Luke Storey is a motivational speaker, kundalini yoga and meditation teacher, world-class biohacker, host of The Life Stylist Podcast, and founder of the world’s premier online fashion school for stylists, School of Style which he founded in 2008.

Luke’s spent the past twenty-three years developing and refining the ultimate wellness lifestyle, based on the most transformative principles of primal health and ancient spiritual practices, while at the same time embracing the most cutting-edge natural healing and consciousness expanding technologies. He has tenaciously applied the results of his field research and used them to not only completely transform his own life but also the lives of thousands of fans and followers through his various media channels and speaking engagements.

As a transformational speaker and entrepreneur, Luke continues to share his strategies for healing and happiness through his innovative and highly effective Lifestyle Design teachings, his Youtube channel, and his wildly popular podcast.

You can learn more about Luke here www.lukestorey.com. 

This call is about making self-honoring choices. Today’s caller, Elena, has separated from her husband after being co-dependent for many years. She is uncertain how to move forward because she isn’t clear about who she is. She asks for guidance about what to do next. This is an important call for those who feel they have lost themselves in a relationship or job.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode284]

When you are trying to make an important decision, from getting a divorce to having a child, to moving to a new city or quitting your job, you need to start on the inside first. Look at where you are in the situation. Ask yourself if you want the job? Do you want the marriage to work? Are you scared to speak your feelings? What is underneath the surface feelings?

For most people, limbo feels safe because you don’t have to make a choice. But, what is safe for most of us is what is familiar. Usually what is familiar doesn’t leave any opportunity for change or breakthrough. When you are in limbo, not moving in any direction, there are no possibilities. There is only more of the same.

When we know who we are and we practice honoring choices, not selfish choices, clarity becomes a lot easier. Because we can say, “This is a yes. This is in alignment with my most authentic self. I’m not coming from a place of hurt or from my childhood wounding. I’m not looking for love or validation outside of me.” It becomes much easier to make decisions.

Everyone has the tools to love themselves and figure out who they are. If you are in a human body with a mind, a soul, and a heart you have the tools. You may need someone to help you use the tools but you have the tools.

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com — March 19–21, 2021

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel you have forgotten who you are or lost who you are?
• Do you feel like within a marriage, being a parent, in a job, or friendship you have sacrificed your own identity?
• Are you in limbo about a big decision and terrified to make the change?
• Do you feel lost when it comes to getting support or asking for help?

Elena’s Question:

Elena would like to find herself after losing herself in a co-dependent, long-term relationship.

Elena’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She had been with her husband since the age of 14 until separating three years ago.
• She was co-dependent during her marriage.
• He had an emotional affair with someone else.
• The couple tried therapy.
• She is afraid to make a move.
• She lacks the confidence to make a change.
• She needs to put herself first.
• She grew up with old-school Italian values.
• Her mother divorced her father at her same age.
• Her temper goes quickly from one to 100.
• She likes to make people happy.
• She feels she needs to earn love.
• She doesn't know how to be.
• She is in Personal Mastery.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Create some space to find out who she is.
• Be self-honoring and choose self-love.
• Realize she does not have to please people for them to love her.
• Journal to help process her feelings.
• Focus on the relationship she has with herself.

Takeaways For You:

• Get support. Reach out for help.
• Form clear boundaries about what is not working for you, get clear about who you are and step into self-love.
• Join Personal Mastery.
• Be gentle with yourself. Stop telling yourself all the reasons you cannot do something and collect evidence for how you can.

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Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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Sahara Rose is an ancient soul in a modern body. She has been called “a leading voice for the millennial generation into the new paradigm shift” by Deepak Chopra, who wrote the foreword of her books. She is the best-selling author of Eat Feel Fresh, Idiot's Guide to Ayurveda, A Yogic Path, her new book Discover Your Dharma. She also hosts the Highest Self Podcast, the #1 spirituality podcast on iTunes, and founder of Rose Gold Goddesses, the sacred sisterhood collective.

