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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Dec 29, 2018
Listen in as Christine summarizes the main lessons and blessings we all gained from 2018 and forecasts what is up for us in 2019.  She then guides you through a beautiful meditation to gracefully let go of 2018 and begin co-creating 2019. 

 

Dec 26, 2018

This call is about using a creative process to create vibrations high enough to reshape your story. Tiffany feels blocked by her past. She has done the mental work but still feels blocked emotionally. Remember, it’s never too late to reshape your story. Don’t think just because Tiffany is a young woman, as an older man or woman you can’t reshape your story. It’s not too late for you.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode172]

If you feel stuck in your story or if you feel that you can mentally re-frame your limiting beliefs but things aren’t changing, try to get spiritual altitude and look at why your soul chose this and how it’s good. Your soul chooses things that open up the door to amazing things that you may not be able to see yet.

Oftentimes, to get out of some feelings of grief, neglect, and abandonment we have to start relating to our story differently. But it has to be more than a mental concept.

In my mastery course or when I talk to people about reshaping their story, I hear a lot of ‘I know it happened for a reason’ and while that is true, it is not enough. It won’t create a feeling that is a high enough vibration inside of you to really be grateful for your past and to allow you to reshape and reframe the story inside of you.

When you get a little more spiritual altitude on your story and look at your soul curriculum you can consider what your soul lessons are. If you can attach your soul lessons to a feeling of appreciation or as a sign you are on your spiritual path, it can help you reframe and reshape your story to connect the dots emotionally.

You don’t want to have a spiritual bypass. The kind of reframing I am talking about happens after you’ve done some emotional clearing work.

Everyone can uplevel their story by using a creative outlet to take an old story and reshape it into whatever they want. This is a beautiful way to reshape your story because it doesn’t involve the mind. The creative centers of our brain are closely related to the emotional and subconscious centers of our brain. As we are reshaping something creatively, the neural nets in our brain start to change.

And when we attempt to attain big goals when we are still triggered by our old story and have trouble being in the moment, it is pointless. When we pursue big goals because we think it will make us feel better then we are attached to results making us feel better. Don’t think that spending some time creatively reshaping your story, letting go of old emotional wounds, and giving yourself a pause on knowing what is “next” is a waste of time. The more time you spend going within, the clearer you will get about your goals.

Connect with like-minded people on January 3rd. For just $20 you can be part of my virtual group coaching session. It includes a guided meditation and will help you to reflect, renew and replenish yourself this season. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to sign up.

Enjoy the magic of this holiday season and get a free holiday guided meditation from me at ChristineHassler.com/Holiday.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● When it comes to letting go of your past, do you go through phases when sometimes you are on track and then other times you can’t get out of the pain?

● Have you ever quit something and then found yourself scared to pursue it again?

● Have you mentally reframed a story or event in your life but still have feelings attached to it?

● Do you have artistic or creative abilities you have suppressed because they are not goal-oriented enough?

 

Tiffany’s Question:

Tiffany feels blocked and wants guidance on how to let go of her past, her story.

 

Tiffany’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She has traumatic experiences and issues related to her mother.

● She lost her parents.

● She feels neglected and abandoned.

● She tries to connect with her inner child.

● She feels she had to grow up quickly.

● She has big goals.

● She is hard on herself.

● She fears that everything will fall apart.

● She disassociates herself.

● She is creative.

● She has read Expectation Hangover.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She should work with a professional coach or therapist.

● She should start creating art without it being a major goal.

● She should reshape her story.

 

Takeaways:

● Look at your story and write down the lessons you learned from it. Get a copy of Expectation Hangover to help guide you.

● Do something creative, artistic, or expressive and use emotional pain to fuel your creative expression.

● Be a beautiful parent to yourself.

● Consider joining my Personal Mastery Course in 2019.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Dec 22, 2018
Natalie Jill is a Fat Loss Expert turned high performance coach. She helps people across the globe reach their health, business and life goals BY empowering them to level up and create everything from nothing. 
 
Natalie left a very successful career in corporate America to follow her passion with health and personal development.
 
As a Licensed Master Sports Nutritionist, Fat Loss Expert, and functional fitness trainer; Natalie leveraged the power of the internet and in a short amount of time she was able to help hundreds of thousands of people worldwide get in shape and be their best selves. 
 
In the process, she created a globally recognized brand with well over 2.5 million social media followers worldwide, and created an online business that has consistently generated 7-figures a year and has been recognized by Forbes and Greatist for two years running as one of the top health and wellness influencers in the world. She is frequently asked about her age (47) and how she appears to be aging in reverse. Natalie is also the creator and host of the top ranking podcast Leveling Up Creating Everything from Nothing.
Dec 19, 2018

This call is about the importance of soothing and nurturing ourselves so we feel safe. Caller, Sally, doesn’t feel motivated and wants guidance on how to break the pattern of feeling down. When we feel safe, we automatically feel more creative and relaxed. We have the opportunity to restore and replenish ourselves and when we feel safe, we are also able to process and heal wounds and traumas.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode171]

When we are in a state of stress, it’s hard to feel productive and it’s hard to feel safe. When we live a life where we don’t feel happy, safe, and relaxed or if we have unprocessed trauma in our past, we tend to be more in our sympathetic nervous system. The sympathetic nervous system is the part that actives our fight, flight, or freeze response.

When your sympathetic nervous system is overactive, the fear centers of your brain become overactive and we go into survival mode and constantly release stress hormones, which inhibit our ability to think clearly. It’s very hard to get motivated when you are in a stress response.

When you calm yourself, your parasympathetic nervous system can take over. This is the nervous system that allows you to rest and digest.

