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Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.
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Oct 23, 2021

My guest today talks to us about what attention really is, how to focus it (and stop a wandering mind), and leverage our minds to not only bring us success, but peace. Dr. Amishi Jha is a professor of psychology at the University of Miami. She serves as the Director of Contemplative Neuroscience for the Mindfulness Research and Practice Initiative, which she co-founded in 2010. She received her Ph.D. from the University of California–Davis and postdoctoral training at the Brain Imaging and Analysis Center at Duke University. Dr. Jha’s work has been featured at NATO, the World Economic Forum, and The Pentagon. She has received coverage in The New York Times, NPR, TIMEForbes and more. She is the author of the new book Peak Mind which we talk about in this episode.

Oct 20, 2021

This episode is about overcoming not-enoughness and meeting our own needs to be secure in relationships. Today’s caller, Boston, has a protective pattern from his childhood that shows up as jealousy. It is blocking him from feeling secure in his relationship. He is working to shift his jealous feelings and is asking for guidance to understand the origin of his feelings and heal his anxious attachment style.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode319]

 

We are human. We are going to have patterns and we are going to have programming. There will be feelings that come up. There may be anxiety, OCD, insecurities, jealousy, co-dependence, people-pleasing, etc. It is not who you are. I say it again, it is not who you are.

 

Just because you have jealousy doesn’t mean you are a jealous person. Just because a pattern comes up for you, jealousy, or anything else you want to shift, it doesn’t mean you are that pattern. It is so important that whenever we are working to shift something, we accept it. The more we judge and shame ourselves, the more it sticks and the harder it is to change. So, if you are trying hard to change things about yourself, do not make yourself miserable. Being aware and accepting your patterns is the path forward.

 

Often, we make things more complicated than they need to be. Our primary desire is to feel safe, seen, heard, and loved. The more we get it from within ourselves the more we get it from others. The more we can acknowledge the tender parts inside of us the less we need external validation.

 

If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. So, starting late November or early December, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last event until next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you struggle with jealousy in your relationship even if there is no reason for it?
  • Do you judge yourself for getting jealous?
  • Did you grow up feeling like you fit into society, your family, or your peer group? Did you look or feel different, like you were not good enough?
  • How are you at meeting your own needs?

 

Boston’s Question:

Boston has a pattern of exhibiting jealousy in his relationships. He would like guidance on how to heal his triggers.

 

Boston’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He recently started his personal development journey.
  • He puts his jealous behavior on to his partner.
  • He judges himself for his jealous tendencies.
  • He is mentally working through his patterns to interrupt them.
  • He has an anxious attachment style.
  • He is looking for reassurance in his relationship.
  • He grew up in an area where people were discriminatory.
  • He had very little emotional connection with his parents.
  • His parents argued a lot in his childhood.
  • He didn’t feel good enough as a child.
  • He was jealous of other families and the love he thought they shared.
  • He moved to a new country at a very young age.
  • He developed tough skin to protect himself.
  • His partner is patient and understanding.
  • He has old hurts and insecurity.
  • His fear of losing his family is preventing him from enjoying it.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Understand his jealousy is trying to protect him.
  • Be compassionate with himself when he is triggered.
  • Remind himself he is enough.
  • Talk to his younger self about what he needs and reassure himself.
  • Ask his partner to work with him on his inner child work.
  • Embrace and enjoy the life he has created.

 

Takeaways:

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Oct 16, 2021
If you avoid or dread conflict or find you have too much of it in your life, you will find this episode so helpful! Jayson Gaddis is here to talk about his new book Getting To Zero: How to Work through Conflicts in your High-Stake Relationships and teach us SO much about how to have healthier relationships.  He is a relationship expert and sought-after coach, as well as the Founder of The Relationship School and host of the successful Relationship School podcast. Jayson leads the most comprehensive relationship training in the world of intimate relationships and partnership, as well as trains and certifies relationship coaches. He has a master’s in psychology and lives with his wife and two children in Boulder, Colorado.
 
Get the book and free goodies here:  https://www.gettingtozerobook.com/
Oct 13, 2021

This episode is about taking the pressure off of self-imposed timelines. Today’s caller, Elizabeth, has a sense of urgency. She feels she needs to get into a relationship and have children. But, at the same time, she is experiencing rejection, ghosting, and men leaving. She thinks she is doing something wrong.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode318]

 

For whatever reason, we put ridiculous timelines on ourselves. Who knows where they come from society, parents, or our inner critic. We also put unnecessary pressure on ourselves to be or to achieve certain things. And, all the while we’re not really paying attention to what we truly need to be learning. We miss out on the magic that can come from being present and in the moment.

 

And, enmeshment or co-dependence means that we are a little bit too reliant or dependent on another person to make us feel a certain way. We all want a mother to be the constant source of love and nurturing but we also want a mother to let us go on our way or let us suffer and find our own way.