This call is about worst-case scenario thinking. Today’s caller, Kate, is always waiting for the other shoe to drop because of chaos in her childhood. She has never felt safe. If you find yourself at a point where life is smooth and good but you keep waiting for something to happen and then judge yourself for having negative thoughts, this show will offer you solid guidance.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode283]

Often, when people are in personal development, they learn from their suffering. There is an unconscious belief that they learn and grow from challenge or loss. But, while those things can be awakenings to growth, we must choose to learn and grow. We don’t need loss and hardship to motivate us, inspire us to grow, or evolve our souls.

Often, when we are worried the other shoe is going to drop, the fears coming up are our inner child trying to communicate with us. The body and emotions are often the language of the inner child, of our subconscious mind. So, pay attention to those, and instead of trying to get rid of them, ask them what they need.

It is not our thoughts that attract things to us. It is our feelings and our frequency. Gratitude is a great frequency to move us out of anxiety or obsessive thinking. Moving into gratitude and truly feeling it is so much better than distraction.

If you have fears of manifesting your bad thoughts, remember that the percentage of time you spend in the present and in gratitude is probably greater than the percentage of time you spend worrying. Worrying just feels more intense because it is intense and uncomfortable when you do it. Take comfort that it will be okay.

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19–21, 2021

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Did you have a childhood where you couldn’t really relax, there was a lot of uncertainty, or everything was going fine and then a shoe dropped and you find yourself constantly waiting for the other one to drop?
• Have you done a lot of work on yourself? Are things going really well but you feel you can’t trust it?
• Do you fear that your fear about things going badly will manifest bad things?
• Do you feel you have a deep connection to your inner child and they feel safe?

Kate’s Question:

Kate would like guidance around why, when things are going well, she fears something is going to go wrong.

Kate’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She is at a great place in her life.
• She often expects the worst.
• She fears she is going to sabotage herself.
• She has done personal development work.
• She spends more time in fear than joy.
• Her father was unpredictable and angry.
• Her sister was often sick.
• She didn’t feel safe as a child.
• She wants to be more spontaneous.
• She uses distraction as a coping strategy.
• She believed challenges were a path to growth.
• She does not need to suffer to learn and grow.
• She will pay attention to the voice of her inner child.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Reassure her inner child and put one hand on her belly and one on her heart and say “I am safe” when she has fear about something going wrong.
• Journal about how learning through challenge is over.
• Move into acceptance, soothe her inner child, and make a conscious decision to choose gratitude.

Takeaways For You:

• Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop.
• Practice the 3-step process. Acceptance, reassurance of safety, and gratitude.
• Vow that you can evolve through choice, not challenge.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Hayden Dawes is a licensed social worker whose practice experience includes hospital social work, mental health, and addiction treatment, in addition to people involved in the legal system. Although grounded in relational-experiential approaches to mental health treatment, Hayden has been trained in advanced trauma modalities and remains curious about all forms of mental health treatments. Hayden is currently a Ph.D. student at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill’s School of Social Work.  His research is in examining the psychosocial challenges impacting people of color and LGBTQIA+ individuals. He is also interested in seeking advanced methods to intervene on providers’ implicit and explicit biases. In response to racial injustice within the mental health practitioner community, Hayden wrote an article that was featured on Medium titled “An Invitation to White Therapists” it has since been widely used in direct practice education, consultation, and supervision. Hayden currently resides in Greensboro NC with his partner of 10 years. Hayden is an avid crossfitter, traveler, dance partner, and reality-tv specialist. During the COVID pandemic, Hayden expanded his personal “radical permission”practice to create a #radicalpermission project for the greater community across social media platforms, to encourage people to set intentions with grace.  

This call is about feeling safe and feeling enough. Today’s caller, Jessie, has been struggling with childhood trauma and is self-soothing by buying things she doesn’t need. Any of you who struggle with not-enoughness, or have been labeled as having ADD, or are not sure if you have dealt with your childhood trauma, this is a great episode for you.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode282]

The unconscious drives about 90-95% of our behavior. We come from our past trauma or our limiting beliefs until we reach a point where we are aware of it and choose and attract something differently.

Often, people who struggle with low self-worth or of not-enoughness are constantly trying to compensate by doing, talking, and proving. They are not great at reaching out for support because there is a level of trauma that still is running the show. There comes a point when trauma becomes part of our learning and part of the things that helped us grow and part of the things that have evolved our soul but before it gets there it becomes the thing to create our reality until we shift it.