Sometimes we think we strengthen the body by getting stronger and pushing but that depletes us more. We actually get stronger when we rest and restore.

Understand that your body needs to feel safe and needs TLC for you to feel productive and creative and to help you to feel the feelings you are dealing with.

If you are constantly in a stress response, it is hard to get things done. Stop doing and start being. Nurture yourself and soothe yourself. When you create a safe space inside yourself, you naturally feel more inspired to move forward in all aspects of your life.

 

Connect with like-minded people on January 3rd. For just $20 you can be part of my virtual group coaching session. It includes a guided meditation and will help you to reflect, renew and replenish yourself this season. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to sign up.

Enjoy the magic of this holiday season and get a free holiday guided meditation from me at ChristineHassler.com

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you having a hard time feeling motivated?

● Would you consider your self-care and self-nurturing process to be good?

● Were there big changes in your life you haven’t completely processed?

● Could there be trauma in your past you aren’t aware of or haven’t looked at?

 

Sally’s Question:

Sally wants to know how to feel more motivated and break through patterns of feeling down.

 

Sally’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She is depleted energetically.

● She responds emotionally to being vulnerable.

● She isn’t motivated to find work or take action.

● She has done EMDR therapy.

● She feels numb.

● She had a traumatic experience at age six.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to adopt a brainwave meditation system.

● She needs to increase her self-nurturing practices.

● She needs to give herself some TLC.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Dec 15, 2018

Ajit was born to a middle-income family in Jaipur and grew up in an extended family of 23 other people under one roof. Space and money were scarce, and so as a little boy, he dreamt of abundance.

Ajit made a decision to plant myself where he could grow. From starting as a trainee in a non-profit, he has since held various roles including as CEO of Mindvalley, Co-founder of Mindvalley Teach, Co-founder of Global Grit Institute and Co-founder of EPIC Businesses. He is also an author of the bestselling book, The Book of Coaching. His new book is Live Big which we talk about in this episode. 

Ajit has learned it is possible to create the abundant reality we want. He is passionate to share the business and productivity strategies that helped him build and grow numerous multiple million-dollar businesses. So we can ignite abundance in business and life, for all of humanity. 

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And grab your copy of Christine’s FREE holiday meditation here: https://christinehassler.com/holiday
Dec 12, 2018

This call is about sorting through emotional traffic and protecting yourself energetically. If you feel like an empath or a sensitive person, chances are you are someone who has emotional intelligence and is impacted by the energy and emotions of others. If family members or friends call you sensitive or over-dramatic, this episode with Tiffany provides guidance on how to deal with your empathic gift.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode170]

When empaths or highly-sensitive people are flooded with other people’s emotions, it’s like traffic that slows us down. It can make us more triggerable, and it takes us longer to see clearly what is truly triggering us. We have to get out of traffic emotionally. We do that by processing our own feelings and by setting emotional boundaries. So, we can be compassionate with people but not sympathetic.

The more we can be in compassion, not sympathy, the more we can keep our emotional immune system up and be emotionally healthy. If highly-sensitive people don’t process their own emotions or discern what are their emotions or someone else’s, they can be highly-reactive, a.k.a. dramatic.

When we keep ourselves emotionally healthy, we are less likely to be drained by other people’s emotions. It’s important not to isolate yourself to protect yourself. Being alone is replenishing but we all need other people. Don’t fear people or connections.

It is super important to let go of the limiting belief that you think something is wrong with you. You need to update your beliefs and know that nothing is wrong with you. You need to find your tribe.

Connect with like-minded people on January 3rd. For just $20 you can be part of my virtual group coaching session. It includes a guided meditation and will help you to reflect, renew and replenish yourself this season. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to sign up.

And, as you may know, I am a Master Coach for the Primal Health Coach Certification Program, which teaches coaches how to thrive as a health and life coach. Early bird pricing for the special live event ends December 15th. Visit PrimalHealthCoach.com/austin-masterclass for everything you need to be a part of this transformational experience.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you often called out for being over-sensitive or being dramatic or reactive?

● Do you find yourself drained or triggered by people who are making choices you are not aligned with?

● Do you feel like the black sheep of your family or that no one really gets you?

● Do you tend to attract emotionally unavailable people into your life?

● Do you find solace in isolation and feel safer being alone?

● When it comes to feeling, do you have intense feelings and overwhelm and unbearable sadness?

 

Tiffany’s Question:

Tiffany is feeling lost and overwhelmed and feels like something is wrong with her. She asks for guidance on how she can embrace her empathy.

 

Tiffany’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● People tell her she is too sensitive.

● She feels she is different from her other family members.

● She is affected by other people’s actions.

● She feels things very deeply.

● She navigates through everyone else’s feelings.

● She is drawn to people who are ‘shut down.’

● She feels isolated and lonely at times.

● She is triggered by certain experiences.

● She doubts her thoughts and feelings.

● She is a people pleaser.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to protect her energy and learn how to reduce the amount of traffic on her emotional freeway.

● She needs to upgrade her spiritual hygiene and read books about being an empath.

● She needs to clean up her own unprocessed feelings.

● She should sign up for my Personal Mastery Course and attend my Spring Retreat.

● She should do the emotional release work in Expectation Hangover.

● She needs to listen to her inner voice.

● She needs to let go the belief that something is wrong with her and own her gifts.

 

Takeaways For You:

● Read books written for empaths.

● Find out what the best spiritual hygiene practices for you are.

● Don’t people-please or think you get your value from making other people feel better.

● Process and clear your emotional traffic.

