Aug 29, 2018
This coaching session is about sexuality and freedom of sexual expression. Frankie feels shame about who he truly is and who he is attracted to. Shame is one of the most painful feelings we experience as humans because it reinforces the illusion of separation, makes us feel like we don’t belong and can’t be who we truly are. It reinforces doubts about self-worth because we think there is something wrong with us that we need to hide or keep secret. So, if shame is something you deal with in any aspect of your life I encourage you to be present as you watch or listen to this episode. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode155] To shift and heal shame it is necessary to bring judgments and secrets out into the light. Talk about them, and share them. You can’t free yourself from shame sitting in your house alone journaling. You have to speak to people about it. Have the courage to share what is true for you. Self-express, take a risk and even if you are judged — no more hiding. Filling ourselves up with love and compassion will allow us not to take things personally when we are judged for being who we are. When other people judge, ridicule, or shame us it is out of their own self-protection. Their own unresolved issues are being triggered. It comes out as mean, aggressive energy. Don’t personalize it. The more you personalize it the more it reinforces shame. Greet it with compassion and find your tribe of people who do accept you. And, we have a lot we need to heal and shift when it comes to sexuality, sexual expression, and the freedom to love who we want to love. In times when you feel ashamed or alone, elevate your perspective and look at the divine assignment from a higher altitude. It’s a bog mission to shift the collective. The more people who shift these paradigms with love the more they are going to shift. People light up when shame is lifted! If you want to overcome and heal the issues that are be holding you back from truly enjoying time with your family and you want to do deep inner work to reframe your beliefs to get to a place of forgiveness, join me in March for my Signature Spring Retreat for women only. Email Jill@Christinehassler.com or visit Christine Hassler Spring Retreat. The Early Bird pricing discount ends Oct 1st, 2018. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Was there a time in your life where you felt bullied or ostracized? Do you still hold on to it and allow it to keep you separate? Are you willing to reframe it? ? Were you born into a family, community or a set of religious beliefs that conditioned you into beliefs you are not sure are yours? ? Do you feel like the black sheep of the family and are you scared to be who you are because of judgment? ? Are you scared to fully self-express and to be who you are because you don’t want to be judged? ? Do you internalize what people say about you? ? Are you scared to be who you are when it comes to your sexual expression? ? Are you ashamed to love who you want to love? Frankie’s Question: Frankie wants guidance on how he can truly free himself from shame. Frankie’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He is super involved in his Christian church. ? He is attracted to men. ? He separates himself in groups. ? He has been bullied and judged in school. ? He finds comfort in God. ? He repressed his sexuality. ? He was conditioned to believe his feelings were wrong. ? He is questioning himself. ? He wants to make an impact in the world. ? He heard a message from God that there was nothing wrong with him. ? He knows he has come into this world as a spiritual warrior of love. ? He understands he needs to radically love himself. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to create a place of acceptance and compassion inside of himself. ? He needs to not take things personally and shouldn’t repress his feelings. ? He needs to activate discomfort in others. ? He needs to forgive...