For coaches and therapists, when you have a client who seems to dart around and doesn’t land on one thing for very long, it indicates that they just don’t feel safe, and feeling safe is everything.

Remember, we attract at the level of our issues until we heal those and move into a different frequency.

Connecting to your inner child is February’s topic for the Virtual Group Coaching Call on February 11, 2021. $20 is all it costs to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19–21, 2021

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you shop too much or have some kind of behavior you know is not healthy but you just can’t stop yourself from doing it?
• Do you struggle with feeling not enough?
• Do you have a lot of childhood trauma or chaos you have done your best to cope with but don’t know if you are totally free?
• Have you and do you accept all parts of yourself?

Jessie’s Question:

Jesse struggles with childhood trauma and not-enoughness. She wants to feel safe and enough.

Jessie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She buys things she feels will make her look a certain way.
• Her mother is overly critical.
• She self-soothes with shopping.
• She doesn’t feel safe.
• She lost her brother and her dad early in life.
• She has been labeled as having ADD.
• She lived in fear as a child due to her dad’s abusiveness.
• She has done talk therapy.
• She is overwhelmed when she has to do adult things.
• She feels alone.
• There was chaos in her childhood.
• Her nervous system is delicate.
• She is trying to handle too much at once.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Grieve the relationship she hasn’t had.
• Invoke the loving mother inside herself.
• Stop judging herself for doing something she is trying to transform.
• Stop dating for a while.
• Find a source for trauma or somatic therapy with whom she feels safe.
• Understand there is nothing wrong with her.

Takeaways For You:

• Ask your body, which is connected to your inner child, what it needs?
• If you are a parent, one of the best things you can do is do your own work. Invest in yourself. If you are a great parent to your inner child, you will be a better parent to your own child.
• Join the inner child workshop.
• Seek out support and get help.
• Sign up for the group call or join the Inner Child Workshop.

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Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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This call is about being the change you want to see in a relationship. Today’s caller, Jasmine, would like more intimacy and connection in her marriage. We work through how the relationship dynamics have changed and the childhood wounding that may be affecting her and her husband. Whether you are in a relationship or not, if you are someone who wishes someone else would change or wish someone would be different, this is an episode you should listen to.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode281]

Both men and women have masculine and feminine energy in us. It is like the Yin and Yang. They go together in balance. Most of us have one energetic that sits in front of the other. The feminine yearns for presence, affection, and intimacy. The masculine energy is focused. It is responsible, but it can be in the shadow masculine if it is focused to the point that it is ignoring emotional availability.

I am making a massive generalization here, but I see women, for a while, putting more work into a relationship. Then, after learning to drop into their feminine they often expect something to change in the other person. If you decide to be more into your feminine energy, be sure to do it freely, without expectation.

When we are the invitation; when we are the change that we want to see... that is truly the only way change is created. Are you the invitation without expectation? Or, are you being the invitation because you want something to happen?

Connecting to your inner child is February’s topic for the Virtual Group Coaching Call. $20 is all it cost to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It's about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19-21, 2021

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you in a bit of a relationship rut? Has a relationship, marriage, or even a friendship been going along for years and it’s good but there’s something you would like to change?
• Have responsibilities in your life made you grow apart from your partner?
• Are you the more conscious one in a relationship and feel like you are constantly wanting your partner to grow or be conscious with you and they just seem to stay where they are?
• Are you aware that the most intimate relationships in your life often trigger your childhood issues?

Jasmine’s Question:

Jasmine wants more connection and intimacy from her husband of 11 years.

Jasmine’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She has been married for 11 years.
• She and her husband lead a busy life.
• She would like more emotional intimacy from her husband.
• She is doing consciousness work.
• She has shifted the relationship dynamic.
• She has tried initiating physical contact.
• She has childhood wounding with regard to her father.
• She loves small quiet moments.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Create what she wants in the relationship.
• Acknowledge her husband more.
• Be vulnerable to create intimacy.
• Step into her feminine energy and be the invitation.
• Do not try to get Dad’s love from her husband.
• Be inspired to move toward love.
• Download the Sacred Union process and possibly share it with her husband.