 

If we have someone who always rescues us, how do we ever learn to rescue ourselves?

 

If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. So, starting late November or early December, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last event until next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you unconsciously put pressure on yourself or others and it is sabotaging you from getting the things you truly want?
  • Did you have too close of a relationship with your mother or a parent?
  • Do you feel a timeline or sense of urgency to get married, have babies, or accomplish something at a certain time?
  • Would you say that you were an exceptional partner to yourself?

 

Elizabeth’s Question:

Elizabeth feels she is the reason her relationships don’t work out.

 

Elizabeth’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels she can’t get relationships right.
  • She feels she has been called to have children.
  • She was very close to her mother, maybe too close.
  • She is trying to source her love through other people to fill the void.
  • She clings on to men.
  • She misses being in a close relationship.
  • She didn’t develop her own sense of self.
  • She is scared to voice her feelings in relationships.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Prioritize loving herself and individuating.
  • Find her wise inner mother and untangle her enmeshment with her mother.
  • Look back at past relationships and consider how she could do things differently.
  • Write a reassuring letter to her future self that everything is going to be alright and then have her future self write back.
  • Realize it wasn’t her fault that guys take off but she can take responsibility for her part in the relationship.

 

Takeaways:

  • Listen to the Coaches Corner interview with Bethany Webster, The Mother Wound.
  • If you feel pressured to get somewhere, write a letter to your future self and then have your future self write back to you about how everything works out.
  • If you are in a pattern, ask yourself what wound is it bringing attention to that could be healed.
  • Join the Be the Queen program.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Oct 9, 2021
Sex and sexuality. These are part of the human experience.  Yet for so many, sex and sexualty brings up shame, insecurity and even painful memories.  It is possible to enjoy your sexual expression no matter what you have been through while empowering yourself by learning about your preferences and consent.
 
There is no one better to discuss these topics with me than. Dr. Betty Martin.

She has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice,  as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator.  Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®.

As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” 

Wheel of consent videos:

short: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7x2jAm3HxHM

long; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=auokDp_EA80

Oct 6, 2021

This episode is about doing inner child work to heal the mother wound. Today’s caller, Abigail, feels she is struggling to connect with her feminine energy but we discover that she is being triggered by her circumstances and it is revealing a coping strategy she relied on in her childhood. We discuss ways she can make the most of this healing opportunity.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode317]

 

You can’t really tap into true masculine and feminine until you do inner child work. Because we can confuse being in our feminine or masculine energy with protective behaviors and coping strategies. It is important for us to find our divine mother and father energy but healing our childhood wounds is the starting point.

 

When past trauma in her child wounding is triggered, it is an invitation for us to deal with it by speaking to our little one and giving them a voice. It makes it much easier to trust because our inner child isn’t tugging at us telling us they are not okay.

 

What keeps some people from doing inner child work is that they think they have to relive their trauma or relive memories of their childhoods. It is possible to heal your childhood and connect with your inner child even if you have no memories or traumatic memories.

 

When we are given pauses in life, or when we feel we are in limbo, they are opportunities for us to focus on our inner work.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild. If you can’t make it live you can get the recording. If you need help financially go to ChristineHassler.com/Scholarship.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you struggling with identifying what is masculine and feminine energy? Or, you are not sure how to be in your masculine or feminine?
  • Have you worked on the mother wound and know intuitively there is still more to do?
  • Do you identify with being a caretaker? Someone who takes care of other people’s needs as a way to try and get your own needs met?
  • As a child, were you more in the parent role than you were in the child role? Did a parent count on you for emotional support? Did they confide in you? Were you more of a friend to them and not allowed to truly be a kid?

 

Abigail’s Question:

Abigail struggles with staying in her feminine energy.

 

Abigail’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has had a lot of uncertainty in her life.
  • She has difficulty adjusting and trusting changes.
  • She holds fear about changes in her life.
  • She frequently changes her residence.
  • She left her nursing career to be a doula.
  • Her parents dealt with uncertainty differently.
  • She didn’t have a good role model for embracing uncertainty.
  • She didn’t feel safe as a child.
  • Caretaking became a coping strategy for her.
  • She beats herself up emotionally.
  • She felt responsible for everyone else’s happiness.
  • She wants to be free to express her needs.
  • Her mom treated her like a friend and not a child.
  • She feels worthless if she isn’t caring for others.
  • Her partner feels safe to her.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Check-in with little Abigail to see how she is.
  • Accept and have compassion for herself.
  • Give her rage a voice and write an F-U letter to her mother.
  • This is a healing opportunity for her. She is exactly where she needs to be.
  • Join the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Check out the Mother Wound Coaches Corner and the work of Bethany Webster.

 

Takeaways:

  • Use the pauses in your life to give your inner child a voice and to heal unhealed wounding.

