” process, and tell himself it’s over. ● He should reassure his younger self through a handwritten a letter. ● He needs to be a loving, protective father to his younger self. ● He should visualize a safe place — his grandma’s house for example. ● He should start a meditation process. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Work through the “Empty Chair” process, which is included in my Mastery course. ● Create a dialogue conversation with your younger self, through journaling. ● Practice visualization. ● Bring your mind back to the present moment, with meditation. Sponsor: Daily Energy - Get an exclusive 30% off Daily Energy Superfood Solution. Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts - Schedule a time for your personal session. Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Assist@coachescorner.com - Send questions you would like addressed on a future episode of Coaches Corner.
“Agree to disagree.” This is often what we attempt to do when someone else has an entirely different opinion. But it’s not easy, especially when we feel incredibly passionate about something. And it’s also not always the best advice. So what do we do when we are upset about another’s opinion or viewpoint? This was the question I was challenged to answer for a group of High School students last weekend. I share about our conversation and give you tips on how to deal with people you don’t agree with in this episode of Coaches Corner.
Confidence is not something you can develop just by sitting in your house, thinking about all the things you will do when you feel more confident. Confidence is developed by going out and doing those things. Just like we gain courage by feeling fear, and then taking action anyway. We begin to feel more confident, when we actually do things we feel insecure about. In today’s coaching session with Teisha, she would like to know how she can gain more confidence, and how she can truly believe she is a prize. We also discover why confidence has been a struggle for her up until now. She wasn’t ready to learn the lesson of confidence. Having an understanding of our past is so important to move us forward. During our session, Teisha acknowledged she is safe. That was her key elementary lesson. After recognizing it, her entire energy shifted. She was able to release the judgment of not feeling more confident. It’s hard to develop a new quality, when we are judging ourselves so harshly about not being good at it. Coaches, managers, parents, and teachers take note — I got super specific with Teisha about the action steps she was committing to. When walking someone through behavior changes, you want to help them with clear, measurable steps they feel truly committed to. Is avoiding short-term pain preventing you from long-term happiness and fulfillment? What feels worse — experiencing failure and/or rejection, or never stepping into your full potential? Failure is not bad. Failure is necessary if you want to learn, grow, change, and get the things you want from life. So is perceived rejection; if you spend your life avoiding nos, you will never get yeses. Would you like a behind the scenes look into all of my #lifehacks and to join my Inner Circle? The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. Also, I will be in Australia for a Business Training/Mastermind on personal and professional development. This training is perfect for you if you are a health coach, a life coach or entrepreneur. You could benefit from a session if you are dealing with fear, are getting in your own way, or are ready to take your business to the next level. Send an email to Jill@Christinehassler.com ASAP, for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Would you like to have more confidence? Do you spend more time thinking about the things you would like to do, than actually doing them? ● Are you terrified of rejection and failure? ● Did you grow up not feeling safe, loved, or seen? ● How are you at keeping your word with yourself? When you commit to something, do you actually do it? Teisha's Question: Teisha is constantly doubting herself, and would like to know how she can get more self-confidence. Teisha's Key Insights and Ahas: ● Her self-doubt serves her by protecting her from the pain of failure. ● She has a lot of ‘what if’ questions. ● She didn’t feel safe growing up, but has kept herself safe as an adult. ● She will take action and go to a meetup group event, apply for employment outside of her comfort zone, and join a yoga class. ● She wants to be part of a movement to change perceptions about women and work. ● She knows she is a prize and a great person with a good heart. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should be curious about the people she encounters. ● She should be honest and vulnerable when she meets new people. ● She should give herself compliments and really mean them. ● She should ask herself if it serves her to believe the lies she told herself. ● She should give herself the spiritual and physical gift of yoga. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Is there something you need to feel or experience, before stepping into confidence? Can you accept you are ready to move to the next lesson? Can you see you’ve done what you needed to do, and are ready for the next step? ● Write down a list of all the unique qualities and gifts that make you, you. ● Get out of your comfort zone. Do things you may not be good at, or that may be embarrassing. ● Commit to taking action steps to create the feeling and experience of confidence. Make the steps measurable, specific, and give yourself a timeline. ● Consider joining my Inner Circle, where developing confidence will be an upcoming project. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. I’m reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Why not make this book your first download? Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
There are many common, limiting beliefs when it comes to love and romance. One belief is the success of a relationship is based on the time it lasts. So, if there is a breakup or divorce, the relationship was considered a failure. Or, if you love someone, you must love them unconditionally and stay with them, for better or for worse, no matter what. Another limiting belief is, the purpose of a romantic relationship is to find THE one who completes you.