Takeaways For You:

• Are there patterns in your relationship where you may be breeding resentment based on old stories that need to be updated?
• Would a little bit of relationship detoxing shift your relationship to the next level?
• If you want something to change be the invitation for it.
• Consider joining us for our Inner Child Workshop.
• Download our free guided Sacred Union process.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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This call is about self-acceptance and leading a fully-expressed life. Dani calls in looking for guidance on how to get out of the funk she is in. She feels unmotivated and burned out. But, as we discuss, the beautiful thing about burnout is that it is a wake-up call to tell us we are living in an unsustainable way. It is in the unknown that magical opportunities present themselves. When we plan and control everything there is little room for the universe to surprise us.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode280]

A lot of us are committed to personal growth. But, we must be aware of when we are working on ourselves a little too much and sometimes just let it be. Be in radical self-acceptance. Be in a place of just accepting where we are and shifting our energy into one of love and gratitude. It is the balance between not brushing stuff under the rug and living in denial but not overworking ourselves so we are always a personal growth project.

When we grew up in a house where there was a lot of uncertainty or chaos there is a frenetic energy that happens. It is constantly looking for safety and certainty. It can keep us very busy. If you relate to that, I encourage you just to stop and slow down. Because our soul, or the universe, does not give us much momentum on something when it comes from a place of lack. Sometimes we just need to stop and be with ourselves.

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It's not about working on yourself. It's about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19-21, 2021

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Dani’s Question:

Dani feels a loss of identity, burned out, and unmotivated and would like guidance on how to break free of her funk.

Dani’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She was a full-time musician who started a life coaching business last year.
• She feels she has a block around her career.
• Her focus on her career is a coping strategy.
• She puts a lot of pressure on herself.
• She wants to live a balanced life.
• She’s done a lot of personal development work.
• She is always searching for something and pushing herself.
• She hasn’t felt safe in her life.
• She has no anticipation for the future.
• She feels uncertain.
• She has taken many risks in her life.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Resist the habit of trying to figure everything out.
• Embrace uncertainty.
• Give herself the gift of feeling safe in the present moment.
• Permit herself to just be.
• Move out of distraction and into stillness and safety.

Takeaways For You:

• Sit in the safety of uncertainty.
• Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop.

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Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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This call is about breaking out of patterns and unhealthy relationships. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a “toxic” relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode279]

The feeling of not-enoughness is a major human problem. Eventually, we will evolve out of this not-enoughness thinking and raise children differently so we all don’t have to have this major human epidemic. Know that by listening to this show, doing inner work, and feeding yourself the truth, you are doing your part to evolve human consciousness.

Nothing outside of you can fulfill you and nothing external comes to you until you truly know that you are worthy and enough. That being said, we live in an interdependent world. And, although we cannot look to the outside world to make us happy, it is important to feel connected to others and attract and nurture healthy relationships, no matter where we are in our journey.

The brain may confuse familiarity with love because it was wired from an early age to make love an equation. Many learn that if they act a certain way they will get love. Conditional love can feel familiar. But, worthiness is not conditional.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you struggle with not feeling enough?
• Have you ever had a “toxic” relationship?
• Do you doubt that the people in your life really love you and see you? Do you fear that you will not measure up in some way?
• Is there a fierce inner critic that lives inside your head? And, even though you know you should be nicer to yourself, you can’t seem to change your self-talk?

Elizabeth’s Question:

Elizabeth is searching for some daily mantras or actions that will make her feel enough and worthy.

Elizabeth’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She is having difficulty connecting her intellect with her heart.
• She feels not enough and that her life is pointless.
• She verbalizes the chaos she feels in her mind.
• She was in an eight-year “toxic” relationship.
• She has “love” attached to feeling a certain way.
• She has trouble quieting her inner critic.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Be in the present moment and feel her feelings.
• Stop and breathe when her mind starts racing.
• Realize nothing is wrong with her.
• Forgive herself for confusing familiarity with love.
• Give her inner critic a new job description.
• Practice release writing when her inner critic is bratty.