 

Sponsor:

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Oct 2, 2021
Don't miss this episode with Bethany Webster where we discuss a wound we ALL have: the mother wound.  Bethany Webster is a writer, international speaker and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. Bethany speaks, consults and mentors around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women’s leadership and personal development. Learn more at www.bethanywebster.com

Bethany's book: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780062884442
Bethany's online course: https://www.bethanywebster.com/inner-mother-course/
Bethany's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/innermother
Sep 29, 2021

This episode is about finding your passion by releasing repressed anger. Today’s caller, Illarion, feels lost. He is in his twenties and is struggling to find his purpose. Emotions from his childhood are bubbling to the surface of his unconscious. If you relate to this call and feel blocked, anxious, or lost, this episode will help you tap into your fire and find your voice.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode316]

 

So many of us that may be dealing with anxiety, depression, or feeling lost have a bit of indifference, hopelessness, and apathy we can slip into. That is a dangerous place because there is numbness. Whereas anger, if understood and expressed in a healthy way, is a very useful emotion. Anger is often the gateway to reaching our deeper hurts and it’s the thing that unleashes our passion. Repressed anger takes up a lot of energy. It is a fiery emotion that just sits inside of us. Passion is fire too. If we have a lot of anger that we haven’t processed, it can be a block to our creativity and passion.

 

A lot of creative and artistic people have trouble accessing their anger. It ends up manifesting as anxiety. When we have the creative archetype, there is also gentleness. We want to be the peacekeeper and avoid conflict. We don’t feel the warrior spirit because we are more on the creative side. However, when we don’t access our anger and our rage, it can hold our passion back.

 

It is often anger and resentment that keep us from getting to the true energy of forgiveness.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel stuck or lost in your life?
  • Did you have parents that supported who you are but not 100% of the time?
  • Have you analyzed and talked about your issues and have been in therapy but things are not changing?
  • Is anger something that turns you off?

 

Illarion’s Question:

Illarion feels lost and is struggling to find his purpose. He goes through bouts of loneliness, anxiety, and low self-worth.

 

Illarion’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He moved to New York City.
  • He is going through imposter syndrome.
  • He doubts every choice he makes.
  • His feelings go up and down.
  • He may have unresolved issues from childhood.
  • He has been in therapy for three years.
  • He looks at what he should be instead of what he is meant to be.
  • He didn’t feel he was able to be himself as a child.
  • What he is going through is normal for his age.
  • He is not sure he is lovable and enough for his parents.
  • He doesn’t speak with his father.
  • He hasn’t dealt with the anger he feels at his parents.
  • He seeks approval from other people.
  • He wanted someone to stick up for him as a child.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Tap into his anger and be pissed.
  • Do the temper-tantrum technique at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease
  • Write an F-U letter to his mom and dad without sending it to them.
  • Go to a quiet place and expel rage while he punches a pillow.
  • Find his fiery passion.

 

Sponsor:

SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Sep 25, 2021
This is an episode NOT to miss. My husband and I get so raw and vulnerable as we talk through something that upset Stef and triggered his inner child.  If you want an intimate look at how we work though triggers and comfort our own (and each other's) inner child, be sure to listen. You will learn so much about your relationship with your own inner child as well.  We all have a tender, sensitive little one inside who needs us to parent them with love, safety, acceptance and consistency.
 
If you want to learn more about the virtual retreat we are teaching on healing your inner child, please go here: https://christinehassler.com/innerchild/
Sep 22, 2021

This episode is about taking a stand for what we value. Today’s caller, Sebastian, is not getting his needs met in his relationship. He is attempting to talk through his issues, but the results are not changing. We discuss ways to get clarification from his partner about what she needs and how he can have his needs met by taking a stand for his values.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode315]

 

If communication solved every issue in a relationship, we could all just read communication books and have the most amazing relationships, friendships, and parental relationships. Everything would be easy. But, it is not. We need to do the inner work. We play out our childhood stuff in our adult life, especially in relationships.

 

When a child has emotionally unavailable parents, they learn to tolerate a lot more hurt. When they grow into adults, they may have a pattern of thinking things are better than they truly are in their intimate relationships.

 

In relationships, friendships, or any kind of intimate relationship, we often love and give in the way we want to be given to and loved, not necessarily the way that person needs or wants it.

 

We have to be bold when it comes to things like love, our families, our health, our well-being, and what is important to us. We must take a stand for our values.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you find yourself not being a firm stand for what you want in your life?
  • Do you ever tiptoe around people afraid of upsetting them?
  • Do you often feel disrespected in conversations or just not heard?
  • Do you have some codependent patterns and let people walk all over you?
  • Do you often find yourself with emotionally unavailable or avoidant-type people?

 

Sebastian’s Question:

Sebastian feels he doesn’t get his needs met in his relationship and would like guidance on how to have a healthier relationship.

