Ajit was born to a middle-income family in Jaipur and grew up in an extended family of 23 other people under one roof. Space and money were scarce, and so as a little boy, he dreamt of abundance.
This call is about sorting through emotional traffic and protecting yourself energetically. If you feel like an empath or a sensitive person, chances are you are someone who has emotional intelligence and is impacted by the energy and emotions of others. If family members or friends call you sensitive or over-dramatic, this episode with Tiffany provides guidance on how to deal with your empathic gift.
[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode170]
When empaths or highly-sensitive people are flooded with other people’s emotions, it’s like traffic that slows us down. It can make us more triggerable, and it takes us longer to see clearly what is truly triggering us. We have to get out of traffic emotionally. We do that by processing our own feelings and by setting emotional boundaries. So, we can be compassionate with people but not sympathetic.
The more we can be in compassion, not sympathy, the more we can keep our emotional immune system up and be emotionally healthy. If highly-sensitive people don’t process their own emotions or discern what are their emotions or someone else’s, they can be highly-reactive, a.k.a. dramatic.
When we keep ourselves emotionally healthy, we are less likely to be drained by other people’s emotions. It’s important not to isolate yourself to protect yourself. Being alone is replenishing but we all need other people. Don’t fear people or connections.
It is super important to let go of the limiting belief that you think something is wrong with you. You need to update your beliefs and know that nothing is wrong with you. You need to find your tribe.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
● Are you often called out for being over-sensitive or being dramatic or reactive?
● Do you find yourself drained or triggered by people who are making choices you are not aligned with?
● Do you feel like the black sheep of your family or that no one really gets you?
● Do you tend to attract emotionally unavailable people into your life?
● Do you find solace in isolation and feel safer being alone?
● When it comes to feeling, do you have intense feelings and overwhelm and unbearable sadness?
Tiffany’s Question:
Tiffany is feeling lost and overwhelmed and feels like something is wrong with her. She asks for guidance on how she can embrace her empathy.
Tiffany’s Key Insights and Ahas:
● People tell her she is too sensitive.
● She feels she is different from her other family members.
● She is affected by other people’s actions.
● She feels things very deeply.
● She navigates through everyone else’s feelings.
● She is drawn to people who are ‘shut down.’
● She feels isolated and lonely at times.
● She is triggered by certain experiences.
● She doubts her thoughts and feelings.
● She is a people pleaser.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
● She needs to protect her energy and learn how to reduce the amount of traffic on her emotional freeway.
● She needs to upgrade her spiritual hygiene and read books about being an empath.
● She needs to clean up her own unprocessed feelings.
● She should sign up for my Personal Mastery Course and attend my Spring Retreat.
● She should do the emotional release work in Expectation Hangover.
● She needs to listen to her inner voice.
● She needs to let go the belief that something is wrong with her and own her gifts.
Takeaways For You:
● Read books written for empaths.
● Find out what the best spiritual hygiene practices for you are.
● Don’t people-please or think you get your value from making other people feel better.
● Process and clear your emotional traffic.
● Join my Personal Mastery Course to meet like-minded people and to start meeting your tribe.
Resources:
Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.
To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler
Christine’s Personal Mastery Course
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.
Listen in as Christine and her partner, Stefanos, answer listener questions about dating and relationships. Topics discussed are: what to do when someone cheats in the relationship, how to get over the pain of being single and dating advice for introverts.
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In this episode, Christine explains why we feel lonely and gives you three different pathways to deal with (and overcome) loneliness this holiday season.
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This call is about overcoming roadblocks to motivation. Desiree calls in concerned about her ability to follow through, and commit to her goals. But, in this as in most coaching sessions, we delve deeper into why she is holding herself back and suppressing her feelings. If you relate to not feeling motivated and are ready to shine your light, this episode will help you discover how to take risks and go after your dreams.
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This call is about feeling worthy and transforming the inner critic. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a ‘toxic’ relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.
In this episode, Christine talks through why vulnerability is so important to healthy relationships and how to do it in a safe way. Vulnerability creates more authenticity in our lives which leads to deeper connections and greater intimacy.
This call is about being willing and committed to truly healing past trauma. The caller, Cory, asks how to process her trauma in a way that doesn’t make her feel more traumatized. If any of you are feeling this way and want to understand how to process your past without fear and crying all the time, I think you will appreciate this episode. And, if trauma has been part of your past listen to this episode in a calm space where you can really take it in.
Sadie Lincoln is the co-founder and CEO of barre3, a fitness company focused on teaching people to be balanced in body and empowered from within. Starting in 2008 with the flagship studio in Portland, Oregon, barre3 has grown to include more than 140 franchise studios powered by female entrepreneurs, plus an online-workout streaming-subscriber base in 98+ countries.