Takeaways For You:

• If you struggle with not-enoughness, when you feel it coming on, stop and think that you are hungry for the truth. And then, feed yourself some truth.
• Watch your language and watch what you are affirming.
• Slow down! Drop in and breathe.
• Give things you want to shift a new job description and a new role.
• If you want some additional help join my Personal Mastery Course. 
• Join us for the Be the Queen program.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Do you know the value of positive thinking but just can’t seem to shift out of negative thinking? This coaching session is about expectations and shifting negative patterns. During this call, we examine Danielle’s past to understand what formed her current expectations and get to the root of why she is sabotaging herself in relationships.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode278]

Any habituated response, feeling, or pattern of behavior you are currently engaged in was created a long time ago and you created it for a reason. If you really want to shift something you must get curious about the origin of it.

Your expectations about what could or could not happen in your present or future life are based on what has happened in your past until you consciously choose to update them. Significant life events and/or repetitive events trigger us to form beliefs. These beliefs cause us to form expectations about life, others, and ourselves which impact our present and create our future.

And, any “negative” pattern we want to change has a payoff and usually can’t be changed overnight. That’s why it is important that we learn what the payoff is and learn how to get it in a more positive way.

While it’s important not to become a victim in your life or be stuck in your story so much so that your past becomes an excuse or scapegoat for why you don’t have what you want, it is important to acknowledge it and understand how it is impacting you.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you a negative thinker? Do you tend to sabotage things before they even get started?
• Is anxiety something you would like to feel less of?
• Do you desire a healthy, loving relationship?
• Are you the child of immigrants?

Danielle’s Question:

Danielle would like to know how to relieve herself of self-imposed anxiety and negative thinking in relationships and dating.

Danielle’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She has become comfortable with her negative thinking.
• She creates a frenzy inside of her.
• Her parents got divorced.
• She has fun memories of her childhood.
• She saw her parents fighting.
• She feels she needs to protect herself from being caught off guard.
• She used her negative thinking as a shield to feel safe but it also keeps love out.
• She is always in fight-or-flight mode.
• She is a first-generation Cuban American.
• She found her life coach through prayer and intention.
• She will change her inner dialogue.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Identify her negative thinking, thank it for protecting her and ask her mind to help her to determine a true statement for what is happening.
• Consider attending the upcoming Personal Mastery Course and the Signature Retreat.
• Work with a healer to do some energetic bodywork.
• Cut some cords energetically.

Takeaways:

• Be aware of what you affirm with your thoughts.
• Get curious about your past. What were the repetitive events or significant life events in your past that cause your expectations and how are they affecting your life now?
• Anything you would label as negative or a pattern you want to change, identify the payoff, and find a way to get that payoff in a more positive way.
• Always approach your growth, development, and healing with love and curiosity. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support.
• If you resonated with a lot of what came up in this coaching session, my Personal Mastery Course would be a great next step for you.

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This call is about moving out of victim and regret to fast-track healing. Today’s caller, Leah, is still getting over a breakup and is starting to feel hopeless about the marriage and family she wants to call in. Even if you haven’t had a breakup, this call is for anyone who is not where they want to be in life. It is a great example of what happens when we stay in the victim-perpetrator pattern.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode277]

If you have been in a relationship or a situation you felt was a waste of time and wish you wouldn't have done it, understand that it had happened to get you into the fast lane for healing. Issue-based relationships, even though they are difficult to go through, they jolt us into recognizing childhood wounds that need to be healed for us to have healthy adult relationships.

If we want a healthy, authentic relationship that is not a repeat of our childhood issues, we need to do the inner work. There are no “blocks” to what we want, there are just unresolved issues to what we haven’t healed. We have to do the healing work before we can attract healthy things.

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Let’s transition into 2021 together. In the latest Coaches Corner, I add a ritual to wrap up 2020.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have something in your life; a breakup or something else from your past you can’t seem to get over and you’re stuck in regret?
• Do you beat yourself up for choices you made in the past that you have no control over changing now?
• Do you find yourself craving a family or a partner because you didn’t have a loving family?
• Do you have anger toward someone it is time to let go of?

Leah’s Question:

Leah would like guidance on how to get over a bad breakup and begin to manifest a healthy, long-term relationship.