 

Sebastian’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • His relationship has ups and downs.
  • Hurtful things are said between him and his partner.
  • He and his partner have done couple counseling.
  • He has a 10-year-old son with his partner.
  • He feels disrespected by his partner.
  • He loves his family.
  • His partner finds it is overwhelming to deal with his emotions.
  • He is trying to uncover and overcome the relationship issues.
  • He is codependent.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Get curious about what his partner needs.
  • Have a conversation about what each other needs emotionally.
  • Stand in his strong, healthy masculine and ask his partner if she wants the relationship to work.
  • Step into his power and take a stand for himself and the relationship.

 

Takeaways:

  • Take a stand for your values. Be very clear about what you want and where you are going.

 

Sponsor:

SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Sep 18, 2021
If you ever struggle with anxiety, worry or even depression, do NOT miss this episode.  One of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and an international bestselling author Mel Robbins joins Christine and gives a TON of soothing and practical advice for creating more calm in your life.

Mel's work includes the global phenomenon The 5 Second Rule, the upcoming The High 5 Habit, four #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide. 

Her groundbreaking work on behavior change has been translated into 36 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled.

As one of the most widely booked and followed public speakers in the world, Mel coaches more than 60 million people online every month and videos featuring her work have more than a billion views online, including her TEDx talk, which is one of the most popular of all time.

There’s nothing Mel loves more than making a real difference in people’s lives by teaching them to believe in themselves and inspiring them to take the actions that will change their lives. Mel lives in New England with her husband of 25 years and their three kids, but she is and will always be a Midwesterner at heart.

Sep 15, 2021

This episode will support you in getting through and to the other side of any kind of loss. Today’s caller, Regina, is a widow who is grieving over the loss of her husband. She says she regrets not being the best mother in the world and not living the life she wanted to live. She is questioning her purpose and experiencing quite a bit of apathy in her life.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode314]

 

Loss is an incredibly painful but inevitable part of our life. When it happens it is important we give ourselves time to grieve and not try to be strong and move on right away. But there comes a point in our life when life has to go on.

 

Whether it is the death of a loved one, a pet, a relationship, or a job, we can’t allow loss to suck the life out of us. Otherwise, we end up existing, not truly living. We honor those who transition by continuing to live.

 

People who deal with expectation hangovers often feel guilty to admit it but they tend to be apathetic to life. The reason for the apathy is the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference or apathy. When we go through something challenging, especially if we are lonely through it, we allow our self-love tank to get so low that we slip into indifference. Without love there is apathy. Getting out of it requires choosing to live, not just to go through the motions; we need something we want to live for.

 

Give yourself permission to live for and find something that reconnects you back to love.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Have you recently been through a loss and can’t seem to move on?
  • Have you been through a loss and are aware you need time to grieve?
  • Do you tend to look back on your life and wish you could have done things differently?
  • Are you at a point in your life where you are just existing and need to start living again?

 

Regina’s Question:

Regina would like to move past her sadness and regret of not living the life she wanted.

 

Regina’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is approaching retirement.
  • She is not in the place she thought she would be in her life.
  • She lives alone.
  • There is a part of her that doesn’t want to be anymore.
  • She has regrets about how she raised her children.
  • She doesn’t believe we get more than one love in our lives.
  • Her husband was her best friend.
  • She beats herself up a lot.
  • She knows if she can create a negative story for herself, she is capable of creating a positive story, too.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Choose to create a future that is enlivening.
  • Give herself permission to live and allow love in.
  • Have a loving relationship with herself.
  • Speak to herself as a loving mother would to a child.
  • Forgive herself for being mean to herself.
  • Write out some promises to herself.

 

Takeaways:

  • Practice self-love.
  • Consider that loved ones who have transitioned are angels and guides in your life.
  • Accept that you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time.
  • Content that focuses on overcoming regret.

 

Sponsor:

THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Check out their new seamless Form line. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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Sep 11, 2021

Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and body mind transformation for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. fromStanford in 1974, Gay served as Professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap, Conscious Loving and Conscious Loving Ever After, (the last two co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks). He is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu, as well as a new mystery series featuring a Victorian-era London detective, Sir ErrolHyde. His latest book, Conscious Luck, reveals eight ways to change your fortune through the power of intention. Gay has appeared on more than 500 radio andtelevision shows, including Oprah, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. His new book, The Genius Zone, was published in June, 2021.

Sep 8, 2021

This episode is about learning the tools to deal with triggers and the avoidant attachment style. This week’s caller, Mike, would like guidance on how to be more open-hearted and vulnerable in his intimate relationships. This session will be of service to those who have an avoidant style and for those who attract Avoidants. We discuss how to understand them and how not to take their actions personally.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode313]

 

Anything is healable. It doesn’t matter what is in your background, childhood, or past. I’ve seen it over and over again. Does it happen overnight? No. Is it always easy? No. Is it going to change overnight? Healable doesn’t mean we go from having an avoidant attachment style to being totally open-hearted, totally secure, and never having triggers.

