Over It And On With It

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May 9, 2020

This is a MUST listen for all women and men who want to understand women better. Functional medicine and woman's hormone expert Alisa Vitti joins Christine to discuss how our "infradian rhythm" which is tied to our menstrual cycle impacts all aspects of your life. You'll learn what to eat, how to exercise, and how to work depending on what phase of your cycle you are in. By tapping into your biological rhythm, you'll get more done with less effort, fuel your body with the nutrients it needs and enjoy the freedom that comes from living in FLO.

Alissa Vitta is also the author of Woman Code and In the Flo. The is the creator of MyFLO, the #1 paid period app and the first and only period tracking and cycle syncing app. Learn more at floliving.com

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EP 243: Are You Sabotaging Yourself Because of Low Self-Worth? With Odysseus 0

May 6, 2020

This is a call about imposter syndrome and feeling worthy. Today’s caller, Odysseus, feels that time is running out for him to have a deep, loving relationship or to have the career he desires. He would like guidance on how to ‘fix’ his pattern of stopping and starting things. We work through his limiting beliefs and discuss ways he can begin accepting himself.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode243]

A lot of times imposter syndrome comes from having competing intentions. We have our grown-up conscious self who wants to go out and help people, be a visionary, and have a big business but then we’ve got this younger part of us, our inner child or adolescent, who feels like they’re going to get rejected and doesn’t feel safe. It holds us back and that’s why we often feel like we’re taking one step forward and one step back.

And, for all of you that use words like quitter, lazy, self-sabotage — all those kinds of things — please don’t call yourself those names anymore. Those patterns are protective patterns that think that they’re doing you good so you need to understand them rather than hate on them and judge them and think to change them.

In many ways, it can be harder for men to connect with their inner child. But both men and women have a little child inside of them and he or she doesn’t want the shutdown, old-school masculine or the overwhelmed, unsupported feminine parent. It wants a loving present parent. So, give yourself that gift.

Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on navigating uncertainty and dealing with expectation hangovers on May 6th and the upcoming call on imposter syndrome. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the library of past and future group calls. Become part of my community for only $20.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you have a habit of what feels like quitting?
Would you say you are a bit of the black sheep of your family?
Do you want to do something but you just keep getting in your own way?
Do you have a fix-it approach to personal development?

Odysseus’s Question:

Odysseus would like guidance about a relationship and his finances and career.

Odysseus’s Key Insights and Ahas:

He feels he quits things too soon and he doesn’t put forth much effort.
He is a personal growth junkie.
He has cheated on his ex-girlfriends.
He battles with his limiting beliefs.
He has a pattern of low self-worth.
He doesn’t feel worthy of having a good relationship.
He didn’t feel wanted by his brothers as a child.
He was bullied when he was young.
He has Crohn’s disease.
He has a distant connection with his father.
His parents didn’t know how to parent his energy.
He aspires to be a coach but doubts he will follow through.
He feels like his time is running out.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

He needs to be kinder and gentler to himself.
He needs to search inside for who he really is.
He needs to create another pattern that protects him without limiting himself through reparenting.
He needs to start listening to his inner child and journal about what he says.
He needs to move into acceptance of himself and stop the judgments.
He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Takeaways:

Journal with your inner child. Choose different ages and write down both sides of your conversation.
Look at where imposter syndrome comes up for you and find the competing intention. There is a part of you that wants to move forward and be seen but the scared part of you that wants to protect yourself.
Celebrate your progress even if it’s just a small step in the direction you want to go.
Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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CC: A Meditation to Calm You During COVID19 0

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May 2, 2020

In this special coaches corner, Christine guides you through a beautiful meditation that will bring you both calm and clarity during this time.

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EP 242: Stop Being Needy with Carson 0

Apr 29, 2020

This is a call about overcoming codependent and anxious patterns. Today’s caller, Carson, is looking outside of himself for his worth. He would like to know how he can begin to heal and learn to trust himself. This call is a classic case of looking for what we didn't get as a child in other people, as an adult.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode242]

Anything that made you feel unsafe, small, or unimportant as a child or adolescent can create codependent behaviors. The need to attach to someone else develops as a way to counteract the feelings of being small or unimportant. You try to grab on to someone to feel needed or to feel important in their eyes. Codependence can work in two ways. You could be the person that another person needs such as becoming a caretaker or rescuer. Or, you can be super needy.

The behavior of grasping onto others and being needy is not sustainable.

No one outside of us can make these wounds go away. We have to fill the voids ourselves. You have to learn to trust yourself so you can stop grabbing or clinging onto other people or allowing others to cling onto you to feel worthy. If you have any codependent patterns running, you must learn to get your needs met inside yourself.

If you resonate with having similar feelings know that you can heal. Nothing is insurmountable.