Leah’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She was traumatized by a bad breakup two years ago.
• She is disappointed by the lack of progress in her personal development and healing work.
• Her parents divorced when she was young and there were no strong bonds formed with either of them.
• She resents her mother and feels neglected.
• She feels betrayed and used by her ex.
• She does not feel a deep connection to anyone since her ex.
• She is giving him a lot of power over her.
• She wants to work on trusting herself.
• She has done therapy but has difficulty sticking with it.
• She moves in between the victim and perpetrator archetypes.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Do not take the situation personally.
• Realize her worthiness and value.
• Stop beating herself up.

• Release her anger by doing the Temper-tantrum and release writing practice from Expectation Hangover.
• Join the Be the Queen program.
• Be grateful for the lesson and give herself what she needs.
• Stay in compassion when she feels helpless or hopeless.
• Work with someone who will follow her divine timing.

Takeaways:

• Consider doing the anger release or the release writing practice and look at where you are in a victim and perpetrator pattern.
• Remember, if you are healing an aspect of yourself, you are not healing all of you.

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This call is about healing shame by sharing your truth with the people you love. Today’s caller, Scott, is concerned about how his parents will react when he shares a childhood secret with them. He is asking for guidance on how to approach the subject without upsetting them. If you relate to holding in a secret, or things you do not want to say or do not know how to bring forward you will find this conversation helpful.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode276]

Revealing secrets is difficult for many of us. Sometimes it is easier to keep things brushed under the rug when we do not want to deal with a particular conversation.

But, secrets can be toxic and carry shame. Do I believe that we should tell the people we love everything? I don't know. Not always. But, when it is something we allow to perpetuate a pattern that protects others, especially our parents, above speaking our truth, often the truth will prevail. When we speak our truth we must do it with love.

Protecting our children is one thing, but protecting our parents is a different conversation. If we are trying to protect our parents, we are taking on the parental role. I’m not saying that we should not consider their emotions. However, if we have a pattern of being the parent, and worrying about our parents while sacrificing our truth and our vulnerability, it is different.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have a secret from a family member or friend and you want to share it but you are afraid of upsetting them so you keep it inside?
• Did you grow up feeling alone?
• Were you the person who had to protect family members or parent your parents?
• Are you ready to break patterns that don’t serve you anymore?

Scott’s Question:

Scott is looking for guidance about sharing a secret with his family he has had since childhood but does not want to upset them.

Scott’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• He fears the shame and blame associated with sharing his secret.
• His story will soon be widely shared.
• He wants to protect his family.
• He is speaking with a professional therapist.
• He feels it is an important part of his story.
• He felt he had to be brave for his family.
• He stays away from his family and feels alone.
• He felt he had to parent his parents.
• He finally feels seen.
• He does not want to hide any longer.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Be aware he can not control someone else’s feelings.
• Deliver his secret from a loving place.
• Tell his parents about his loneliness.
• Be authentic, loving, and vulnerable when he speaks with his parents.

Ask Yourself:

• Where are you not being authentic? Where are you not being vulnerable? Where are you not speaking your truth because you are too afraid of someone else’s reaction?
• In what ways were you not able to be a child in your relationship with your parents?
• How can you take your rightful place, as a child, within your family?

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Can you believe we are approaching the end of 2020? In this episode, Christine speaks about ascension symptoms you may be experiencing as we uplevel and upgrade.  She also guides you through a process to complete 2020 with awareness and intention and let it go! This is part one of a ritual that Christine leads you through each year. 

This call is about finding our nurturing, loving feminine inner voice. Today’s caller, Lex, would like guidance with her patterns of inconsistency and quieting the harsh, critical voice of her mother in her head. This call will resonate with anyone who had a challenging, traumatic, dysfunctional, or abusive relationship with their mother.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode275]

When we do not process our anger, it creates a rebel or saboteur within us. It is difficult to be consistent if we never had a model of a loving or consistent parent. We create a rebel to protect ourselves from emotional abuse and the rebel energy is often tied to anger. If you have a rebel or a self-sabotager, think about how it is anger in disguise.

The more we deal with our anger and deal with the ways we have been abused, betrayed, or neglected, the less we rely on the rebel to protect us.

