Sep 29, 2018
Christine welcomes CEO, Entrepreneur, Advisor, and Speaker Jennifer Love to the show to discuss changing your story around wealth and taking action to become even more successful. Jennifer Love is the CEO of One More Woman – a fast-track, high-performance educational and advisory community helping women entrepreneurs take the stress out of the money equation so they can effectively raise, make, manage, and give money. She is a nationally-acclaimed mentor, international business strategist, speaker, and successful thought leader who has guided thousands of entrepreneurs to position their businesses for long-term, sustainable growth. To learn more about the Personal Mastery Course or Signature Retreat that Christine mentions, go here: christinehassler.com/mastery christinehassler.com/spring-retreat
Sep 26, 2018
The heart of this coaching session is about feeling safe and speaking your truth. Sara’s mother is trying hard to mend a relationship damaged by alcoholism but is striking out when it comes to giving Sara what she needs. We work through the steps Sara can take to release the resentment and educate her mother about what she really needs because we cannot shift our relationships until we shift something inside ourselves. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode159] Expressing our needs is important. Often, we love others the way we need or want to be loved and we miss the mark with the other person. This is why it is important to ask the other person how they want to be loved and what they need and then for us to express our needs to them. Set people up for success, don’t expect them to be mind readers. And when dealing with the challenges of growing up fast or in an unpredictable and chaotic environment, it is hard to work with our inner child when our inner child wasn’t a child for very long. If life was always unpredictable or chaotic we are always strategizing about what we have to do to keep the peace. We live in a constant state of anxiety because we don’t feel safe. In an effort to not create more chaos and manage anxiety, we may become perfectionists. It gives the anxiety something to do. We shift old patterns with self-talk, by being curious, by letting go, being messy and asking for and receiving help. My for women only Signature Retreat has been upleveled. If you want to get clarity on your purpose and release the emotions that are holding you back, join me in March 2019. To connect with me and other like-minded women sign up before October 1st to get the $500 Early Bird discount. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Did you grow up with an alcoholic parent? Or in a very chaotic environment? ? Are you a perfectionist? ? How are you at setting boundaries? Are you afraid of how the other person might react? ? Do you want to be more social but it creates anxiety for you? ? Do you feel fully self-expressed? Sara’s Question: Sara would like guidance on how to move forward in her relationship with her mother and set appropriate boundaries. Sara’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She is the oldest of four children. ? She holds on to deep-seated beliefs about her role in her family. ? Her mother is an alcoholic and is in AA. ? She feels hurt by her mother. ? She has been trying to work through this for a long time. ? She had to grow up fast. ? She had to parent her parent. ? She surrenders control to others. ? She is attempting to mother herself through others. ? She wants to step into using her own voice and sharing her opinion. ? She becomes a chameleon when she feels unsafe. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should attend the upcoming Signature Spring Retreat to release her feelings for the final time. ? She should ask her fiance to reassure her and say “I got this,” when she falls into a control issue. ? She needs to deconstruct the belief that she has to do everything on her own. ? She should become an observer of people’s reactions when she speaks her truth. ? She needs to change her self-talk and reassure herself that she is safe. ? She needs to look at people as if they are puzzles. ? She needs to practice asking for help. ? She should write a letter to her mother including what she needs. Assignments For You: ? Let go of perfectionism and be messy. Ask for support and receiving it even if it’s not the way you would do something. ? Look at people like puzzles and manage your self-talk when you don’t feel safe. Take actions in your adult life that help reparent your inner child. ? Write a letter to someone you want to set boundaries or shift a relationship with. Sponsors: Express — No time for an outfit change after work? Express rewrites the rules of dressing for a job, with style by delivering fashion-forward...