● Join my Personal Mastery Course to meet like-minded people and to start meeting your tribe.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Dec 8, 2018
Listen in as Christine and her partner, Stefanos, answer listener questions about dating and relationships.  Topics discussed are: what to do when someone cheats in the relationship, how to get over the pain of being single and dating advice for introverts.
 
Resources mentioned:
 
Coaching Masterclass:
 https://www.primalhealthcoach.com/austin-masterclass/ 
Get over your break up Course:
https://christinehassler.com/love-course/
Christine’s Personal Mastery Course: https://christinehassler.com/mastery
Stefano’s Three Month Immersive Program for me: https://reclaimyourkingdom.com/
Dec 5, 2018

This call is about friendship and making friends as an adult. Today’s caller, Nicole, wants to move past a break up with a childhood friend and make trusting, intimate connections and friendships in her adult life. As adults, we have more communications strategies but we also have longer stories about what we judge as not good enough. This episode highlights the opportunities that present themselves when we feel, deal, and heal with imprints from our past.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode169]

If you are having difficulty making close, deep, and intimate friends, it isn’t about the city you live in or that you are doing personal transformation work, or you don’t have enough time. It’s because of the belief systems and old wounds you have in place.

Once you feel, deal, and heal you will naturally attract more conscious, intimate friendships. But, you have to be willing to put yourself out there.

Sometimes, friendships can be placed last on our priority list and that is a massive mistake. Because friendships are the foundation for everything else. Good friendships offer support when we are going through challenges in our intimate relationships, challenges with our partner, children, or blood-related family members. Friends can be a safe space where we can land when we need support. So, don’t put friendship last. Make time for your friends and make time for making new friends.

One of the easiest ways to go out and meet like-minded people is to put yourself in places and situations where you can meet them like my Spring Retreat. It’s a great opportunity to meet like-minded people.

 

If you missed last week’s Coaches Corner on Tips for Dealing with Loneliness this Holiday Season give it a listen and subscribe so you don’t miss this Saturday’s Love, Dating, and Relationship episode featuring Stef Sifandos. If you would like your questions answered, email Assist@ChristineHassler.com.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you have an old wound from a childhood friend or from being bullied that you are still carrying around?

● Have you completely lost sight of your fun and creative childhood? Have you gotten too serious?

● Have you given one person from your past too much power over you?

● What kind of friend are you to yourself? If you talked to your friends like you talk to yourself would you have any friends?

 

Nicole’s Question:

Nicole wants guidance on how to bring friends into her life she can trust.

 

Nicole’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She experienced a break-up with her best friend of 10 years.

● She believes she will be hurt by people she lets into her life.

● She doesn’t feel safe with other people.

● She would like more playfulness in her adult life.

● She suppresses her emotions.

● She obsesses about her previous friendships.

● She severed her ties with her creative self.

● She is tired of being a professional grown up.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to do the empty chair process from Expectation Hangover.

● She needs to write her past friend a letter about how she feels using ‘I’ language.

● She should revisit the emotional and mental sections of the Personal Mastery Course.

● She should work through her limiting beliefs.

● She should write down a description of what kind of friend she is, the kind of friend she wants to be, and then become that kind of friend to herself.

● She needs more play and silliness in her life.

 

Takeaways For You:

● Join my Personal Mastery Course to meet like-minded people and to start creating your soul family.

● Get to your ouchy, deeper belief about not being enough and find evidence to prove your limiting belief is not true.

● Do projection work. Look at the qualities you display when you are with your friends and bring those qualities forward in your life.

● If there is someone from your past that hurt you, write them a letter expressing your feelings. Send it or keep it for yourself.

 

Sponsor:

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Dec 1, 2018

In this episode, Christine explains why we feel lonely and gives you three different pathways to deal with (and overcome) loneliness this holiday season. 

Nov 28, 2018

This call is about finding the motivation to be consistent and committed to working on important projects and self-care. Today’s caller, Jenna, would like to follow through with her passion project but limiting beliefs created in during her childhood and her fear of disappointment keep her from taking action. If you can relate to a lack of motivation or self-sabotaging behavior, then you will receive a lot from this episode.

 [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode168]

We all know that taking care of ourselves and spending time investing in our dreams is important and “good” for us. So, why is it hard to actually do it? Are there enough hours in the day? Do we need a better motivation strategy? Are we just to busy with the to-dos and everyday demands of life? No. Not following through on the things that matter most has zero to do with time or obligations and 100% to do with our own internal blocks.

We often look too much at the things we want to change or how far we have to go to be healed in some way, without acknowledging and celebrating how incredibly far we’ve come.

Many people did not have an easy past. Most of your parents have not done any personal development work and raised you more from their own pain than from a truly healthy place. It’s not their fault — they were doing the best they could. But many of you missed out on some major developmental milestones because of your past and the way you were parented. So, cut yourself some slack when you run into obstacles as adults. The obstacles are there to bring awareness to the ways you need to go back and re-parent yourself.

If you had no one taking care of you and you were always taking care of other people, of course, self-care is not going to come naturally. Or, if you had the winds taken out of your sails many times, getting excited about something may come with a sense of caution because you are scared of an expectation hangover.

If you want to inspire yourself, find your why and then find a feel-good feeling to move you toward it.

Many people get lonely over the holidays, so I am bringing back my group sessions but this time I am holding them virtually on Zoom. The first group session will be held on December 3rd at 5 pm Pacific Time, 8 pm Eastern Time. No matter where you are in the world you can participate for just $20. I will be facilitating a live, guided meditation and visualization process plus we will focus on dealing with the stress and loneliness that many experience during the holidays, managing ‘shoulds’ and expectations, and setting crystal clear intentions for the new year. Sign up at ChristineHassler.com/Group or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you ‘shoulding’ all over yourself?

