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This coaching call is about how to have a conscious conversation when anger is present. Today’s caller, Megan, values growth and communication, yet she gets triggered when her husband needs space during tense conversations. She asks Christine for guidance on how to process her anger and have conscious conversations in her relationship.
[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode445].
No one communicates well when anger is present because we are in a completely different part of our brains. The part of the brain that anger resides in is ready to fight and do damage. When we are in that part of our brain we don’t make the best choices. We are not in the part of our brain that accesses empathy, being resourced, cognitive functioning, and rationality. None of those skills are accessible when we are in anger.
Those of us who have done a lot of personal development work can sometimes have high expectations and high standards of how we should communicate and how other people should communicate with us. We need to remember that we are human. When we are in an argument, or we are not in a regulated state, it is difficult to consciously remind ourselves to use non-violent communication or to take a breath and release the anger in a healthy way or take some space.
Expecting ourselves to have amazing, empowered conversations when we are triggered is not an easy task. Because anger is a fiery, active energy that needs an outlet. If it isn’t given a safe outlet or isn’t expressed it will do other things.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself to be conscious when you are in an argument?
Is anger a trigger for you? When someone gets angry, do you go into a trauma response, or do you fight, flight, or freeze?
What is your attachment style?
Growing up, were you shown how to deal with big feelings in a healthy way?
Megan’s Question:
Megan would like guidance about communication when anger is present and her husband needs space.
Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas:
She and her husband value growth and communication.
When anger is present she forgets her healthy communication skills.
She beats herself up for letting anger take over.
She goes into an anxious attachment style when she gets angry.
Her husband needs space to regulate when anger comes up.
She didn’t see much anger in her childhood.
Her grandfather had anger issues.
Her parents didn’t express their emotions.
She fears losing connection and love.
A past boyfriend had a pattern of love-bombing her and then pulling away.
She is not comfortable with big feelings.
She uses sarcasm to express anger.
She is ready to practice Christine’s guidance.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
Forgive herself for dropping into judgment.
Take a deep breath and have a temper tantrum when she feels triggered to regulate her nervous system.
When her husband needs space, actively release her anger.
Remind herself that her husband taking space is not him leaving the relationship.
Resources:
Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services
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Suzy Ashworth is a single mum of three children, high school dropout, Hay House author, international keynote speaker, multiple seven-figure success coach, and serial entrepreneur on a mission. She has worked with 1000’s of impact driven leaders in business to create quantum shifts in their lives and their businesses over the last 10 years and Her vision is to help people receive more of what they want - without sacrificing who they really are or the people that love through the four pillars of Infinite Receiving.
This coaching call is about how being authentic attracts things most in alignment with what we want. Today’s caller, Lisa, wants to call in a committed relationship. She feels her life choices may be keeping her from finding a partner. She asks for guidance about how to call in the partner she desires.
[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode444].
One of our superpowers as women is that we are highly adaptable and it can be a beautiful asset. But, it can also serve as a liability because, often, we think we need to adapt ourselves to get a man or to not scare someone off.
Anytime we become adaptable to try and align with a partner we contract our true selves. Our adaptability becomes a shadow side of our superpower because it doesn’t feel super powerful to contract ourselves and to be something we are not.
Our unresolved issues from childhood, basically the beliefs and patterns we carry around, are one of the biggest blocks to calling in the relationship we desire. Doing inner child work is the foundation for us to be our authentic selves.
Being our authentic selves and living in alignment with who we truly are is the shift that will bring in the kind of partner that is in the most perfect alignment with us.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Have you been trying to strategically date or strategically do something to get what you want, and it is not working?
Do you think that the way you are isn’t going to get you what you want?
Are you somebody who does things differently and thinks that you need to change to get what you want?
Do you trust that you can receive what you want?
Lisa’s Question:
Lisa wants to be in a committed relationship but feels her life choices are keeping her from finding a partner.
Lisa’s Key Insights and Ahas:
She moved to a different city to leave a toxic relationship.
She believed the universe had a plan when she met another person but it didn’t work out.
She is nomadic.
She wants a committed relationship but struggles in partnership.
She is sad and feels stuck.
She has a scarcity mindset.
She feels she is on a constant mission to find a partner.
She is an introvert.
She is not being authentic to who she is.
In childhood, she had to perform to get affection.
She doubts herself.
She doesn’t want a partner who is tied to one place.
She enjoys being by herself.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
Consider what her version of stability is.
Lean into who she authentically is.
Stop focusing on the void she feels.
Start energetically bringing in her ideal partner.