Sep 22, 2018
This is a fantastic episode that offers you practical tools for how to FEEL and DEAL with your emotions. Amber Rae is called a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green, Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Amber and Christine dive into how feelings are a messenger and will guide you through processes to make them your friends. To learn more about the Personal Mastery Course or Signature Retreat that Christine mentions, go here: christinehassler.com/mastery christinehassler.com/spring-retreat
Sep 19, 2018
The core issue in this coaching session is abandonment. Chrystal’s limiting beliefs around trust began when her father left the family to return to his home country. She took on her father’s issues by personalizing the event and she is still triggered by the event, even as an adult. She has a breakthrough when she realizes her father’s decisions had nothing to do with her and she is worthy of abundance and love. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode158] If you feel you are broken or unlovable in some way, it is important to know most humans in the western world struggle with this. Part of our journey as humans evolving in consciousness is to upgrade the limiting belief that we are not worthy in some way or there is something we have to do to prove our enoughness. It’s easy to fall into the conditioning that we have to do something to be worthy. That we have to do something to be enough and to be loved. It stems from childhood programming and conditioning. There is nothing you need to do to earn worthiness, enoughness, or love. If you have checked off a lot of boxes in your life and have done things you thought would make you feel worthy but you are still not feeling it, it's because nothing outside of you can make you feel worthy or embody worthiness. Feeling worthy is truly an inside job that requires going back and updating some beliefs, healing core issues and re-framing how you look at life experiences. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you struggle with self-worth? Do you know intellectually you are enough but you just aren’t feeling it? ? Did you have a significant life event when someone left or someone was critical so you started to believe you did something wrong? DId you personalize it? ? Do you relate to being a giver? Is it easy for you to show up for people and show compassion for others but have difficulty receiving compassion? ? Do you live life ‘on guard’? Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop or thinking in worst-case scenarios? Chrystal’s Question: Chrystal is having trouble loving herself and would like to understand her worth. Chrystal’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She has always struggled with knowing her worth. ? She was depressed and suicidal in her teens. ? She gets triggered by certain events. ? Her father left the family when she was a child. ? She felt loved by her father but she felt like the second option. ? She always considers the worst-case scenarios. ? She protects herself from being hurt again. ? She resigned from her job. ? She is perpetuating her limiting beliefs. ? She wants everything to be perfect. ? She realizes her father made decisions for him, not her. ? She internalizes other people’s pain. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should stop personalizing the situation. ? She should read Expectation Hangover and attend the Personal Mastery Course. ? During triggering events she needs to reassure 5-year-old Chrystal and make her feel worthy. ? She needs to realize her life lessons are a gift, not a punishment. ? She needs to remember she is worthy of abundance and love. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Freshbooks is offering an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just for my listeners who use OVERITANDONWITHIT in the ‘how did you hear about us?’ section. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch This Over It and On with It Episode on YouTube — Hit Subscribe! Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.
Sep 15, 2018
If you feel like you have a lot of awareness but things in your life are not changing…it may be time for some “experiential” work. In this episode Christine defines what experiential work is and why it’s important. Jill joins her and they talk about what happens at Christine’s signature retreat to help you discern if it’s right for you. More info about the retreat here: www.christinehassler.com/spring-retreat
Sep 12, 2018
The heart of this coaching session is about self-compassion. Steve has been in his masculine and repressing his pain for much of his life. Another level of his pain is surfacing and that’s because his unconscious knows he is ready to deal with it. If you are at a point in your life where you feel like you have done a lot of personal growth work but pain is resurfacing in your life you do not want to miss this episode. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode157] It takes a lot of energy to repress pain. And, that’s why it feels hard to move forward in our lives, it feels hard to get a career off the ground, or to connect in relationships because we are unconsciously suppressing a lot of pain. Pain wants to come up and out. Our bodies don’t want to hold terrible memories or trauma inside. Our unconscious mind wants to let it go. So, it continues to make us feel uncomfortable until we deal with it. Not just mentally, but emotionally as well. It may be difficult to go back and to feel the pain of your childhood but you are feeling it anyway, 24/7 — it is just repressed. It is healthier to go into it and feel it fully with self-compassion so it can come up and out. When pain doesn’t have a way to express with compassion, it sits inside you dormant and continues to drive your choices and behaviors. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel like you have hit a point where things were going well but old stuff started to come up? ? If you are a man, do you have difficulty feeling vulnerable? Do you judge it as weakness? ? Is vulnerability awkward for you? Maybe, it’s OK for others to be vulnerable but it’s hard for you? ? Do you trust yourself? Do you trust your decisions? Do you feel safe with your pain? ? Do you find yourself jumping to forgiveness too quickly? Are you able to mentally understand and justify things that have happened in your life but you notice the pain is still there? Steve’s Question: Steve is struggling with worrying about what other people think of him for what he believes to be the first time in his life. Steve’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He’s always had to prove himself. ? He has tried to be different his entire life. ? He joined a gang as a teenager. ? He hasn’t forgiven himself for betraying himself. ? His experience built loyalty. ? He is able to relate to many different types of people. ? He has a warrior spirit. ? His girlfriend was murdered. ? He didn’t have a relationship with his father. ? He is in the process of up-leveling. ? He wants to eliminate his pain completely. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to quit judging himself and create a space to be vulnerable. ? He needs to trust himself more. ? He needs to spend time feeling his feelings. ? He needs to do the emotional section of Expectation Hangover. ? He should write down what being a loving father to himself looks like. Sponsors: Express — No time for an outfit change after work? Express rewrites the rules of dressing for a job, with style by delivering fashion-forward essentials to your door. Express has pants, work tops, dresses, and more. Listeners to Over It and On With It will receive $25 off when you spend $100 by using the code ‘Christine’ at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch Christine Hassler on YouTube — Hit Subscribe! Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.
Sep 8, 2018
Since a lot of you were asking, I brought Stef back on the show to share the story of how we met and what we did to call each other in. We talk about listening to intuition, what being “whole and complete” really means, how to do the inner work to prepare for a partnership where you feel truly met, and much more!
Sep 5, 2018
This coaching session is about a man who wants to foster a deeper emotional connection with his father. Nicholas and his father have a good surface relationship but he wants it to become more intimate. This session is a great example of how men (especially the younger generation of men) are really looking to break some old patterns of men not having to be emotionally connected. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode156] If you are doing personal growth work you may be craving a deeper relationship with other people, especially a parent. The more you are connected to yourself the more connection you want with others But, it is also important to meet people where they are and to offer an invitation to a more emotionally intimate relationship. It's important, whether with our parent, spouse or friend, to work through our own wounding with that person before we try to have a deeper connection with them or before we talk with them. If we don't the conversation will be too emotionally charged. And, It is not our job to teach our parents but we do have an invitation to open a door to be a guide to vulnerability and consciousness as adult children are becoming generational pattern breakers. A Note to Coaches — It is important to not jump straight to advice. It's tempting to do but I encourage you to be more of an investigator than an advice giver. One of the most powerful questions to ask a client when they are talking about a shift or result they want is ‘Why do you want this?’ or ‘Why is this important to you?’ We assume a lot as coaches; it is important not to assume anything. If you want to overcome and heal the issues that are be holding you back from truly enjoying time with your family and you want to do deep inner work to reframe your beliefs to get to a place of forgiveness, join me in March for my Signature Spring Retreat for women only. Email Jill@Christinehassler.com or visit Christine Hassler Spring Retreat. The Early Bird pricing discount ends Oct 1st, 2018. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there a parent you are longing for a deeper connection to? ? Has doing personal growth work inspired more intimate conversations in most or all of your relationships? ? Is emotionally bonding with your father more challenging than your mother? ? Are you scared or nervous to attempt to shift a relationship because you may get shut down or rejected? Nicholas’s Question: Nicholas has been doing personal growth work and feels it is time to connect more deeply with his father. Nicholas’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He spent a lot of time with his father in nature. ? He never had an emotional or intimate connection with his father. ? He wants to know himself more. ? He used to self-medicate. ? He didn’t feel his father was interested in his passions. ? He is helping to bring healthy masculine into the world. ? He hasn’t taken action on his desires. ? He fears his dad will reject him. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He should acknowledge his father and share some of the personal growth work he has done. ? He needs to have other men in his life that are available to him. ? He needs to accept the way his father is even if he isn’t willing to change. ? His divine assignment is to usher in more healthy masculinity. ? He needs to release his attachment and come from a place of vulnerability and curiosity. ? He needs to write out what a healthy father looks like and acts like to him. Takeaways and Assignments: ? When you are having a conversation with a man, do it while moving. ? The best way to get someone to open up and to be vulnerable is to be vulnerable, ourselves. ? Be curious and be patient, especially with parents or older persons. ? Don’t take someone else’s unwillingness to discuss something personally. ? If you are looking for a deeper connection to your father or father figure, write out what a healthy father looks...
Sep 1, 2018
It is never good to feel bad about things that make you feel good! In this Coaches Corner Christine talks about six key things that are not only healthy to do - but healthy to feel really good about doing. For more info about Christine’s upcoming Spring retreat go to: https://belive.tv/broadcasts/face-to-face-e3hvjmotw8_m/face_guest