● Are there things you enjoy doing but getting yourself to do them is challenging?

● When you look back on your childhood, did you have one or did you have to grow up too early?

● Is it hard for you to get excited about things? But you are so terrified of disappointment or an expectation hangover that you keep your expectations and excitements low?

Jenna’s Question:

Jenna wants to know how she can show up for herself and follow through on her self-care goals.

Jenna’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She has started and stopped projects for much of her life.

● She wants to start a podcast.

● She is doesn’t know who she is.

● She felt like a chameleon growing up.

● She had a lot of expectation hangovers as a child.

● She feels alone in her motherhood journey.

● She doesn’t feel safe expressing herself.

● She has to separate herself from her negative self-talk. 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● Her why and her fear of not moving forward need to become bigger than the limiting beliefs that come up for her.

● She needs to establish her soul family and reach out to other beginner podcasters.

● She needs to expand her meetup group.

● She needs to trust that life is supporting her.

● She should revisit the emotional and mental sections of the Personal Mastery Course

Takeaways For You:

● If you are feeling blocked in your present, look to your past. There are unresolved issues, hurts, and missed developmental stages there to heal.

● Join my Personal Mastery Course to help unlock any keys from your past that are keeping you blocked.

● Find a why for your self-care and your passion project, then a feel-good feeling to go along with it.

● If fear is in your way then find something to be even more scared about.

● Talk back to the voices in your head.

● Get support in your life. You don’t have to do your passion project alone.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Nov 24, 2018
Christine shares her personal gratitude ritual and leads you through a gratitude affirmation process.  You can download her guided gratitude meditation at: https://christinehassler.com/gratitude
Nov 21, 2018

This call is about overcoming roadblocks to motivation. Desiree calls in concerned about her ability to follow through, and commit to her goals. But, in this as in most coaching sessions, we delve deeper into why she is holding herself back and suppressing her feelings. If you relate to not feeling motivated and are ready to shine your light, this episode will help you discover how to take risks and go after your dreams.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode167]

Often, when we have a parent that is hard on us or doesn’t create a safe space for us we think that not doing things will bring us safety and that feeling things is dangerous. And because of that, we miss out on being mothered. Anybody can be a mother. Mothering is more about the archetype of mother and holding a space of compassion, and nurturing. Maybe you don't need to be motivated right now, maybe what you need is some mothering.

As adults, if we expect someone else to come along and fulfill the places and the roles we yearned for from our parents, we will be waiting for a really long time. So much of our healing and growth happens when we consciously choose to be that parent that we didn't have.

The things we wish someone else would have done for us are the things we need to do for ourselves.

To celebrate Thanksgiving week here in the U.S. I have a free gratitude visualization and meditation for all of my listeners. Follow me on Instagram, @ChristineHassler and I will announce how to access it.

And, thanks to Joovv Red Light Therapy I feel a difference in my muscle recovery and joint pain. I use it every day. It also improves skin health and reduces inflammation on a cellular level.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you feeling a block to motivation or are you really just blocking your feelings?

● Did you grow up in a house where it was safe to express yourself?

● How do you express your feelings? Do you suppress your feelings and sweep them under the rug?

● Are you incredibly critical of yourself? Do you feel ashamed, insecure, or nervous when you talk to people or in a group?

 

Desiree’s Question:

Desiree gets excited about her goals but never follows through with accomplishing them. She would like to know how to be more motivated.

 

Desiree’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She has problems setting realistic goals for herself.

● She doesn’t keep her personal commitments.

● She is a people pleaser.

● She feels that if she expressed herself she will be ignored, rejected, or judged.

● She plays it safe.

● She feels shame about not being motivated enough.

● She suppresses her feelings.

● She would like an apology from her mother.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to forgive herself for judging herself for not being motivated enough.

● She needs to recognize when she is upset and use the temper tantrum and release writing techniques from Expectation Hangover.

● She needs to mother herself and give herself a feeling of safety.

● She needs to remind herself that it is OK to be vulnerable and to feel her feelings.

 

Takeaways For You:

● If you were writing the screenplay of your life, what would you as the main character need to go through, to come into your own and to have the happy ending you deserve?

● If you want some additional help join my Personal Mastery Course, the online program that includes monthly coaching calls. Grab a copy of Expectation Hangover or attend my for-women-only Spring Retreat.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Joovv Red Light Therapy

Nov 17, 2018

Christine speaks with author and workplace expert Dan Schawbel about how technology has led to increased feelings of loneliness and isolation. Listen in to surprising stats about our how our addiction to devices is de-humanizing us and get tips on how to be more connected to actual human beings!

Dan Schawbel is a New York Times bestselling author, Partner and Research Director at Future Workplace, and the Founder of both Millennial Branding and WorkplaceTrends.com. He is the bestselling author of two career books: Promote Yourself and Me 2.0. His third book, Back to Human: How Great Leaders Create Connection in the Age of Isolation, is the one we discuss on this episode.

Dan and myself are also both featured experts in the upcoming documentary “The Revolution Generation”, which is directed by Josh Tickell and narrated by actress Shailene Woodley.

Nov 14, 2018

This call is about feeling worthy and transforming the inner critic. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a ‘toxic’ relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode166]

The feeling of not-enoughness is a major human problem. Eventually, we will evolve out of this not-enoughness thinking and raise children differently so we all don’t have to have this major human epidemic. Know that by listening to this show, doing inner work and by feeding yourself the truth you are doing your part to evolve human consciousness.