In today’s coaching session, we bust through the limiting beliefs to get down to love and truth. Today’s caller, Andrew, finds himself at a challenging crossroads in his marriage. He would like to know how to be supportive to his wife after her recent cancer diagnosis without becoming a doormat.
Andrew shared he is working towards a growth mindset, and up until now his wife has had more of a victim mindset. While I only got to hear one side, I didn’t hear any blame or resentment from Andrew as he shared his story, so I sense his description of the situation is fairly accurate. That is why I coached him to love his wife, to support her and to hold space for her, as she and the entire family process this diagnosis. And in time, have a heart-to-heart with her about how they plan to journey through this Expectation Hangover together.
Diagnoses can be an opportunity for deep healing and transformation. Sometimes, what is for the highest good is not always the easiest or most obvious choice. I coached Andrew through the distinction of spiritual connection and spiritual bypass. It basically comes down to love and truth. Andrew loves his wife, but in truth, they may be growing in different directions. Does this mean the relationship should end? I don’t believe in shoulds. People in a relationship can be growing at different speeds, but still along the same path.
Remember, spirituality is not tolerating people treating us the way they want to treat us. Love and truth go together. Self-honoring choices are often for the highest good of all, and that is the ultimate high road. We can love, encourage, support, and be an example for people, but we can not save anyone else, that is up to them.
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Andrew’s relationship is experiencing trials and tribulations. He would like to know how to spiritually cope with his wife’s recent thyroid cancer diagnosis.
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Anahita Joon Tehrani - is a twenty-year veteran in the field of personal development. Having lived through many incarnations including sacred Dancer, Yoga Teacher, Activist, Coach, Poet, Shamanic Style Priestess, & Spiritual Psychologist, Anahita now embraces being all things and not just one thing. Anahita is fiercely devoted to serving the awakening of the divine feminine and is an advocate for radical self responsibility as access to power and embodiment. As the co-founder of the movement- Force of Nature Women Anahita is passionately leading the way for a new brand of Feminine Leadership and sisterhood www.anahitajoon.com
Today’s caller, Amanda, wants to know how to stop obsessing about calorie counting, her physical appearance, and working out. Like many of the sessions, you hear on this podcast, the focus of our conversation takes a different direction. Amanda acknowledges she felt controlled by her parents growing up. And, the biggest thing I taught Amanda is how we often pair certain behaviors with love. For example, we know our parents are supposed to love us, so the way they parent us is what we think is love. In Amanda’s case, it was being strict because she knew her parents loved her. So, she formed a correlation between being strict and controlling, with love. Her attempts to parent herself, care for herself, and love herself the way her parents did, are a big part of her food and calorie counting obsession. She believes that is how she keeps herself safe, much like her parents thought their strict parenting would keep her safe. It ends up as a fear-based version of safety, and it’s exhausting. Another thing at play was Amanda’s history of rebelling. When we have one extreme that feels limiting, we go to the opposite extreme in an attempt to free ourselves. Amanda felt controlled, so to move away from it, she was rebellious and acted out to get free of the feeling of being controlled. Coaches and Health Professionals — are you practicing what you preach? Are you attempting to save yourself through serving others? You can share your story and help others, but make yourself your own best client. We can’t shift ourselves by saving other people. Remember, it’s important for you to show people they do have a wisdom voice inside, and a part of them that is connected to a pure, untainted heart. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you a bit of a control freak in your life? Are there areas you are obsessive or rigid? ● Do you have an inner rebel? Does part of you act out or engage in addictive behavior? ● Are you in a profession where you are not practicing what you are preaching? ● Is your self-talk negative, and you would like to shift it? Amanda's Question: Amanda feels mentally exhausted. She wants to know how to trust herself and change her patterns. Amanda's Key Insights and Ahas: ● Her obsessing is her attempt to care for herself. ● She’s afraid she doesn’t deserve a good relationship. ● She believes she is broken. ● She has constructed her persona, and doesn’t know who she is. ● She doesn’t know how to talk to herself. ● She is trying to use her clients to help herself. ● She should practice what she preaches. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should talk to herself every day from a place of acceptance. ● She should parent herself in a way that is full of unconditional love and support. ● Attend Christine’s Spring Retreat to help process her old belief systems. ● She needs to be able to lose control and to know she will be ok. ● She needs to read Expectation Hangover. ● She needs to treat herself like she treats her clients. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Identify and deconstruct certain behaviors that may be cross-wired with love. ● Consider getting a pet. A pet is a way to learn about unconditional love without getting into codependency. ● If you are in the pattern of control or rebellion, start a spiritual practice. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Women’s Spring Retreat - March 2017 Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
Chris Seiter is a professional relationship consultant specializing in breakups. He teaches men and women how to get over a breakup or even how to get back with an ex if the situation calls for it. He has been featured in publications like YourTango, Elite Daily, She Knows, Readers Digest and LifeHack. You can learn more about him at www.exboyfriendrecovery.com and www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com.