 

Healing is not being perfect, not being free of any triggers but really learning how to work with those triggers, manage those triggers, so that they don’t become roadblocks in our life. Triggers can be alarm systems for growth and not a dead end. Awareness is not enough to heal.

 

People with an avoidant attachment style are not trying to avoid being close or being in love. They are trying to avoid rejection, hurt, and pain. When we are with an Avoidant, and they pull away or put walls up, it can make us feel as if we have done something wrong. But, we cannot take it personally. If you are with an Avoidant, the best thing you can do when they are triggered is don’t attack them, don’t tell them they are doing anything wrong, then reassure them that you are there and you love them.

 

On September 14th, Christine and Stefanos will teach a virtual group call at 5 pm PST.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8‒10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.

 

Mike’s Question:

Mike would like guidance on how to be more open-minded and open-hearted when approaching his relationships.

 

Mike’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • His marriage of 12 years recently ended.
  • He emotionally shut down in his relationships.
  • He has an insecure attachment style.
  • Fear of rejection keeps him from being vulnerable.
  • He was not loved for being himself as a child.
  • He is self-aware.
  • He feels as if his personal development work has stalled.
  • He does not want to repeat the mistakes of his past.
  • He is ready to date again.
  • He has high standards.
  • He puts walls up to protect himself.
  • He struggles to be vulnerable.
  • He feels he can apply the practical guidance.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Acknowledge himself for the personal development work he is doing.
  • Start dating again.
  • Lean into vulnerability.
  • Accept himself for who he is.
  • Have compassion for himself and his fear.
  • It is okay to be scared.

 

Takeaways:

  • On the field is the best way to get good at a game. We cannot run from hurt. We have to expose ourselves to triggers so we can integrate and deal with hurt and fear.

 

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Resources:

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Sep 4, 2021

The feeling of being in love is the best. Not to mention the blissful feeling of certainty when we feel like you’ve met “the one” (finally!). You start fantasizing about the future and are convinced that the other person is on the same page you are. And then it ends. And you are not only heartbroken, but shocked because it seemed so right and you don’t understand what went wrong. I know that is not comforting if you are in the pain of a break-up, but understanding why the one you thought was going to be forever ended may offer you some relief. This Coaches Corner will help!

Sep 1, 2021

This episode is about stepping into your purpose and fulfilling your dreams. This week’s caller, Mike, thinks his problem is complex, but it’s not. His constant search of products and materials leads him to believe his next steps need to come from outside of himself. We discuss how he may be stalling by continuing to do research instead of listening to his internal inspiration and moving forward.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode312]

 

Dreams or anything we long for; the dreams we feel in our heart are different from the kinds of dreams we hope will make us feel better about ourselves, or fill a void. Those are ego-based desires. But, listening inside to hear our heartfelt dreams is part of our psychic ability. And, we are all a little psychic or intuitive.

 

We don’t long for something if we don’t feel that it is coming. If we have a premonition, on some level our dreams are already coming to fruition. We cannot control the exact timing of it. If we feel it and we want it, it may take a week or ten years because it takes time for dreams to evolve.

 

What stalls a lot of people from really stepping into sharing their gift, or serving people in a greater way, is they think they have to be perfect. To achieve our dreams, we just need to be honest, vulnerable, and committed, not perfect.

 

We have all the answers inside; we just need to take time to question ourselves and answer.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • What heartfelt dreams are calling you forward?
  • Do you have a sense of what you want to do but are not taking action?
  • Do you start a lot of projects but do not follow them through to completion?
  • Are you waiting for some kind of answer or sign from the universe to make a decision?

 

Mike’s Question:

Mike has a dream of becoming an entrepreneur but he lacks confidence in his decision-making process. He would like to break the cycle of never moving forward.

 

Mike’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He wants to be an entrepreneur.
  • He put his dream on hold when his daughter was born.
  • He is always looking for the next big thing.
  • He gets easily redirected.
  • He lacks confidence in his decision-making process.
  • He is a Preacher and motivator.
  • He is good at inspiring others.
  • He wants to make a difference in other people’s lives.
  • He is in a cycle of frustration.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Let his inspiration drive his next steps.
  • Let God use him as an instrument.
  • Write his life experience resume.
  • Meditate and recognize his unique gifts.
  • Start with his big vision and work backward.

 

Takeaways:

  • Write a life experience resume.
  • Re-orient towards an internal direction. Listen to your own inner wisdom. Try it for thirty days.
  • Answer these questions:
    • Who am I here to serve?
    • What can I offer?
    • How can I deliver it?

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Aug 28, 2021

If you ever compare yourself to anyone else, this episode is for you! Learn the difference between healthy and toxic comparison and how to form closer connections when comparison is gone.