Stefanos and I will be hosting our second ‘Be the Queen’ virtual teaching and coaching on May 5th. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Did you have your needs met as a child? If not, has that made you needy as an adult?
Have you ever thought that you have codependent behaviors?
Do people consistently disappoint, misunderstand, or abandon you?
Have you ever felt truly seen or understood by someone?

Carson’s Question:

Carson would like guidance on how to release his fear of abandonment and begin to trust again.

Carson’s Key Insights and Ahas:

He has been struggling with his fear of abandonment.
He is in a long-distance relationship.
He doesn’t feel supported or accepted by his family.
He is codependent and has an anxious attachment style.
He has felt misunderstood his entire life.
He doesn’t trust himself.
He has a creative outlet.
He is outsourcing his relief and happiness.
He replays past situations in his head.
He is seeking the things he didn’t get as a child.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

He should do the release writing practice.
He should do the temper tantrum technique.
He should become an observer of his needs.
He needs to say ‘I am safe and I am loved’ when he feels anxious.

Takeaways:

To break free of an anxious pattern, identify it, name it, acknowledge it, and accept it.
Don’t slap labels on yourself. You may have a part of you that is codependent but that is not who you are.
Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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CC: What We Can Learn from Astrology with Jade Luna 0

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Apr 25, 2020

Today Asterian Astrologer Jade Luna joins me to discuss how the stars predicted this pandemic, what we can learn from it, and how we can move forward. Jade and I speak about the "new normal" emerging and this time as a beginning of a massive change of consciousness.

Jade S. Luna is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format. Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia.

Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations worldwide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high-level practice for over 18 years.

You can learn more or book a session with him here:

http://www.asterianastrology.com/

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EP 241: Why Anger is a Gift with Keira 0

Apr 22, 2020

This is a call about how to heal anger and discover the passion and creativity that lie underneath. Today’s caller, Keira, feels she got the short end of the stick in life. She has done a lot of personal growth work and introspection but she is still angry and sad and wants guidance on how to find her way through her feelings.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode241]

As children or adolescents, we make unconscious vows of ‘I will never be like mom,’ or ‘I’ll never be like dad,’ or ‘I will never be like that person who teased me,’ but just making that vow or that promise is not enough. If you don’t heal the wounds that perpetuated making that vow, either you become like them or you go so far in the opposite direction that it becomes a shadow side.

If we’re angry all the time or angry at the world it breeds a deep sense of low self-worth. People who are angry generally have low self-worth because unprocessed anger creates an intense sense of separation. Which is another reason I’m so passionate about helping people process anger in a healthy way.

Anger misdirected is dangerous but anger directed in a healthy way can be deeply healing. Underneath that anger is where we often find our passion and our purpose.

If you feel shut down or you don’t know what your purpose is or what you are supposed to do, do anger release work to see what is underneath your anger. You will become a clearer channel for ideas and innovation.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you ever feel like life just doesn’t work out for you to matter how hard you try?
Do you feel angry and/or sad and no matter how much personal development work you do?
When it comes to emotions in your home growing up what did you observe?
Have you been told you’re too emotional or too reactive or too irrational or *fill in the blank* and you're questioning whether or not it is true?

Keira’s Question:

Keira would like guidance on how to let go of her anger so she can enjoy life.

Keira’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is emotionally addicted to being angry.
She judges herself for not being able to change.
She wants to enjoy life.
Her father let her down.
She judges her mother for not being strong for her.
She feels her older brother let her down.
She gets triggered easily.
She believes her soul is a passionate one.
She is yearning to uncover her creativity.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to be grateful for how her anger has served her.
She needs to learn how to channel and use her anger.
She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover.
She needs to dive deeper into her wounding to free herself of it.
She needs to share her feelings with her mother by writing letters she doesn’t intend to send.

Takeaways:

Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.
Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.
Find your voice during this time, whatever that means to you. Don’t be too passive or too reactive. Find your middle ground.
Channel your feelings into writing, speaking, dancing, cooking, creating; something non-result-based that is just fun.
Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

CC: Understanding and Healing Trauma with Elaine Miller 0

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Apr 18, 2020

This is an incredibly informative and compassionate discussion about trauma. Trauma is something this is often misunderstood and mistreated which is why I'm so grateful to have had Elaine, who has been on the front lines of trauma, shed some light on this subject.

Elaine Miller-Karas is the Director of Innovation, Vision and Creativity and co-founder of the Trauma Resource Institute and author of the book, Building Resiliency to Trauma, the Trauma and Community Resiliency Models^®(2015). She has worked internationally to bring healing to the world’s community. Her models to date have been brought to 102 countries in Asia, Africa, North America, the Mid-East, South America and Europe. She is a recognized international speaker and author. Elaine’s book was recently selected by the United Nations curated on-line library as one of the innovations that can help meet the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals. Elaine is a founding member of the International Transformational Resilience Coalition and a leading advocate with regard to the impact of climate change on the human condition.