Collectively we are all going through a rebalancing of masculine and feminine energies, not only in what it means to be a man or a woman, but what it means to be human. We are just moving into rebalancing this energy so masculine and feminine energies can be in flow together. While women struggle to find their place in the masculine energy, men struggle to fit into more feminine things, such as being vulnerable or pursuing more creative endeavors that may feel less manly. This is not a time to be discouraged. We are all longing for belonging and connection. This episode is about questioning the old paradigms and rules. Today’s caller, Jake, thinks he is stuck, but from my point of view he is at a crossroads. Will he continue to let old programming and belief systems drive him, or will he make a commitment to move past the fear of old paradigms, and step into his full potential? During the call, I didn’t want to take Jake down the road of investigating his past, because he had already spent too much time analyzing the past and worrying about the future. Jake said he had an easy-going upbringing without a lot of drama or trauma. Often, feeling that degree of comfort as a child makes it harder to take risks as an adult, because we don’t have enough experiential evidence to recover from failure, risks, and things that scare us. We have to stop asking ourselves why, why, why. We don’t have to self-analyze ourselves to death. We need to be aware of the patterns and self-limiting beliefs, so we can shift them. We all need to step up into our full potential, and not allow outdated paradigms hold us back. Men, it is ok to be vulnerable, to talk about your doubts, and to admit to confusion about who you are, and how to find your purpose. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you a man, or with a man, who is questioning his career path or purpose? ● Is fear something that is stopping you? ● Do you relate to sabotaging yourself? Jake 's Question: Jake feels drawn toward another career change. He wants to know how to get out of his own head to move forward. Jake 's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● He is sabotaging himself. ● He has competing intentions. ● He has a propensity to not follow through. ● He battles with fear and low self-worth. ● He has time management issues. ● He has created motion toward what he wants by putting himself out there. ● He is afraid he won’t live up to his full potential. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● He should invest in a coach. ● He should read The Way of the Superior Man, by David Deida, and other personal development books. ● He should work on shifting his belief system and get clear about what his vision is. ● Over the next 40 days, he should do 10 things that get him out of his comfort zone. ● He should make a schedule for himself and stick to it. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Go out and engage in behavior which pulls you out of your comfort zone, to develop trust in yourself. ● Commit to rewiring your brain. Visit NeuroGym to learn more. ● Stop obsessing about what you think is a liability. ● Show up fully for yourself, be your own word. Make commitments and don’t break them. If you do break them, re-negotiate and start again. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler - Book a session to be on the show! Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com NeuroGym
“A core principle of my own life, and upon which this company was founded, is that one should leave everything and everyone better than you found them.” Jordan Harbinger has always had an affinity for social influence, interpersonal dynamics, and social engineering, helping private companies test the security of their communications systems and working with law enforcement agencies before he was even old enough to drive. Forbes named him one of the 50 best relationship-builders anywhere and Inc. Magazine calls him “the Charlie Rose of Podcasting.” Jordan has spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East, and speaks five languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped — twice. The only reason he’s still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation. Here at The Art of Charm, Jordan shares that experience, and the system borne as a result, with students and clients. Find Jordan at: Twitter Facebook YouTube Subscribe to The Art of Charm podcast in iTunes here.