Melissa Ambrosini is the bestselling author of Comparisonitis, Mastering Your Mean Girl, Open Wide, and the Audible Original PurposeFULL as well as the winner of ‘The Best eBooks Of All Time’ as voted by Book Depository. 

 

Melissa is the host of #1 rated podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show, where she shares her wisdom and interviews with the biggest thought leaders and experts in the world to help her audience unlock their full potential and live their dream life. 

 

When Melissa isn’t writing books and recording her podcast she is speaking on stages, teaching and creating online programs, meditations and life changing live events.

 

With a deep commitment to empowering others to become the best version of themselves, Melissa believes that awakening is possible for everyone. She strives to inspire others to reclaim their power, step into their truth, live with intention, and move in the direction of their dreams.

Aug 25, 2021

This episode is about making empowered decisions and changes with integrity. Today’s caller, Anne, is questioning whether or not she should leave her 25-year marriage. She feels she has tried to communicate her needs. We work through how she is communicating and whether or not she is being vulnerable enough to make an empowered decision.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode311]

 

Often, in masculine-feminine dynamics, it requires the feminine dropping into a deep vulnerability with no victim, no blame, no anger, no reason, just an open, heart-baring, soul truth that ignites the masculine to look within so it can open up.

 

When we are too much in hopelessness-helpless, when we are too much in victim, the only answer seems to be to get out of a situation because we don’t feel empowered.

 

One of the ways we get empowered is to look at our side of things and then we communicate vulnerably, because we are not empowered when we communicate emotionally, reactively, or with blame or neediness.

 

And remember, vulnerability is different than a victimy emotional reaction. It has a different frequency and people can hear us when we are vulnerable. They can’t hear us when we are emotional or blaming them. It puts their defenses up. They can’t hear the truth and intimacy of what we are saying when they are defensive.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Are you torn about what to do in a relationship? Do you want to stay? Do you want to go? Do you tend to look at what someone else is doing wrong and all the ways that they’re not meeting your needs and maybe don’t look quite enough at how you’re perpetuating it?
  • Are you aware of what your needs are? Are you good at communicating your needs?
  • Do you feel in your gut that you just want to do something but you just can’t take the action?

 

Anne’s Question:

Anne is struggling with the decision to stay in her marriage.

 

Anne’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has been married for 25 years and has four children with her husband.
  • She feels she and her husband have grown apart.
  • Her husband says he wants to make the marriage work.
  • Her husband’s job and commitments took a lot of his time.
  • She asked him to take more time with her and the children.
  • She collected evidence of the ways he wasn’t showing up for the marriage.
  • She doesn’t know if she still loves him.
  • Fear may be driving her choice.
  • There is some part of her that may be shut down.
  • She wants to be loved by him.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Continue to have vulnerable conversations with her husband.
  • Drop into her feminine vulnerability.
  • Consider where she may have walls up around her heart.
  • Use “I” language, not “you” language.
  • Write out her fears, desires, and insecurities and read them to her husband.

 

Takeaways:

  • If there is something you are looking at that you think is wrong and you just need to get out, consider where the decision is coming from. Are you empowered? Have you been vulnerable? Have you looked inside yourself to see if you are mad or blaming? Do you feel like a victim and feel like the only decision is to leave?

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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Aug 21, 2021

Brandy Gillmore, PhD in natural medicine, is a world-renowned mind/body energy expert who is well known for her discoveries in self-healing and working with the power of the mind to get tangible results. Her breakthrough work has been featured in an award-winning documentary and various docuseries. Brandy speaks on stages around the world and has also given a mind-expanding TEDx talk.

Brandy’s expertise in self-healing originated from her own devastating accident that left her disabled and living in excruciating pain despite being on multiple medications, including morphine.  When doctors told Brandy there was nothing they could do, she became determined to find a solution. After  years of trial and error, she was able to make incredible discoveries with the mind that ultimately enabled her to heal herself. Today she uses these same discoveries to help others also get radical life-changing results.

Today, Brandy works with top celebrities, Olympic athletes, CEOs, entrepreneurs, and groups worldwide sharing her leading-edge discoveries. Her goal is to help advance traditional research to bridge the gap between science and spirituality.
 
You can register for her free video event "Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind for Positivity, Healing & Successful Manifestation" here: https://christinehassler.com/reprogram
Aug 18, 2021

This episode is about taking the time to explore life and relationships. Today’s caller, Marley, is putting a lot of pressure on her current relationship. She future-forecasts instead of considering what the relationship may be able to teach her. We delve into how she can be curious, explore, and take the pressure off.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode310]

 

Often, we go into relationships wondering if the other person is the one, so much so that we miss out on what we can learn from the other person. It is important to let your early relationships be a discovery process and explore instead of collecting evidence about what may be wrong with the other person if they are THE one, or how to make every relationship the relationship of your dreams.

