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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Now displaying: February, 2021
Feb 27, 2021

Listen in as Christine discusses why growth can be so painful, why the pain is not “bad”, ways to decrease the pain, and why the pain is NOT necessary for growth.

  

Link to blog/podcast she mentions:

https://christinehassler.com/2018/03/do-you-have-enough-

Feb 24, 2021

This call is about letting go of worry and anxiety. Today’s caller, Lara, has a lot of worry and anxiety when it comes to her kids. She would like guidance on how to tame it and not have it impact her children. When we let worry get the best of us, not only are we raising cortisol levels in our bodies, which is bad for our health, but we are moving out of our resourced state where we have access to intellect and intuition.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode285]

 

When we have a lot of worry and anxiety, it doesn’t do us any good. We become good at imagining worst-case scenarios but the heightened sense of anxiety puts us in the amygdala part of our brain — the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. When we are in that part of our brain, we are not thinking clearly; we are not well resourced. When it comes to keeping ourselves safe and protecting ourselves, being prepared allows us to relax because we have a plan in place.

 

We need to learn to channel the worry into something else — into being productive, being prepared, or deepening our spiritual practice.

 

There is a certainty we get from physical world reality, control, and from seeing things. And, there is a certainty we get from faith. Unfortunately, for most of us, our certainty muscle is based on control. That muscle is much stronger than our faith muscle. Having faith in the universe, higher power, God, or whatever resonates with you, is key in letting go of anxiety and letting go of attachment. Because if there is not something bigger than you that you trust, you will always be addicted to control. You will feel like you have to have your hands on the steering wheel of life at all times. It will be hard to let go. This is why surrender is important.

 

Surrender isn’t about giving up. It is about letting go. It’s about relaxing into the knowing that there is a higher power taking care of you and taking care of the people you love.

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com March 19–21, 2021

 

We are creating a Relationship Retreat. It will be a 3-day virtual event. Get on the interest list to find out more and receive the early bird discount at ChristineHassler.com/relationshipsupport.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you love people so much you just want to hang on to them tightly and often control what they’re doing?
  • Do you worry about the people in your life and you feel better when they’re in your sight? Do you have a hard time letting them go?
  • Are you a parent who is struggling with the balance of giving your kids freedom, not wanting to project your anxiety on them, but also worrying if you don’t, something bad is going to happen?
  •  As a child did you feel safe? Did you feel like all your needs were met? Did you feel like you had a parent that made you feel calm and resourced or do you have more of an anxious-attachment style?

 

Lara’s Question:

Lara feels stuck in a cycle of anxiety and does not want it to negatively impact her children.

 

Lara’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has anxiety.
  • She tends to control situations.
  • Her children are becoming independent.
  • She had chaos in her childhood.
  • Her mother was the nervous type.
  • She worries and does not trust that things will be OK.
  • She has an anxious attachment style with her children.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Trust and have faith that her children are protected.
  • Join the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Allow her mother’s intuition to guide her actions.
  • Greet her anxiety with love and remember it is just her inner child.
  • Start a meditation and mindfulness practice.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • Make your inner child feel safe. Let them know you are there for them.
  • Trust your intuition.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

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Feb 20, 2021

Luke Storey is a motivational speaker, kundalini yoga and meditation teacher, world-class biohacker, host of The Life Stylist Podcast, and founder of the world’s premier online fashion school for stylists, School of Style which he founded in 2008.

Luke’s spent the past twenty-three years developing and refining the ultimate wellness lifestyle, based on the most transformative principles of primal health and ancient spiritual practices, while at the same time embracing the most cutting-edge natural healing and consciousness expanding technologies. He has tenaciously applied the results of his field research and used them to not only completely transform his own life but also the lives of thousands of fans and followers through his various media channels and speaking engagements.

As a transformational speaker and entrepreneur, Luke continues to share his strategies for healing and happiness through his innovative and highly effective Lifestyle Design teachings, his Youtube channel, and his wildly popular podcast.

You can learn more about Luke here www.lukestorey.com

Feb 17, 2021

This call is about making self-honoring choices. Today’s caller, Elena, has separated from her husband after being co-dependent for many years. She is uncertain how to move forward because she isn’t clear about who she is. She asks for guidance about what to do next. This is an important call for those who feel they have lost themselves in a relationship or job.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode284]

 

When you are trying to make an important decision, from getting a divorce to having a child, to moving to a new city or quitting your job, you need to start on the inside first. Look at where you are in the situation. Ask yourself if you want the job? Do you want the marriage to work? Are you scared to speak your feelings? What is underneath the surface feelings?