Nothing outside of you can fulfill you and nothing external comes to you until you truly know that you are worthy and enough. That being said, we live in an interdependent world. And, although we cannot look to the outside world to make us happy it is important to feel connected to others and attract and nurture healthy relationships no matter where we are in our journey.

The brain may confuse familiarity with love because it was wired from an early age to make love an equation. Many learn that if they act a certain way they will get love. Conditional love can feel familiar. But, worthiness is not conditional. 

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you struggle with not feeling enough?

● Have you ever had a ‘toxic’ relationship?

● Do you doubt that the people in your life really love you and see you? Do you fear that you will not measure up in some way?

● Is there a fierce inner critic that lives inside your head? And, even though you know you should be nicer to yourself you can’t seem to change your self-talk?

 

Elizabeth’s Question:

Elizabeth is searching for some daily mantras or actions that will make her feel enough and worthy.

 

Elizabeth’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She is having difficulty connecting her intellect with her heart.

● She feels not enough and that her life is pointless.

● She verbalizes the chaos she feels in her mind.

● She was in an eight-year ‘toxic’ relationship.

● She has ‘love’ attached to feeling a certain way.

● She has trouble quieting her inner critic.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to be in the present moment and feel her feelings.

● She needs to stop and breathe when her mind starts racing.

● She needs to realize that nothing is wrong with her. She is human.

● She needs to forgive herself for confusing familiarity with love.

● She needs to give her inner critic a new job description.

● She needs to do release writing when her inner critic is bratty.

 

Takeaways For You:

● If you struggle with not-enoughness, when you feel it coming on, stop and think that you are hungry for the truth. And then, feed yourself some truth. 

● Watch your language and watch what you are affirming.

● Slow down! Drop in and breathe.

● Give things you want to shift a new job description and a new role.

● If you want some additional help join my Personal Mastery Course, the online program that includes monthly coaching calls. Grab a copy of Expectation Hangover or attend my for-women-only Spring Retreat.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Nov 10, 2018

In this episode, Christine talks through why vulnerability is so important to healthy relationships and how to do it in a safe way.  Vulnerability creates more authenticity in our lives which leads to deeper connections and greater intimacy.  

Nov 7, 2018

This call is about being willing and committed to truly healing past trauma. The caller, Cori, asks how to process her trauma in a way that doesn’t make her feel more traumatized. If any of you are feeling this way and want to understand how to process your past without fear and crying all the time, I think you will appreciate this episode. And, if trauma has been part of your past listen to this episode in a calm space where you can really take it in.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode165]

Releasing pain and going through the process of healing is hard sometimes because we are finally giving ourselves permission to feel all the feelings that we didn’t get to feel at the time. We don't have to re-traumatize ourselves.

When more and more people speak openly about the trauma they have experienced, more of us are activated or triggered to remember our own trauma. When we dive into personal development work, we need to wear a seatbelt and sometimes we go a little too fast and sometimes we attempt to process things on our own. It can be overwhelming. It’s important to reach out and ask for guidance from a professional.

Often times, if we have experienced a lot of trauma, especially, abuse, our worthiness takes a hit and we identify with an addiction to suffering because we think that is what we deserve. But, individuals who have experienced the most pain in their past often have the biggest purposes, the biggest hearts, the biggest capacity to be healers. Know that there is a purpose to your pain and know that it doesn’t have to live inside of you.

Willingness and commitment to the healing process are all you need to get momentum started. You don’t need to know the ‘how.’ When dealing with trauma or major issues from our past, we can’t know the ‘how’ on our own. We are not supposed to. There are so many personal development resources. There are online products and online courses on my site. They are very useful and they can help people overcome a lot. I recommend working with a qualified and skillful practitioner to release traumatic experiences is not only important, but it is also imperative.

Reminders: The Spring Retreat for women in March is filling up. If you would like more information email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. My Personal Mastery Course is online and to help you co-create your life AND there is one personal coaching client space available. There are only 8 spaces per year available for personal coaching directly from me. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you doing a lot of personal development work but it’s beginning to feel overwhelming?

● Do you feel this life that you are dreaming of but your current reality is so far from it you don’t think it is ever going to happen?

● Are you terrified of actually feeling your feelings because you feel you may never get to the other side of it?

● When you do feel your feelings is there an inner judgment that comes up that analyzes and reacts so your feelings aren’t honored?

 

Cori’s Question:

Cori is looking for guidance about how not to be re-traumatized when she does personal development work to break the cycle of shame that started during her traumatic childhood.

 

Cori’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She is the feeling feelings that may have been tucked away for a long time.

● She has fear about releasing her feelings.

● She feels alone and isolated when she re-processes her trauma.

● She wants to be relaxed and comfortable in her body.

● She wants to feel secure in her life.

● She had some friendships dissolve over the summer.

● She is scared she won’t ever get the things she really wants.

● She has a comfort zone with pain and suffering.

● She is willing to heal and deal.

● She is worthy and deserving and there is nothing wrong with her.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to work with skilled practitioners.

● She needs to be willing to let herself fall apart.

● She needs to quiet down the internal Judger in her head and let compassion take over.

● She needs to reach out to a family member and ask for help.

● She needs to tell herself she is safe.

 

Takeaways For You:

● Consider if you have an addiction to suffering. If so, are you willing to break it?

● Get help. Get guidance. Ask for help and then express your emotions from a place of compassion.