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EP 240: Finding Your Worth with Eliza 0

Apr 15, 2020

This is a call about releasing your anger to find your worth. Today’s caller, Eliza, desires a relationship but doesn’t feel worthy. As with many people who struggle with not-enoughness, unworthiness, or with people who are stuck, she has confused acceptance with resignation and her passion, fire, and worth lies beneath her anger.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode240]

Emotional release work is like a workout. You may not feel like doing it if you didn’t sleep well the night before or you had one too many glasses of wine but after you do it you feel so much better. During this time, emotional release work is very important. This isn't just a time to chill or to just clean out your closet. It’s time to bring your shadow out into the light of awareness and be willing to feel your emotions. That’s when things will start to move and shift.

Please don’t lie to yourself or brush things under the rug. Don’t harbor resentment and call it acceptance. Acceptance is not avoiding confrontation; that’s complacency, resignation, and emotional repression. You might say that you’ve accepted so-and-so for who they are but deep down you probably still have anger and pain.

I believe that acceptance and forgiveness are beautiful places for all of us to be in but good luck being a human being and trying to bypass your emotions and get right to acceptance and forgiveness. That is a spiritual bypass. I hope that in this global Expectation Hangover we’re having more people will do emotional release writing, emotional release work, and the temper tantrum technique to look at the ways that they’re no longer able to sustain their behavior.

Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.

Stefan and I will be hosting our second ‘Be the Queen’ virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you struggle with feeling not enough or unworthiness?
Did you have a parent you felt shut you down? Maybe you felt they were disappointed in you or they never looked at you with love or adoration?
Do you feel stuck? Do you have trouble motivating yourself?
Do you have a hard time speaking your truth to people? Do you prefer to stay in the status quo?

Eliza’s Question:

Eliza wants to be in a relationship but feels unworthy of love.

Eliza’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She believes she is unlikeable.
She doesn’t feel good enough, especially at work.
She blames and judges herself.
She is fluent in the ‘I am not enough’ language.
She believes that blaming herself will help her heal.
She would like to forgive her parents freely.
She didn’t feel seen by her father.
She believes if she accepts her father then she will feel worthy.
She doesn’t feel loved by her family.
She swallows resentment to try and keep the peace.
She wants to feel loved and accepted.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should join our Be the Queen program.
She needs to change her self-talk and re-parent herself.
She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover.

Takeaways:

Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.
Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Free Fourself From Anxiety with EFT Led by Jess Ortner 0

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Apr 11, 2020

Jessica Ortner joins Christine to speak about how the Emotional Freedom Technique, which is also called "Tapping," can help bring relief from difficult emotions and thoughts. Jess is a producer of The Tapping Solution, the breakthrough documentary film on EFT/meridian tapping. She guides you through a tapping process to help release worry and tension in this episode. You can also more free EFT resources at www.christinehassler.com/tapping.

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EP 239: Finding Faith When You Think You Don’t Have It with Emma 0

Apr 8, 2020

This is a call about accessing faith when your logical mind has doubts. Today’s caller, Emma, is feeling anxious about not being able to access her faith. She says the mental understanding of God has her optimistic about the future but she wasn’t experientially getting it. And, an uncertain future is exacerbating her anxiety.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode239]

A relationship with a higher power can be complicated just like a relationship with people. We can go through ebbs and flows where we are totally into it and we feel it and then there are times when we are questioning everything.

Part of the reason many of us feel anger toward God is that we see a lot of suffering. We even see something like the pandemic and wonder if there really is a God. Remember that we are made from the image and likeness of God. The reason there is suffering in the world isn’t necessarily because God or the universe did it, it is our free will that has created what we live with on a day-to-day basis.

The universe, I believe, is always helping us move more and more toward evolution. It points out the contrast of when we are out of alignment with harmony, balance, and love. And as a collective, we have been out of alignment for a long time which is just one of the reasons we are experiencing this difficult time.

If we project human behavior onto God or onto the universe it will never make sense to us. We have to see our higher power, without judgment. God/Universe is an all-knowing, all-loving thing. All it wants is for us to know ourselves as it, to know ourselves as unconditional love, untapped possibility, and oneness.

We forget that God exists inside of each of us and we live in a world where we are still evolving. You don’t have to earn God. The more we shift into the energy of love, the energy of gratitude, and the energy of worthiness, there will be less suffering.

How can you experience the unconditional love of the universe if you don’t feel worthy to receive it?