This episode is about fulfillment and what to do when we start to feel restless, bored, or lose our passion for something. Today’s caller, Corey, is feeling unfulfilled regarding his job, but many of you may be feeling unfulfilled in your romantic relationship or friendships. Corey thought the solution to his lack of fulfillment was changing his job, but he didn’t know what to do instead. A lack of fulfillment often comes with a lack of clarity. Corey will gain clarity and feel fully, authentically self-expressed, the more he takes risks and listens to his heart. We think that changing the external situation of finding a new job, or finding someone new to be with, is the answer -- that is not often the solution. It could perpetuate the problem. So, what are you truly longing for? Tap into the longing, and instead of thinking you need to change your external circumstances, think about how you can give yourself what you are longing for, now. How can you take action, and create behaviors that support you? Before you quit your job, or end a relationship, get honest with yourself about what might be there for you to learn, and how you might be creating your own discontent. Often, we feel an inner call to reach out to someone, or to share something, and we ignore it. Please don’t ignore it, because you never know what will happen. The only way you can get a no for sure, is if you never ask or never reach out. The only way you are ever going to fail, is if you never try. Regret is far more painful than risk. So, take that risk. Reach out to that person. Speak up. Do that thing your intuition has been nudging you to do. You never know how it will impact the person on the other end. Don’t allow your self-doubt, or fear of another person’s reaction, to stop you from listening to your heart. Let your intuition be louder than your inner critic. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is there an area of your life in which you feel unfulfilled? Are you fantasizing about leaving your current job or relationship? ● Do you relate to being a “yes man,” or a “yes woman”? Are you afraid to say no and stand up for yourself? ● Do you long to feel safe, validated, and accepted? Corey's Question: Corey is considering leaving his current job but is trying to figure out what is next for him. Corey's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● He feels burnt out and unfulfilled in his current position. ● He felt he was always loved conditionally. ● He searches for external validation. ● He has no idea what is next for him. ● He comes up with excuses to keep himself safe. ● He doesn’t feel authentically self-expressed. ● He realizes he has built a box around himself. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● He should take steps to change his behavior and take more risks. ● Transform himself in his current position, so he can move through the reactive energy. ● He should establish a better relationship with himself. ● He should listen to his heart, and act on his intuition. ● He should celebrate who he is, and receive the compliments given to him. ● He should carry a picture of his younger self, and when he is self-defeating he should look at his picture. Assignments and Takeaways: ● If you feel unfulfilled how can you take responsibility, and change on the inside, instead of making an external change? ● What did you crave when you were little that you didn’t get, that you need to give yourself now? ● How can your current soul family support you in making changes? ● Take a deep breath and breathe into the truth of who you are. Then, set the intention to be more authentically self-expressed. ● Speak kindly to yourself. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler - Book a session to be on the show! Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com
I have heard from so many listeners about how to deal with the Expectation Hangover they are experiencing regarding the presidential election in the states. This is a special edition of Coaches Corner where I share a few thoughts about this time and encourage you to choose love not fear. I also lead a guided meditation. I am reminded (and comforted) by the fact that sometimes a massive expectation hangover is needed to create massive change. This is a time where those of us who continue to choose love instead of fear are needed even more.
When we are so paralyzed by the fear of making mistakes or failing, we don’t develop grit. Grit is what gives us confidence. If we don’t have to figure things out on our own we find ourselves paralyzed when making choices as we get older. When parents place too many expectations on their children, their children may grow into adults that don’t know what they truly want. If you are a millennial, take the pressure off of yourself to make the right choice and allow yourself to make a mistake. Failure is how you learn. If you are the boss, manager or parent of a millennial, stop making all of their decisions for them. This episode will be useful for ANYONE at any age. Today’s caller, Lorena, is having a highly-charged emotional reaction to the circumstances in her life. The pressure of living up to parental expectations is clouding her ability to decide what she truly wants. ● If you are a millennial and you are having difficulty with your parents, remember you are the child. It is not your responsibility to live up to their expectations. ● If you are the parent of a millennial, it’s time to let them go so they can be their own person. Let them make their own mistakes. Stop telling them who they are so they can discover it for themselves. ● If you relate to having a high-standard of achievement, don’t let achievement to become your identity. Don’t let your self-worth be hooked to your achievements. People get tripped up when they start with the end game instead of having a vision of how they would like to feel. Sometimes it is just about taking the first step. Consider where you may be holding yourself prisoner by letting someone else define you? How can you step into freedom by defining who you are and making your own choices? Coaches - Lorena’s belief system was triggering her emotional response. As you can tell by her response, it was greater than what was necessary for what was really going on. Remember, there is what happens, and then what we make it mean. When working with people you want to honor and hold space for their emotions, at the same time ask questions to shift belief systems. Your goal is not to coddle a person but to get them into their insight. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Do you ever feel upset over something you shouldn’t be so emotionally triggered by? ● Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself to live up to your own expectations or those of others? ● Have you received a lot of external validation for your achievements, and you constantly crave it? ● Do you feel that you owe someone something, or that you have something to prove? Lorena's Question: Lorena has recently decided to start over and go back to school to give herself the opportunity to do something greater. But, she doesn’t know what she wants to do. Lorena's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She wants to have an end goal. ● She excelled at academics and was praised for it. ● She feels she doesn’t meet her parent’s expectations. ● She may be too emotionally upset to reach clarity. ● She doesn’t want to end up resenting her parents. ● She appreciates the difference in her life and her parent’s life. ● She should use the gifts her parents have given her. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should realize she is the child and she doesn’t have to live her life according to their expectations. ● She should express her gratitude toward her parents, plus let them know she needs to make her own mistakes. ● She needs to stand in her own choices. ● She needs to let go of her guilt in order to be free to explore. ● She should write a letter to her parents and ask them to support her. ● She should listen to her inner voice. Assignments and Takeaways: ● If you are having a difficult situation with someone, write a letter to them, even if it is emotionally charged. ● If you experience heightened emotions, take a deep breathe and ask yourself “What do I know to be true in this moment?” ● What belief systems are you wearing that just don’t fit anymore, or are they actually someone else’s beliefs? Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler - Book a session to be on the show! Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com 20 Something, 20 Everything, by Christine Hassler
This is an incredibly important conversation to listen to. Alexandra and I talk about what is really underneath our food craving and how we can satisfy ourselves in a healthy and lasting way. As the best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and highly-sought-after wellness expert for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives--by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. She is the creator of The Crave Cast, a #1 rated podcast on iTunes where listeners from around the world are educated and captivated by thought-provoking interviews on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and more. Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others. As a life-long learner, her wellness expertise has grown out of a decade of experience, as well as her education at the Natural Gourmet Institute, the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and a certification in Applied Positive Psychology.