 

For most people, limbo feels safe because you don’t have to make a choice. But, what is safe for most of us is what is familiar. Usually what is familiar doesn’t leave any opportunity for change or breakthrough. When you are in limbo, not moving in any direction, there are no possibilities. There is only more of the same.

 

When we know who we are and we practice honoring choices, not selfish choices, clarity becomes a lot easier. Because we can say, “This is a yes. This is in alignment with my most authentic self. I’m not coming from a place of hurt or from my childhood wounding. I’m not looking for love or validation outside of me.” It becomes much easier to make decisions.

 

Everyone has the tools to love themselves and figure out who they are. If you are in a human body with a mind, a soul, and a heart you have the tools. You may need someone to help you use the tools but you have the tools.

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com March 19–21, 2021

 

We are creating a Relationship Retreat. It will be a 3-day virtual event. Get on the interest list to find out more and receive the early bird discount at ChristineHassler.com/relationshipsupport.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel you have forgotten who you are or lost who you are?
  • Do you feel like within a marriage, being a parent, in a job, or friendship you have sacrificed your own identity?
  • Are you in limbo about a big decision and terrified to make the change?
  • Do you feel lost when it comes to getting support or asking for help?

 

Elena’s Question:

Elena would like to find herself after losing herself in a co-dependent, long-term relationship.

 

Elena’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She had been with her husband since the age of 14 until separating three years ago.
  • She was co-dependent during her marriage.
  • He had an emotional affair with someone else.
  • The couple tried therapy.
  • She is afraid to make a move.
  • She lacks the confidence to make a change.
  • She needs to put herself first.
  • She grew up with old-school Italian values.
  • Her mother divorced her father at her same age.
  • Her temper goes quickly from one to 100.
  • She likes to make people happy.
  • She feels she needs to earn love.
  • She doesn't know how to be.
  • She is in Personal Mastery.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Create some space to find out who she is.
  • Be self-honoring and choose self-love.
  • Realize she does not have to please people for them to love her.
  • Journal to help process her feelings.
  • Focus on the relationship she has with herself.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • Get support. Reach out for help.
  • Form clear boundaries about what is not working for you, get clear about who you are and step into self-love.
  • Join Personal Mastery.
  • Be gentle with yourself. Stop telling yourself all the reasons you cannot do something and collect evidence for how you can.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Feb 13, 2021

Sahara Rose is an ancient soul in a modern body. She has been called “a leading voice for the millennial generation into the new paradigm shift” by Deepak Chopra, who wrote the foreword of her books. She is the best-selling author of Eat Feel Fresh, Idiot's Guide to Ayurveda, A Yogic Path, her new book Discover Your Dharma. She also hosts the Highest Self Podcast, the #1 spirituality podcast on iTunes, and founder of Rose Gold Goddesses, the sacred sisterhood collective.

Feb 10, 2021

This call is about worst-case scenario thinking. Today’s caller, Kate, is always waiting for the other shoe to drop because of chaos in her childhood. She has never felt safe. If you find yourself at a point where life is smooth and good but you keep waiting for something to happen and then judge yourself for having negative thoughts, this show will offer you solid guidance.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode283]

 

Often, when people are in personal development, they learn from their suffering. There is an unconscious belief that they learn and grow from challenge or loss. But, while those things can be awakenings to growth, we must choose to learn and grow. We don’t need loss and hardship to motivate us, inspire us to grow, or evolve our souls.

 

Often, when we are worried the other shoe is going to drop, the fears coming up are our inner child trying to communicate with us. The body and emotions are often the language of the inner child, of our subconscious mind. So, pay attention to those, and instead of trying to get rid of them, ask them what they need.

 

It is not our thoughts that attract things to us. It is our feelings and our frequency. Gratitude is a great frequency to move us out of anxiety or obsessive thinking. Moving into gratitude and truly feeling it is so much better than distraction.

 

If you have fears of manifesting your bad thoughts, remember that the percentage of time you spend in the present and in gratitude is probably greater than the percentage of time you spend worrying. Worrying just feels more intense because it is intense and uncomfortable when you do it. Take comfort that it will be okay.

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com March 19–21, 2021

 

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Did you have a childhood where you couldn’t really relax, there was a lot of uncertainty, or everything was going fine and then a shoe dropped and you find yourself constantly waiting for the other one to drop?
  • Have you done a lot of work on yourself? Are things going really well but you feel you can’t trust it?
  • Do you fear that your fear about things going badly will manifest bad things?
  • Do you feel you have a deep connection to your inner child and they feel safe?

 

Kate’s Question:

Kate would like guidance around why, when things are going well, she fears something is going to go wrong.