● Find a way to connect to the part of you that knows it is not broken. You are worthy, and whole, and complete, and lovable.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Nov 3, 2018
Sadie Lincoln is the co-founder and CEO of barre3, a fitness company focused on teaching people to be balanced in body and empowered from within. Starting in 2008 with the flagship studio in Portland, Oregon, barre3 has grown to include more than 140 franchise studios powered by female entrepreneurs, plus an online-workout streaming-subscriber base in 98+ countries. What started as a workout has blossomed into a full-blown movement made up of millions of people focused on body positivity, being empowered, and redefining what success in fitness means.

 

Sadie is on Inc.'s Female Founders 100 list, has been featured on NPR's How I Built This, and speaks regularly on the topics of mindful leadership, the power of body wisdom, and the movement to redefine what success in fitness means. Beyond running her company and being a global spokesperson, Sadie still enjoys teaching barre3 classes to many of her founding clients in her hometown of Portland, Oregon.

Oct 31, 2018

This call is about releasing pain and leaning into spirituality. The caller, Mel, is asking the existential questions about the purpose of life and why we are here. Many people ask themselves these same questions and it is important for us all to discover our own spiritual path and beliefs. If we believe that our soul traverses multiple lifetimes, part of the reason we come back is to evolve out of pain.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode164]

A lot of spiritual experiences actually provide the answers to those existential questions and they happen after a big emotional release of some kind.

We spend so much energy suppressing our pain when actually feeling it, healing it, and releasing it is the doorway into the spiritual experiences that answer the question of why the pain is there in the first place. Pain takes a lot of energy to suppress and reinforces the illusion that we are meant to suffer.

If you are suppressing your pain, it’s like being in a dark room with all the curtains closed. There are sunshine and light out in the world but you are not aware of it because you are in the darkness of your own shame and pain. How we start to let the light in and open the curtains is to start processing our pain.

Sometimes we get way too complicated about ‘what's our purpose?’ and ‘why are we here?’ What if it is just as simple as to enjoy being in a human body and to evolve our consciousness?

Leaps of faith often involve a little bit of a freefall. The only way to experience the sweetness of surrender is to fully let go.

Reminders: The Spring Retreat for women is filling up. If you would like more information email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. My Personal Mastery Course is online and to help you co-create your life, the Over It and On With It Journal is available now and comes with 12 manifesting meditations.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you questioning the purpose of life?

● Do you know why you are here? Do you know who you are?

● Are you frustrated with the way the world is and works?

● Did you grow up with a critical parent?

● Do you feel like you are suppressing pain?

Mel’s Question:

Living with the existential uncertainties has caused her pain. She wants to know how to live with the dread that has ruled her life.

Mel’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● Her mother is critical of her.

● She doesn’t know what to believe in.

● She is missing ‘connection’ in her life.

● She looks through the lens of criticism for everything.

● She gets angry about a lack of guidance.

● She feels alone.

● She is a sensitive and intuitive person.

● She can feel herself softening.

● She feels genuinely hopeful.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to reignite her magical connection to the universe.

● She needs to be the fullest expression of herself.

● She needs to allow herself to feel compassion.

● She would benefit from attending the Spring Retreat.

● She needs to get out of her head and into her body.

● She needs to move into self-acceptance.

● She needs to do emotional release work.

● It is time for her to find her tribe.

Takeaways For You:

● Where do you have the curtains shut in your life?

● Reflect on what your purpose truly is. Consider that your purpose could be born out of your passion.

● Get your pain and emotions out. Use the emotional section of Expectation Hangover, come to the Spring Retreat, do the Personal Mastery Course. Do something to get the emotions out.

● Let it go and hand it over.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Oct 27, 2018
Are you a mystic?   Do you feel a calling toward something bigger? Have you had experiences that you cannot possibly describe or define with your “rational” mind?  

Dr. Matt Kreinheder joins me today on coaches corner to answer these questions.  He is is a transformational healer, speaker, coach, and author of the book: Awakening the Mystic. Dr. Matt has a doctorate in chiropractic, a master's degree in acupuncture and has professionally written for publications all over the globe.

He has been trained at the highest level of Network Spinal Analysis and mentored under Donny Epstein, one of the world’s most renowned healers. Dr. Matt’s helps entrepreneurs and high performers step into the next level of who their soul is calling them to be.

Learn more about Dr. Matt and get his book here:  https://www.drmattk.com/

Oct 24, 2018

This call is about self-love and overcoming self-induced judgments. Anneke calls in for guidance about how she can start being her true self. She vulnerably opens up about the fear that comes up when she compares herself to others and her feelings of loneliness. We cover a lot of ground in this session including how she can make a transition into full, authentic self-expression. This is the very first coaching episode of this podcast that originally aired on Oct 22, 2015.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode163]

Not being who we are can be suffocating and it causes us to do things that don’t create any kind of joy or fulfillment in our lives. We create conditions so we don’t have to show up fully because we are suppressing who we really are.

Often, what we think is protecting us, isn’t. The things you have created to protect yourself are not wrong. In fact, they have served you. So, as you break patterns and move more into the expression of who you truly are, thank them, come to peace with them. It never ceases to amaze me how just being honest and real with our true feelings creates shifts.

And, let go of the judgment about loneliness; it’s not being alone that makes you lonely, it’s what you tell yourself about being alone that makes you lonely.

Remember, we get to choose who we are and not being who we are can be suffocating. We are not defined by other people’s views of us. We are all born with natural gifts from the divine. It’s up to us to embrace them and use them.