Are you hard on yourself, especially when it comes to your appearance? Do you do something, and then immediately wish you had done it differently? Many of us allow our inner critics to expend energy on low-frequency, physically exhausting, nasty, self-defeating self-talk. You may not realize it, but your self-talk influences the way other people receive you. If you are happy and filled with self-acceptance, you send out a good vibe. If you are negative or hard on yourself, you can suck the life right out of the room. Today’s caller, Gabby, is struggling with her weight and self-worth. She is clinging to the away-from-motivation of ‘if only I this,’ and ‘if only I that,’ instead of using toward-motivation, to get what she really wants. During the call, Gabby’s energy shifts as soon as we discuss creativity and connection. This toward-motivation practice allows her to focus her energy on what she wants to bring into her life, instead of what she wants to move away from. This practice is sustainable, because she is focusing her energy on a positive outcome instead of a negative one. Obsessing about appearance and weight is a waste of energy. If weight is something you struggle with read my book, Expectation Hangover, and: ● Find a new way to soothe yourself. ● Get a new way to feed your soul. ● Commit and take actions towards your commitments. ● Stop making your weight mean something negative about you. You are enough. You are lovable. You can change and heal anything in your life. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you making your self-worth and acceptance conditional? ● Do you struggle with body image issues? Has losing weight been a constant theme in your life? ● Does fear of rejection haunt you? Does it keep you from taking risks? ● What are the sneaky ways you're being selfish in your life? Gabby's Question: Gabby has felt rejected a lot lately and would like to know how she can not worry so much about what others think. Gabby's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She feels undesirable and fears she is not good enough. ● She has body image issues. ● Food is her only source of pleasure. ● She is self-obsessed. ● She is jeopardizing her relationships by making everything about her. ● She may be attracting rejection into her life when she does, because of her self-rejection. ● She hasn’t asked God to love and support her in dealing with her issue. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should stop waiting for external validation to find her confidence. ● She should realize she is not alone in how she feels. ● She should create a joy and creativity plan for herself. ● She should be present, curious, and connected in an authentic way. ● She could ask God for assistance in letting go of her obsession with her weight. Assignments and Takeaways: ● If there is something you want to shift in your life, make a list of your ‘toward’ motivations. ● Make a list of what you are committed to, and get an accountability partner. ● Take on a role to shift your confidence, and change the way you see yourself. ● Pray for help with your growth. Ask for help in making the shifts in knowing who you truly are. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Over It and On With It Initial Podcast Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
This is a MUST LISTEN. One of my favorite people in the world and someone who is truly a soul brother to me, Aubrey Marcus, and I talk about purpose, relationship, having a tribe and going through the FIRE of life (aka the personal growth path). A little about Aubrey…. He is committed to empowering people to achieve their fullest human potential. He is the founder of Onnit, known for nutritional supplements based on a holistic health philosophy he calls Total Human Optimization. Aubrey Marcus has since grown Onnit into an industry leader, providing innovative peak performance supplements, foods, fitness equipment, and apparel. Aubrey has a degree in philosophy, a multi-sport athlete (check out his instagram page @aubreymarcus and see some of the crazy physical stuff) and lives life with intense focus and willingness to seek the Truth. He is about to start a new course which you can join in on “Go for your win” which you can learn more about at www.goforyourwin.com And get a discount on any Onnit product at www.onnit.com/christine
The human experience is a beautiful thing, even when it’s challenging. It is sacred when someone is vulnerable. Today’s caller, Toni, shares her vulnerability as she asks for guidance. She reveals that many of the decisions of her life come from a place of fear. Toni is confused about what security and love really are. We talk about having a relationship with a higher power especially after she has gone through times in her life when she didn’t feel there was any kind of God. There IS some kind of higher power. There are so many names for it, so many ways people interpret it, but to me, it is infinite unconditional love. It may be hard to believe in any kind of God, when there is so much suffering in the world. The best way I can attempt to understand all the horrible things that happen, is that they happen as a result of human choice and free will. While many human choices are still made from a place of pain and fear, we are in a time of awakening. We are in a massive shift in consciousness. What is available to us all, is to make the choice to see the world through spiritual eyes. See ourselves through more spiritual eyes, without judgment; to see through the eyes of infinite and unconditional love. To heal our own pain that is preventing us from feeling connected to a higher power. We are moving into more acceptance, forgiveness and gratitude. If you are craving a deeper spiritual connection, please don’t wait for God to prove itself to you -- instead, open your heart, and pray to be shown the way. You are a spiritual being having a human experience. You are one. You are love. You are connected. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Do you feel you are operating more out of fear than faith? ● Are you making a lot of decisions with fear or self-doubt? ● Are you a people pleaser, who is afraid of disappointing people? ● Is connecting to a higher power challenging to you? If you do have a connection, would you like to deepen it? ● Are there situations in your life that make you doubt whether a God exists? Toni's Question: Toni feels all aspects of her life are affected by her making decisions from a place of fear. She would like to find a way to think more productively. Toni's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She fears failing and disappointing people. ● Her self-worth is based on her people pleasing. ● She’s confused about what security and love really are. ● She hasn’t felt protected, or connected to her spirituality, since her father passed. ● She feels like she would be clearer, if she had a spiritual connection. ● She has been operating in survival mode. ● She should know she is not broken. ● She can change her relationship with herself, today. ● She can focus on her blessings, not on her fears. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should realize she can access her spirituality. ● She should start processing her pain, and remove judgment, to arrive at forgiveness and love. ● She should put herself in an environment where she can heal. ● She can start cultivating her relationship with God, by talking to him/her. Assignments and Takeaways: ● What is in your way of a connection to a higher power? ● What is keeping you in patterns of people pleasing and indecision? ● Do you have old trauma that needs to be processed? ● What beliefs may be keeping you from having beliefs? ● What religious upbringing did you have, which no longer resonates with you? ● You need to find which truth resonates with you. ● Look for a spiritual community of people who are committed to awakening, and who know we are all connected to source. ● Start to develop a relationship with your higher power. ● Pray. Pray for experiences, feelings, and pray to be shown the way. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Over It and On With It Initial Podcast
So much good stuff in this coaches corner. Everything from dealing with a break-up, to dating tips (learn how to write a great online profile), to being better in your relationship. Listen to my friend and incredible dating coach, Marni Battista and I share about love and dating. A little more about Marni: Marni Battista has a Masters in Education and is a Certified Life Coach by the International Coaching Federation. She is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment, “The D-Factor,” that helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are, or are not date-able, and what types of messages they are unconsciously broadcasting to others based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes. Marni is also trained as a Facilitator and Mentor Trainer by the Hoffman Institute, a world-renowned leader in personal development. In addition, Marni is the on-camera Dating & Relationship Coach to Tristan Couveras, star of the new hit reality TV show, “ControlTV,” produced by Seth Green and Ken Fuchs, producer of “The Bachelor.” Get so much more from her here: http://datingwithdignity.com
Do you feel a yearning to have a child? All women feel a desire to create, to give birth to things and to experience unconditional love. Sometimes, we project that on external things. Or, maybe we women feel we need to have a purpose. It may be that we need to move into a place of unconditional love for ourselves. We need to learn to love and nurture ourselves. You don’t want to have a child and then expect the child to fill your inner voids, or to make up for all the places you don’t love yourself. We should be as clear as possible about our decision to have a child, before bringing a baby into the world, so we do not project our emotional wounds on to the child. So consider, are you sure it is a baby you want, or is it something else you are yearning for? It takes courage to investigate what is true for us. Today’s caller, Jenny, is struggling with whether or not she wants to have children. As we dig deeper, it becomes apparent her issue is really about her honoring her own truth, and how she may not be able to reach clarity on the issue until she clears up some old beliefs and patterns. They are many reasons why you may not be 100% clear about a decision you are facing. Your clarity may be affected if you are not at a good point in life to make the decision, or if you are too impacted by what other people think, or society's expectations of you. You may also have difficulty if you have issues from your past influencing you, or if you are considering the choice as an either-or. All of these things can keep you in limbo. Consider form versus essence, where the baby is the form, and the essence is everything you think that baby is going to make you feel. If you are longing to become a parent, what is it you want to feel, and how can you bring it into your life now? The more you trust you are able to mother or father yourself in a loving way, the better mother you will be. Practice forgiving any misunderstandings about what being a parent means, that you may have bought into when you were a child. My personal mastery coaching course, Over It and On With It, is now open for registration until October 20th, 2016. The 6-week course includes a 90-minute call every other week, worksheets, guided meditations and more. This course is the best of my spiritual practices and practical tips. An investment in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to register or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you feeling the pressure of your biological clock? ● Are you struggling with a big life choice? ● In dating, or any other relationship, do you struggle with your own authenticity? Jenny's Question: Jenny feels the subject of having children is coming up more and more during her relationships, but she’s not sure where she stands on the issue. Jenny's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● Her early motherhood influences were not positive. ● She doesn’t feel pressure from her biological clock, it’s pressure from other people about her biological clock. ● She wants to be married in the future. ● She tends to be repeating the patterns of her mother. ● She may not unconditionally love herself. ● She wants to find the perfect partner. ● She can not seem to get to the root of her issue. ● Her definition of authenticity may need to be adjusted. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should stop looking to other people to help her make her decisions. ● She should find self-love and self-trust within herself, before making the decision to have a child. ● She should try to bring out the mother archetype within herself. ● She should trust her intuition. ● She should write out her misunderstandings she adopted when she was a child. ● She should ask for guidance during her spiritual practice. ● She should rephrase her authenticity statement. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Look at what is impacting your choices ○ Are you too far ahead of yourself? ○ Are you too impacted by what other people think? ○ Are there issues from your past, clouding your judgment? ○ Are you holding your choice as an either-or? ● If you are longing to be a parent look at the ways you can do it right now. ● Make new agreements with yourself, you are able to keep. Resources: Christine Hassler How to Make Change Happen and stick! FREE Webinar Valid until 10-20-2016 Over It and On With It Personal Mastery Coaching Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com
Originally from Chicago, Samantha Bennett is a writer, speaker, actor, teacher and creativity/productivity specialist and the author of the bestselling, "Get It Done: From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes a Day" (New World Library). She is the creator of the www.TheOrganizedArtistCompany.com, dedicated to helping creative people get unstuck, especially by helping them focus and move forward on their goals. Now based in a tiny beach town outside of Los Angeles, CA, Bennett offers workshops, keynotes and private consulting. She also makes a heck of a roast chicken. Her latest book is, "Start Right Where You Are: How Little Changes Can Make a Big Difference for Overwhelmed Procrastinators, Frustrated Overachievers and Recovering Perfectionists" (New World Library, Nov. 2016)
Today’s caller, Emma, is seeking guidance after a breakup. She would like to move forward with building her business but finds herself battling with self-doubt and procrastination. Emma is taking ownership of the issue and has a high-level of self-awareness about it, but she needs to uncover what is holding her back. When we ask ourselves the question “what am I learning from this situation?” instead of “why did it happen to me?” we unlock something which is critical to our growth and healing. When a relationship ends, we are never 100% victims. We need to take 100% responsibility for the 50% which is our part. That said, we must do so without self-judgment or blame. We must accept we did the best we could with what we had at the time, and we now have an opportunity to do better moving forward. In future relationships, Emma has the opportunity to be more intimate. She was playing out the same patterns of withholding and people pleasing in her business, as she did in her marriage. Instead of being vulnerable she felt ashamed of sharing what was really going on in her life. People crave intimacy. Especially those who love us, care about us or want to get to know us. They want to feel like they are getting the real person. It’s hard to love someone who is wearing a mask or people pleasing all the time because we never know how they really feel. If you withhold of yourself through people pleasing, perfection or because you don’t trust people, it is time to examine that aspect of yourself. Emotional suppression holds energy back. Forgiveness can only begin after we bring acceptance and compassion to our feelings. We are unique but in many ways we are similar. We also have core pains and patterns that hold us back and once we move and shift those, we can move the needle in other parts of our lives. I address core pains and patterns in my Over It and On With It Mastery Course. My personal mastery coaching course, Over It and On With It, is now open for registration until October 20th. The 6-week course includes a 90-minute call every other week, worksheets, guided meditations and more. This course is the best of my spiritual practices and practical tips. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to register. Allow me to give you the support you need. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you a procrastinator? ● Have you gone through a breakup and blame yourself or the other person? ● Do you relate to being a people pleaser? ● Is intimacy challenging for you? ● Would you like to teach your children something you wish you had learned as a child? Emma's Question: Emma would like strategies on how to move forward after her breakup. Emma's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She feels as if she wasn’t enough in her relationship. ● She is a people pleaser. ● She doesn’t trust herself. ● She suppresses her emotions. ● She did the best she could with the tools she had at the time. ● She punishes herself for going after what she wants. ● She needs to get eliminate the belief she needs to be perfect to teach forgiveness. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She needs to welcome the emotional aspect of her feelings. ● She should do forgiveness work around her self-blame. ● She should be compassionate towards herself to move into acceptance. ● She can empower her children with the tools she didn’t have. ● She needs to believe she deserves her dreams. ● She should create a meditation course for others to help herself heal. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Write a letter to yourself or another person without sending it. It will help move the energy so it can be healed. ● Take a look at your life and see where you are withholding, not being honest, or people pleasing, and channel the energy to create something fun. ● Empower your children with the tools and knowledge you wish you would have had. Resources: Christine Hassler How to Make Change Happen and stick! FREE Webinar Valid until 10-20-2016 Over It and On With It Personal Mastery Coaching Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com