Join Stef and me three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and download the call from 4/4/20 about anger.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

What does faith mean to you? Do you feel like you have it?
Do you want to have faith but you just don’t feel it?
Do you think you are worthy of being loved and supported by God or a higher power?
Are you a bit angry at God and the universe and you are not sure what to do about it?

Emma’s Question:

Emma doesn’t understand why she can’t access feelings of faith; she would like guidance about how to find meaning and connection.

Emma’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is feeling anxious about the future.
She believes she doesn’t have faith.
She doesn’t connect with any particular religion.
She has had bouts of extreme uncertainty.
She doesn’t believe things are fair.
She has a pattern of being unable to express her feelings.
She believes she is not enough and unworthy.
She was bullied when she was a child.
She has been repressing anger for a long time.
Deep down she remembers what it is like to be connected.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code ‘HEALTH’ and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.
She needs a good emotional release.
She needs to work through the anger by doing the empty chair practice putting God in the opposite chair.

Takeaways:

Download my free meditation to help you slip into your sense of faith and sense of spirituality. Download it at ChristineHassler.com/Faith.
Tap into your worthiness by using a picture of yourself as a child and feel into love and worthiness.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Make Your Love Life Thrive During This Challenging Time (for Couples and Singles!) 0

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Apr 4, 2020

Join Christine as Stef as they offer tips for both couples and singles to keep love alive. If you're in a relationship, your partner can either be your greatest asset or the greatest source of irritation . . . we support you in making him or her your asset and share specific ways you can do that. And if you are single, you're going to love what we have to say about why this is a fantastic time to call in love. We also discuss our program for women who are calling in their man: www.christinehassler.com/bethequeen

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EP 238: Your Passion and Purpose Might Be Hiding Underneath Your Anger with Kirsten 0

Apr 1, 2020

This is a call about releasing anger to find passion and calm. Today’s caller, Kirsten, is feeling anxious about what comes next for her. She is a stay-at-home mom who has fallen into the trap of looking for something external to relieve something internal. But as you know, something external never fixes or resolves what’s going on internally.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode238]

For many of us, we are so busy being ‘human doings’ that we forget about being human beings. And during this time when we are staying at home, we have an opportunity to come face-to-face with who we really are because we are less distracted. I encourage you, during this time, to go within and delve into nothingness and see what comes up. That's why my Mastery course is such a good investment at this time. This is the perfect time to do your inner work.

Our passion and our true calling often reside underneath our anger. If we haven’t addressed our anger, especially as women who tend not to let it out, it is hard to find our passion. And, passion and purpose is a juicy, fiery energy.

What we think we want to do often comes from a place of conditioning. But when we release the energy of compassion, we open up the second chakra of our body and when we pull the anger out all of the passion opens up.

Releasing anger in a healthy way, as in Expectation Hangover, basically it is finding a safe space. It is important that we voice our feelings at our parents in particular, not at them directly but in a therapeutic way. They don’t need to know about it. In our effort to protect them, we suppress our feelings. When we get the anger out, let it go and eventually get to forgiveness, real forgiveness, then we can have healthier relationships with our parents.

It is important to release our anger, release our sadness and to get our energy up and moving so it doesn’t turn into anxiety, fear, pain, or disease.

Would you like to work directly with me? I have two Private Client spots open. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you wondering what’s next? Are you returning to the work environment or reevaluating what you want to be doing?
Did you have a parent who had a temper but maybe it wasn’t directed at you so you could see their loving side so you don’t think it impacted you?
Do you have a hard time feeling and expressing anger in a healthy way? Or, do you feel guilty about acknowledging your anger at someone you love because you feel protective of that person?
How do you deal in calm when there is nothing to do?
Does anxiety get triggered when you don’t know what is next?

Kirsten’s Question:

Kirsten feels lost and is trying to find herself now that her kids are getting older.

Kirsten’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is married with two children.
She worries about where her worth and value will come from in the future.
Her identity is based on her being a wife and mother.
She was financially self-reliant from a very young age.
She is not fond of relying on her husband for money.
Her father had a temper and was aggressive with other family members.
She feels anger toward her parents but is very protective of her father.
She felt unsettled as a child.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should read 20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction, by Christine Hassler.
She needs to work toward true forgiveness toward her father.
She needs to practice release writing and start the sentences with “I am angry because…”
She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Assignments and Takeaways:

Go back and listen to Coaches Corner with Nicole Sachs on how emotions create chronic pain in our body.
If you are in your twenties or early thirties, grab a copy of 20-Something, 20-Everything for women or 20-Something Manifesto: Quarter-Lifers Speak Out About Who They Are, What They Want, and How to Get It, by Christine Hassler.
Re-read Expectation Hangover or join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code ‘HEALTH’ and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.
Don’t be afraid to follow any feelings of nervousness or anxiety into bigger feelings that reside underneath them. You will find your passion and calm.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Get Out of Pain (Permanently!) with Nicole Sachs 0

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Mar 28, 2020

Nicole Sachs, LCSW is a speaker, writer, podcaster and psychotherapist who has dedicated her work and her practice to the treatment of chronic pain, symptoms, syndromes and conditions. She is the author of the book The Meaning of Truth, and the online course FREEDOM FROM CHRONIC PAIN. Her brand, The Cure for Chronic Pain, includes a Website, Podcast and YouTube Channel. Her personal experience as well as work with thousands of people around the world have shaped and evolved Nicole’s theories, which serve to teach those suffering how to heal themselves completely with no medication or surgery.