To celebrate this podcast’s 3rd year anniversary, there is a contest to win a free one-on-one, 30-min PRIVATE coaching session with me. If you want to win, search for the Over It and On With It podcast on iTunes and leave a rating and review. Take a screenshot of the review and then enter your name, email and add the screenshot of the review on ChristineHassler.com/Anniversary. There are prizes for the 2nd and 3rd place winners, also.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you feel like you are really living authentically?

● Are you fully expressing who you are or are you being a version of yourself?

● Do you struggle with loneliness?

● Are you in touch with your emotions?

● Are you concerned about what other people think of you? Could it be stopping you from fully expressing yourself or making a choice in life?

● Are you a people pleaser?

Anneke’s Question:

Anneke is about to make a big career change and would like to know how to be open and honest about who she really is and to shift from her pattern of keeping herself small and not seen.

Anneke’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She sugarcoats her difficult emotions.

● She doesn’t want to be a burden on others.

● Loneliness has been her friend because it’s when she gives herself a break.

● It’s OK for other people not to like it when she is her authentic self.

● Recognizing she is staying in her comfort zone because those emotions are familiar.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She should take actions to trust yourself and be consistently authentic.

● She shouldn’t compare herself to other people.

● She should be willing to remember the essence of who she truly is.

● Invite spirit into your space.

● Practice self-forgiveness.

● Don’t be defined by what other people have told you about you.

Assignments For You:

● Write out who you are — what is your unique essence? Then, for 30 days get in front of a mirror and make “I am” statements with your answers.

● Pick 2-3 people to practice intimacy and authenticity with.

● Write this sentence: “Sometimes I pretend I am (fill in the blank) but I am not.”

● Write a thank you letter to loneliness for giving you time alone.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Esther Perel’s Where Should We Begin? Podcast

Oct 20, 2018
This is a deeply personal episode for me . . . I get personal, I am sharing someone with you who means a great deal to me personally and we are talking about a topic I am deeply passionate about: sexual healing. 
 
Dr. Heike Joy Hudson, who I have worked with as a healer and teacher, joins me for a very intimate and important conversation.  
 

Heike’s work is dedicated to those who are ready to release guilt, shame and trauma around their bodies and sexuality to become confident, empowered, happy and radiant EMBODIED PEOPLE! 

Dr. Heike Hudson is a Doctor of Naturopathy, clinical sexologist, and one of San Diego’s preeminent somatic healers, relationship coaches, and the founder of The Embodied Woman.
 

Both naturopathic doctor and healer, Heike has understood for decades what the medical community is only now cluing into: the issue is in the tissue. Too often have women been in their heads and neglected the wisdom of their bodies. It is Heike’s staunch knowing that only when we tap into our physical bodies can we release the traumas and wounds that hold us back from having a fully sovereign and fulfilling life. 

Heike’s genius lies in helping women navigate through their feminine and masculine energies to bring about harmony so that they can have a real shot at true and lasting love. Together with her highly attuned husband, Jonathan, in their business, Sextraordinary Living, Heike is in service to a new relationship paradigm, including the highest expression of love and conscious sex! 

Learn more here:  http://sextraordinaryliving.com/

Oct 17, 2018

If you have a passion, a calling, or a gift you want to share with the world but you can’t seem to get it started or make a living at it, then you will love this episode. Today’s caller, Layla, has a passion for music and would like guidance on how to share her gift fully with the world. We decode the major block that commonly gets in the way of sharing one’s gifts with the world.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode162]

If you have dreams, gifts to share, or a deep calling, do not give up. That calling, dream, or gift is there for a reason. Your gifts are not random. They are there for your enjoyment and for your expression. It’s important for our soul and emotional well-being to feel like we are expressing our gifts and passions in some way.

If you are feeling stuck, consider how your gifts or the things you love may have some negative experiences attached. Maybe when you were expressing your gifts as a kid it was a way to soothe yourself in your chaotic environment. Maybe you were teased for expressing your gifts or being yourself. Maybe your gifts made you feel different so it brought about a sense of separation. Or maybe because of your gifts and your passions you felt or still feel like a bit of a black sheep in your family and you are terrified that if you fully express it you will be ostracized.

Your soul knows exactly what you are here to do and how to make it happen. Your body, your cell memory, and your unconscious mind are just a bit scared because of your past trauma or challenges. So, to fully step into your purpose and gift, update your belief and make it safe to express them.

To celebrate this podcast’s 3rd year anniversary, there is a contest to win a free one-on-one, 30-min PRIVATE coaching session with me. If you want to win, search for the Over It and On With It podcast on iTunes and leave a rating and review. Take a screenshot of the review and then enter your name, email and add the screenshot of the review on ChristineHassler.com/Anniversary. There are prizes for the 2nd and 3rd place winners also.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you know what you want to do but you just can’t seem to make a living at it?

● Are you working for a paycheck but you’d rather be making money sharing your gifts with the world?

● Did you grow up in an environment where you had to parent yourself?

● Would you say you are a bit of a self-help junkie, going from person to person and changes stick for a while but then you backtrack?

 

Layla’s Question:

Layla has been chasing a dream but feels she has lost her way. She wants guidance on how to live fully into her potential.

 

Layla’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She’s a musician and an artist.

● She is a sensitive person.

● She has rejection and abandonment issues.

● She grew up in a toxic environment.

● She used her music as a way to cope.

● She’s done a lot of self-help work but regresses.

● She never felt as if she had a parent.

● She doesn’t feel safe.

● Her puppy has shown her what unconditional love is.

● She believed she wasn’t worthy.

● She has an upper limits issue.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to realize that she needs to go through the healing phase before she can shine her light.

● She should re-parent herself.

● She should investigate somatic, EMDR, and tapping therapies.

● She needs to re-negotiate the agreements she has made with herself.