Aug 25, 2018
Marisa Peer shares my passion for helping people make lasting changes that don’t require years and years of therapy. That said, Marissa is a therapist, in fact one of the best in the world. She has spent over three decades treating a client list that includes international superstars, CEOs, Royalty, and Olympic athletes. Marisa teaches “simple steps that produce dramatic and life-changing results”. When she reveals her fundamental rule – that all our emotional and personal problems come from us believing that we’re not ‘enough’ – and explains how to overcome it, the results are tremendous and dramatic. In addition to being a Leading Celebrity Therapist & Pioneering Hypnotherapist Trainer, Marisa is also a motivational speaker and best-selling Author, her latest book titled “I am enough” which we talk about on this show. You can learn more about Marisa and her programs at https://www.marisapeer.com/
Aug 22, 2018
This coaching session is about shifting limiting beliefs. Nohemi is aware she has beliefs that are not serving her and she is aware of where these limiting beliefs came from yet they continue to drive her behavior and choices. She is having difficulty shifting the way she feels inside This session is a beautiful, courageous example of how we can go into our pain. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode154] Having awareness just isn’t enough We may have a lot of awareness about what our limiting beliefs are and how they got there but until we actually feel differently inside, until we shift it from a concept to embodying it into a physical, visceral experience, it is hard to get behavior and feelings to shift. Many times we think going into our pain has to be dark and dramatic, and sometimes we do have to go into deep, raw stuff which is highly emotional, but a lot of times it’s just going into the depths to reach the sadness and tenderness. We spend so much time resisting our pain and being afraid to go back to our memories but going back and dealing with them creates more peace inside. My coaching was to help Nohemi take her power back in a feminine way. Not by fighting, hating, judging, and not by being hard on herself but by going into deep levels of compassion and acceptance. Don't be afraid of doing the deep work, don't be afraid of the memories. You can take your power back through love and compassion. If you feel a bit stuck, but are ready to break through to the next level and actually be able to FEEL differently and to create different results then I highly recommend you join me in March for my Spring Retreat. It is designed for women only and includes highly experiential transformational work that can help you shift. Email Jill@Christinehassler.com or visit Christine Hassler Spring Retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you very self-aware? You know what your limiting beliefs are and where they came from but you are having a hard time shifting. ? Did you have a parent or authority figure that was critical of you? Does their voice still exist in your head? ? If you are a woman, do you have a hard time trusting men? ? Are you considering getting back into the dating world but you fear you may keep dating the same person over and over again but with a different face? Nohemi’s Question: Nohemi is aware of her limiting beliefs but would like guidance on how to shift them. Nohemi’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She feels not good enough. ? Her stepfather was abusive and disempowered her. ? She is very hard on herself. ? She is scared to step out of her comfort zone. ? She was hurt and angry. ? She is enough and she is powerful. ? There are good men she can trust. ? She is worthy of her own love. ? She doesn’t need to earn love. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? To get her power back, she should step into her feminine superpower of compassion. ? She should forgive herself for ever believing anything her stepfather said about her was true. ? She should realize all men are not like her stepfather. ? She should revisit her little girl to give her reassurance and love. Sponsors: Kopari Beauty — Are you looking for a safer alternative to aluminum-laden deodorants? Kopari is an aluminum-free deodorant with sage and coconut oil that really works, all day! It doesn’t leave the thick, white residue on your clothes and has the fresh, natural scent of coconut milk. Great for sensitive skin. Say aloha to Koparibeauty.com/overit and get $5 off your order. Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Freshbooks is offering an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just for my listeners who use OVERITANDONWITHIT in the ‘how did you hear about us?’ section. Resources: Christine Hassler —...
Aug 18, 2018
In today’s episode Christine dives into two questions from listeners. The first question about getting over feeling stuck despite doing soooooo much work. The second question is regarding sexual desire and satisfying oneself when not in a relationship.