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EP 237: You Are Not Defective with Lisa 0

Mar 25, 2020

This is a call about feeling worthy, trusting yourself, and knowing you are enough. Today’s caller, Lisa, mistakenly believes she is defective in some way, but it’s not true. She initially questions her career path but we unpack her question to get to the root of what is blocking her. There are some powerful ‘ahas’ in this call.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode237]

When our desires and our wants are not congruent with our beliefs about ourselves, we can fall into the trap of looking outside ourselves to make us feel a certain way. The universe will keep blocking that from happening because it wants us to learn that we can generate those feelings from inside ourselves and we don’t need anyone or anything else to make us feel confident or believe in ourselves.

Our life lessons, our parents, the things that impact our personality and behavioral patterns; all of it is changeable. All of that is healable, I promise you. What is not shiftable is your soul and your spirit. Your soul essence, who you are, your spirit can never be defective or deflated.

Join Stef and I three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and allow us to support you.

Listen to my last Coaches Corner where Emily Fletcher shares a meditation designed to help us stress less. After listening go to Zivameditation.com/online/ to get 50% off one of her mediation training.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you feel defective because you can’t seem to get to where you want to be in your life?
Are you trying a lot of things, hoping to find something you are passionate about or love doing?
Did you have too much responsibility as a child?
Do you have contradicting desires and beliefs?

Lisa’s Question:

Lisa has spent years in a job she doesn’t like and feels stuck but can’t pinpoint what she really wants to do.

Lisa’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is in a career she doesn’t like.
She feels like she is a procrastinator and lazy.
She took the first job she was offered.
She wants to be in a more strategic position.
She feels stressed.
She started pursuing fashion as a hobby.
She believes that she is unworthy.
She has never felt connected to anything.
She didn’t have the opportunity to play and be herself as a child.
She is a generational pattern breaker.
She lived in a state of survival as a child.
Her spirit wants more.
She is doing EMDR therapy.
Her desires and her wants are not congruent with her beliefs about herself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should be proud of herself for getting out there and trying new things.
She needs to reparent and heal herself.
She needs to tap into her shadow self and express herself.
She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Assignments and Takeaways:

Think about things that you were shamed for as a child and have compassion for yourself, take back your power, and give yourself permission to start enjoying the things you love.
Commit to feeling again. It’s not about discipline, it’s about being attuned to what is going on in the moment.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Mar 21, 2020

Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and the leading expert in meditation for extraordinary performance. In this very timely interview, she speaks to why mediation is so imperative for our wellbeing - particularly for our immune system. Emily guides you through a powerful meditation and offers you 50% off her Ziza meditation training which you can access at https://zivameditation.com/online/ The Ziva Technique is a powerful trifecta of mindfulness, meditation and manifesting designed to unlock your full potential.

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EP 236: Should You Give an Old Relationship a New Chance? With Megan 0

Mar 18, 2020

This is a call about issue-based relationships. Today’s caller, Megan, is curious about whether she should go back to a relationship that is on a break. She wants to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship. I explain what an issue-based relationship is and give her some guidance about how to listen to her inner knowing.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode236]

The five relationships are issue-based, journey mate, compatibility, fantasy, and side-by-side partnership. Not every relationship is made to last forever or should last forever. Different relationships come for different reasons and teach us different things. When we understand what type of relationship we have then it is a little bit easier to deal with.

An issue-based relationship is when our childhood wounds attract us to each other. We tend to date our unresolved issues from our childhood. Normally one person dumps feelings all over the other and the other person either dumps feelings back or tries to clean up the mess. They keep triggering each other and playing out patterns. When couples go to couple’s counseling it doesn’t really work because they keep trying to work on the relationship but they should be working on their own issues. It’s like two people who speak totally different languages and you are trying to teach them how to speak a third language.

For people in issue-based relationships, I recommend taking a break and separating, working on themselves, and then re-evaluating the relationship. By then they may decide the relationship is not what they want or they get back together.