 

Every relationship is a growth opportunity. It is a misstep to base relationships on their longevity potential. Many times, we get into a relationship, and right out of the gate, we put pressure on it by wondering if the other person could be the one to marry or have children with instead of considering what the other person can teach us, what mirror they may be holding up, what parental patterns, wounds, or issues are they triggering? What could you be attracted to that is also a healing opportunity?

 

Enjoy where you are. Be curious, explore, and take the pressure off.

 

Have you listened to my Coaches Corner episodes recently? Check out Byron Katie on  — Loving What Is.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • When you are in a new relationship do you jump to — Is this the one? — and start to analyze it all out?
  • Did you grow up in a home where there wasn’t a lot of emotional availability and you panic when you don’t have that in a partnership or friendship?
  • Do you spend a lot of time trying to figure things out and not enough time creating and exploring and allowing things just to be?
  • Are you more caught up in judging and changing someone else than looking at how you can meet your own needs?

 

Marley’s Question:

Marley is struggling with her ability to let little things go and accept her partner for where he is.

 

Marley’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is aware and open with her emotions.
  • Her boyfriend may not understand himself emotionally.
  • She is an old soul and emotionally mature.
  • She is putting a lot of pressure on the relationship.
  • She and her boyfriend had an intense connection immediately.
  • There was inconsistency in her childhood.
  • She believed she had to fix her family.
  • She feels pressure to be in a relationship.
  • Her boyfriend is committed to her.
  • She feels intimidated by his commitment.
  • She feels she is one-foot-in and one-foot-out of the relationship at all times.
  • She is collecting evidence against her boyfriend.
  • She doesn’t feel heard or seen by her boyfriend at times.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Explore herself within her relationship.
  • Stop overthinking, or overanalyzing her relationship.
  • Be curious about her relationship instead of managing it.
  • Communicate her needs in an empowered way.
  • Approach her boyfriend from a vulnerable place.

 

Takeaways:

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Aug 14, 2021

I am thrilled to Byron Katie whom I respect and adore so much on the show this week! 

In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning in a state of joy. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of self-inquiry, which she calls The Work, consists of four questions and the turnaround, which is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe.

Katie has been bringing The Work to millions of people for more than thirty years. Her public events, weekend workshops, intensives, and nine-day School for The Work have brought freedom to people all over the world.

Her books include the bestselling Loving What IsI Need Your Love—Is That True?A Thousand Names for Joy, and A Mind at Home with Itself. For more information, visit thework.com.

Here is a to the worksheets we discussed: https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/

 

Aug 11, 2021

This episode is about discerning between the patterns we can change and which are a part of us. Today’s caller, Bree, has patterns coming up when it comes to dating and finding a partner. We discuss how she can bring forth different, more feminine, parts of herself in place of her patterns. When it comes to dating, we get far more accurate information from our bodies, heart, and intuition than we do from evaluation.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode309]

 

At the beginning of dating, there is so much uncertainty. We don’t really know the person and we don’t know where the relationship will go. There is a lot of excitement, but there is also a lot of uncertainty. Uncertainty can be triggering for some, especially if they had instability in their childhood. Part of how the mind and psyche try to get certainty or control is through evaluation, analysis, and by trying to see into the future.

 

We all have an operating system. A lot of it gets programmed by our childhood, our life, our beliefs, and everything that happens in our environment and society. Then, there is just how we’re wired, our personality, our soul journey, etc. It is more important to learn to live with our wiring and find the gift within it than it is to change it.

 

Some things about ourselves are appropriate to change and heal but there are some things that it is best to just accept. Learning to inspire a different part of ourselves in certain situations may be the key to getting what we need.

 

Join me August 18, 2021, at 5 p.m. Pacific for another group coaching call. This call will focus on all things inner child. The cost is only $20 and if you cannot make it live, it will be recorded. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to sign up.

 

Have you listened to my Coaches Corner episodes recently? Check out Dr. Richard Schwatrz doing parts work with me here — Internal Family Systems.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Do you notice that sometimes when you’re in an unfamiliar situation you do things like ask a question to go to places in your head to try to get some kind of control?
  • Did you grow up feeling safe in a stable household?
  • If you are female and you orientate to being a heterosexual female when it comes to dating do you feel like you can really slip into your feminine energy? Or, if you’re in a job that requires you to be in your masculine energy is it difficult for you to make the transition?
  • Are you trying to change things about yourself that are part of your wiring?

 

Bree’s Question:

Bree feels she is ready for a long-term relationship and would like the tools to assist her in minimizing her projections when dating.