This call is about releasing pain and leaning into spirituality. The caller, Mel, is asking the existential questions about the purpose of life and why we are here. Many people ask themselves these same questions and it is important for us all to discover our own spiritual path and beliefs. If we believe that our soul traverses multiple lifetimes, part of the reason we come back is to evolve out of pain.
Dr. Matt Kreinheder joins me today on coaches corner to answer these questions. He is is a transformational healer, speaker, coach, and author of the book: Awakening the Mystic. Dr. Matt has a doctorate in chiropractic, a master's degree in acupuncture and has professionally written for publications all over the globe.
This call is about self-love and overcoming self-induced judgments. Anneke calls in for guidance about how she can start being her true self. She vulnerably opens up about the fear that comes up when she compares herself to others and her feelings of loneliness. We cover a lot of ground in this session including how she can make a transition into full, authentic self-expression. This is the very first coaching episode of this podcast that originally aired on Oct 22, 2015.
This is a deeply personal episode for me . . . I get personal, I am sharing someone with you who means a great deal to me personally and we are talking about a topic I am deeply passionate about: sexual healing.
If you have a passion, a calling, or a gift you want to share with the world but you can’t seem to get it started or make a living at it, then you will love this episode. Today’s caller, Layla, has a passion for music and would like guidance on how to share her gift fully with the world. We decode the major block that commonly gets in the way of sharing one’s gifts with the world.
As she rose up the ranks to star status in the fitness industry, Patricia Moreno found herself trapped in a vicious cycle of body consciousness, resorting to extreme exercise and dieting to maintain her appearance. She thought, “Here I am, doing all of these crazy things behind the scenes and preaching exercise and diet—and it's not working for me.”
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In this quickie episode Christine discusses her top core value: Freedom. She explores what freedom truly means and how we can experience it no matter what are circumstances are.
Are you free?
Or are you sentencing yourself with judgment and restraining yourself from expressing the awesome-ness that you are? Are you are trapped in not-enough-ness because you are comparing yourself to others? Or perhaps you are imprisoning yourself by choosing to experience anxiety and suffering. Or maybe you are a prisoner of your own story and locked away from your own truth because you are constrained by the opinions of others.
Listen in and step into your freedom.
This episode is about moving into acceptance and forgiveness. Today’s caller, Jen, is having a hard time getting to forgiveness because she doesn't believe her parents did the best they could. Her grudge may be costing her the very thing she longs for the most.
[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode94]
One of the ways we get to forgiveness is knowing people did the best they could, even if we believe they could have done better. Knowing they did the best they could with the tools they had is one of the ways we can get to forgiveness. It can be difficult, especially when it was a parent or a loved one.
Holding on to anger, blame, and resentment is toxic. It will eat you up inside and keep you from what you want. Continuing to use the past as a scapegoat for why you don’t have want you want gives your past power. Until you move into acceptance and forgiveness, your past will infiltrate every aspect of your present and your future.
Look at the places where you are not letting love into your life. Are you focusing too much on the people that didn’t love you in the way you wanted, and missing out on all the love around you?
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
● Is there someone you have not been able to forgive because you truly feel what they did is unforgivable?
● Is there someone you are blaming for your not having what you want in your life?
● Do you tend to imagine worst-case scenarios and feel that things just don’t go your way in life?
● Did you grow up around addicts or as the child of addicts?
Jen’s Question:
Jen would like to forgive her mother and accept that her parents did the best they could.
Jen’s Key Insights and Ahas:
● She didn’t get the love and attention she wanted as a child.
● She wants closure with her mother who recently passed.
● She feels broken.
● She’s created the healthy family she always wanted.
● She is keeping herself from fully appreciating and accepting the love of her current family.
● She is using her past as a scapegoat.
● As a child, she had low expectations so she wouldn’t be disappointed.
● It wasn’t her job to save her parents.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
● She shouldn’t identify with the victim role, and understand she received what she needed.
● She should stop mimicking her mother’s behaviors.
● She should do projection work and let the love that exists in her current life in.
● She should have appreciation and have life-affirming and positive thoughts.
Takeaways:
● If there is someone you want to hear something from, some kind of forgiveness, write a letter to you from them. Write down all the things you wanted to hear from them and read it to yourself.
● Do projection work. Look at judgments you have towards others and see how you may be doing it in your own life, externally or internally.
● Be honest about the cost of holding onto a grudge and write down what it is keeping you from. Write down all the blessings you have in life and how you may be blinded to them because of the grudge.
● Have positive expectations and use your imagination to consider the best-case scenario.
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Resources:
Coaches Corner with Gabby Bernstein — Turn Your Pain Into Purpose
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Anxiety has been up for a LOT of people lately. So if you’re feeling it, you’re not alone. Listen in for my top tips on handling your anxiety.