 

Kate’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is at a great place in her life.
  • She often expects the worst.
  • She fears she is going to sabotage herself.
  • She has done personal development work.
  • She spends more time in fear than joy.
  • Her father was unpredictable and angry.
  • Her sister was often sick.
  • She didn’t feel safe as a child.
  • She wants to be more spontaneous.
  • She uses distraction as a coping strategy.
  • She believed challenges were a path to growth.
  • She does not need to suffer to learn and grow.
  • She will pay attention to the voice of her inner child.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Reassure her inner child and put one hand on her belly and one on her heart and say “I am safe” when she has fear about something going wrong.
  • Journal about how learning through challenge is over.
  • Move into acceptance, soothe her inner child, and make a conscious decision to choose gratitude.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Practice the 3-step process. Acceptance, reassurance of safety, and gratitude.
  • Vow that you can evolve through choice, not challenge.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show

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Feb 6, 2021

Hayden Dawes is a licensed social worker whose practice experience includes hospital social work, mental health, and addiction treatment, in addition to people involved in the legal system. Although grounded in relational-experiential approaches to mental health treatment, Hayden has been trained in advanced trauma modalities and remains curious about all forms of mental health treatments. Hayden is currently a Ph.D. student at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill’s School of Social Work.  His research is in examining the psychosocial challenges impacting people of color and LGBTQIA+ individuals. He is also interested in seeking advanced methods to intervene on providers’ implicit and explicit biases. In response to racial injustice within the mental health practitioner community, Hayden wrote an article that was featured on Medium titled “An Invitation to White Therapists” it has since been widely used in direct practice education, consultation, and supervision. Hayden currently resides in Greensboro NC with his partner of 10 years. Hayden is an avid crossfitter, traveler, dance partner, and reality-tv specialist. During the COVID pandemic, Hayden expanded his personal “radical permission”practice to create a #radicalpermission project for the greater community across social media platforms, to encourage people to set intentions with grace.  

Feb 3, 2021

This call is about feeling safe and feeling enough. Today’s caller, Jessie, has been struggling with childhood trauma and is self-soothing by buying things she doesn’t need. Any of you who struggle with not-enoughness, or have been labeled as having ADD, or are not sure if you have dealt with your childhood trauma, this is a great episode for you.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode282]

 

The unconscious drives about 90-95% of our behavior. We come from our past trauma or our limiting beliefs until we reach a point where we are aware of it and choose and attract something differently.

 

Often, people who struggle with low self-worth or of not-enoughness are constantly trying to compensate by doing, talking, and proving. They are not great at reaching out for support because there is a level of trauma that still is running the show. There comes a point when trauma becomes part of our learning and part of the things that helped us grow and part of the things that have evolved our soul but before it gets there it becomes the thing to create our reality until we shift it.

 

For coaches and therapists, when you have a client who seems to dart around and doesn’t land on one thing for very long, it indicates that they just don’t feel safe, and feeling safe is everything.

 

Remember, we attract at the level of our issues until we heal those and move into a different frequency.

 

Connecting to your inner child is February’s topic for the Virtual Group Coaching Call on February 11, 2021. $20 is all it costs to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com March 19–21, 2021

 

Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you shop too much or have some kind of behavior you know is not healthy but you just can’t stop yourself from doing it?
  • Do you struggle with feeling not enough?
  • Do you have a lot of childhood trauma or chaos you have done your best to cope with but don’t know if you are totally free?
  • Have you and do you accept all parts of yourself?

 

Jessie’s Question:

Jesse struggles with childhood trauma and not-enoughness. She wants to feel safe and enough.

 

Jessie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She buys things she feels will make her look a certain way.
  • Her mother is overly critical.
  • She self-soothes with shopping.
  • She doesn’t feel safe.
  • She lost her brother and her dad early in life.
  • She has been labeled as having ADD.
  • She lived in fear as a child due to her dad’s abusiveness.
  • She has done talk therapy.
  • She is overwhelmed when she has to do adult things.
  • She feels alone.
  • There was chaos in her childhood.
  • Her nervous system is delicate.
  • She is trying to handle too much at once.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Grieve the relationship she hasn’t had.
  • Invoke the loving mother inside herself.
  • Stop judging herself for doing something she is trying to transform.
  • Stop dating for a while.
  • Find a source for trauma or somatic therapy with whom she feels safe.
  • Understand there is nothing wrong with her.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • Ask your body, which is connected to your inner child, what it needs?
  • If you are a parent, one of the best things you can do is do your own work. Invest in yourself. If you are a great parent to your inner child, you will be a better parent to your own child.
  • Join the inner child workshop.
  • Seek out support and get help.
  • Sign up for the group call or join the Inner Child Workshop.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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