March 18, 2020, Stefanos and I are co-hosting a group call about relationships. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. If you missed my live group coaching call about how to care for your energetic and spiritual hygiene and cope during times of stress download it for free at Christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Is there someone from your past that you are considering bringing back into your life?
Are you in an issue-based relationship?
Have you been in a relationship that has felt like great chemistry but it was actually codependence?
Are you willing to be on your own, or not in a relationship, for as long as it takes to see clearly what you need from a relationship?

Megan’s Question:

Megan would like to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship.

Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She attended my Spring Retreat.
She is in an issue-based relationship.
She entered into the relationship from an unhealthy space.
She has an opportunity to reconnect with her boyfriend who she has strong feelings for.
She has a pattern of giving men multiple chances.
Her father wasn’t emotionally available.
She feels an extremely strong connection to her boyfriend.
She has a pattern of asking external sources for answers to her internal questions.
She wants to get more into her healthy masculine.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She may want to let her boyfriend complete his coaching before reconnecting.
She needs to trust herself and her inner knowing.
She should reaffirm advice from others by writing it down and considering how it feels to her.
She should pray for the highest good of all parties.

Assignments and Takeaways:

Relationships are always learning opportunities. Look at your triggering relationships and consider what they are reflecting back to you.
If you are in an issue-based relationship and are not getting anywhere, take a break and work separately for a year and then see where you stand.
Evaluate the kind of partner you are being to yourself and work on your self-care and self-love.

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EP 235: Reclaiming Your Sexuality and Getting Over Body Issues with Heidi 0

Mar 11, 2020

This call is about reclaiming your sexuality and getting over body issues. Today’s caller, Heidi, has felt shame about her sexuality since she was a child. During our conversation, I coach her through how to reclaim her sexuality and how she can feel safe in her body to experience pleasure.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode235]

Being connected to our bodies and experiencing pleasure is important. There are a lot of therapies that help people move past eating disorders and fall back in love with their bodies. But, sexuality is a part of the therapy that is often left out.

When we don’t experience sensual or sexual pleasure or we disconnect from our body and are not satisfied we attempt to fill the void with food for satiation. For some, the only way to feel safe is to enforce some kind of control over their bodies which may create a body image issue or an eating disorder.

We can store emotional pain in our reproductive organs just like we store tension in our shoulders. And it is common for many women to experience pain during sex or sex doesn’t feel good to them. It is natural for human beings to want to experience pleasure. So, start introducing pleasure in ways that feel safe with you.

We don’t need to know the specifics behind our fears to heal ourselves and move on.

Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th. Be part of my community for only $20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the recorded version of the call.

Join Stefanos and me in Austin for our ‘Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power.’ To sign up for the event on September 24–27th go to ChristineHassler.com/austin.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you have any body image issues? Have you had an eating disorder in the past or are struggling with it now?
Were you raised in a very strict, religious, or repressed home?
Were you shamed as a child or teenager?
Do you experience pleasure in your current life?
Do you enjoy sex? Could it be better?

Heidi’s Question:

Heidi would like guidance on how to heal her body from an eating disorder.

Heidi’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She sabotages herself and reverts to old patterns.
She battles anorexia.
She rarely felt safe as a child.
She always tried to please her father.
She felt shame around how she looked.
Her family is very religious.
She has disconnected from her sexuality.

How to get over it and on with it:

She needs to unlock her sacred sexuality.
She should look for healers to help her.
She needs to put more intention into her sex life with her husband.
She needs to indulge in self-pleasure to feel safe in her body.

Assignments and Takeaways:

If you have been dealing with an eating disorder or body image issue, take an inventory of how much pleasure you have in your life.
You don’t need a partner to experience pleasure. Create pleasure dates with yourself.
Somatic therapy, Pelvic Floor Therapy, Dancing, Tantra are all ways you can heal and help yourself to enjoy being in your body.
Put more intention into your sex life.
Enjoy being in your body. Don’t disconnect from your physical experience.

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Mar 7, 2020

This week Christine shares about her experience at Dr. Joe Dispenza's week-long advanced retreat - learn a little about who Dr. Joe is, what he teaches, and how to move through resistance when you are breaking out of your comfort zone. Christine also announces more about the retreat she is teaching in September: www.christinehassler.com/austin

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EP 234: Stop Overeating and Overspending with Dee 0

Mar 4, 2020

This episode is about how to break addictive behaviors. Today’s caller, Dee, had a chaotic childhood and is unconsciously creating chaos in her adult life because it feels familiar and safe. We work through the process of identifying her emotional addiction and unpack why it’s hard to shift and then how to shift it.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode234]

How we know that an unresolved issue from our past or an old emotional addiction has created a pattern of acting that is so unconscious that we have a hard time ‘controlling’ it is at play is that we do something that doesn’t match our current life.

If you are doing something that doesn’t match up to what your current life represents, you have some work to do in terms of going back and cleaning up the past.