If a child has a parent with a narcissistic personality disorder or is mentally abusive in some way, the child knows kindness can’t be trusted. They have to walk on eggshells all the time. So, when kind loving energy does come it is difficult to be open to it and trust it. Even though deep down we all trust feminine energy, deeply-ingrained patterns can confuse it with past experiences with females in our past.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have a mother wound or a wound with the feminine that is disconnecting you from your femininity, your love of your body, or your ability to care and nurture yourself?
• Do you have an inner rebel and every time you get consistent about something that rebel comes in and just throws you off track?
• Did you have a parent that stood by when your other parent abused you or didn’t treat you well and it made you feel like you just weren’t protected?
• Do you struggle with trusting yourself or other people?

Lex’s Question:

Lex is looking for guidance on how to be consistent with her health routine.

Lex’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She is concerned about her health and weight.
• She suffers from Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS).
• She wants people to think about her positively.
• She is inconsistent and self-sabotages herself.
• People treat her differently because of her physical appearance.
• Her mother had narcissistic tendencies.
• Her father didn’t offer her safety from her mother.
• She is passionate about justice and human rights.
• She wasn’t nurtured in her childhood.
• She has perfectionistic tendencies.
• She doesn’t feel enough and doesn’t trust.
• She was triggered by meditation.
• Her inner rebel helps her to survive and protects her.
• She gets stuck in a cycle of pushing, rebelling, and hopelessness.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Call in nurturing, mothering energy.
• Look for guides to help her find her voice, her sovereignty.
• Listen to and surround herself with feminine voices.
• Deal with the anger she feels toward her mother through emotional release writing.
• Do the temper-tantrum technique from Expectation Hangover or Personal Mastery.
• Find a therapist who works with somatic, trauma, or behavioral therapy.
• When she hears her inner critic speak up, recognize it, and comfort herself.

Ask Yourself:

• If you resonate with wanting to draw in more of the feminine voice and you want to find your loving, nurturing feminine side, surround yourself with loving, nurturing feminine energy voices.
• Have a conversation with your rebel, ask it what it is protecting you from. Do anger release work to see if you are rebelling because you are angry. Download my temper tantrum technique at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.
• Forgive yourself for your past actions.
• Celebrate all the ways you have shifted and your growth.

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To wrap up the love and relationship series, Christine and Stef have a special gift for you. They recorded an experiential process to support you on your journey to Sacred Union.  In this episode, they define what Sacred Union is and explain the process. To download the experiential exercise for free, go to https://christinehassler.com/sacredunion/

This call is about seeing a partner’s inner child wounding in an issue-based relationship. Today’s couple, Lorena and Jonathon, are looking for guidance on how to connect more intimately with each other and manage their masculine and feminine energies in their relationship. We uncover that inner child wounding is more at play in the relationship than masculine/feminine dynamics. Couples and singles will find value in today’s episode.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode274]

In a relationship, we cannot hope the other person heals us or completes us. That is codependency. However, we can set the intention for the relationship to be a safe space to heal. That is the beauty of a relationship. We always want to be doing our own work and healing our own stuff. Then, we can use the relationship, which is often a triggering event, as a place to heal our inner child wounding.

It is key in your intimate relationship to see his little boy, or see her little girl and understand the wounding. Know that what you need might be different than what your partner needs. Often, we love based on how we want to be loved and how our inner child needs to be loved versus how the other person in our life needs to be loved.

A conscious couple/sacred union doesn’t mean everything’s okay all the time and we are living in awesome ecstasy, having total non-violent communication, and having amazing sex all the time. We are human; it doesn’t always work like that. Being a conscious couple/sacred union means you are willing to do the work.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel like you’re showing up too masculine or too feminine in your relationship?
• Is your relationship going through challenges, maybe you have separated, and you want to restart and get a fresh take on an old relationship?
• Do you understand how your inner child experiences and your inner child wounding is impacting your intimacy and relationship?
• Are you willing to see your current or future partner through the eyes of love? Are you willing to see that little boy or a little girl inside of them and truly seek to understand your partner rather than judge them or have expectations of them?

Lorena & Jonathon’s Question:

Lorena and Jonathon are looking for guidance on how to connect intimately and manage their masculine and feminine energies within the relationship.