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Resources:
Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services
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This coaching call is overcoming the blocks that keep us from achieving goals. Today’s caller, Hannah Jade, feels her past decisions are holding her back from achieving her financial goals. She would like to understand the root cause of her block and how she can pursue her goals without conditions.
[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode443].
Ideally, there should be consistency in a child’s life so they can focus on learning who they are, independent of their parents, and learn to take the initiative to have a sense of power and purpose in the world.
Our childhood doesn’t have to define us or limit us. When we find the root cause and help our inner child get what they didn’t get, have the developmental leap that they didn’t have at that time, then it’s like our past doesn’t have to keep presenting itself in our present.
There is so much other work we can do around mind shifts and beliefs, and the work is powerful. When we combine it with inner child work and understanding what happens to us developmentally and what needs we needed to be met at certain times in our lives, it can help us make profound shifts faster.
Combining inner child work with mindset work is a great recipe for experiencing transformation in our lives.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you ever find that you can’t seem to make your dreams happen?
Do you feel ashamed when it comes to buying a house, getting married, or other milestone goals?
Do you have debt you are ashamed of?
Did you have some hard times in your childhood that may be impacting your life now?
Hannah Jade’s Question:
Hannah Jade feels her financial goals aren’t attainable. She asks for guidance on how to make her goals feel possible.
Hannah Jade’s Key Insights and Ahas:
She feels her past choices are holding her back.
She is loving herself through her experiences.
She experienced a lot of changes during her childhood.
She didn’t have heavy trauma but she had many inconsistencies.
She shied away from things she wanted to explore.
She feels safe with people who are grounded.
She has initiative but doubts her abilities.
She has a strong connection with her inner child.
She feels buying a home will fill her up with happiness.
She feels she has stagnant or sluggish energy at times.
She may have gone into debt to feel more connected.
She is an entrepreneur.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
Ask little Hannah Jade what she needs to be comfortable with taking initiatives.
Create a bedtime routine for herself to support her inner child.
Prioritize connections and intentions with herself.
Treat herself and her debt with tenderness.
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Resources:
Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services
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This coaching call is about attraction in healthy relationships. Today’s caller, Stephanie, feels she is in a wonderful relationship but it lacks the spark of chemistry. She would like to know whether or not it will ever exist. She doesn’t realize how much her little girl is impacting her relationship, specifically the sexual attraction and intimacy aspect.
[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode442].
One of the reasons sex and attraction are easier in relationships that aren’t super conscious and healthy is because we feel it is the only way we can connect to the other person. When we connect on conscious, intimate levels or we aren’t coming from our wounded self, it can be overwhelming. To add sexuality into that, can often feel like too much. On some level, we withhold part of ourselves.
Projecting our unmet childhood needs on a partner is one of the ways we kill polarity. The safety we need from another person from an adult perspective is different from the safety our inner child needs. The agreements we have from parent to child are different from partner-to-partner agreements.
In healthy long-term relationships, it does take effort and intention because we don’t have the initial chemistry and we don’t have the dysfunction of the drama of unmet need attachment. If we are in a dynamic where our partners give us the things we didn’t get from our parents, it can kill the spark. Just being in a relationship for a while can also lessen the spark.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
Have you been in a relationship where there is a lot of love but not a lot of lust?
Is there a part of you that believes you can’t have chemistry, safety, consciousness, and love?
How was intimacy modeled for you as a child? Was a healthy, affectionate, romantically intimate relationship modeled for you?
Stephanie’s Question:
Stephanie feels she is in a great relationship but the spark of sexual attraction is missing. She would like to know why.
Stephanie’s Key Insights and Ahas:
She is in a relationship with someone who shares similar goals and interests.
They are both en route to be coaches.
There hasn’t been a lot of sexual attraction in their relationship.
Her previous sexual attraction to others may have been her inner child attachment.
She is unsure if she wants an “out” from the relationship.
She feels that being vulnerable and intimate is not 100% safe.
She wasn’t able to be herself when she was young.
She fears her partner will leave if she reveals herself fully.
Her mother was ill during most of her childhood.
She has not yet learned to be intimate with someone safe and to whom she can be connected.
She wants to feel safe.
Inconsistency and uncertainty scare her.
Her inner child is working to get her attention.
She has been in a survival pattern.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
Lean into having sex and intimacy from a mature perspective.
Join the Reconnect Inner Child Course.
Get clear about the needs of her inner child.
Be clear about what her needs in partnership are.
Get the free download for couples from ChristineHassler.com/sacredunion.
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Resources:
Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services
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