You’ll love my interview with my dear soul sister Alexi who is seriously a major FORCE of light, love and inspiration in the world today. We talk about fear, the imposter syndrome, meeting the love of your life (and how it often looks different than you expect) and much more. A little more about Alexi: Alexi Panos is an author, transformational vlogger, entrepreneur and humanitarian who is on a mission to make personal development mainstream by synthesizing big ideas into fun, bite sized nuggets of goodness that spread throughout the world and create a ripple effect of positivity and love. Alexi helps people discover how to access personal freedom, love and REAL happiness through a blend of ancient wisdom, psychology, somatic teachings, NLP and philosophy—shooting straight from the heart with her no-nonsense and passionate delivery of authenticity, quirkiness and fun. She teaches people how to ditch their limiting stories and mindsets and set out to create the life they’ve always dreamed of. Whether she’s speaking + facilitating workshops around the world with her transformational Bridge Method, drilling clean water wells through her non profit E.P.I.C., dishing insights from her own personal quest for truth in her books and blogs, or inspiring millions of viewers around the world as host of her compelling and inspirational YouTube Series, she’s completely OBSESSED with creating experiences that matter, move + inspire people into their greatness and authentic selves. Alexi was was recently named ORIGIN Magazine’s TOP 100 CREATIVES CHANGING THE WORLD, one of 11 NOTEWORTHY MILLENNIALS by Huffington Post, is the winner of Elixir Magazine’s Millennial Mentor Award, one of 15 WOMEN THAT WOW by Creativ Magazine, and one of the stars of the breakout documentary THE ABUNDANCE FACTOR and RISE UP. To learn more about her work visit www.alexipanos.com
Today’s caller, Trish, thinks she is calling in for career advice but during the session, she discovers her own self-doubt is the barrier to her growth. It takes courage to look inward and see our biggest roadblock is ourselves. We must deal with these roadblocks with compassion and truth. Truth with love, compassion and gentleness is how we must deal with ourselves when we doubt ourselves, question our own worth or create our own suffering. You must not buy into the belief you must be stern or harsh with yourself in order to shift. Judgment only reinforces a disconnection with your own inner knowing. If you want to be able to tap into your intuition and make choices that are most authentically aligned for you on your soul path, you must be mindful of how you are with yourself. Be a compassionate and honest coach to yourself. Let your mission and your passion become more important than your self-doubt. A major trap for people seeking clarity about their life or career path is they get too far ahead of themselves. If you are full of self-doubt, that is the message you are energetically sending to the universe. Maybe, it is time to update what your definition of confidence is. Remember: Clarity comes from confidence and commitment. Confidence is full acceptance and compassion. Commitment is making your vision bigger than your biggest insecurity. Anything is possible. You can have what you dream of having and you can be free of what you want to be free of. If you are stuck in your career and you want to move forward with intention, freedom and passion, you can. You are able to remove your inner roadblocks to make anything possible. My very first online personal mastery coaching course, Over It and On With It, is now open for registration. The 6-week course includes a 90-minute call every other week, worksheets, guided meditations and more. This course is the best of my spiritual practices and practical tips. There is an early bird discount now that expires soon so don’t miss it. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to register. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you working on determining what to do in your life? ● Do you have a career path in mind but feel uncertain about next steps? ● Do you feel you have to prove something in order to feel confident or capable of going after what you want? ● Is there a vision or mission you feel passionate about but you are letting your insecurities overshadow your commitment to your mission? Trish's Question: Trish would like help in figuring out her career path. Trish's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She feels fulfillment from working in a spirituality related business ● Her self-doubt is creating a barrier to her growth ● Her autoimmune disorder may be causing her negative self-talk ● She wants to take a holistic approach to her life ● She would like to feel confident about her abilities How to get over it and on with it: ● She should treat herself like she treats other people, with love ● She should trust herself more ● She should try not to look at her inner change as work ● She should make her own holistic coaching program and practice on herself ● If she gets in alignment with what she wants more opportunities will come her way Assignments and Takeaways: ● Design your own self-confidence program and become your own client. ● Practice speaking compassionately to yourself. ● Look to other people who are ahead of you on the career path you want to be on for inspiration, but not for comparison. ● Write out your vision for your life and then go for it. Resources: Christine Hassler Over and On With It Personal Mastery Coaching Course Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com