Lorena & Jonathon’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• They have been together for 12 years.
• They separated for a time.
• He is cautious about being in his masculine. She is in her masculine a lot.
• They both come from dysfunctional families.
• They are in an issue-based relationship.
• She lived in fear as a child and couldn’t trust people in her life.
• He spent a lot of time trying to fit in.
• She has high expectations of herself and others.
• He gets angry and frustrated when he hears negative feedback.
• She wants to feel more emotionally connected to him.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Jonathon — Find his inner parent who responds to the critical voice that tells him he is enough.
• Jonathon — Listen to Episode #273 with Ron.
• Jonathon — Find his fire and tap into his repressed anger.
• Lorena — Tell her little girl she is safe and know she can relax now.
• Lorena — Acknowledge her husband for what he does.
• Understand each other’s inner child wounding.
• Find three questions to ask each other as a nighttime ritual.
• Give each other more hugs throughout the day.

Ask Yourself:

• Are you seeing and understanding your partner’s wounding?
• Are you loving your partner and treating them the way you need to be treated and expecting them to do the same. Or, are you loving them based on what they need?
• Do you clearly communicate what you need from your partner?
• What is your biggest hurt from childhood and how does it show up in your relationship?
• What is your deepest desire and how can you ask for what you need in your relationship?

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This call is about overcoming apathy and releasing anger. Today’s caller, Ron, was constantly shamed by a volatile father. As an adult, he feels detached and numb. He uses apathy as a coping mechanism. We work through how he can release his feelings and do inner child work. I offer some techniques and strategies to help him regain a healthy masculine identity.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode273]

When men have a volatile father, they become passive or hyper-aggressive. They go to extremes. They can become the alpha-dog and lash out or they become passive with emotional eating. It is a common father wound for men to have a degree of shame that goes in either direction.

Shame is toxic and the way it impacts us all as humans is similar and different. How it impacts men is particularly detrimental, for women as well, but I've seen it impact men in a way where they lose touch with their masculine energy and become more passive in life.

It is nearly impossible to come out of being raised in a fear-based home, having a volatile parent, and never feeling like you got the love, affection, and approval you needed and grow up having no issues with it. As you might intellectually want yourself to be different, until you go back and do the healing work and dive deep, you are going to find yourself in the pantry sneak eating or whatever your version of that is.

If you are not living the life you want to be living, it is just feedback that there is more work to do. Inner child wounding is sometimes tough to get at because we bury it so deep. There is no shame and being willing to forgive the person is the first step.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you ever feel uncomfortable in your own skin?
• Are you chronologically an adult and keep up with your grown-up responsibilities, but inside you don’t feel like one?
• Are you mostly passive except for those occasional moments you lose your temper?
• Did you get the love, attention, and affection you truly need and deserve from your parents, especially your father?

Ron’s Question:

Ron does not feel comfortable in his skin and he feels he does not belong. He would like guidance on how to break through the patterns.

Ron’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• He practices negative self-talk.
• He doesn’t feel like an adult, even though he is responsible.
• He is afraid he will get in trouble for what he does.
• He hides his eating habits.
• His father was quick to anger and volatile.
• He feels detached from his family.
• He has numbed himself and feels apathy toward his parents.
• He craves feeling and pleasure.
• He does try to get his anger out.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Connect to his aggression, rage, and anger to get to the hurt.
• Do the Temper Tantrum Technique from Expectation Hangover.
• Write an ‘F-U’ letter to his parents he doesn’t send.
• Tap into his masculine energy to find his fire, his warrior to allow him to feel again.
• Find his inner coach voice, not his inner critic.

Takeaways:

• If you aren't feeling like an adult, think about where you got frozen in childhood. Many people freeze at a certain age even though we can do adult things.
• Do emotional processing. Use this free anger release download, ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.
• If you find yourself sneak eating or the kind of behavior you do in the shadows to soothe yourself or give you momentary pleasure and escapism when you feel the urge to do it, put your hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and ask your little one what they need.
• If eating is a coping mechanism for you, listen to my “Coaches Corner with Samantha Skelly, Hungry for Happiness”
• Reconnect to your little one and give them a chance to express their feelings. Be the parent to yourself you never had.

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Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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