Aug 15, 2018
This call is about asking for what you want in a relationship and if you don’t get it how to leave without feeling guilty. Today’s caller, Brooke, is deciding whether or not to leave her marriage. She is struggling with guilt and obligation due to a major expectation hangover that came up after they were married. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode153] The big picture in ending a relationship with someone who is going through a difficult time like an expectation hangover, a physical diagnosis, death in the family etc. but those things do not give someone an excuse not to show up in a relationship. There may be an initial time when a diagnosis is given or the person is dealing with the shock when the person needs space or a little extra leeway where some extra TLC is in order. When our partner is down in the dumps dealing with a difficult issue we have to pull up and withhold the space to let them transition into their feelings. However, if they continue to pull away, withdraw, and be a victim then the issue is more about how they are showing up in the relationship. When we talk about vows such as, in sickness or in health, it doesn’t mean if a sickness occurs the sick person gets a permanent permission slip to stop showing up as a spouse or partner. We cannot let people off the hook because we feel sorry for them. And, we shouldn't allow our own issues to be an excuse for not being a good partner. Don’t let yourself off the hook because you feel sorry for yourself and don’t let your partner off the hook because you feel sorry for them. Loving someone does not include pity. Pity is not love and eventually, it leads to resentment. You don’t really know someone until a massive expectation hangover hits. How someone shows up in the difficult times is an indicator of how they will show up in the rest of their lives. I am pleased to announce a new way for you to collaborate with the universe to get things accomplished, my Over and On with It 40-Day Journal. This is the exact system I use to allow abundance, peace, and productivity into my life. And, when you order you get a free download of 12 new meditations to manifest what you want in life. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you make decisions out of guilt or obligation? Does guilt stop you from doing something you feel is self-honoring? ? Are you wondering why you are in a relationship where you don’t feel like you are being met? ? Is your partner going through a rough time or an expectation hangover and it impacts how they are showing up in the relationship? ? Do you pretend things are OK when they are not? Do you wear a mask or have trouble with vulnerability? Brooke’s Question: Brooke would like guidance about what to do after experiencing an expectation hangover in her marriage due to her husband’s illness. Brooke’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? Her husband was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis after they were married. ? Her husband has moved in with his parents. ? She feels betrayed. ? She feels obligated to stay with her husband. ? She felt sorry for her father. ? She chooses weaker men. ? She feels resentful towards her husband. ? She wants out of the relationship. ? She is playing the part of the victim. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should ask for what she needs from her husband using both her feminine and masculine energy. ? She needs to get a coach or a therapist and/or participate in my Personal Mastery Course. ? She needs to shed the guilt. Takeaways For You: ? If you are questioning your relationship and you want to leave, are you doing all you can so you can leave without the guilt and obligation? ? If you are in a relationship but don’t know why then ask yourself what you are learning from the relationship. ? To have difficult conversations, just do it. Don’t let fear stop you. ? Take off your mask. Often, it is vulnerability that gets us...
Aug 11, 2018
A lot of listeners have been reaching out for support around breakups so in this episode I share my five top tips for navigating the completion of a relationship. Learn how to get from breakup to breakthrough with grace!
Aug 8, 2018
This call is about changing your perception of what fear is. Today’s caller, Roman, is a mission-driven entrepreneur who becomes paralyzed by fear. During this call, you will learn that fear is an internal alarm system and how to get it working in your favor and the assets and liabilities of being an entrepreneur. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode152] Being a mission-driven entrepreneur sounds good and you can make a difference but at the same time, it can be a trigger. As we help the people who are most like us in so many ways a lot of our old fears, unresolved issues, and limiting beliefs get triggered. And, it's frustrating when we feel like we have done personal development work but we still get triggered. When fear comes up, it takes a consistent practice of asking ourselves what the fear really means and to remind ourselves — that was then; this is now. If you get stopped in your tracks by fear, stop, realize that something is off and adjust and apply love in its place. Entrepreneurs tend to put a lot of pressure on themselves to have it all figured out. This is a liability. There is no badge of honor entrepreneurs get for figuring everything out their own. You can pick up the phone and ask for help. There are so many entrepreneurs who have decades of experience that you can go to for guidance. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you an entrepreneur who has bought into the understanding that you are supposed to figure it all out on your own, everything will work according to plan, and that you are never supposed to make mistakes? ? Have you had a painful past you have had to overcome and fear it might come back or you don’t trust how good your life really is? ? Is there a part of you that questions yourself or feels unworthy of love? ? Do you feel like you have a mission? Are you supposed to serve or impact others? Roman’s Question: Roman is feeling overwhelmed by fear and would like guidance on how to overcome it. Roman’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? His new entrepreneurial venture hasn’t gone as planned. ? He feels he is living his purpose. ? He needs to do his own thing. ? He is passionate about his career and fueled by his mission. ? He has done self-development work. ? His fear paralyzes him. ? He feels not good enough. ? He has a difficult time asking for help. ? He has surrounded himself with people who care about him. ? He beats himself up and holds himself to a higher standard than he does others. ? He deserves this good life. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to remind himself that he is worthy, valuable, and he doesn’t have to have it all figured out. ? When he feels fear, he needs to say “That was then and this is now. I am safe.” ? He needs to ask for guidance and help when he feels pressure and overwhelm. ? He needs to ask his inner critic to be his inner coach instead. ? He needs to allow himself to count on his soul family. Assignments For You: ? If you have a mission statement for your life make sure it doesn't reinforce something you don’t want to continue reinforcing. ? Make sure you are clear about what your definition of success is. ? As an entrepreneur, are you really walking your talk? Are you congruent with what you are trying to build and how you are trying to serve? ? Build your own soul family for guidance and support. ? If you’ve had a difficult journey, keep loving yourself up and use the affirmation “That was then, this is now. It’s over!” Sponsors: Kopari Beauty — Are you looking for a safer alternative to aluminum-laden deodorants? Kopari is an aluminum-free deodorant with sage and coconut oil that really works, all day! It doesn't leave the thick, white residue on your clothes and has the fresh, natural scent of coconut milk. Great for sensitive skin. Say aloha to Koparibeauty.com/overit. Daily Harvest — Let Daily Harvest help you make healthy eating easy. They...
Aug 4, 2018
Listen in as Christine tackles questions from listeners. The first one is from a woman who is considering ending her marriage because she feels she and her husband are on different paths. The second question is from a gentleman who wants to be free of his “gold-plating” behavior (and if you don’t know what that is, Christine defines it!)
Aug 1, 2018
This call is about setting boundaries and taking care of your own needs. Today’s caller, Caitlyn, is having an expectation hangover about her engagement planning process. She is excited about her wedding but her family and friends don't seem to be. This episode covers a lot of ground and we go really deep in this episode. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode151] Being a caretaker can be a survival skill. Survival needs can be the need to feel loved, to feel valued and to feel like we belong. When one of our patterns is tied to those needs, it is really hard to release. Consciously, you may know it’s not healthy for you to be a caretaker and that you should set boundaries but unconsciously, there may be a part of you that wonders who will love you and how will you fit into your family if you stop caretaking others. When your body is working hard to hold all of your suppressed emotions together it needs another outlet for release. Our third chakra, our energy center, is tied to personal empowerment. If you don’t have boundaries and allow other people to suck your energy, things will shift within the body to compensate. You can manifest a physical ailment when keeping emotional issues bottled up or by not feeling empowered. If you are in Los Angeles on August 3rd, 2018, I will be teaching at Unplug Meditation, follow the link to find out more. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there a current expectation hangover that is upsetting you and reminding you of something that happened in the past? ? Do you relate to being a caretaker in your life? Are you afraid to stop taking care of others because you fear losing something? ? Is it challenging for you to set boundaries? Do you say yes to things when you really mean no? ? Do you over-compromise and sacrifice your own needs because it is easier than upsetting people? ? Is there a prolonged physical condition you are dealing with that cannot be resolved? Caitlyn’s Question: Caitlyn wants to know why she is having so many expectation hangovers while she is planning her wedding. Caitlyn’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She wants more support from friends and family about her wedding. ? She has always been a planner. ? She feels disappointed and hurt. ? She was diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis at thirteen. ? She didn’t want attention growing up. ? She is manifesting her physical condition. ? Her sister is also planning a wedding. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to not worry about other people’s upset. ? She needs to say thank you to her illness for sending her the message. ? She needs to start writing from her heart with release writing. ? She needs to show herself compassion. ? She needs to be OK with having attention focused on her. Assignments For You: ? If you are dealing with any type of expectation hangover, go back in time and ask yourself, “What does this remind me of?” ? Do the ‘empty chair’ process at home. ? Let things go through journaling and release writing. ? Set and stand by your boundaries with people and let them be upset. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANCaitlynWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch this Coaching Session on Youtube Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show