 

Bree’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is ready to find a long-term partner.
  • She is looking for someone who appreciates a rural lifestyle.
  • She had a volatile and unstable childhood.
  • Her parents were emotionally unavailable.
  • Her little girl is looking for the stability she never had.
  • She sees the pattern of her previous relationships.
  • She felt judged and would like the freedom to be herself.
  • She uses evaluation as a skill in her job.
  • She is a professional photographer and previously a dance instructor.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Get out of her head and into her heart.
  • Help her little girl feel safe.
  • Limit her evaluations and increase her curiosity and magnetism in dating.
  • Create a physical anchor and write a letter to celebrate her evaluator self.
  • Be aware her masculine part is hyper-developed.
  • Discover things that drop her into her feminine energy.
  • Move her body in a feminine way daily.

 

Takeaways:

  • Look at the patterns in your life without making them wrong or bad and determine how much of them are how you are wired.
  • Learn what parts of yourself that need to step back and which need to come forward.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Aug 7, 2021

You are going to learn so much from this episode!! And get to listen to a live demo of Dr Schwartz doing parts work with me.  Richard Schwartz began his career as a family therapist and an academic at the University of Illinois at Chicago. There he discovered that family therapy alone did not achieve full symptom relief and in asking patients why, he learned that they were plagued by what they called “parts.” From these explorations with parts work, the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model was born in the early 1980s.
 
IFS is now evidence-based and has become a widely-used form of psychotherapy, particularly with trauma. It provides a non-pathologizing, optimistic, and empowering perspective and a practical and effective set of techniques for working with individuals, couples, families, and more recently, corporations and classrooms.
 
In 2013 Schwartz left the Chicago area and now lives in Brookline, MA where he is on the faculty of the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.

Aug 4, 2021

This episode is about grieving parents and moving through loss. Today’s caller, Tania, is a new mom who is caring for her aging father. She is struggling with making decisions that are best for everyone involved. We talk through the guilt that is influencing her decisions and how she can make self-honoring choices that are the best for everyone involved.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode308]

 

When it comes to making choices for someone we love it can feel hard not to let guilt or obligation be involved. When we allow guilt and obligation into our decision-making we aren’t making the choices that are truly in the highest good for everyone concerned.

 

Guilt and shame prevent us from being able to honor our feelings and from navigating the many different emotions, perspectives, and thoughts of being human and going through life-changing experiences, and dealing with family members and people who are sick or difficult. It is OK to choose something that may feel selfish but is self-honoring and in the best interest of everyone involved.

 

There is no one-size-fits-all approach when making big decisions like what to do with an aging parent. You have to tune in and make a decision from love, not guilt about what is best for everyone involved.

 

When we hang on to someone, it can create an energetic obligation for them to stay longer. There are two deaths we have to grieve for our parents. The physical death and the death of the ideal. When we allow ourselves to grieve, our heart breaks open so healing can begin.

 

Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.

 

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Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Do you like to have control? Would you rather have control than massive uncertainty? Do you do better in the known rather than the unknown?
  • Do you deal with guilt if you’re not doing what you think you’re supposed to be doing or taking care of people in the way that you’re supposed to?
  • Have you lost a parent or are you on the brink of losing a parent?
  • Do you struggle with what’s the right thing to do when it comes to you caring for your parents?

 

Tania’s Question:

Tania is feeling anxious about how she will manage caring for her father and managing her life.

 

Tania’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • After an accident, her 80-year-old father can no longer take care of himself.
  • Her mother passed 13 years ago.
  • She and her brother are caring for their father.
  • She has a baby and a full-time job.
  • She had to take medical time off from work.
  • She feels guilty and is starting to grieve for her father.
  • She is frightened when she thinks of her father’s passing.
  • She holds on to an image of what she thought her future would be.
  • She is finding the role reversal difficult.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Realize it is okay to be feeling what she is feeling.
  • Allow herself to start letting go and grieve her father.
  • Release her attachment to what she thinks “should” be.
  • Find a way to get outside help for her father.
  • Give energetic permission to her father to transition when it is his time.
  • Her body and nervous system have been in overdrive.

 

Takeaways:

  • Don’t wait to grieve until someone dies. Allow yourself to have the feelings and start the process before a loved one transitions.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

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Jul 31, 2021

Jess Bell, D.O. is an Osteopathic Physician – board-certified in both Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation and Neuromusculoskeletal Medicine – and Energy Healer.

Dr. Jess is the founder of Energetic Osteopathy™, which is a powerful modality that bridges traditional osteopathic treatment and energy medicine. What makes Energetic Osteopathy™ unique from other energy healing modalities such as Reiki, is that the treatment takes place with great specificity within the tissues of the body.

As an osteopathic physician with over twenty years of hands-on treatment experience, Dr. Jess “sees” into the body with great clarity. This inner sight allows for the transformational release of even the most difficult to locate energetic densities out of the physical body, returning the body to health and wholeness.

It is essential that we recover the often forgotten truth that healing comes from within, and it is Dr. Jess's greatest intention to offer this healing and guidance with easy-to-apply information, treatment, and self-healing practices.  

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