● She needs to create a new physiological response at times when she feels scared.

 

Assignments For You:

● Explore your gifts. Think about the things you really loved to do in your childhood.

● Make it safe for yourself to express your gifts. Be kind and patient with yourself.

● Instigate behavioral changes. Start expressing and putting yourself out there.

● If you feel unsafe or nervous, put one hand on your chest, one hand on your belly. Take three deep breaths and repeat “I’m safe. I’m safe. It’s safe for me to express. It’s safe for me to be me. I’m safe.”

 

Sponsors:

Express — No time for an outfit change after work? Express rewrites the rules of dressing for a job, with style by delivering fashion-forward essentials to your door. Express has pants, worktops, dresses, and more. Listeners to Over It and On With It will receive $25 off when you spend $100 by using the code ‘4843’ during in-store or online checkout.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Oct 13, 2018

As she rose up the ranks to star status in the fitness industry, Patricia Moreno found herself trapped in a vicious cycle of body consciousness, resorting to extreme exercise and dieting to maintain her appearance. She thought, “Here I am, doing all of these crazy things behind the scenes and preaching exercise and diet—and it's not working for me.” 

Recognizing at rock-bottom that there must be millions of people suffering just like her and thinking it was their fault, Moreno realized she wanted to find a way to help people train the body as a vehicle, not just an ornament.

Her mission to reshape the fitness industry led her to create the intenSati Method, the first program to combine positive affirmations with physical training—and the concept of Spiritual Fitness. Moreno knows how crucial it is to consider the power of mind, heart and spirit in our workouts because the body is going to change shape over our lifetime, and our relationship to it needs to evolve, as well.

Thousands of instructors have trained with Moreno to learn and teach intenSati and her revolutionary approach has elevated her to the realm of internationally renowned fitness and wellness experts, earning acclaim from celebrities and media attention from O, The Oprah Magazine; Vogue; Shape; Well + Good; the Today Show and Good Morning America.

Oct 10, 2018

This coaching session is about the need for love and connection. Whether or not you struggle in your relationship with food like Christina does, what we really end up talking about is how loneliness and a lack of love can lead us to fill ourselves up with other things. I also explain how stress can increase the appetite making it harder to have a healthy relationship with food.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode161]

Feeling alone, disconnected, and isolated is a very stressful thing. When we feel truly connected, seen, and loved we also feel safe. This regulates our hormones and gets us out of ‘fight or flight.’

When we fully understand our brain chemistry we can work to not be so hard on ourselves and understand it may be more than just a lack of willpower. If you have too much cortisol being released in your system because you are stressed, your body thinks that it is in danger so it increases your appetite which increases your motivation to eat. Instead of using your will to combat what is happening hormonally in your brain, use your will to create better chemicals in your brain.

Growth is a process, not an event. Yes, you will have aha moments, read a book, do a workshop, have a healing that causes massive shifts. But, sometimes the issues you have been working on for years come back. I stand with you and believe that anything is possible, I believe in miracles, I believe you could be free of something that has plagued you for years AND I also stand with you in support that if there has been something that has plagued you for decades and you are not ‘free’ of it yet, you will be. But, the more you judge yourself and the more pressure you put on yourself the more your issue will hang on. So, let go of that frustration.

Do you put enough time and energy into forming strong, intimate, loving, and connected bonds with people?

In honor of Mental Health Day, last week’s Coaches Corner deals with depression and anxiety. I share tips on how you can support people in your life who may be dealing with it. Listen to the podcast and get a free gift to help you move through emotions, not recycle them. To get the gift go to ChristineHassler.com/emotions

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● What is your relationship with food or other substances?

● Do you feel balanced and believe you have a healthy relationship with food, alcohol, sugar or any other substance or do you have a tendency to binge?

● Do you look to food or drinks to make you feel a certain way or to numb you completely?

● Have you struggled with weight for a lot of your life?

● Are you aware that you binge eat or overeat but you just can’t seem to shift it?

● Do you feel intimately connected to a lot of people in your life? Do you have a soul family?

 

Christina’s Question:

Christina would like guidance on how to heal the relationship between her, her way of eating, and her body.

 

Christina’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She has been binge eating since she was young.

● A teacher told her she could lose weight.

● There was not a lot of love in her household.

● She’s connected binge eating with love.

● Intimacy can be scary for her.

● She’s working more on being comfortable with herself.

● She’s working on forgiving her mother.

● She is often lonely.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to be open to the love, support, and compassion she received when she is vulnerable with others.

● She should work on making herself feel full through connection instead of food.

● When she has the desire to binge, she should stand in front of a mirror, breathe, and search for connection within herself.

● Or, when she has the desire to binge, she can look at a picture of herself as a little girl and feel the connection.

 

Assignments For You:

● Go out and connect your soul family. Do whatever it takes. Consider attending my Spring Retreat in March.

● If you have a pattern of binge eating or overeating, ask yourself what are you really hungry for.

● Use a mirror to connect intimately with yourself.

 

Sponsors:

Express — No time for an outfit change after work? Express rewrites the rules of dressing for a job, with style by delivering fashion-forward essentials to your door. Express has pants, worktops, dresses, and more. Listeners to Over It and On With It will receive $25 off when you spend $100 by using the code ‘4843’ during in-store or online checkout.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Oct 6, 2018

Inspired by many listener questions and national mental health day on Oct 10th, Christine shares her personal journey with overcoming depression and managing anxiety in this episode. She offers insight on what causes depression and/or anxiety as well as tips for better mental health.

 

To access the free gift from this episode go here:

christinehassler.com/emotions

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