When we have a lot of chaos or are used to feeling it, we become addicted to negative or lower vibrational feelings, like anxiety. Sometimes the revved up, anxious, addicted behavior creates a feeling of peace because it is familiar.

With any addiction, you are never after the substance. You are after the feeling the substance gives you. When we understand that the human psyche feels safety with certainty the brain continually hunts for what it knows to be familiar. It’s way more than sabotage. It’s a part of the brain that is so familiar with chaos that when everything is good and peaceful, it feels wrong or off.

If you are in a behavior that feels incongruent with your current state, be aware that it is an emotional addiction. Drop into compassion and then feed your emotional addiction a different way.

Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th. Be part of my community for only $20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information.

Join Stefanos and me in Austin in the Fall for our Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power. To get on the ‘interested’ list go to ChristineHassler.com/austin.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you have a habit of overspending and/or overeating?
Do you have a behavior where you see yourself doing it and you know you shouldn’t but you just can't seem to stop?
Did you grow up with a lot of chaos? Is the chaos gone but you continue to bring chaos into your life?
How are you about going with the flow and letting go of control?
Do you have a deep connection with a higher power?

Dee’s Question:

Dee has a habit of overspending and overeating and would like guidance on how to break her past programming.

Dee’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She’s read Expectation Hangover.
She continues to accrue debt.
She overeats unhealthy foods.
She’s never been taught about money.
She grew up with scarcity and chaos.
There is addiction in her family.
She is unconsciously creating chaos.
She’s always been a seeker.
She doesn’t feel worthy.
She works in the spiritual arts.
She feels positive about what to do next.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

If she can change where she focuses her energy, from spending to spiritual things will open up for her.
She needs to stop herself in the moment and generate feelings of love.
She needs to stir up the chemicals in her body and brain.
When she feels an urge to spend or eat, she should put one hand on her heart and one on her head and give herself love.
She needs to be gentle with herself while she breaks the cycle.

Takeaways:

If you are in a behavior that feels incongruent with your current state, be aware that it is an emotional addiction. Drop into compassion and then feed your emotional addiction in a different way.

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Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

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CC: Ignite your Soul with Amber Lilyestrom 0

Feb 29, 2020

Amber Lilyestrom is a transformational branding strategist and business coach, author and speaker. She is the host of The Amber Lilyestrom Show podcast, which has over 100,000 monthly downloads . She is the creator of the Ignite Your Soul Summit, an annual live event in Portsmouth, NH and multiple life-changing online programs.

Amber's mission is to empower women to position themselves as sought-after experts and thought leaders through the creation of an online brand presence. Her transformational mindset work sets her apart in an industry focused on a strategy-first, inner work later approach. She’s worked with thousands of women worldwide building a seven-figure business from home, while also homeschooling her daughter and retiring her husband from his 11-year police career.

Amber spent 10 years working in collegiate athletics marketing before launching her business. She managed the University of New Hampshire Wildcats brand, where she taught sports marketing and mentored student interns. She was recognized as one of the top sports marketing professionals in the nation and left her corporate career after a life-altering near-death experience that served as the catalyst for her to launch her business. You can learn more and connect with Amber at www.amberlilyestrom.com

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EP 233: Understanding a Journey Mate Relationship with Miranda 0

Feb 26, 2020

This episode is about how to get over a breakup but we go much deeper than that. Today’s caller, Miranda, had a profound spiritual experience during her previous relationship. She thought the feeling came from an external source when it actually came from her internal divine source because her mind was quiet enough to feel unconditional love for herself.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode233]

We are all headed towards breaking old personality patterns and emotional addictions that have kept us in a certain frequency to elevate ourselves into a different energetic field. This is why journey mates come into our lives.

There is a specific reason a journey mate comes into our lives. A journey mate relationship is a contract but it’s a short-term contract. We come together with a person to have an important experience or to help us get through a difficult time we can’t get through on our own. The other person acts as a mirror to show us the aspect inside of us we need to transform. Usually, once the experience or realization happens the relationship has to end. Often, I find these relationships end abruptly or under random circumstances.

The reason the universe pulls two people apart is that a journey mate is only in our lives to show us something about ourselves or to help us discover inner qualities that we may not be able to access on our own.

How do you access a deeper connection with the divine?

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Join Stefan and me in Austin in the Fall for our Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power. To get on the ‘interested’ list go to ChristineHassler.com/austin.

Or join us on a live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th or 19th. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you struggling with getting over a breakup?
Have you been in a deeply connected relationship but it ended abruptly or under shocking circumstances?
Have you had a spiritual experience but are unable to have it again? Do you want to feel unconditional love, peace, and a deeper connection?
Do you tend to be hard on yourself or have a fierce inner critic?

Miranda’s Question:

Miranda had a spiritual experience in a relationship but since the relationship ended she hasn’t been able to recreate the feeling and would like guidance on how to regain the feeling.

Miranda’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She had a positive spiritual experience in which she felt unconditional love.
She has a fierce inner critic.
Her previous relationship ended abruptly.
She realizes she sacrificed some of herself in the relationship.
She overanalyzed what the relationship meant.
She realizes she felt the love from an internal source, not an external one.
She feels encouraged by her progress.
She wants to capitalize on this chapter of her life.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to realize that what she experienced was a spiritual moment she allowed herself to have.
She should look at the relationship as a gift but not put her ex on a pedestal.
She shouldn’t believe that she was rejected.
She needs to fall more in love with herself every day.
She needs to generate the elated feelings on her own.

Takeaways:

If you feel you have a Journey Mate relationship or had one, accept it. Write a letter you don’t intend to send to thank the other person for the relationship and declaring it done.
Get serious about your meditation practice. You should be feeling elevated when you finish.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover

Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback

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CC: How the Worst Thing that Happened, Becomes the Best Thing with Antonio Neves 0

Feb 22, 2020

Antonio Neves is an internationally recognized leadership speaker, author and award-winning journalist. He's the author of three books including, '50 Ways To Excel In Your First Job (and in Life) and he’s currently working on his next book.

On his podcast The Best Thing, he talks with fascinating people about the “best thing” to happen to them that would never appear on a resume, bio or come up in conversation.

For nearly 10 years, Antonio has helped organizations increase workplace engagement, create strong cultures of accountability, and tell stories that make people lean in Antonio's clients and audiences are some of the largest brands in the world including.

An award-winning journalist, Antonio worked as a correspondent, host and producer for over 10 years in New York City with top networks including NBC, PBS, BET Networks, Advertising Age and Nickelodeon.

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EP 232: Make Choices with Clarity and Stop Sabotaging Patterns with Megan 0

Feb 19, 2020

This episode is about asking for what you need in relationships. Today’s caller, Megan, feels overwhelmed when faced with too many choices and is afraid to be truly seen. She doesn’t want her pattern of uncertainty to sabotage her new relationship. Like in many coaching sessions, her initial question isn’t exactly what we focus on. This is for anyone who has trouble making decisions, doubts themselves, or is in sabotaging patterns.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode232]

For empaths, love can feel overwhelming because we love so deeply. When we are in a relationship it can feel smothering and overwhelming. Instead of communicating that we need boundaries and space with love we are often afraid of confrontation or don’t want to make the other person upset. So, we unconsciously push them away by either judging them internally, nitpicking, or acting out in other ways. Empaths need to know what they need — especially at the beginning of the relationship. When you are first dating someone you need to be vocal and ask for what you need.

Boundaries in a relationship and asking for what you need is important. That way you don’t have to build walls. You can have a door and that door can be open most of the time but sometimes you need to shut it and put on the do not disturb sign. The people in your life that love you will understand. It will allow them to spend time with themselves.

When our heart is broken either through a breakup or the death of someone, we want to love again but we are scared because it feels risky.

Fear of making the wrong decision will keep you from making the decision. Basically, fear complicates everything in your life. The more you can drop into love and your inner knowing and move out of the energy of fear the more clarity you will have in all aspects of your life.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you notice you have sabotaging behaviors? You can get close to what you want but then sabotaging thoughts or behaviors show up.
When it comes to making decisions do you struggle and wonder if you made the right choice? Or, that you should be “doing something different.”
Have you lost someone you love either through the ending of a relationship or a death and you are scared to open your heart again?
Do you make time regularly to connect to your inner wisdom and get answers from there?

Megan’s Question:

Megan has a recurring pattern of feeling as if she isn’t doing the right thing or feels she should be doing something else and would like guidance on how to change it.

Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She is an empath.
She is in a new relationship.
She is aware of her patterns.
Her mother tried to control what she was eating.
She is overwhelmed with too many choices.
She is afraid of another heartbreak.
She feels safer when she is alone.
She has created a fortress around her heart.
She is afraid to be seen.
She is filled with doubt about her ability to write a book.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to establish healthy boundaries in her new relationship.
She needs to ask for what she needs.
She needs to recognize her gift of feeling deeply.
She needs to connect more deeply to the divine inside of her.

Takeaways:

Make sure you have boundaries, not barriers. Don’t build a fortress around yourself. Just put up the ‘do not disturb’ sign for a while.
Risk big when it comes to loving! When fear comes up, remind yourself that with fear you are already in loss.
If you are afraid of letting someone in, journal about what you don’t want someone else to see. Often, we don’t know what we are hiding.
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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine’s Personal Mastery Course

Christine’s Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover